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شغل مورد علاقه
در کنار یک رابطهٔ رضایتبخش، داشتن شغل موردعلاقه از اصلیترین ملزومات یک زندگی کامل است. متأسفانه بیاندازه دشوار است که آنقدر شناخت خوبی از خودمان داشته باشیم که کاملاً بدانیم انرژیهایمان را در کدام جهت صرف کنیم. شغل موردعلاقه را از همین رو نوشتیم تا در برخی ازین تنگناها یاری و راهنماییمان کند تا بتوانیم خود را بهتر بشناسیم و شغلی را بیابیم که کاملاً مناسبمان باشد. این کتاب با روحیهای همدلانه و عمیقاً کاربردی ما را هدایت میکند تا پیش از آنکه فرصتهایمان از دست بروند، استعدادهای واقعی خویش را کشف کنیم و خواستهها و آرزوهای درهمریخته و مغشوش خویش را بهتر درک کنیم.
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First published February 1, 2017
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We believe that the journey to finding fulfilment begins with self-knowledge. It is only when we have a sense of who we really are that we can make reliable decisions, particularly around love and work.
Sadly, tools and techniques for developing self-knowledge and finding fulfilment are hard to find – they’re not taught in schools, in universities, or in workplaces. Too many of us go through life without ever really understanding what’s going on in the recesses of our minds.
That’s why we created The School of Life; a resource for helping us understand ourselves, for improving our relationships, our careers and our social lives - as well as for helping us find calm and get more out of our leisure hours. We do this through films, workshops, books and gifts - as well as through a warm and supportive community.
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August 24, 2018
جدا دوستش داشتم. کتاب خوبی بود.
آلن دوباتن یه جوری مینویسه انگار کنارت نشسته، بغلت کرده و هی دست میکشه به سرت میگه «عب نداره. تو سعیتو کردی. بقیه هم مثل توان. ناراحت نباش. خجالت نکش. هیچ کس بلد نیست. اونا دروغ میگن. این کار و فلان کارو بکن حالت بهتر میشه»
از بعضی جملات کتابش خیلی حال کردم و کلا مفهومی که در موردش کتاب رو نوشته بود رو هم دوست داشتم.
به قدری دوست داشتنی بود که رفتم یه نسخه دیگه خریدم و به اولین نفری که باهاش بیرون رفتم هدیه دادم.
آلن دوباتن یه جوری مینویسه انگار کنارت نشسته، بغلت کرده و هی دست میکشه به سرت میگه «عب نداره. تو سعیتو کردی. بقیه هم مثل توان. ناراحت نباش. خجالت نکش. هیچ کس بلد نیست. اونا دروغ میگن. این کار و فلان کارو بکن حالت بهتر میشه»
از بعضی جملات کتابش خیلی حال کردم و کلا مفهومی که در موردش کتاب رو نوشته بود رو هم دوست داشتم.
به قدری دوست داشتنی بود که رفتم یه نسخه دیگه خریدم و به اولین نفری که باهاش بیرون رفتم هدیه دادم.
February 14, 2021
I am actually surprised by how much that book was relevant to me. I did not expect it to resonate that much, considering I thought I had read quite a lot already on the subject. I highly recommend that book for anyone, with or without career struggles.
“Who I am ? what is my vocation ? is my job fulfilling ? where should I direct my energy ? does it give me the money, the social status I believe I deserve ?” these may be familiar to you if you are leaning into the idea of reading this kind of book.
What actually surprised me is that this book does not respond to that commons interrogations. It doesn’t even try. It actually redirect your introspection : “When did we become so attached to the idea of vocation ? is it really the purpose of your job to give you satisfaction and meaning ? what if nothing is ever enough?”
A Job to Love starts by developing the “goal mindset”: the overall pressure we have on having a vocation, the feeling of failure when it never comes magically to you.
Then it goes on to analyze the pleasure points of work (the pleasure of creativity, of understanding, of teaching, of organizing, of beauty and so on), and it was actually quite interesting to figure out which ones means the most to you. Again, this can be related to what you used to do to amuse yourself as a child. I never really saw it that way. It just makes you realize: what do you actually like to do? You may find that you’ve been doing this exactly in a way or another for some time, and that may give you directions.
The part about the obstacles and inhibitions was more expected: parents and peer pressure, the perfectionism trap, confidence levels…
But where the book was actually outstanding was in its last part "Consolations”: it actually redirected 27 years of expectations I had about the working life and the meaning of having a job. It is really hard to explain, but the book advocates for self-compassion in a way that I never thought before. And we can be very hard on ourselves. It explains why no job will ever be enough. Why you can be so hard on yourself, and where happiness, expectations, realism and practicality actually meet in your everyday life. And finally, it ends on the concept of “good enough work”.
Words cannot describe the feeling of weight being lifted from my shoulders when I read that last part. What a great little book, written in a very clear, practical way, but packed full of well-meaning insight.
“Who I am ? what is my vocation ? is my job fulfilling ? where should I direct my energy ? does it give me the money, the social status I believe I deserve ?” these may be familiar to you if you are leaning into the idea of reading this kind of book.
What actually surprised me is that this book does not respond to that commons interrogations. It doesn’t even try. It actually redirect your introspection : “When did we become so attached to the idea of vocation ? is it really the purpose of your job to give you satisfaction and meaning ? what if nothing is ever enough?”
A Job to Love starts by developing the “goal mindset”: the overall pressure we have on having a vocation, the feeling of failure when it never comes magically to you.
Then it goes on to analyze the pleasure points of work (the pleasure of creativity, of understanding, of teaching, of organizing, of beauty and so on), and it was actually quite interesting to figure out which ones means the most to you. Again, this can be related to what you used to do to amuse yourself as a child. I never really saw it that way. It just makes you realize: what do you actually like to do? You may find that you’ve been doing this exactly in a way or another for some time, and that may give you directions.
The part about the obstacles and inhibitions was more expected: parents and peer pressure, the perfectionism trap, confidence levels…
But where the book was actually outstanding was in its last part "Consolations”: it actually redirected 27 years of expectations I had about the working life and the meaning of having a job. It is really hard to explain, but the book advocates for self-compassion in a way that I never thought before. And we can be very hard on ourselves. It explains why no job will ever be enough. Why you can be so hard on yourself, and where happiness, expectations, realism and practicality actually meet in your everyday life. And finally, it ends on the concept of “good enough work”.
Words cannot describe the feeling of weight being lifted from my shoulders when I read that last part. What a great little book, written in a very clear, practical way, but packed full of well-meaning insight.
September 3, 2019
چرا اینو لیست کردن برای نوجوانان؟ برای همهست. حتی یه جاهایی اونقدر فلسفی میشه که توی نوجوانی خوندن شاید خیلی به درک نینجامه. فقط دربارۀ شغل دلخواه نیست، یه جور بهزیستیِ شغلیه و خودشناسیِ فلسفی. از طرفی حجمش کمه و دوست داشتم بیشتر باشه چون خیلی لذت بردم ازش، از طرفی درک میکنم بهتره باید کم باشه چون حجم که بیشتر باشه پراکندهگویی هم بیشتر میشه و مخاطب سردرگمتر. اولین کتابی بود که از مجموعۀ مدرسۀ زندگی میخوندم و بقیه رم خواهم خوند. همه روووو
March 31, 2023
من کتاب رو دوست داشتم و توی زمان مناسبی هم خوندمش،توی یه دوره کتابخوانی شرکت کرده بودم و با اون گروه کتاب رو پیش بردم…
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زندگی هیچ وقت جای دیگری جریان ندارد و همین جاست.
مفهوم «والدین به قدر کافی خوب» هم از مفاهیم مهم بود که
توی کتاب به اون اشاره شده بود برای مثال و توضیح دادن بهتر مفاهیم✨
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زندگی هیچ وقت جای دیگری جریان ندارد و همین جاست.
مفهوم «والدین به قدر کافی خوب» هم از مفاهیم مهم بود که
توی کتاب به اون اشاره شده بود برای مثال و توضیح دادن بهتر مفاهیم✨
December 16, 2019
ดีมาก ชวนคิด อ่านง่าย และไม่สั่งสอน ถ้าคนเราจะเขียนหนังสือฮาวทูสักเล่มควรจะเขียนให้ได้แบบนี้ แต่พอเป็นแบบนี้ก็คงหลุดจากหมวดฮาวทูไปพอตัว ทั้งเล่มเต็มไปด้วยคำถาม ข้อมูลน่าสนใจๆ และแบบฝึกหัดที่ practical มากๆ ซื้อเถอะครับ
November 8, 2020
بعد از تسلیبخشیهای فلسفی، هر کتابی که از آلن دوباتن خونده بودم زیاد به دلم ننشسته بود. ولی این کتاب رو به توصیهی خواهر و دوست عزیزم خوندم در زمانی که درگیری دارم برای فهم اینکه چه آیندهی شغلی برای من مناسبه. کتاب خیلی خوبی بود و روی موضوع بسیار خوبی دست گذاشته بود و از زاویه دید جالب و جدیدی بهش نگاه کرده بود. کتاب یک سری تمرین داره که اگر انجامشون بدید، کمک زیادی بهتون میکنه.
ولی ترجمه به شدت افتضاح بود و غلطهای املایی باورنکردنی در کتاب به چشم میخورد.
ولی ترجمه به شدت افتضاح بود و غلطهای املایی باورنکردنی در کتاب به چشم میخورد.
August 23, 2018
به نظرم این کتاب یکی از بهترین راهنما های مسیریابی و پیدا کردن شغل مورد علاقه است ، برخلاف کتاب های دیگ اصلأ به بررسی و ماهیت شغل و ویژگی های اونا نمیپردازه
بلکه به صورت فلسفی و خیلی ساده ، علایق آدم ها رو بررسی میکنه و راه کشف کردن علایق رو به آدم یاد میده ، تقریبا میشه گفت :
( به جای اینکه بهت ماهی بده ، بهت ماهیگیری رو یاد میده که خودت بری سراغ کشف علایق و شغل مورد علاقت)
در کنار همهی اینا میاد سوال ها و نگرانی هایی که در این مسیر سخت باهاشون مواجه میشیم رو هم بررسی میکنه و به اونا پاسخ میده
و تمرین هایی رو هم در داخل کتاب مشخص کرده که با انجام دادن اونا به شناخت بیشتری از خودمون برسیم
خلاصه مطالعه این کتاب رو حتما پیشنهاد میکنم
بلکه به صورت فلسفی و خیلی ساده ، علایق آدم ها رو بررسی میکنه و راه کشف کردن علایق رو به آدم یاد میده ، تقریبا میشه گفت :
( به جای اینکه بهت ماهی بده ، بهت ماهیگیری رو یاد میده که خودت بری سراغ کشف علایق و شغل مورد علاقت)
در کنار همهی اینا میاد سوال ها و نگرانی هایی که در این مسیر سخت باهاشون مواجه میشیم رو هم بررسی میکنه و به اونا پاسخ میده
و تمرین هایی رو هم در داخل کتاب مشخص کرده که با انجام دادن اونا به شناخت بیشتری از خودمون برسیم
خلاصه مطالعه این کتاب رو حتما پیشنهاد میکنم
October 23, 2022
کتاب خوبی بود، برای وقت هایی که آدم می خواد شغل و حرفه ای انتخاب کنه یا حتی وقتی که انتخاب کرده و از انتخابش مطمئن نیست و دلزده شده کتاب خوبیه. حقیقت های مهمی رو می گفت، حقیقت هایی که توی مدرسه و دانشگاه بهمون نمی گن؛ اونجا فقط بهمون آرمان هایی رو میگن که ایده آلن و همین ها میشه پتکی که روی سر ما فرود میاد.
خوندنش رو برای اون هایی که از شغل شون خسته شدن، احساس بیهودگی توی شغل و حرفه شون می کنن و حس می کنن تلاش هاشون دیده نمی شه، پیشنهاد می کنم.
خوندنش رو برای اون هایی که از شغل شون خسته شدن، احساس بیهودگی توی شغل و حرفه شون می کنن و حس می کنن تلاش هاشون دیده نمی شه، پیشنهاد می کنم.
December 29, 2019
I needed to read this years ago. The writing is poetic, or if that's too strong a word for those of you familiar with the School of Life, the writing is fluid and lyrical. First, you will find exercises that help you to define what would be a good job for you, where you can use some of your strengths.
The later part of the book is the part I enjoyed most. It emphasizes self-compassion for having chosen a job that sucks. It also emphasizes patience and acceptance for the job we have and that we consider awful. Yes, we will have to endure irritating co-workers, periods of boredom, and lack of appreciation, but there are good points to our job (he emphasizes) and we need to fall in love again with those good points.
I got a sense of hope that I could continue to endure an unendurable job: I'm a glorified, but well-paid, "secretary" who learns nothing new at the job, only hears from higher-ups if a mistake was made, and any sense of ethics and justice is being stripped away by the higher-ups in order to keep the parents happy. My job gives me money, a pension, and benefits. And that's it.
The later part of the book is the part I enjoyed most. It emphasizes self-compassion for having chosen a job that sucks. It also emphasizes patience and acceptance for the job we have and that we consider awful. Yes, we will have to endure irritating co-workers, periods of boredom, and lack of appreciation, but there are good points to our job (he emphasizes) and we need to fall in love again with those good points.
I got a sense of hope that I could continue to endure an unendurable job: I'm a glorified, but well-paid, "secretary" who learns nothing new at the job, only hears from higher-ups if a mistake was made, and any sense of ethics and justice is being stripped away by the higher-ups in order to keep the parents happy. My job gives me money, a pension, and benefits. And that's it.
December 1, 2025
زیبا بود، خصوصاً بخش آخرش. واقعگرایانه و البته تسلیبخش. یک جورهایی برای چنین کتابی، plot twist محسوب میشد.
November 27, 2018
نهتنها برای یافتن شغل مورد علاقه مناسبه، بلکه
. گراهای خوبی رو جهت خودشناسی بهتر ارائه میده،
. کمکهای کوچکی برای بهبود روابط عاطفی میکنه،
. و مهمتر از همه، ساختار ذهن و فکر رو جوری تغییر میده که بهتر بتونیم زندگی کنیم.
واقعاً خوشحالم که خوندمش :)
و کاش زودتر میخوندمش...
. گراهای خوبی رو جهت خودشناسی بهتر ارائه میده،
. کمکهای کوچکی برای بهبود روابط عاطفی میکنه،
. و مهمتر از همه، ساختار ذهن و فکر رو جوری تغییر میده که بهتر بتونیم زندگی کنیم.
واقعاً خوشحالم که خوندمش :)
و کاش زودتر میخوندمش...
June 26, 2020
گذشته از اینکه آلن دوباتن آدم باسوادیه، و کتاباش با کتابای صرفا انگیزشی که کاربرد چندانی ندارن فرق داره؛ نویسندهی توانمندیه. میدونه چیو چطوری بگه آدم بفهمه^^
October 10, 2021
تقریبا تمام کتاب در مورد انتخاب شغل بحث کرده اما از فکتهاش واسه روابط و معاشرتا میشه استفاده کرد. به اینکه تیترش شبیه کتابای زرد هست توجه نکنید. واقعا نوشتههای الن دوباتن پخته هس. این کتابشم واسه یه بار خوندن و بحث کردن خوبه. نکاتش جسته گریخته خوندیم و شنیدیم. اما نظم دادن بهشون رو اینجا خوب انجام داده.
February 27, 2019
I loved this book. It is refreshingly different to other carrier advise literature that I have previously read. It is not about bigger, higher, better, but about things like considering childhood memories to identify things that might be relevant for our adult professional life. This one I found especially powerful. And the consolation chapter is quite counter cultural. No self-improvement hyms and paroles here, but rather grieving and being consoled over the fact that life is often not fair and things often don’t turn out the way we want or the way others portray. This of course is on top of a lot of practical advise and exercises, that encourage you to dig a little bit deeper and look into areas that you usually might not consider. However, finishing this little gem of self-help off with comfort and thoughts to make peace with situations that won’t make sense and are not big success stories, made it credible and trustworthy.
September 1, 2018
Er zijn veel boeken over het vinden van een baan die bij past, en wat dat betreft is dit boek er één in een lange traditie. Wat me echter trof, was het feit dat er wordt gestart met de zeer geruststellende boodschap: het is normaal dat je niet weet wat je wilt, en het is raar dat we meestal nergens leren om goed te bedenken wat er bij ons past en hoe je werk zoekt en vindt waar je je goed bij voelt. Daarnaast is de Roepingsmythe een belangrijke boosdoener : het idee dat je een soort roeping zou moeten hebben en als je die niet hebt, dat je een sukkel bent. Vervolgens gaat het boek in op hoe je daar dan achter kunt komen.
Al met al vond ik het een prettig boek, vanuit een fijne boodschap. Ik werd me weer wat bewuster dat ik mag twijfelen en mag zoeken, en dat het slim is af en toe stil te staan en om me heen te kijken.
Al met al vond ik het een prettig boek, vanuit een fijne boodschap. Ik werd me weer wat bewuster dat ik mag twijfelen en mag zoeken, en dat het slim is af en toe stil te staan en om me heen te kijken.
April 26, 2021
What a great book and exercises to help one figure out what's a job they'd love! So many new insights, and so many new ways to think about passions, hobbies, paths you can take.
One thing though – I couldn't quite figure out why after all the talk about how you can figure out which job you'd love, the book ends with a rather pessimistic chapter about finding a good enough job (and that we will never actually get a career that's perfect). Talk about nipping something at the bud. :)
One thing though – I couldn't quite figure out why after all the talk about how you can figure out which job you'd love, the book ends with a rather pessimistic chapter about finding a good enough job (and that we will never actually get a career that's perfect). Talk about nipping something at the bud. :)
December 3, 2023
كتاب آخر من مدرسة الحياة. كيف تجد في العمل أيّ عملٍ ما يجذبك لتبقى فيه أو تحتمله!
أفكارٌ بعضها جيد، والكتاب في مجمله كان دون المستوى المطلوب والمتوقع. ويبدو أن أعمال هذه المدرسة تقترب من هذر التنمية البشرية، مع استثناءات قليلة في فصول معدودة.
أفكارٌ بعضها جيد، والكتاب في مجمله كان دون المستوى المطلوب والمتوقع. ويبدو أن أعمال هذه المدرسة تقترب من هذر التنمية البشرية، مع استثناءات قليلة في فصول معدودة.
July 30, 2025
مشکل این طور کتابها اینه که موقع انجام دادن تمرینها و یا خوندشون سوگیری دارید. یعنی اگر فکر کنید یک چیزی درسته یا جواب تمرین یک شغل خاص یا یک مهارت خاص شماست سوالها رو طوری جواب میدید که اونها رو تایید کنند. برای همین خوبه که با یک ناظر (تراپیست) خونده بشه و یا مشورت بشه تا مدام جوابها و اهداف پشتشون رو مورد پرسش و واکاوی قرار بده. کتاب مخصوصا وارد حوزههایی میشه که خوبه در حداقل پس زمینهش برای مسائل کلیتر تراپی برید، حتی اگر برای این موضوع خاص نمیرید، تا اون قسمتها مورد بررسی قرار بگیرند و ناخودآگاه روی جواب این تمرینها هم تاثیر بگذراند.
البته به نظرم کسی که نمیتونه به هر دلیلی این کار رو بکنه باز هم بسیار مفیده که این کتابها رو بخونه و تمارینش رو انجام بده و خودش جوابهاش رو مورد پرسش قرار بده و هرازچندگاهی مرور کنه تا ببینه چه طور تغییر میکنند. در واقع این طور نیست که اگر در پسزمینه کتاب تراپی نرید به دردنخور باشه.
البته به نظرم کسی که نمیتونه به هر دلیلی این کار رو بکنه باز هم بسیار مفیده که این کتابها رو بخونه و تمارینش رو انجام بده و خودش جوابهاش رو مورد پرسش قرار بده و هرازچندگاهی مرور کنه تا ببینه چه طور تغییر میکنند. در واقع این طور نیست که اگر در پسزمینه کتاب تراپی نرید به دردنخور باشه.
September 13, 2019
What a short and well put book of some obvious and many not so widespread ideas on how to find your job (yes, the One or One-ish). Definitely will read this again and go through the Exercises included one by one! Recommended if you (as I am) are still struggling on finding that one job to have for the rest (or at least big part) of your life.
April 10, 2023
what i always appreciate about books by The School of Life is that they inspire you while also inviting you to be more realistic.
this particular one doesn't include anything groundbreaking, but reading can be a helpful way to explore one's attitude towards jobs and find some answers (thanks to a number of questions and exercises).
this particular one doesn't include anything groundbreaking, but reading can be a helpful way to explore one's attitude towards jobs and find some answers (thanks to a number of questions and exercises).
July 19, 2023
از اون کتابهاییه که باید چند بار خوندش
تیر ۱۴۰۲
تیر ۱۴۰۲
September 11, 2025
quite a good book at this point in my life as I am searching to change what I do.
Confucius:
"Find a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life". This is a classic saying that suggests a truly loved job is effortless.
William Arthur Ward:
"Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings". This quote highlights the power of gratitude in finding happiness in your daily work.
Wayne Dyer:
"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life". This emphasizes the link between passion and overall prosperity.
Confucius:
"Find a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life". This is a classic saying that suggests a truly loved job is effortless.
William Arthur Ward:
"Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings". This quote highlights the power of gratitude in finding happiness in your daily work.
Wayne Dyer:
"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life". This emphasizes the link between passion and overall prosperity.
December 11, 2024
به نظرم مفید هست ، بخصوص برای افرادی که در مرحله کنکور یا سردرگمی انتخاب رشته یا شغل آینده هستند.گرچه تحصیلات آکادمیک متاسفانه سنخیتی با شغل های امروزی ندارد ولی حداقل میشود امیدوار بود که راه را درست انتخاب کرده ایم.
March 23, 2020
A compact little career guide with some practical tasks and applications. Refreshing during a time when the world is still too focused on hustle porn.
While some parts are harder to digest and agree with for someone who is ambitious and starry-eyed, overall I think the book gives a very healthy perspective on how we should view and approach our careers.
While some parts are harder to digest and agree with for someone who is ambitious and starry-eyed, overall I think the book gives a very healthy perspective on how we should view and approach our careers.
July 30, 2018
Probably the best book from the School of Life. While it's become increasingly controversial to actually believe and follow "find a job that you love to do/makes you happy", this book is a basically a reminder of how much of an impact a career can have you--if you let it.
It's only until recently was this a remote possibility, to "Love Our Work". It's a benefit of our status, privilege and potential for leisure in life.
Obstacles to Our Ideal Job
1.) Lack of Skills
2.) Lack of Information about Opportunities
3.) Lack of a coherent goal
Obstacles to Having Goals
1.) The "Vocation Myth"
2.) The Vagueness of our minds
The solution is to revisit our interested as a child, and how they have or have not grown as we've matured.
The Pleasure Points of Work
A.) Doing What You Love
1.) The Pleasure of Making Money
2.) The Pleasure of Beauty
3.) The Pleasure of Creativity
4.) The Pleasure of Understanding
5.) The Pleasure of Self-Expression
6.) The Pleasure of Technology
7.) The Pleasure of Helping Others
8.) The Pleasure of Leading
9.) The Pleasure of Teaching
10.) The Pleasure of Independence
11.) The Pleasure of Order
12.) The Pleasure of Nature
It's only until recently was this a remote possibility, to "Love Our Work". It's a benefit of our status, privilege and potential for leisure in life.
Obstacles to Our Ideal Job
1.) Lack of Skills
2.) Lack of Information about Opportunities
3.) Lack of a coherent goal
Obstacles to Having Goals
1.) The "Vocation Myth"
2.) The Vagueness of our minds
The solution is to revisit our interested as a child, and how they have or have not grown as we've matured.
The Pleasure Points of Work
A.) Doing What You Love
1.) The Pleasure of Making Money
2.) The Pleasure of Beauty
3.) The Pleasure of Creativity
4.) The Pleasure of Understanding
5.) The Pleasure of Self-Expression
6.) The Pleasure of Technology
7.) The Pleasure of Helping Others
8.) The Pleasure of Leading
9.) The Pleasure of Teaching
10.) The Pleasure of Independence
11.) The Pleasure of Order
12.) The Pleasure of Nature
July 25, 2018
An insightful read, and completely original. Based on incredible depth of knowledge and research. Questions add additional insight. I'm reading it a second time. Also, thebookoflife.org has much more information on work, a career search, and other topics of life.
Update: Working through the questions is incredibly valuable. The act of actually answering a question with pencil and paper is very different than just thinking about a question. This process has shown me what is important to me, who is important to me, what great things in me are assets, and what terrible flaws are challenges. It is not easy work. This book could also be called "A Life to Love". The interrogation brings answers that are relevant to life, not just a career. I have such gratitude toward Alain de Botton and The School of Life.
Update: Working through the questions is incredibly valuable. The act of actually answering a question with pencil and paper is very different than just thinking about a question. This process has shown me what is important to me, who is important to me, what great things in me are assets, and what terrible flaws are challenges. It is not easy work. This book could also be called "A Life to Love". The interrogation brings answers that are relevant to life, not just a career. I have such gratitude toward Alain de Botton and The School of Life.
March 6, 2021
School of Life continues to destroy my vision of the world which I could not be more grateful for. In the past it did it through the negation of the Romanticism and now, through this book, it was time for Vocation.
This goal of this book is to first arm us with tools and insights into what we might enjoy to do, by pointing out that for most of our life things like money, status and even family work templates were impacting our decisions and thoughts, hiding the things we just enjoy doing.
Secondly, it is providing us with a down-to-earth vision of how the career or work can really look like and that despite everything we hear every day, not everyone can or even have to achieve immense success.
The book provides a really interesting insights in the topic of work/job/career though references to art, history and psychology. It will help you realize that you might already have the answer to the question of "What I want to do in my life" but you just did not put in enought thought/time/effort into it. It probably won't help you to find exactly the position, company or area you want to work but it may steer you in the right direction.
On top of this, what might be even more important for some people, this book will navigate you through a thrilling history of sandwich discovery, which changed our life's forever.
"An inner voice is always an outer voice that we have previously heard, absorbed and made our own."
This goal of this book is to first arm us with tools and insights into what we might enjoy to do, by pointing out that for most of our life things like money, status and even family work templates were impacting our decisions and thoughts, hiding the things we just enjoy doing.
Secondly, it is providing us with a down-to-earth vision of how the career or work can really look like and that despite everything we hear every day, not everyone can or even have to achieve immense success.
The book provides a really interesting insights in the topic of work/job/career though references to art, history and psychology. It will help you realize that you might already have the answer to the question of "What I want to do in my life" but you just did not put in enought thought/time/effort into it. It probably won't help you to find exactly the position, company or area you want to work but it may steer you in the right direction.
On top of this, what might be even more important for some people, this book will navigate you through a thrilling history of sandwich discovery, which changed our life's forever.
"An inner voice is always an outer voice that we have previously heard, absorbed and made our own."
August 30, 2022
به عنوان یه کتاب self help در رابطه با انتخاب شغل واقعن کتاب خوبیه. اگر تو پروسهی انتخاب رشتهی تحصیلیتون هستین، میخواین مسیر شغلی آیندهتون رو تعیین کنید، به سرتون زده تو شغل فعلیتون تغییری ایجاد کنید یا کلن دوست دارید شناخت عمیقتری از جنبهی شغلی زندگیتون و دیدگاه خودتون در رابطه با کار و شغل داشته باشید، خوندنش میتونه کمک زیادی بهتون کنه.
من وقتی شروعش کردم که داشتم دربارهی رشتهم فکر میکردم. راستش حرف جدید زیادی برام نداشت. بیشتر زمینهساز بود که وقتی دست میگیرمش با حرفایی که میزنه جریان افکارمو راه بندازه. باهاش دیدگاهها و نتیجهگیریهای قبلیم رو مرور کردم و تونستم درصد وضوح ذهنی و اطمینانمو بالا ببرم، اما خب، من وضعیتم فرق میکرد با یه آدم ۱۷،۱۸ سالهای که شاید خیلی شناختی از خودش و تجربهی دانشگاه و کار نداره یا آدمی که تو نوجوونی چشمبسته مسیر دیکتهشدهی جامعه رو طی کرده و حالا فهمیده از رشته یا شغلش راضی نیست. فکر میکنم خوندنش برای همچین کسانی مفیدتره.
در کل آلن دوباتن خیلی روون و واضح و واقعبینانه حرف میزنه و من نظم و انسجام حرفاش تو این کتاب رو دوست داشتم. از خوندنش هم پشیمون نیستم اما راستش نباید خوندنش رو انقدر کش میدادم، چون به جایی رسید که فقط میخواستم زودتر تموم شه و این کتاب از زندگیم بره بیرون! افتر ال، یه کتاب خودیاری با سبک و سیاق معمول این کتابهاست که اصلن خوشم نمیاد. این شد که بالاخره امروز نشستم و هر جوری شده تمومش کردم که برم سراغ کتابهای زیباترم!
-شهریور ۱۴۰۱-
پ.ن: بخش پنجم کتاب (تسلیبخشها) خیلی خوب بود. بدم نمیاد دوباره بخونم، خیلیخیلی بعدتر؛ شاید وقتی که مدتی از شاغل شدنم گذشته یا به مسیرم شک کردهم.
من وقتی شروعش کردم که داشتم دربارهی رشتهم فکر میکردم. راستش حرف جدید زیادی برام نداشت. بیشتر زمینهساز بود که وقتی دست میگیرمش با حرفایی که میزنه جریان افکارمو راه بندازه. باهاش دیدگاهها و نتیجهگیریهای قبلیم رو مرور کردم و تونستم درصد وضوح ذهنی و اطمینانمو بالا ببرم، اما خب، من وضعیتم فرق میکرد با یه آدم ۱۷،۱۸ سالهای که شاید خیلی شناختی از خودش و تجربهی دانشگاه و کار نداره یا آدمی که تو نوجوونی چشمبسته مسیر دیکتهشدهی جامعه رو طی کرده و حالا فهمیده از رشته یا شغلش راضی نیست. فکر میکنم خوندنش برای همچین کسانی مفیدتره.
در کل آلن دوباتن خیلی روون و واضح و واقعبینانه حرف میزنه و من نظم و انسجام حرفاش تو این کتاب رو دوست داشتم. از خوندنش هم پشیمون نیستم اما راستش نباید خوندنش رو انقدر کش میدادم، چون به جایی رسید که فقط میخواستم زودتر تموم شه و این کتاب از زندگیم بره بیرون! افتر ال، یه کتاب خودیاری با سبک و سیاق معمول این کتابهاست که اصلن خوشم نمیاد. این شد که بالاخره امروز نشستم و هر جوری شده تمومش کردم که برم سراغ کتابهای زیباترم!
-شهریور ۱۴۰۱-
پ.ن: بخش پنجم کتاب (تسلیبخشها) خیلی خوب بود. بدم نمیاد دوباره بخونم، خیلیخیلی بعدتر؛ شاید وقتی که مدتی از شاغل شدنم گذشته یا به مسیرم شک کردهم.
January 15, 2022
This is the third book I've read now in the School of Life canon, as it were. Although the author is listed as simply the aforementioned, and not a little grandiose, 'School of Life', Alain de Botton's voice is clear throughout. Characteristically, the writing flips between jaunty, cheeky humour to profoundly philosophical insights, and at times sincere consolations on the little tragedies of life, sometimes all within one sentence.
I first became enamoured to his style, and the SoL, on YouTube. Their mission statement is extrapolated at length in the eponymously named book of the same title. In a nutshell, there is a dearth in mainstream education on meaningful life lessons. Philosophy, so de Botton would argue, should not be confined to ivory towers but, instead, demystified and put to good use as a guide to life; if not as a means of giving us answers, at least arming us with the ability to ask better questions. For example, what does it even mean to live a fulfilling life? What is success, really? How do you recover from seemingly cataclysmic trauma? How, ultimately, can you undertake the greatest of all endeavours: to know yourself? The SoL aim to fill that void. It's a truly noble aim.
In this slim volume the topic is as the title suggests: how do you find a job to love? Or *gulp* is that even possible? Typically millennial, I suppose, I've already been through several career crises myself. The stark reality painted in this book is that, in fact, I have adopted, like so many others of my era in history, the capitalist ideal: the promise of staggering success as within my 'potential', I just have to work hard enough, know the right people, get the right qualifications etc etc... We constantly look up to role models who remind us that starry eyed optimism has a terrible caveat: you can achieve great things if you just believe in yourself, yes, and if you don't you really only have yourself to blame.
There is a fun interactive element. This book does a great service in undermining many entrenched clichés about work through a series of exercises: finding your 'pleasure points' typically rooted in childhood; the dangers of the 'duty trap'; preconceived notions of good and bad based in 'family work templates'; ways in which success might actually upset others around us; de-masking internalised critical and encouraging voices; striving for perfectionism. It suggests we seek change as 'evolution, not revolution', and to be aware of the dangers of militant egalitarianism, i.e. some people really are just wired differently. If success, in certain cases, means having a ruthless streak then that is a characteristic simply not fitting for everyone. We should admire people for their unique qualities, not lambast ourselves for not having the same.
Ultimately, the message seems to gravitate towards re-alignment of your expectations. Rather than depress us, the point is conversely to seek happiness through contentment with who we are and what we already have. A job that you love enough just as it is is a great achievement in itself, so goes the conclusion.
My only gripe is that de Botton seems to favour this kind of lukewarm acceptance a little too favourably over other virtues, for example raw ambition. Yes, it may lead perilously to unrealistic expectations at best and, at worst, the pits of despondency upon the slightest failure, but it can also inspire people to push themselves to greatness.
In a nutshell, this is an insightful little book for all those out there who have ever asked themselves, pondered, fantasised about the kind of work they may well love doing but have never been brave enough to admit it. As the energising force of death reminds us, you only have one life and a multitude of untapped potential...
I first became enamoured to his style, and the SoL, on YouTube. Their mission statement is extrapolated at length in the eponymously named book of the same title. In a nutshell, there is a dearth in mainstream education on meaningful life lessons. Philosophy, so de Botton would argue, should not be confined to ivory towers but, instead, demystified and put to good use as a guide to life; if not as a means of giving us answers, at least arming us with the ability to ask better questions. For example, what does it even mean to live a fulfilling life? What is success, really? How do you recover from seemingly cataclysmic trauma? How, ultimately, can you undertake the greatest of all endeavours: to know yourself? The SoL aim to fill that void. It's a truly noble aim.
In this slim volume the topic is as the title suggests: how do you find a job to love? Or *gulp* is that even possible? Typically millennial, I suppose, I've already been through several career crises myself. The stark reality painted in this book is that, in fact, I have adopted, like so many others of my era in history, the capitalist ideal: the promise of staggering success as within my 'potential', I just have to work hard enough, know the right people, get the right qualifications etc etc... We constantly look up to role models who remind us that starry eyed optimism has a terrible caveat: you can achieve great things if you just believe in yourself, yes, and if you don't you really only have yourself to blame.
There is a fun interactive element. This book does a great service in undermining many entrenched clichés about work through a series of exercises: finding your 'pleasure points' typically rooted in childhood; the dangers of the 'duty trap'; preconceived notions of good and bad based in 'family work templates'; ways in which success might actually upset others around us; de-masking internalised critical and encouraging voices; striving for perfectionism. It suggests we seek change as 'evolution, not revolution', and to be aware of the dangers of militant egalitarianism, i.e. some people really are just wired differently. If success, in certain cases, means having a ruthless streak then that is a characteristic simply not fitting for everyone. We should admire people for their unique qualities, not lambast ourselves for not having the same.
Ultimately, the message seems to gravitate towards re-alignment of your expectations. Rather than depress us, the point is conversely to seek happiness through contentment with who we are and what we already have. A job that you love enough just as it is is a great achievement in itself, so goes the conclusion.
My only gripe is that de Botton seems to favour this kind of lukewarm acceptance a little too favourably over other virtues, for example raw ambition. Yes, it may lead perilously to unrealistic expectations at best and, at worst, the pits of despondency upon the slightest failure, but it can also inspire people to push themselves to greatness.
In a nutshell, this is an insightful little book for all those out there who have ever asked themselves, pondered, fantasised about the kind of work they may well love doing but have never been brave enough to admit it. As the energising force of death reminds us, you only have one life and a multitude of untapped potential...
September 29, 2023
I just finished reading, all I can say for now is that this is the first non-fiction book that has made me literally cry by how realistic it is
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