THE NUMBER ONE BESTSELLER - For readers of You Are a Badass ... A bullsh*t free perspective and a no-frills account of anxiety from the front line.
Through the filtered lens of social media, it may seem like life's a peach, but for lots of people - journalist and author Caroline Foran included - anxiety is always bubbling beneath the surface. Here, she chronicles her experiences. From being unable to cope with the thought of venturing outside, to walking away from her fast-paced job, to the different, and sometimes controversial, treatments available - from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to acupuncture to medication - Caroline shows us how she eventually found a way of owning her anxiety so that it doesn't own her. With extensive research and help from the experts, Owning It is written with honesty and a bullsh*t-free perspective; consider it your ultimate, practical guide that aims to get you feeling good again.
Self help books are so subjective to the person reading it. But I found this one really helped me - at no point did I feel over whelmed or did I call Caroline out for bullshitting. It was so good to explain in human terms what’s happening with me, the science behind it and how do I approach how I’m feeling or this situation right now. It reassured me I wasn’t crazy and that everything that my body is reacting to, there is a scientific reason, and it’s not as ‘emotional’ as I had built it up to be - the way I work out, my sleep issues and my moments. It’s a really handy book to have! Highly recommend giving it a go.
Furcsa dolog ez a szorongás, mindenféle testi tünetet produkál, aztán ha nem veszi a lapot az ember, és csak a szervi bajokat vizsgáltatja ki (amit mondjuk megnyugtató tudni, hogy nincs), akkor rákapcsol, és pánikrohamot produkál. Abban is furcsa, hogy valami mélyen futó program mégiscsak tudja az emberben, hogy ott van, hiszen pánikrohamra való segítő képet ment le vagy megvesz egy e-könyvet, anélkül, hogy tudatosulna benne, miért teszi. Aztán a második esetnél (a régi, hetekig tartó állapotot nem számítva) pánikszerűen (bocs) olvasni kezd, és végre összerakja a képet. És mert a stigmáktól nehéz szabadulni, E/3-ban ír róla.
Ezt a könyvet nem szakember írta, hanem egy olyan laikus, aki megjárta a poklot, így abszolút hiteles, ráadásul nem csak a saját tapasztalatairól beszél, hanem alaposan utánajárt a tudománynak is. Folyton a Sane New World jutott eszembe róla, csak itt más problémáról van szó, és bár szókimondó a szöveg, mégsem bántó. Segít megérteni, hogy mi történik, így nem lesz olyan megfoghatatlan és ijesztő. Tudatosítja, hogy ugyanúgy nem áll az irányításunk alatt (közeledik, már T/1), mint a testi betegségek, ezért nem segít, sőt, kifejezetten káros a „szedd már össze magad” hozzáállás, és nem elég az akaraterő, hogy kimásszunk belőle. Hogy a segítség milyen formáját választjuk, az egyéni kérdés, ő mindenesetre felsorolja, milyen lehetőségek vannak, és hogy nála mi vált be. Általában nem egy módszer (hanem több kombinációja) lesz a megoldás, és semmiképp sem egy alkalom, csodát nem érdemes várni semmitől. A problémáról pedig érdemes és fontos beszélni, nem csak a magunk kedvéért (és akinek nem esik jól, az ne is tegye, aki igen, az is megértő közegben), hanem azért is, hogy lebontsuk a mentális betegségeket övező előítéleteket. Segítséget kérni, tenni azért, hogy jobban legyünk nem gyengeség, hanem bátor, tudatos lépés. (Ezt még ismételgetem magamban.)
A feladatokat érdemes nem csak fejben, gyorsan végiggondolni, hanem valóban leülni és leírni, sokkal több dolog kerül így a helyére, mint ha elbliccelnénk. Abban is segít, hogy megtaláljuk, mit tehetünk most azonnal magunkért, illetve merre érdemes elindulni a további úton. Szakember segítségét nem nagyon lehet megúszni, azt hiszem (terápiát mindenkinek jeligére – ezt loptam, remélem, nem baj).
A nem nyugati módszereket is nyugati szemléletmóddal tálalja. Nekem például, ha eddig azt mondták, meditálj, azonnal bekapcsolt valami automatikus tiltakozás. Foran viszont azt mondja, teljesen mindegy, hogy mire gondolsz vagy hány gyertya ég körülötted (ha egyáltalán), a lényeg, hogy nyugodt tudj maradni, és koncentrálj a légzésedre (ezt is meg kell tanulni, nyilván, magától és felszólításra nem megy). Az sem baj, ha eleinte halálra idegesít, hogy nehezen megy, csak ne add fel. És akkor összeszedi, hogy ez az ellazult állapot mit csinál pontosan az agyadban, amitől valóban működik (nem csodaszer, kiegészítés). Ugyanígy a jógával, a mindfulness-szel. Kivéve belőle a spirituális vonatkozásokat (de megengedve, hogy ha te hiszel benne, akkor szuper és hajrá), a tudományos módszerekkel vizsgált hatások felől közelítve. Nekem ez nagyon szimpatikus, aki hasonlóan gondolkodik, annak ajánlom ezt a könyvet. Idéztem is sokat, illetve beírtam a tartalomjegyzéket, hogy el tudjátok dönteni, nektek is való-e.
Beszél a nyugati módszerekről (pszichoterápiáról és gyógyszeres kezelésről is), a keletieknél pedig egyszer billen ki az egyensúly, az akupunktúránál. Világos, hogy neki bejött, és a saját akupunktőre írja le a keleti elgondolást mögötte, de őszintén szólva, kit érdekel. Engem nem, akkor olyan könyvet olvasnék. Leírja, hogy annyit ki tudtak deríteni, hogy működik, azt nem tudni, miért, aztán oldalakon keresztül a kínai elmélet. Ami nagyon jó lehet egy másfajta könyvben, de itt végig arról volt szó, hogy ezzel a részével nem foglalkozunk, akit érdekel, utánanéz. Máshol. Az a gyanúm, hogy nem akarta megbántani a kezeléseit végző illetőt, azért hagyta benne így, de teljesen elüt a könyv szellemiségétől.
Ezzel együtt nagyon ajánlom minden érintettnek. Valóban, már az is sokat segít, ha egy kicsit sikerül megérteni, ezáltal demisztifikálni a helyzetet, legalább nem az ismeretlentől kell félni. Sőt, nem kell félni, hanem meg kell keresni azokat a módszereket, amelyek segítenek, és akkor sem elhanyagolni őket, amikor minden rendben. Mert, mint sok más állapot, a szorongás sem gyógyítható egyszer s mindenkorra, de kordában tartható, már amennyire. Amikor pedig támad, már fel vagyunk vértezve mindenféle módszerekkel, túl fogjuk élni, egy körrel tapasztaltabbak és erősebbek leszünk.
I found this book was really useful in helping me understand my anxiety and behaviour when I am bad. It helps you understand the science of it without being confusing. It helps you understand that you are not alone with your feelings and easy ways to help manage it including how to get others to support me. It is a book to dip in and out of though I did read it in one go. Am going to keep this book so I can dip in and out of it when I need it and also get my partner to read it so he can understand it more. Definitely a book I would recommend. X
I appreciated reading this book. It is written in easy to understand language and the author doesn't use technical terms that only psychologists could understand. I took my time reading this and I will keep the book near me to dip in and out of as my anxiety presents itself. This book finally helped me understand I'm not alone in feeling anxiety and hopefully I'll be able to "Own It" with some work.
Although not entirely 'bullshit free,' it was a good read and does provide helpful coping techniques and a refreshing reminder that what you may be experiencing is not at all unique. However, if you are going to write a book that includes the word 'bullshit' every second page, spelling it with the asterisk becomes redundant.
My wife suffers from anxiety and she had read this book. I wanted to read it to get a better understanding of what anxiety can be like to live with. I still have a lot to learn but this book certainly helped with my understanding it.
'The hardest lesson and most important I learned was that embracing your anxiety is the key to recovering from it and living a life where it doesn't define you. Don't get me wrong; I still have shitty, stressful days at work, or days when I feel a little below par (one time I was particularly exhausted, ratty and hormonal and I cried because my boyfriend ate my last chicken nugget. I'm 28, I know) - but that, dear friend, is the human experience. What I have now, however, is confidence in myself to pull through whatever life throws at me, thanks to the invisible arsenal of effective tools I keep tucked under my arm.' - Caroline Foran
As someone who recently experienced a rather traumatic experience with my own anxiety I did what I do best, I reached out to google and typed in "Books to help me with Anxiety" and to be honest I did not expect to find a book so incredibly helpful off the bat. So helpful in fact that I have just completed it for the second time round.
As far as self-help books go, this one is incredible. While it won't cure you of your anxiety, it will give you a deeper understanding of the physiological and psychological elements of anxiety and panic attacks and will encourage you to seek the help that may really be needed.
What struck me most is the easy way in which Caroline breaks down the physical elements of anxiety, explaining the way in which the body presents symptoms and what is scientifically happening with the body, hormones and chemical balances during periods of acute anxiety. For someone who likes to understand as much as possible, this was a game changer. It enabled me to rationalise the physical symptoms of panic attacks which in turn has helped them to be less severe.
The book delves into the topics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, the controversial topic of medication, exercise, meditation, nutrition and sleep to name a few. These topics are explained and analysed with humour, honesty and in a totally Bullsh*t free way.
Caroline enlists the help and advice from various specialists within specific fields and topics in a very easy to understand and follow way. The book also includes many exercises developed and researched by psychologists and specialists alike and for me personally, they were incredible in helping to break down and analyse certain elements of my own personality and struggles.
This really is an incredibly well rounded book for those early on in recovery who really don't know where to start. It is simple, informative and really easy to read. It really is somewhat of an Anxiety Bible, one I will be returning to time and time again.
This book was well written(as in accessible,plain language) and provides a solid basis of techniques and research on how to handle anxiety. The first thing to acknowledge is that it cannot be cured,there are no shortcuts and a wide variety of options are explored. If there was one issue I would take with this book is the emphasis on CBT. As anyone looking for help.in dealing with anxiety knows,the first step in seeking help is usually the G.P who 9 times out of 10 prescribes/recommends anti depressants/SSRI's. It makes it appear that getting CBT is straightforward but there is a huge waiting list,CBT often has a years long wait by which time people can end up in crisis or medicating. There are definitely helpful insights in here and the knowledge that other people are coping with anxiety issues using these tips for help and there are lots of things you can do to help yourself
As self-help books go, it doesn't get any better than this. Not a book you have to read cover to cover but the writing style is so casual it feels less like you're reading and more like you're talking to an old friend. I was struck by how many moments I found myself thinking 'I thought I was the only one' and I can't even begin to explain how helpful the practical exercises inside have been for me. I carry it with me wherever I go in case I feel myself panicking and it has completely changed my outlook on my anxiety. I'd recommend it for anyone who feels like they should 'just calm down' and can't for the life of them work out why that isn't as simple as it sounds. Got a feeling I'll be dipping in and out of the chapters and exercises for a long time!
Really enjoyed this. Narrator was great too. I feel like I’m already familiar with some of the ideas in this book - but always nice for a refresher. I also liked the authors own stories (not too many of them - just enough! Sometimes these type of books turn into memoir instead of self help! Which I am not a fan of) I definitely feel that I’ll revisit this audio book over the coming years.
Such a disappointment. I listened to the author’s second book, The Confidence Kit yesterday, and got a lot from it, so thought I’d give her first book a listen too.
Oh dear. I guess it started off fairly well, and has its good points, but the warm embrace it gives to pseudoscience, especially towards the end, ruined it for me. It undermined all the good in this, and her second, book.
Such a travesty for a “bullsh*t free guide” to end up shoulder deep in a cesspit of bullsh*t.
After listening to Caroline’s podcasts for months I was so excited to finally get my hands on this toolbox for anxiety! Listening to the podcasts had really soothed me so seeing it all in paper I was able to read it in her voice which honestly made me all that much more calmer. The book addresses all aspects of anxiety in (mostly...I did get a little lost with a few technical explanations!) easy to digest chapters. Definitely a must read for anxiety sufferers like myself!
I stumbled upon the author's podcast and decided to purchase this book because of it. Although Foran has a smooth and fast-paced writing style which I really enjoyed, she often seems to skim through the material. The book does offer some good tools that will help you in your search for a way to deal with your anxiety, but there is a certain depth missing to it. Definitely a step in the right direction for someone quite new to experiencing anxiety though...!
Great book listing all online tools and techniques to handles anxiety and stress of daily lives. The apps mentioned, various techniques discussed provide such guided approach to overcome anxiety and stress related issues. An excellent self- help and improvement book, must read for all professionals, students and individuals who are experiencing stress or anxiety.
I loved this book very much. It really helped me understand why I was feeling the way I felt. It simplified anxiety and really explained it in a no nonsense way. It is extremely helpful and easy to understand and is full of useful information. I would recommend this book to anyone suffering with anxiety.
Ik vind de trend in psychoboeken van vloekwoorden in de titel niet fijn; maar ik begrijp wel waarom. They need sum attention. En terecht. Fan van de holistische aanpak in dit boek. Soms toch het gevoel dat het een zelfhulpboek was, maar ah. Het kan geen kwaad :) FULL REVIEW SOON ON THE BLOG PLOPPERS 🤓
Read this book in about a week, couldn’t put it down. Absolutely brilliant book, very easy to read the wording is so casual. Lots of useful exercises, tips and resources included. 5/5 would recommend to anyone, with or without anxiety as it really helps you to understand it more in depth and doesn’t promise to “cure” you
While it felt a bit self serving at times, it really is an overview of coping with anxiety from Caroline's own experience. It mixes experience, evidence and broader recommendations, doesn't shy away from the use of medication or eastern medicine and could be really useful for someone who just cannot see a way out of their head.
I’m usually very skeptical when it comes to “self help” books, but this was the one book on anxiety that I actually related it and didn’t offer a “cure” or a “quick fix” to situations and offered a positive spin on it. Some of the exercises weren’t applicable to me right now but I definitely would come back to it again.
Really liked this - it's definitely one to keep on hand and dip in and out of over time. It isn't preachy but offers an honest account and gives lots of tips and advice to consider and personalize, depending on your situation. Will be recommending to friends asap.
Good for people just starting out on their journey to recovery! I am several years in and have done a whole lot of therapy so most of it was stuff I already knew, but I would have deeply, deeply appreciated a similar book when I first got sick.
I have bought many books around dealing with anxiety, I know it effects everyone differently so what they look for in self help anxiety books will differ, unfortunately I found this one was rather fluffy with no real depth.
This book was life changing and I mean that in the sense that it was so important for me to read the stories of someone I could relate to! There’s also lots of helpful tips for management of worry and sleep!
This is a great book if you don't know where to start with your anxiety. Simple and informative. It will give you pointers what is going on with you and why. Good book.
I liked reading about anxiety in a voice similar to my own, lots of helpful tips but mostly it helped me feel less alone and weird about what I was going through.