Essays 2016
I love reading these, even if only a few of the essays ever really leave a clear and long-lasting impression – some of them living instead like ghostly outlines in my mind as I carry on some vague idea about a man going to Burning Man with his father or a woman’s ongoing battle with cancer that leads, as all things do, to death. But damn, I think I love essays while I read them. Maybe I should re-subscribe to the New Yorker.
Part of it, I’m sure, is that I imagine myself an essay writer. Of the handful of things I’ve ever written that I liked, some personal anecdotes that work their way to truths about myself and about the world are the ones that feel like they could live somewhere else and have a purpose on page in someone else’s house. I like to see myself as an essay writer and not just a guy who rambles incoherently on Goodreads while he’s at work. Honestly - I think I’ve been reading as much as I have this year because I’ve made myself post a review each time and it’s an excuse to put my thoughts down and imagine someone else will read them.
Here, I’ll try to just jot down a few thoughts about each essay. I thought the forward by Robert Atwan, the series editor, was dry and generally unpleasant to read. Maybe that’s fitting since he writes a bit about Emerson’s essays and I remember trying to read a book of those in law school and putting them down because they were dry and unpleasant to read. Franzen, the editor of this edition, writes a much more interesting introduction that makes essay writing feel exciting and daring.
If you generally read my reviews to be polite but don’t want to slog through one this long, it won’t hurt my feelings. My favorites were My Father and the Wine, Sexual Paranoia, and Family Traditions. These favorites have a lot more to do with which essays I identified with than on their merits (though I think they have lots of merits!).
Bajadas – Francisco Cantu
Written as a series of diary entries as Cantu begins a career as a border patrol officer. The medium makes it feel like it’s not written for the reader and so there’s no expectation that the purpose will be spelled out for us. Instead, we can see why the author takes up the job he does. We get a sense of his hopes and we see what he sees and only get a sense of what it does to him and he learns from it.
Girl – Alexander Chee
Chee, a half-Korean half-white gay man, dresses in drag for the first time. The idea of passing is what’s most interesting here. Chee is certainly uncomfortable with the idea of ‘passing’ for white, but at the same time so excited by the idea of ‘passing’ as a woman. The reader is left with an interesting question about identity – how we’re put in boxes and told to be a thing but how easy or difficult it might be to choose to be something else.
Against Honeymoons - Charles Comey
My wife and I never had a honeymoon. Money was tight then and the wedding was put together in a hurry for the traditional reason and it’s been tight ever since. We like to imagine we’ll scrounge a few bucks together to do it right at the ten-year mark.
This one isn’t REALLY about honeymoons, but about being able to appreciate fine things in the moment. We’ve been on those vacations where you have a list of things you must do, or vacationed with someone who carried such a list. When something goes wrong (too much rain, or a bad sun burn on the first day, or something’s wrong with the hotel) you’ve spoiled your expectations and so spoiled the memories you’ve already decided to create about the adventure.
Names – Paul Grenshaw
Short but powerful piece that helps us get into the heads of the young immature kids who join our military and fight and die in our wars.
Ordinary Girls – Jaquira Diaz
A really good one. We get a look at mortality through the lens of a girl contemplating (and attempting, more than once) suicide. She compares herself to the ordinary girls while she suffers her mother’s abuse and navigated middle school and experiments with romance and tries to swallow enough pills to end it all.
My Father and the Wine - Irina Dumitrescu
I had an immediate connection to this one. I didn’t see it coming. As soon as Dumitrescu started writing about Tuica, a traditional Romanian plum brandy, I knew I had to send a copy of this essay to my brother (I couldn’t find it readily available online so I actually scanned it in in the office).
It’s funny. I don’t even think I learned of my Transylvanian roots until a handful of years ago, but I’ve been curious about it lately and this essay, which dives into ways we cling to these roots (and here with some funny parallels to the strange line of Krachun men) felt really personal to me. I’ve always felt distant from any real heritage. People who cling to Irish American or Italian American heritage feel sort of fake to me. Being raised ostensibly Catholic doesn’t feel like it differentiates me. I have sort of always yearned for a connection to some tradition that would help define and differentiate me (which is probably why I always sort of wished I was Jewish).
My father isn’t a Romanian immigrant. Even my grandfather was born here (but HIS father, Wuka Krachun Senior was the Coffin-maker from Transylvania who found a boat to take him over here) – so any connection I have to Eastern European are so tenuous and strained. I’m just a white American man so I don’t have the same drive to make my own wine (or brandy) to remind me of a homeland or a culture or some common identity.
My Heart Lies Between “The Fleet” and “All the Ships” – Ela Harrison
An interesting essay for anyone who thinks linguistics and language are pretty neat. I do think they’re pretty neat! I’m not qualified (or interested, or frankly smart enough) to do the kind of translation work Harrison is writing about, but I do like to think about the importance of precision and the connotations of words sometimes.
The Bonds of Battle – Sebastian Junger
This one starts by getting into PTSD and remains loosely focused there, but the author gets into some of abuse of our VA system (maybe PTSD isn’t as common among vets as the money we pay out would imply) which is a brave thing to say since criticizing vets is an unpopular move. He dives into some of the deeper societal problems that lead to a culture of isolation, one that may be feeding the psychological issues our service men and women feel so acutely upon their return to civilian life – but he makes the broader point that it’s affecting us all.
Sexual Paranoia – Laura Kipnis
This essay feels brave at first (and could only be written by a woman) because it challenges how we criticize sexual power dynamics (specifically student/professor on college campuses). Risk-taking was one of Franzen’s stated criteria in choosing essays for this edition and I see it here. It feels a little like a challenge to the Me Too movement, which is a dangerous thing to write. I don’t buy the complaints about Cancel Culture and think most of the celebrities who can’t find work for being awful people deserve it, but Kipnis does point out some indicators that maybe we’re looking at power dynamics in a problematic way (not sure I agree with her but I’m not sure I don’t agree with her).
She does make a passing reference to The Corrections and it feels a little weird that Franzen would pick this one because of the optics of that alone, but I liked it regardless. The essay felt like the kind of thing I couldn’t say aloud lest I sound like those awful family-members on Facebook ranting against wokeness, but Kipnis articulated her points really well and in a manner that made for a good read.
Thin Places – Jordan Kisner
Kisner describes OCD in way wholly unlike the images we get from television shows about idiosyncratic detectives. While this wasn’t my favorite essay to read in the volume, I do always like to come out of these books with a broader sense of something I didn’t know much about before. It isn’t overly technical or anything, which can occasionally be the case when an essay dives into disease or neurosis.
Pyre – Amitava Kumar
This is a portrait of Kumar’s grief at his mother’s passing and her funeral. We get a look at funeral rites in another part of the world, but the feelings, I think, are universal.
Of Human Carnage – Richard M. Lange
This essay has a reference to bird-watching in the first paragraph and it made me think how nice it is to feel you know the editor of one of these volumes. I’ve read some essays Franzen himself has written about birding (and did he give the hobby to one of his characters - maybe the guy from Freedom?). It’s fun to feel that familiarity.
This is not a story about bird-watching though. It’s about trauma. Lange and his girlfriend see something really violent and awful he reflects on the effect it had on him afterward, his reactions to seeing violence portrayed on television, and I had to wonder if maybe we SHOULD react as he does when we such grisly portrayals. I wondered about the distance those of us who have lived free of this kind of trauma can have from scenes that should turn out stomachs.
Bastards – Lee Martin
This one is about the author’s problematic relationship with his imperfect father. Sounds right up my alley. It’s really a story about anger though, one that tries to get across a subtle notion of how love can be expressed alongside it, albeit imperfectly.
Family Traditions – Lisa Nikolidakis
This essay starts with Nikolidakis’s father murdering his girlfriend and her daughter in ‘a two-bedroom bungalow in New Jersey.’ Neat, I thought, New Jersey. When the second paragraph harkens back to her maternal grandfather’s suicide, the author’s mother leaves her shift at Olga’s Diner, I thought: shit, how many Olga’s can there be in New Jersey? That’s my hometown. I imagined that this two bedroom bungalow was own parents’ house. It’s the second essay I came to that I knew I’d have to send to my brother.
Murders and suicides aside (though there was at least one suicide at my parents’ house – a cousin I never knew), and apart from the fictions her father told her, I felt connected to her childhood in the way she never really felt like she knew her father. She writes: “I rarely saw pictures from his childhood, though I knew he had two sisters because they visited us in the States when I was a child. I never understood who lived in the house he grew up in – or even if it was a house.” The mysteries of her father’s upbringing echoed all the blank spaces about my own father’s youth (my grandfather, a one eyed toothless alcoholic, lived in our basement but I never quite understood if my father lived with him growing up, or if he and my grandmother had been divorced (or, perhaps, were they never married at all). There never was (and still isn’t) any reason I couldn’t simply ask, but still…
I’d like to state clearly, by the way, that while I look for parallels here and while I love (can love be the right word?) stories about awful fathers, my own is not and was never abusive. He isn’t an alcoholic or addict. I’ve never feared my father – we’re not even estranged.
The Lost Sister: An Elegy – Joyce Carol Oates
At first, I was turned off to the poetical style of this essay, but Oates plays with form as she goes and by the time she shifted to the second person (a favorite device of mine since college), I had nearly forgotten my misgivings. Here, we’re treated to a story – or perhaps a history – of Oates’s autistic sister. Autism is personal to me because of my son, but it’s a spectrum and the realities of Lynn Anne’s condition is wholly alien to my Jackson. Still, it’s a topic I’m invested in.
Right/Left: A Triptych – Marsha Pomerantz
I like the perspective in the first section (of three, it’s a triptych, get it?), we’re reading about Pomerantz’s childhood and so we read her as a child. I like the mechanism of the list she uses to organize these first few pages. The second section shifts into something else – still playful, but I started to wonder where we were really going. By the end, I think the essay was selected more for the art of it’s composition (a study of dichotomies: mother/father, Easter/Passover, left/right, Israel/America) than for any explanation of characters or events, but I was left to wonder what I really should have taken out of it.
Big Night – Jill Sisson Quinn
Here’s an essay about salamanders that’s really about adoption. I remember wanting to teach my students about writing essays this way when I taught 8th grade English. We’d always have to explain to them how to start your essay with a ‘hook’ and I tried so hard to teach them how not to write a bad hook, but it was always so formulaic. What they really needed to be doing was to find an engaging way to write about whatever they were writing about and why not use salamanders to do it.
It's not a tool that teachers really give their students though. It’s not something I was ever taught and it wasn’t anything I could ever figure out how to impart on middle-schoolers. I also wonder if the graders of standardized test would appreciate it even though it makes for such good writing.
I couldn’t write an essay that makes it to a Best American Essays book myself, but if I won the lottery and was in the market for a part time job to keep me entertained, I wouldn’t mind taking an adjunct gig somewhere that would let me teach a creative non-fiction course. I wouldn’t mind spending my time with essays like the ones in this book and trying to help students figure out which of these approaches they could make work for them.
Anyway, despite making me ponder essay-writing itself, this wasn’t one of my favorites.
Killing Like They Do in the Movies – Justin Phillip Reed
This one is about the portrayal of lynchings in film, but it’s not a researched detached review, but something of a personal narrative attached dressed loosely in the clothes of this kind of study. It’s about Reed and it’s about violence against black people in our society yesterday and today – the inventory of on-screen deaths is just another way to talk about it.
A General Feeling of Disorder – Oliver Sacks
This one dug into migraines and danced around mortality a bit. The narrator was sympathetic, but I don’t know it left me with anything I’ll carry with me.
In Praise of Contempt – Katherine E. Standefer
This one was sexy. Standefer writes about sexual relationships she has with married men. She writes about her needs and how she’s ended up having the kinds of encounters she’s had in a way that helps us to reflect on our own opinions about sex and morality a bit.
I like to see an essay like this in each volume, even if this one wasn’t my favorite. I liked that people could see my book cover while I was reading at the pool and must have assumed I was reading something dry or academic when really it felt a bit like smut. Sometimes the best essays ARE a bit smutty!
The Eleventh Commandment – George Steiner
This was my least favorite essay in this book. I might have been a little sleepy when I read it, but it meant close to nothing to me. It felt like it was written to be impenetrable. I’m the kind of guy who wants to read an essay about Judaism. I’m someone who is more likely than most to understand references to Spinoza and Nietchze and Schopenhauer and if I am struggling to keep up and keep interested, maybe your essay isn’t ‘of general interest’ in the way essays from this series are supposed to be.
Namesake – Mason Stokes
An essay about Stokes coming out to his parents in 1996, something I like to think is very different from coming out to your parents in 2022 (or even 2016 when this was published). It’s about his Uncle Mason, too (for whom Stokes is named) who either was or wasn’t gay himself. The exploration this character is nuanced and tender, but also fun. It’s sad though, too, to think of this maybe-probably-perhaps-gay uncle who maybe had to hide who he was for his whole life.
Black and Blue and Blond – Thomas Chatterton Williams
A great essay about race from a Black man whose children are decidedly less black. Williams marries and sires a child by a French woman and so he child pops out not only lighter skinned, but blond! Williams, of course, is himself mixed-race – so he imagines the cascading effect of less and less blackness in his line. He has a recurring reference to the Ship of Theseus and calls us to wonder if, one or two generations removed, when the whitest boy you’ve ever met talks about his Black heritage at a Parisian café, he will be met with acceptance or mischief or disbelief. The question persists: what does it mean to be Black? Can a blond French boy be black?