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Living Through the Meantime: Learning to Break the Patterns of the Past and Begin the Healing Process
“The most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher on the planet.” —Oprah Winfrey
From the host of the OWN TV show, Iyanla: Fix My Life , the companion workbook to Iyanla Vanzant’s #1 New York Times bestseller In the Meantime provides an easy, step-by-step program to help you begin the healing process after facing adversity.
Are you in the Meantime?
Are you confused, angry, disappointed, frustrated, anxious, apprehensive, sorry for yourself, or generally wiped out? If so, my friend, you are in the meantime.
Are you ready to put the pieces of your life together? Are you ready to begin the process of healing? Are you ready to give and receive love in all of your experiences?
In Living Through the Meantime , bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant will lead you, step-by-step, to a greater understanding of your own past, your motivations, and your desires. Once you have completed this program of meditation, self-care, and self-examination, you will be able to move beyond your meantime experience and into the love that is your true essence.
From the host of the OWN TV show, Iyanla: Fix My Life , the companion workbook to Iyanla Vanzant’s #1 New York Times bestseller In the Meantime provides an easy, step-by-step program to help you begin the healing process after facing adversity.
Are you in the Meantime?
Are you confused, angry, disappointed, frustrated, anxious, apprehensive, sorry for yourself, or generally wiped out? If so, my friend, you are in the meantime.
Are you ready to put the pieces of your life together? Are you ready to begin the process of healing? Are you ready to give and receive love in all of your experiences?
In Living Through the Meantime , bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant will lead you, step-by-step, to a greater understanding of your own past, your motivations, and your desires. Once you have completed this program of meditation, self-care, and self-examination, you will be able to move beyond your meantime experience and into the love that is your true essence.
224 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2001
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About the author
Iyanla Vanzant
141 books1,303 followersIn Peace From Broken Pieces New York Times best-selling author Iyanla Vanzant she recounts the last decade of her life and the spiritual lessons learnedfrom the price of success during her meteoric rise as a TV celebrity on Oprah, the Iyanla TV show (produced by Barbara Walters), to the dissolution of her marriage and her daughters 15 months of illness and death on Christmas day. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, Iyanla shares why everything we need to learn is reflected in our relationships and the strength and wisdom she has gained by supporting others in their journeys to make sense out of the puzzle pieces of their lives.
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February 27, 2009
This books is very timely since I am coming off a long and painful relationship. Many self awareness truism like:
When we forget that God loves us, we strike out in search of a human lover to fulfill our needs to be loved.
Acknowledge your feeling by saying:
I forgive myself if my perception is inaccurate but right now I am feeling ______
That’s what surrender is all about – simply stop doing things that make you miserable, crazy, unhappy, self hating and neurotic. When you stop abusing yourself in these ways, Loves moves in and the healing process begins.
All feelings are appropriate. It is often our response to or expression of the feelings that get us in trouble.
Questions you should ask:
What is my vision of love? What am I looking for? What am I looking at? What am I looking with? Your vision of love is the sum total of your experience added to your expectations, divided by your desire.
What do really expect from love? There maybe garbage from past relationships that you must clean up
Do you really believe that I deserve love? Expectations equal results.
If you really want to test the strength of a relationship, drop a heavy money issue into the mix! Money brings the worst in people.
The universal principle of polarity that explains the concept of balance states that everything is dual. Everything has its pairs of complementary opposites. Balance is having two different things on opposite sides of the scale that look different and act different. The extremes are necessary for wholeness. Do not attempt to create a carbon copy of yourself. That is not balance. The lesson here is acceptance, tolerance and harmony.
When you pour love into something, it is going to bring up everything that is unloving. When you put peace into the mix, it is going to magnify everything that is not peaceful.
The meantime is not about waiting to find a relationship. It’s about building a better relationship with yourself. It is a process of self-reflection and self-awareness.
The process for surviving “in the meantime” is
1. Love yourself no matter what
2. Feel what you feel and acknowldege that you are feeling it
3. Express what you are feeling verbally or in writing
4. Get clear what you want. What do you want to do? How do you want to feel? What are you willing to do to have the most peaceful version of the sxperience that is possible?
5. Do not look for or expect anyone to make your meantime better or less painful.
When we forget that God loves us, we strike out in search of a human lover to fulfill our needs to be loved.
Acknowledge your feeling by saying:
I forgive myself if my perception is inaccurate but right now I am feeling ______
That’s what surrender is all about – simply stop doing things that make you miserable, crazy, unhappy, self hating and neurotic. When you stop abusing yourself in these ways, Loves moves in and the healing process begins.
All feelings are appropriate. It is often our response to or expression of the feelings that get us in trouble.
Questions you should ask:
What is my vision of love? What am I looking for? What am I looking at? What am I looking with? Your vision of love is the sum total of your experience added to your expectations, divided by your desire.
What do really expect from love? There maybe garbage from past relationships that you must clean up
Do you really believe that I deserve love? Expectations equal results.
If you really want to test the strength of a relationship, drop a heavy money issue into the mix! Money brings the worst in people.
The universal principle of polarity that explains the concept of balance states that everything is dual. Everything has its pairs of complementary opposites. Balance is having two different things on opposite sides of the scale that look different and act different. The extremes are necessary for wholeness. Do not attempt to create a carbon copy of yourself. That is not balance. The lesson here is acceptance, tolerance and harmony.
When you pour love into something, it is going to bring up everything that is unloving. When you put peace into the mix, it is going to magnify everything that is not peaceful.
The meantime is not about waiting to find a relationship. It’s about building a better relationship with yourself. It is a process of self-reflection and self-awareness.
The process for surviving “in the meantime” is
1. Love yourself no matter what
2. Feel what you feel and acknowldege that you are feeling it
3. Express what you are feeling verbally or in writing
4. Get clear what you want. What do you want to do? How do you want to feel? What are you willing to do to have the most peaceful version of the sxperience that is possible?
5. Do not look for or expect anyone to make your meantime better or less painful.
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November 6, 2009This book allowed me the skill to be able to move on from a 'VALLEY'. To be able to acknowledge my feelings/emotions, live with them, get rid of them, and ultimately move on. Praising my God all the way.
Want to read
October 3, 2008Have loved her other books so this one will surely add growth
September 21, 2012
THIS BOOK WAS INCREDIBLE!!
I've been going through A LOT this past year, with the past few months being roughest; hence why I picked up this book. The title, "Living Through the Meantime" caught my eye because I needed help doing just that; living. Too, the subtitle describes exactly what I'm going through. My astonishment grew with every page turn!
I love all the self-help reads but this book hit a soft spot. It is so inspiring, helpful & motivational. Not only that-it's to the point. No sugar-coating, just truth. If you're going through any hard time or situation, just read this & keep the pages turning. It's a great coping tool.
What I liked most about this book were the workbook sections & the quotes. I did a lot of hi-lighting! :)
It's a book that I advise everyone to read at least once.
:)
I've been going through A LOT this past year, with the past few months being roughest; hence why I picked up this book. The title, "Living Through the Meantime" caught my eye because I needed help doing just that; living. Too, the subtitle describes exactly what I'm going through. My astonishment grew with every page turn!
I love all the self-help reads but this book hit a soft spot. It is so inspiring, helpful & motivational. Not only that-it's to the point. No sugar-coating, just truth. If you're going through any hard time or situation, just read this & keep the pages turning. It's a great coping tool.
What I liked most about this book were the workbook sections & the quotes. I did a lot of hi-lighting! :)
It's a book that I advise everyone to read at least once.
:)
August 11, 2009
I loved the analogy of the house, as it gave an excellent picture of developing a strong, stable core foundation. Only once the foundation is solid, can a structure be established on top of it. Here's to cleaning house!
February 16, 2015
Not crazy about her style. She tends to be a little over the top, bordering on hysterical at times. But there is no doubt about her ability to walk you to the core of matters and push you in front of a mirror you need to look into. If you need help, start with yourself. And she shows you how.
Want to read
July 22, 2009I am currently in the middle of unfolding a lot of dirty laundry.
February 17, 2013
Companion to In the Meantime with several helpful additional exercises. If you only buy on of the set, get In the Meantime. But if you are still in the meantime like I was this book can help you terrifically.
September 2, 2008
Living Through the Meantime : Learning to Break the Patterns of the Past and Begin the Healing Process by Iyanla Vanzant (2001)
May 15, 2011
Very good read!
July 16, 2012
we all find ourselves in the meantime at one time or another. this book helps you get to the other side.
July 27, 2013
Great emotional work. I've done this book twice.
April 18, 2015
First time reading her book, it was not bad. It took me a while to finish it. I prefer watching her show.
Currently reading
June 24, 2015I'm only in the beginning of this book but sense it will be a great read. Self emprovement and motivation is what I sense from this read and I'm so ready to take on LIVING THROUGH THE MEANTIME
August 27, 2015
Can't truly rated yet haven't finished the book started years ago
July 24, 2022
I love Iyana Books but this one just wasnt given what I expect out of her books.
Normally they would pull things out of you and make you think deeper into yourself. This one just didnt do it for me.
The repeating of the same question but ask a different way was getting on my nerves. There were many questions but for me I had the same answer for almost all of them. SO that got on my nerves.
In the Meantime book was just better than the workbook. I was hoping more but didnt get it.
Oh well
Normally they would pull things out of you and make you think deeper into yourself. This one just didnt do it for me.
The repeating of the same question but ask a different way was getting on my nerves. There were many questions but for me I had the same answer for almost all of them. SO that got on my nerves.
In the Meantime book was just better than the workbook. I was hoping more but didnt get it.
Oh well
July 21, 2024
When I got this book I didn't realize it was an actual workbook. I wasn't prepared to do a workbook so I just skimmed the pages of writing. I did glance at some of the questions to journal about and I thought they were good questions that would illicit a lot of thought and reflection.
I have always been a fan of Iyanla Vanzant and if I wanted to work through issues I would definitely come to this book and give it a try.
I have always been a fan of Iyanla Vanzant and if I wanted to work through issues I would definitely come to this book and give it a try.
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March 22, 2022I have read this book a few years back when I was going through some difficult time as I'm sure many others read it it looking for some guidance. I'm hoping to reread it for different reasons but I know it will show me where I need to be in my life.
August 1, 2017
best book ever after break up. empowering and potentially life altering.
September 15, 2017
This one got me through some rough times.
July 21, 2023
I'm a survivor of 40 years of every type of abuse imaginable. It began when I was still in diapers. After a rape and beating, I listened to Vanzant read this audiobook, I sobbed, I got angry, I began to climb out of my enraged dark well. This is one of the most powerful of her books.
October 19, 2008
A good book for when you need help copeing.
May 15, 2013
THE BEST BOOK I EVER READ
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