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XO, OX: A Love Story

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The hilarious tale of love between a hapless ox and a fabulous gazelle, told in correspondence.

"Dear Gazelle,

For some time now I have wanted to write a letter to say how much I admire you. You are so graceful and fine. Even when you are running from tigers you are like a ballerina who is running away from tigers.

I think that what I'm trying to say is that I love you.

XO,
OX"

And so begins an epic, if initially unrequited, love affair between a graceful gazelle and a clumsy, hapless ox. Romance will never be the same.

Adam Rex's hilarious, sweet, and at times heartbreaking letters between a hopelessly romantic ox and a conceited, beautiful gazelle is paired perfectly with Scott Campbell's joyful illustrations to bring you a romance for the ages.

32 pages, Hardcover

First published January 3, 2017

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Adam Rex

97 books783 followers
Adam Rex grew up in Phoenix, Arizona, the middle of three children. He was neither the smart one (older brother) or the cute one (younger sister), but he was the one who could draw. He took a lot of art classes as a kid, trying to learn to draw better, and started painting when he was 11. And later in life he was drawn down to Tucson in order to hone his skills, get a BFA from the University of Arizona, and meet his physicist wife Marie (who is both the smart and cute one).

Adam is nearsighted, bad at all sports, learning to play the theremin, and usually in need of a shave. He can carry a tune, if you don't mind the tune getting dropped and stepped on occasionally. He never remembers anyone's name until he's heard it at least three times. He likes animals, spacemen, Mexican food, Ethiopian food, monsters, puppets, comic books, 19th century art, skeletons, bugs, and robots.

Garlic and crosses are useless against Adam. Sunlight has been shown to be at least moderately effective. A silver bullet does the trick. Pretty much any bullet, really.

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Profile Image for Carmen.
1,834 reviews2,447 followers
April 18, 2017
I'm not sure how I feel about this book. Oh, wait, yes, I am: it's filth.

Lured in by the inundation of positive reviews for this: cute, funny, romantic etc. I was really looking forward to reading this, only to be punched in the face by some disgusting rhetoric.

Let's review:

Ox admires Gazelle, who is... an actress? A model? Definitely a famous lady famous for being beautiful.

Dear Gazelle,

For some time now I have wanted to write you a letter to say how much I admire you. You are so graceful and fine. Even when you are running from tigers you are like a ballerina who is running from tigers.

I think that what I am trying to say is that I love you.

XO,
OX


She writes him two form letters. He keeps writing and writing her, not accepting her disinterest. She gets increasingly and increasingly frustrated with him, but eventually caves and they end up in a relationship.

THE END


1.) You 'love' her? You've never even met her. You just think she's attractive physically. Fuck that shit.

2.) Not taking 'no' for an answer will wear down women and eventually they will see what a great guy you are and love you. GREAT PLAN! Not creepy at all. Don't ever accept 'no' from a woman who doesn't want to date you.

3.) Normal, average, smelly men who are creeps and/or stalkers deserve beautiful model wives because... because... I'm drawing a blank here. I would say "They are good people" but that isn't true. Just look at this book or at any sitcom ever where a lazy, uncaring, ungrateful, man-child has a beautiful model wife who adores him and coddles him even though he's not even a particularly good man with a good heart.

4.) Gotta bring women down to their PLACE! Put them in their place. That model/actress thinks she's SO great, doesn't she?!?! And sure, she's pretty, but she's not perfect! And she'll come to LOVE and APPRECIATE a man who points out her flaws to her and brings her down a notch! Fuck women with high self-esteem, they are stuck-up bitches who need to be reminded of their place in the world!

5.) Women who are actresses and models are stuck-up bitches. Actually, all beautiful women are stuck up and spend literally all day doing nothing but looking in mirrors. That's ALL Gazelle is pictured doing before Ox comes into her life. She just stares into a mirror constantly. After they are a couple, she is pictured listening to music, feeding birds, playing guitar, and painting.

6.) Gazelle is beautiful, rich, stuck-up, and vain. Ox is plain, poorer, stupid, and constantly optimistic. These are caricatures, not characters.

7.) You should want, need, think you're in love with and relentlessly pursue beautiful women - even when they have NO redeeming values or interesting traits, or even a personality SOLELY because they are beautiful. That's all you need in a woman and all that is worth anything in a female. A personality-less, completely uninteresting and dull gorgeous woman is a worthwhile lifemate. (Ugh, this is a terrible message. Please teach your children that a shining personality is going to serve them much better in choosing a lifemate than looks!)

Tl;dr - Poison for the minds of your children. There's nothing sweet about this.
Profile Image for Courtney.
379 reviews10 followers
February 6, 2017
I rarely give a one star, and maybe I'm being ridiculous here...but Gazelle said no, and Ox wouldn't take no for an answer. I don't like sending that message to children when it come to relationships, especially love.
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1,642 reviews108 followers
March 26, 2022
https://thebabybookwormblog.wordpress.com/2017/02/02/xo-ox-a-love-story-adam-rex-scott-campbell/

This review was originally written for The Baby Bookworm. Visit us for new picture books reviews daily!

Hello, everyone! Today’s book is XO, Ox: A Love Story by Adam Rex and Scott Campbell, an unconventional “love” story.

Ox loves how beautiful and graceful Gazelle is, so he writes her letter after letter declaring his devotion. Gazelle is conceited and egocentric, however, and treats him dismissively, then insultingly. Still, Ox persists, knowing that she could never love him but-

You know what, I’m going to stop there. This book is disturbing. Like, deeply disturbing. For a book that has “A Love Story,” in its title, this is a terrible message for children about what love is.

Ox is blindly persistent in his affection toward Gazelle, someone he claims to love, but has never met (therefore, he is attracted to her, NOT “in love”), writing her multiple letters despite Gazelle’s insistence that he stop doing so. Gazelle, a stuck-up diva trope , then insults his looks, hygiene, and intelligence (cruelly, I might add). Still, Ox does not leave her alone, inadvertently insulting her, which drives her into a tear-fueled rage. And this makes her… decide she DOES love him?! At least, I think, as the ending is vague and abrupt.

That is a terrifying message to to send to children about love. “Don’t respect someone’s wishes when they repeatedly tell you ‘no'” and “If someone treats you like dirt, don’t give up, because they may someday love you,” are two dangerously old-fashioned notions that have no place in a children’s book about “love” published in 2017.

The book has nice illustrations, and JJ is fortunately young enough to not understand the implications of the plot, so take that for what it’s worth. I’m so bummed about this too, because we have adored Rex’s and Campbell’s individual work in the past. But I cannot, in good conscience, recommend that anyone read this to an impressionable child. See you tomorrow, with better tidings I hope.

Be sure to check out The Baby Bookworm for more reviews!
Profile Image for Theresa.
152 reviews9 followers
February 13, 2017
Truly bizarre for a kids' picture book, but the illustrations are pretty good I guess. Described this to my coworker as negging for kids, and I stand by it.
Profile Image for SL.
458 reviews3 followers
February 12, 2017
This started out with a cross of wacky and cute and then became downright creepy. Like stfu Ox, Lady Gazelle didn't want to talk to you and yet you insisted, wearing her down and making her feel bad in the process. I'll probably be accused of being too serious but idgaf, I don't like the implicit message here that if you like someone and just keep at it, the object of your affections will suddenly change their mind and fall for you. That's not real life. Plus the story doesn't even show them interacting face to face so HOW DO THEY EVEN LIKE EACH OTHER AT THE END? It's all based on looks from Ox's point of view and Lady Gazelle is frustrated 95% of the time. I could go on but tbh but the only thing I can honestly say I liked about this picture book were the illustrations. They were really nice to look at, even if the overall story was not.
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6,578 reviews531 followers
May 23, 2021
This is part of my 365 Kids Books challenge. For a fuller explanation see my review for 101 Amazing Facts about Australia You can see all the books on their own shelf. The Reviewers seemed to run correctly last week, but didn't run this week at all, and the Readers list hasn't been fixed at all. I guess algorithm don't care. Looking at the beta pages, algorithm loves stars.

Ox writes a fan letter to supermodel Gazelle declaring his love for her. She sends back a form letter and a signed picture. He writes back again misconstruing her message. He continues to send her letters praising her many virtues and telling her why he loves her based. And when she specifically asks this stranger to stop writing to her, he doesn't.

So she falls in love with him?

WTF?

Alternatively, this is just a cute story about some watercolor animals falling in love.

Addenda: Interesting to read other reviews after publishing mine. Especially because there's more than one by a woman who's second guessing herself. And my original draft was rather harsher, but I toned it down and added that last sentence because I know no one meant it to be creepy stalker training. And because the guys in the house told me I was reading too much into it. In the 80s when all the teen movies rewarded the male lead with a passed out cheerleader to rape I didn't see it as anything but comedy. Now it's horrifying. The fact that I second guessed myself based on the opinions of two guys, one of whom hadn't even read the book? That's horrifying, too.

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Profile Image for Alexandra Calaway.
217 reviews50 followers
March 29, 2018
Ugh, I really, really want to like this but generally agree with all the negative reviewers. This normalizes rape culture. She doesn't mean no, even though she's said it over and over again. Also, can't get over that Gazelle thinks well of herself, so she's a shallow, worthless woman. Um, no. It's fine for Gazelle to think well of herself? Like literally good self-esteem is good for women to have?

UUUUUUGGGGHHHHHHH. No. Two stars for the illustrations? It wanted so badly to be cute.
Profile Image for Samantha.
397 reviews15 followers
February 9, 2017
Nope. When a woman says no, don't continue to harass her.
Maybe kids won't think of it that way, but it creeped me out to an insane degree. I don't know what this book was trying to accomplish? Maybe my personal experiences have just totally ruined the "romance" thing it was trying to do?
Will not use or recommend.
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962 reviews850 followers
February 28, 2020
A wonderful story about patience and kindness! The illustrations tell a lot! A great read-aloud for children ages 7-12!
Profile Image for Riley.
1,035 reviews105 followers
February 28, 2017
This book is some bullshit (pun totally intended).

I'm sure many of the other 1-star reviews amply cover its transgressions, so I'll mostly just say that it is extremely superficial in its version of "love", and it features a dude continually try to contact and "woo" a woman who very explicitly tells him to leave her alone multiple times. It's just another example of the tired idea that badgering a woman until she gives in is the key to getting an uninterested woman to like you, when in fact it's just super creepy.
Profile Image for Jillian.
2,371 reviews543 followers
April 14, 2017
Edited to add: The more I've thought about it, the more damaging I think it is to share this with young children without a discussion about the context around the concerns about consent, so I can't recommend it. Also, the fact that it explicitly says this is a "Love story" in the title is concerning to me. This is certainly not the superficial (Ox doesn't even know her, only her looks), abusive (only after he tells Gazelle what's wrong with her does she start to like him) type of love I'd want to promote to children or teens. I'm more bothered by this story the more I think about it.
Initial thoughts: I'm really torn. Though I can see it as a funny story, I also worry that it promotes stalking a little too much, but that could be me taking it too seriously. However, as much as I find the humor in it, the other part of me that thinks about how we are trying to teach the importance of consent to our youth worries about what message it sends if we find it funny that a girl directly tells a boy to stop writing to her, yet he continues to do so. Am I just overthinking it? I'm not sure.
Profile Image for KC.
2,629 reviews
February 5, 2017
What a way to start the day. This clever, humorous, and truthful yet somewhat heartbreaking tale is told in corespondents between a hapless ox and a conceited gazelle. Truthful and endearing. Love the illustrations. Take the time to read the bit about the author and illustrator in the back. It's hilarious!!!
3,277 reviews13 followers
January 8, 2017
This is more of a stalker story than a love story. Extra star for the letters to the reader on the back jacket copy.
Profile Image for Jillian.
2,525 reviews32 followers
February 9, 2017
I'm....conflicted. On the one hand, Ox seems to be....not taking things too far? Like, he accepts that Gazelle rejects him and doesn't try to argue his case. And yet...he *does* keep writing. Repeatedly. After several 'no' answers and even insults. He just...persists. I hate to break it to you, friend, but even if you're content that your affections aren't returned, continuing to pop up and reiterate your love is still bloody annoying.
Also, not sure how much I love that the girl is so obviously vain and shallow, and THAT'S why she doesn't love Ox. Not because she just...doesn't.
Profile Image for La Tonya  Jordan.
388 reviews98 followers
December 29, 2017
This is an adorable love story.

Dear Gazelle,

For some time now I have wanted to write a letter to say how much I admire you. You are so graceful and fine. Even when you are running from tigers you are like a ballerina who is running from tigers.

I think that what I'm trying to say is that I love you.

xO,
OX

And so begins an epic, if one-sided, romance between a graceful gazelle and a clumsy,hapless ox. True love never did run smooth.

Quote
Dear Ox,

Thank you for your letter. I hope you understand that I have many admirers and cannot reply to each one personnally.

Please enjoy the signed photo of me that I have enclosed for your collection.

Au revoir,
Gazelle
Profile Image for Allison.
827 reviews11 followers
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January 25, 2017
I loved the art and the whole setup was very cute, but oh, this is a story about a guy who won't take no for an answer and badgers the girl into being with him. Yes, Gazelle needed to chill, but she told Ox no and he didn't listen. :(
Profile Image for Ame.
1,451 reviews
February 15, 2017
Meh. An ox writes fan letters to a famous gazelle. She doesn't have time to answer all his letters and asks him to stop writing. He notes that her main fault is that she can't bring herself to love an ox. By the end of the book she falls for him.


Nope. Don't think so.
Profile Image for Jessica.
Author 31 books5,941 followers
March 10, 2017
Utterly charming picture book that I got for the kids for Valentine's Day! An ox writes love letters to a beautiful gazelle, and through the eyes of love turns her tart replies into real answers to his correspondence. So cute!
Profile Image for Earl.
4,115 reviews42 followers
January 11, 2017
I'm quite smitten with this picture book. I loved how Ox is so undeterred by Gazelle's lack of interest in him.
Profile Image for Kathy.
469 reviews
February 3, 2017
An ox is stalking a gazelle and won't take 'no' for an answer. I guess I could use it for a storytime on unhealthy relationships.
Profile Image for Abigail.
8,043 reviews268 followers
February 19, 2020
Ox slowly wins Gazelle over in this epistolary picture-book, as he writes letter after letter expressing his admiration, not put off by the fact that her initial responses are form letters. Through a combination of flattery and sly provocation, his missives prompt her to get more personally involved in their correspondence, and although her replies are not favorable at first, are in fact insulting, it is clear by the end that she has come to care for this stout, ungraceful (and smelly!) creature...

An amusing book from start to finish - the letters from author and illustrator on the rear dust-jacket flap were a particularly nice touch! - XO, OX: A Love Story highlights the idea that friendship and even love can develop between two very different creatures. I enjoyed the fact that it is Ox, whom Gazelle describes as having a "clumsy brain," who demonstrates a cunning understanding of his target's vanity, using both flattery and carefully disguised insult to provoke a response. The artwork, done in watercolor and colored pencil, is every bit as entertaining as the text, capturing the humor of the tale perfectly. The decorative end-papers featuring Oz and Gazelle in various poses, is also appealing. Recommended to anyone looking for humorous new stories for the picture-book set.
Profile Image for JD Waggy.
1,310 reviews62 followers
November 14, 2018
I am SO EXCITED to come to this page and find that so many other folks were as unnerved by this book as I was. A friend of mine read it to me as a joke and man, it wasn't funny. Ox begins this "love story" by saying that he saw Gazelle one day WHILE SHE WAS RUNNING FROM TIGERS and says he thinks she's beautiful. HIS OPENING COMPLIMENT IS THAT SHE'S PRETTY IN NEAR-DEATH SITUATIONS. That's...something.

She has her people send back a form letter, and then another, and several letters of her own asking him to cease and desist, and he doesn't but eventually he gets to tell her how stuck up she is because she says mean things about him but he loves her anyway. And isn't she lucky to have someone who loves her? Like, being beautiful and rich aren't enough, she needs this ox who won't take "no" for an answer to complete her as a gazelle.

I get the "don't judge by appearance" moral that's presented here, but in no way did that have to come via the vehicle of refusing to respect a woman's time and also superficially falling for someone on appearances only and trying to justify that by smart. This isn't a love story. This is a way to tell kids that their boundaries don't matter. Don't do that to your kids. Everything else will do a more than adequate job of it.
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1,171 reviews59 followers
April 28, 2017
Cute, funny, but maybe a bit stalker-ish? I mean, yes, Gazelle is a snob, but Ox seems to understand that she wants him to get lost and won't take the hint, and when he tells her , I was like "PATRIARCHY BULLSHIT."
Profile Image for Kristin.
575 reviews27 followers
April 6, 2019
A charmingly illustrated tale of male entitlement.

A male Ox stalks a strange female Gazelle through the mail, irritating then infuriating her when he refuses to take no for answer. He is adoring and selfless. She is mean and snobby. After he takes her ego down a peg, she accepts his romantic advances in defeat. Nice guys win again!

This may be the only picture book in the history of the world that includes the act of 'negging'.
Profile Image for Kelley.
5 reviews
December 15, 2018
Long time Goodreads rater, first time reviewer because this book is so horrible that I feel inclined to say something (though many others have essentially said what I’m about to).

This book is a promotion of harassment, wrapped up in a cute package with adorable illustrations. Based on the cover and first couple of pages I thought it would become a new favorite. I was quickly proven wrong. Pretty sure this is the most a picture book has ever upset me.
Profile Image for Stina.
Author 5 books77 followers
January 21, 2019
Book #88 for 2018
Alphabet Soup: X

This book gets a big ol' "Oh Hell No" from me. Seriously, who thought this incel bullshit would make a good kids' book? Maybe as a discussion starter for the "infatuation is not love" and "treat others with respect" and "don't be an asshole" conversations, okay. But taken at face value, this is one of the worst books I've ever read.
Profile Image for Laura.
29 reviews
January 3, 2018
Scott Campbell's adorable illustrations, which drew me to this book as a fan of 'East Dragon, West Dragon', still couldn't manage to save this story from its horrible message about love and boundaries and not taking 'no' for an answer.
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