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When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within

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A major revision of the best-selling classic — a quarter of a million copies sold.

This new edition of When Anger Hurts is a complete, step-by-step guide to changing habitual anger-generating thoughts while developing healthier, more effective ways of meeting your needs. It includes new chapters on emergency anger control, the interpersonal and physiological costs of anger,
Paperback, Second Edition, 320 pages
Published November 1st 2003 by New Harbinger Publications (first published 1989)
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Dec 22, 2012 rated it really liked it
It has methods of communication that I believe are effective and easy to remember. It has only a few methods to help you stop losing your temper.
Still, I found this book effective in helping me to control my temper and see life's occurrences in a different light. I feel that I have better phrases to use when I will need to be assertive and let my needs be known.

The problem I have with the book is that it tells you to forget about your "shoulds" when dealing with other people, as this will help t
Jun 25, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: people dealing with anger/forgiveness issues
Shelves: self-help
I really like the approach this book takes. It helps you get out of "victim" mode and get into a "personal responsibility" mode. Basically, you are responsible for your own anger. If your needs are not getting met, you need to find other ways to meet your needs. This book gives several scenarios on how to do so. I very much recommend it for people dealing with past hurts.
Dec 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book is excellent. Many of the concepts and skills seem to be derived from cognitive and dialectical behavior therapy models, which drew helpful connections for me. I found this book very beneficial. The examples are pivotal to the concepts, and they are clear and plentiful. Highly recommended for anyone dealing with anger or an angry person, and anyone simply interested in becoming more skillful in self exploration and interpersonal communication.
Jun 20, 2014 rated it really liked it
It said in the beginning that anger is actually hiding a negative emotion. That in itself was an eye-opener. It made me think about what emotions lie underneath my anger. Then, anger is much easier to deal with or it disappears behind the real emotion that I need to deal with. Another good practical book.
Steve Pipenger
Jan 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
It is tough to admit that one has the issues that this book addresses. It's very good and gives great insight and techniques to calm down and be more level-headed.
Jess Stockman
Jul 10, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Good for not only someone who has anger issues but even those hurt by anger issues. Read it!
Jan 04, 2013 rated it liked it
Personal issues to solve...It did help.
Maria Leon
If you or someone you know has an anger issue or has been hurt..... read this book. I read it, and am rereading it again... I'm finding greater depth and understanding as a re-read the book
Bill McDavid
Jan 06, 2009 rated it it was amazing
You have anger? Deal with it now. Dont wait.
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Matthew McKay, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, and author of more than 30 professional psychology and self-help books which have sold a combined total of more than 3 million copies. He is co-founder of independent self-help publisher, New Harbinger Publications. He was the clinical director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco for twenty ...more
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