From generational icon Brooke Shields comes an intimate and empowering exploration of ageing that flips the script on the idea of what it means for a woman to grow older
Brooke Shields has spent a lifetime in the public eye. Growing up as a child actor and model, her every feature was scrutinised, her every decision judged. Today Brooke faces a different kind of that of being a 'woman of a certain age'.
And yet, for Brooke, the passage of time has brought freedom. At fifty-nine, she feels more comfortable in her skin, more empowered and confident than she did decades ago in those famous Calvin Kleins. Now, in Brooke Shields Is Not Allowed to Get Old, she's changing the narrative about women and ageing.
This is an era, insists Brooke, when women are reclaiming agency and power, not receding into the shadows. These are the years when we get to decide how we want to live - when we get to write our own stories.
With remarkable candour, Brooke bares all, painting a vibrant and optimistic picture of being a woman in the prime of her life, while dismantling the myths that have, for too long, dimmed that perception. Sharing her own life experiences with humour and humility, and weaving together research and reporting, Brooke takes aim at the systemic factors that contribute to age-related bias.
By turns inspiring, moving, and galvanising, Brooke's honesty and vulnerability will resonate with women everywhere, and spark a new conversation about the power and promise of midlife.
Very enjoyable memoir, will definitely resonate with women over 40.
I listened to this as an audiobook narrated by Shields, and could really relate to the story. In this book, she looks at her life as it relates to aging--how it affects her work, her family, her health, and her mindset.
I appreciated that she explores topics that not many people do, such as ageism with women, menopause, empty nesting, and parenting young women in today's world. Throughout she also gives anecdotes about her own life in relation to these issues, and provides statistics about them, and provides inspiration for those of us who are experiencing the same season of life. She also does not take herself too seriously or think too highly of herself, which is refreshing for a celebrity with a full life lived in the public eye.
If you're a woman over 40, you'll relate to this book and with its author.
Brooke Shields wants you to know she’s not just aging—she’s thriving. And sure, that’s inspiring… if you’re Brooke Shields.
First off, let’s address the obvious: Brooke Shields is aging like a bottle of top-shelf wine sealed in a vault somewhere (and probably blessed by skincare wizards), so her insights on the struggles of midlife feel a bit, well, aspirational for the rest of us mere mortals.
This book is a mix of personal anecdotes, societal observations, and a healthy dose of “you can do it too!” energy, which alternates between empowering and slightly exhausting. Shields is funny, charming, and candid as she recounts her journey from being ogled in Calvin Klein ads to embracing her 59-year-old self. But let’s be real: it’s easier to age gracefully when you have a personal trainer, a glam squad, and the kind of cheekbones that don’t quit.
The book’s best moments are when Brooke gets personal—she opens up about her life in the spotlight, the pressures of Hollywood, and how society loves to slap an expiration date on women like it’s a clearance sticker at the grocery store. Those parts feel real and relatable, even if you’ve never graced a Vogue cover. But sometimes, her “you’re as young as you feel” mantras feel a little like being handed a $20 candle when your house is on fire.
To be fair, Brooke’s wit and self-awareness are charming. She acknowledges her privilege, though not always with the depth you’d hope for. At times, it feels like she’s saying, “Aging is liberating!” from a luxury spa while the rest of us are standing in the drugstore aisle debating if we should spend $30 on an anti-aging cream that promises to fix our entire lives.
The first word that comes to mind after reading this is validation. Brooke Shields’ words are powerful, reassuring, and relatable. “ I am woman, hear me MORE,” she proclaims, and I love it! This is an important read for all women, especially those like me who are of a certain age. If you have ever felt invisible, unheard, and overlooked this book will resonate with you and empower you. The prologue brought tears to my eyes as I nodded in agreement. Very powerful and needed in my aging life. Thank you, NetGalley and Macmillan Audio for my audiobook. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Brooke Shields is Not Allowed to Get Old – can I change the title to WOMEN are Not Allowed to Get Old? I know it’s Brooke’s book, but sheesh, this sentiment applies to every single female on the planet.
Because the fact is, we’re not allowed to get old. If men society had its way, women would stay young, beautiful, and fertile all their lives. That’s our purpose, if you ask the patriarchy – to be eye candy and baby makers. And the second we enter middle age and no longer serve this purpose – as our bodies soften and round, our faces line and our hair grays, and our eggs dry up – we lose our appeal. The male gaze no longer focuses on us but seeks out a more youthful version, and this transition to invisibility is frustrating for many women. Especially because, if you’re anything like me at age 48, on the inside you feel like you've finally grown into yourself and become the woman you were always meant to be. You’re now ready to be seen.
Shields is 59, a decade older than me, but my age group is the ideal demographic for her book. As a woman who is still adjusting to the fact that I no longer turn heads when I walk into a room, so much of Shields’ memoir rings true. The book is a battle cry for all women of a certain age, and, in it, she touches on all that is discouraging about female midlife and lets us know that she’s right there with us.
But she also celebrates what I’ve found to be so freeing about growing older. Like accepting my body’s flaws and not caring (as much) about my appearance. And being unafraid to speak my mind and call out stupid when I see it. And having the courage to end unhealthy relationships and only surround myself with people who bring me joy. And having the experience to make wise decisions and live a good life, one that is filled with kindness, honesty, and love.
The audiobook is read by Shields herself, and it’s such a great pick-me-up. It’s empowering, supportive, and validating, and she’ll leave you feeling as if you’re ready to take on the world.
I am woman, hear me MORE – do you like my new mantra?
I’m so glad I read this. Thank you Oprah for adding it to your list!
When I was in grade school, I went to Catholic school even though my family wasn’t Catholic. It was the best private school my parents could afford for my brother and me, and they felt it was a safer environment than the public school where there were kids from our church were bullying me. And since we weren't Catholic, we only went to the school instead of the church. Every Monday, I was told Brooke Shields had been in attendance. I really wanted to go just once to see her just once.
She was my first near brush with celebrity and also was a VERY big deal in general during my childhood, and so she's always been someone on my radar. When this book came out, I was curious to read it. It was good. It was half memoir and half feminist manifesto.
I kind of wish she'd talked more about Andre Agassi. I have to admit that I fell for all the media misogyny back then making her the villain. I would've loved to know her side of the story. But I also understand this book was about the more mature years of her life and that was something done in her youth. It was probably also a painful part of her history (guessing). Obviously it was her choice whether to go there, and I respect that, personal feelings aside.
I also admit to assuming she got into Princeton just because she's Brooke Shields (as I did about Mira Sorvino and Natalie Portman going to Harvard and Jodie Foster going to Yale - do male celebrities go to college, by the way???). I take it back after reading this book - at least about Brooke Shields.
This book felt more like a letter to her daughters in some ways - wisdom to impart on them for their future selves. I found myself clapping, yessing, and nodding my head all along. There were a lot of things she said that resonated with me - being raised to be as invisible as possible and having to learn how to speak up for myself (loved the way she dressed down the anesthesiologist and the investor), post-menopause life (of course), the medical condescension, the happiness that settles in once fulfillment becomes the priority, and so much more.
Lots of gems too for people who want to know - like the Tom Cruise incident, how Bradley Cooper took her to the hospital, how she freaked out Matthew Perry, and how Barbara Walters betrayed feminism (ugh! I've always hated her for her ratings shenanigans) as examples. She also openly talks about what I consider medical assault by her gynecologist. I actually hope she sues him and gets his license revoked.
Anyway, worth reading. I wish her luck in her newest endeavors. I'll always be a fan.
Brooke is 59 years old, and she is not ashamed to admit it. She talks of how many women, herself included, rarely stand up to anyone since they are conditioned from a young age to "be nice." Not only in her career, but also in her medical interactions, she mentions times where primarily men have marginalized her and in the case of doctors, not even offered critical information. She has started a company to address the changing hair care needs of postmenopausal woman, and has plenty to tell about being a mom of two daughters, both now young adults. The writing style is down to earth, and anyone who enjoyed Valerie Bertinelli's Enough Already might also like this book. Thanks to Edelweiss and the publisher for the ARC.
I really wanted to like this book. I really don’t want to be a woman who tears down other women, especially Brooke Shields, who tells us repeatedly in the book that people have been tearing her down her whole life. But. It’s just not a good book. It gave me not a single useful insight. And it’s so incredibly out of touch. Brooke bemoans having to take jobs she didn’t like to pay the bills and the example is a commercial in Japan, for which she probably got paid more than my annual salary. She bemoans the focus on her body and then talks on and on about her body. She feels bad for not wearing all her designer clothes. She spent Covid in her Southampton home playing games with her kids. Her friends are all rich and famous. By the end I was grinding my teeth so hard at her blindness to her privilege that I wanted to throw the book out the window. She asks of the reader “who am I to dispense advice?” The answer is no one.
In her newest work, Brooke Shields offers a candid perspective on mature womanhood, aging, and how society views women in these contexts. This insightful book draws from her own life experiences to strengthen the narrative that women are systematically treated differently as they age. She shares her first-hand experiences as she navigates this new phase of her life, providing relatable insights for many readers. It's a coming-of-age story, but the script is flipped, as she examines what happens when women begin to define their own goals in the second half of their lives.
Several aspects of Brooke’s story resonated with me. As we age, we may gain confidence, but she is right to point out that there is also a newfound freedom from worrying about others' opinions when expressing our own. This can come across as uncomfortably confrontational to the patriarchal system, especially when it comes from an older woman considered past her “prime.” Brooke defines this as an age beyond childbearing. This is not a new issue; we can trace it back to the Middle Ages, when the age bracket most associated with witch accusations often included mature women. A confident older woman should not be seen as a threat, yet society often views her that way.
Brooke also reflects on her career—examining the choices she made and those made for her—ultimately finding her own power. This journey is accompanied by thoughts on mortality, not from a morbid perspective, but rather as an exploration of making it one-third of the way through her life while still seeking validation. Many women at a certain age will find this particularly relatable, especially as their children reach maturity and become less reliant on daily parenting.
I found her exploration of the healthcare system especially engaging. Frequently, medical professionals dictate how we should feel about our bodies, and when we question this, it is often dismissed as us being “difficult”. The lack of knowledge surrounding perimenopause and menopause is astonishing, and advocating for oneself can be an overwhelming task. For many women, particularly those with less privilege, this advocacy is an impossibility.
While I enjoyed most of the book, I found the inclusion of statistics to be off-putting. It felt inauthentic for her to share her personal experiences only to follow them up with generic statistics about how other women feel. Brooke's truth should stand on its own; if I found her relatable despite my vastly different background, many other women likely will too. Presenting statistics to validate her points felt like another nod to patriarchal expectations, as if her experiences weren't enough without evidence that others share them.
I would recommend this book to many of my friends over forty and suggest listening to the audio production. Brooke does a fantastic job with her narration, and her passion for various women’s health and wellness issues shines through. Thank you to NetGalley and Macmillan Audio for allowing me to listen to this book in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own and are based on my personal experiences and background.
I really enjoyed listening to this Audio Book. Brooke Shields has been in the public eye her entire life, but is most remembered when she was very young. She symbolized a beauty ideal. Who can forget her famous Calvin Klein TV Ads saying nothing comes between her and her Calvins. Yet, she was only 15 then and many people wish to keep her in the same way and in the same mind set. It is refreshing that she has allowed herself to be older and stop apologizing for it. She has life experience and developed confidence along the way.
There was relatable discussions about women’s bodies, menopause, aging, underestimating older women, empty nest syndrome, and women routinely being dismissed about concerns with their own bodies. The message is a positive one, yes many of us are getting older and some of the change is not great, we also gain more boldness and ability to really live and do what we want. This is an incredible freedom if we use it. As you age, being so concerned with what others think just doesn’t matter as much.
I like that she is funny. She is relatable and self-deprecating which made many serious topics easy to listen to. I loved the message and hearing where she is in life right now. Seize the day, as now is the time to do what we really desire.
2.5 I think I like Brooke Shields, but this seemed like a bunch of complaints about what people, (mostly men) did wrong to her. Sometimes a topic was discussed far too long, imo.
candid memoir about the actresses' thoughts on aging, beauty, parenting and more. Shields has an EXCELLENT narrator voice and I hope she books more gigs reading books out loud.
I will say the bits about her personal research into women's health (basically menopause is under studied as is women's health in general) were not as fun to listen to as her personal stories, but I think that's because I'm pretty aware.
that said, definitely a good listen, especially due to her narration.
Brooke Shields pens her third memoir, sharing her experiences and thoughts on aging. She's only a few years younger than me and I was interested in reading her perspective. I mean, she's Brooke freaking Shields! Do you remember the Calvin Klein ads when she proclaimed 'Nothing comes between me and my Calvins?' Well, she has a lot to say about growing older. For the most part, she comes across as a regular person, which amazes me, considering the life she's led. The narrative is written in a conversational style, which is a nice touch, except that she's just like that friend who talks your ear off. She tends to go off on tangents and I kept wanting to cut her off. There's nothing earth-shattering here, just an effort to make the reader feel that they are not alone on this journey. validation.
As a fellow Gen Xer, I grew up looking at the striking face of Brooke Shields. She represented a beauty that a lot of young girls aspired to. And now, decades later, it’s a kick to see that Brooke wants to share that we’re not alone with our hot flashes, irritation with beauty standards and anger over the hypocrisy of how society judges women (especially compared to men). This is an honest, self deprecating and funny memoir that I enjoyed more than I had anticipated. Can I relate to her Gucci shoes, actor friends and brownstone in NY? No. Can I relate to her empty nest, menopause and fury over how women are dismissed as they age? Damned right I can.
This book wasn’t exactly what I expected, the book does explicitly say that it’s her thoughts on aging as a woman but I was hoping for a little more memoir with those thoughts on aging from her unique perspective as an 80s/90s beauty icon who was been THROUGH the gauntlet of public scrutiny, I think that information holds a lot of value for women.
While there was some of that experience in this book, there was also quite a bit of referencing studies and other books, articles etc that generalized women’s experiences. It felt like she was trying to show that her experiences are that of the common woman which is great but I wish that instead of telling an anecdote and then corroborating how she felt with a study or article etc that generalized women’s experiences that instead she told the story, how she felt and what she took from it and let the reader feel a connection to her that way instead.
It’s not a bad book, in fact I think a lot of people will enjoy and resonate but maybe it’s just not for me.
I am going to go watch one of her movies though because she is an ✨ icon ✨
There were definitely parts of this book I could relate to as I am the age of Brooke. But in the big scheme of things I found it repetitive and long winded. What she wrote in this long book could have been said in half the time. I found myself getting bored and actually skimming and skipping over pages and pages until I reconnected with a subject that was of interest to me. Just didn’t keep my interest.
It was a DNF for me. The whole thing felt like a humble brag. I tried to skip ahead to interesting chapters, and they were all in that same tone. Felt like a fake social media photo that was overall edited— the real Brooke wasn’t left.
The book is friendly and informative. Brooke is honest and personal yet she also makes solid points backed by statistics. For example, women 18-34 are primarily targeted but it is women over 40 with the most purchasing power. However we only get targeted ads for wrinkle creams and we aren’t “leading ladies” in film or tv yet we often are the main characters.
Her honesty about her own feelings/thoughts/experiences around aging is appreciated and relatable.
Note: I wouldn’t say I was a “fan” of Brooke Shields. I did know who she was, I vaguely remember her modeling ads from the 89-90s, a spat with Tom cruise?and I did watch the documentary about her (pretty baby?) a few years back. Point I’m trying to make is unlike nearly every other memoir from the last half decade, you don’t have to be a “fan” to like this memoir or get much out of it. Between the documentary and this book, I am more familiar with her and like her very much but still wouldn’t call myself a fan. I couldn’t even tell you what movies or shows she was in or who she modeled for 🤣
4.5 stars! Brooke is a powerhouse in the industry but her book comes off so down to earth and normal! She has the experience and clout to be showy and know it all but her book is so relatable! She talked about her daughter going to college and how the pain of that slaps you upside the head. She addresses agism and how seems like soon as your ovaries stop producing people want to put you on a shelf and go to the next younger thing. I like how she talks about how we aren’t done and we have so much more life and productivity!!
In her latest book, Brooke Shields offers her genuine perspective on mature womanhood, aging, and how society views women in these changing times. I appreciated how Brooke draws from her own life experiences to strengthen the narrative that women are treated differently as they age. She shares her first-hand experiences as she navigates this new phase of her life, providing relatable insights for many readers. This book is written with an authentic voice as she examines what happens when women begin to pave their own path in the second half of their lives.
I enjoyed the parts of the book where Brooke reflects on her career—examining the choices she made and those made for her—ultimately finding her own power. Many women at a certain age will find this particularly relatable. I found her exploration of the healthcare system especially engaging. Frequently, medical professionals dictate how we should feel about our bodies, and when we question this, it is often dismissed as us being challenging.
Several aspects of Brooke’s story truly hit home with me. As we age, we may gain confidence, but she is right to point out that there is also a newfound freedom from worrying about others' opinions when expressing our own. This is not a new issue. A confident older woman should not be seen as a threat, yet society often views her that way.
I would recommend this book to many of my friends over forty and suggest listening to the audio production. Brooke does a fantastic job with her narration, and her passion for various women’s health and wellness issues shines through. Thank you to NetGalley and Macmillan Audio for allowing me to listen to this book in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own and are based on my personal experiences and background.
Brooke Shields and I are almost the same age and going through a lot of similar female issues as we age. What she has to say about menopause, being an empty nester, and the female sex drive as we get older certainly resonates with me. I grew up with Brooke Shields and of course, had Calvins. She starred in 'Endless Love' with a friend of mine and I was a big fan of hers, I loved 'Suddenly Susan' and her comedic side. She narrates her story well, I enjoyed listening to it, and wish her the best in all her endeavors. Jan 2025 Pub Date. 3 stars.
Before this book, I knew three things about Brooke Shields: 1. She went to Princeton (which I would never forget) 2. She was married to Andre Agassi (which I had forgotten) 3. One time my sister thought she saw Brooke eating lunch in NYC (it was not Brooke)
Some additional things I have now learned: 1. She had to go through 7 rounds of IVF to have her children in her late 30s 2. She is a strong advocate for women’s health, especially sexual & reproductive health (due to very bad experiences, e.g., rape and some terrible male surgeons) 3. She is best friends with the gal who made the Taylor Swift documentary
Absolutely fabulous novel narrated by Brooke. Acting, marriage, parenting, growing older and learning to trust yourself are all explored. As a parent I could identify as a mother of two. Thank you Brooke for sharing more about your life. I love how refreshing and down to earth you are.
2.5 stars Listened on audiobook. Some parts were interesting, some were TMI and some were just plain boring. I almost quit listening a few times. Brooke narrates the audio version and does a good job other than the need to drop the F bomb A LOT. It was annoying. I can’t say I recommend this book.
Un día abrí Instagram (la peor app del mundo) y vi que Brooke promocionaba este libro. Como todo lo que saca esta mujer tengo que interiorizarlo, me aventuré a leerlo. Es un libro sobre envejecer como mujer, algo que me preocupa porque, entre tú y yo, a mí me da un miedo atroz la vejez. Y por vejez me refiero a tener 40 años… supongo que es la mentalidad con la que nos ha tocado vivir a las jóvenes de ahora. Pero basta de hablar de mí (aunque sé que es a lo que venís). El libro me ha gustado mucho porque creo que da un halo de esperanza a todas las mujeres que lo leen. Al menos, a mí me lo ha dado. No solo trata el tema de la edad, también habla de otros como la depresión posparto (que ella vivió y la polémica que hubo cuando el subnormal profundo de Tom Cruise dijo que eso no existía, etc., pero ya sabéis que de este señor mejor no me extiendo), problemas de autoestima, infravaloración, conciliación… Todo esto apoyado en estudios y encuestas. Como veis, temas súper divertidos, pero que como mujeres que somos, nos afectan. Sé que leyéndome no os van a dar ganas de leerlo, pero os lo recomiendo. Aunque no lo he encontrado en español y está solo en inglés. Yo soy muy marujona y toda la vida me he rodeado de mujeres mayores (todas amigas de mi tía, que siempre me lleva con ella a sus cosas), y me gusta mucho escucharlas y aprender de ellas. Así que este libro ha sido como una charla con una amiga de mi tía que me cae muy bien. Porque la vida no sé acaba a partir de los 40 ni de los 50 o al menos eso dicen.
Si no sabéis quién es Brooke Shields, no sé en qué cueva vivís, pero espero que veáis su documental “Pretty Baby” y entendáis lo horrible que es el mundo en el que vivimos. No hace falta ni leer el libro para saber que las mujeres nos enfrentamos a un problema de edadismo. Basta con ir a su Instagram y leer los comentarios de cualquier post: “Qué vieja que estás”, “Vaya cejas para lo vieja que eres, estás feísima”, “Deja de posar así que ya no eres joven”… Y todo esto dicho por señoras más viejas que un loro. Yo creo que tiene razones de sobra para hablar y escribir libros. Aunque yo, sinceramente, brotaría y soltaría tantos improperios que acabaría en Guantánamo con pena de muerte. Supongo que ser guapa es una condena tanto de joven como de anciana. Os informaré al respecto dentro de 30 años, cuando se me caiga la cara, si es que no me ha llegado la economía para un lifting. A mis niñAs que me leéis: que sepáis que sois las más guapas, las más bellas, las más inteligentes y las más divertidas. Y que os quiero. Otra reseña enorme que os tragáis. Os amo!!
*IMPORTANTE: NO es un libro de autoayuda. En esta cuenta estamos en contra de este “género” literario.