How To NOT Be An Idiot When You Get Divorced

by Jaeson D. Rau

For those even thinking about divorce, this book is a must read. In it's short and direct presentation, Jaeson has given us the ability to optimize an outcome that is beneficial to EVERYONE. Dr. Brent C. Bluekens ?Straight talk from the heart of someone who has been there. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is going through divorce and struggling to find the clarity and balance they so desperately need for the well being of the ones who suffer the most.........The Children?. Betty J. Lynn-Benson BGS Former Restoritive Justice Practicioner And Civil Claims Mediator "I felt Illuminated and Empowered as I read and pondered on the vast effects of divorce. I know that the information Jaeson shares, if applied, will yield a depth of positive impact our society has not previously known. Thank you Jaeson for this ?Work Of Heart? and your sincere desire to help make the journey of divorce a better one." Daryn Hubbard Coach, Developer, Explorer, Facilitator, and Innovator

Genres: Self Help, Humor, Adult, Nonfiction, Psychology, Guidebook, New Adult

50 pages, Paperback

First published June 26, 2014

Reviews

[Only the Best Books · Rating 4 out of 5]

How To Not Be An Idiot When You Get Divorced is kind of like a handbook or manual of compiled observations by Jaeson D Rau, written in a very informal, chatty way. It’s an easy read and makes a lot of sense.

Rau writes from the point of view that divorce has negatively affected his whole life, from childhood to the current day. He believes divorce has a negative impact on just about everyone and he wants to do something to change that. He is the founder of a group for divorced and separated men called Fathers Aware, which he set up after feeling helpless about how his own divorce was affecting his children.

This is a very children oriented book, to the extent that maybe Rau should have considered including a reference to that in the title. However, what he says still definitely has relevance for divorces not involving families with children.

[Minion Reviews · Rating 5 out of 5]

Rau does a great job of providing guidance on a topic that gives a lot of people anxiety. Relationship blind spots happen in the bad times as well as the good, and Rau highlights the things we fail to focus on when we are in the emotional distress of divorce (or really losing any significant relationship). This isn't a long book, but it is certainly worth the read if you're considering or had a recent divorce or complicated break up. The impact it can have, as well as steps to move forward, are outline succinctly and give the reader the right tools to make sound decisions.

The read itself is fun, smart, honest, and a bit of a reality check on society and how we've progressed so far but have fallen behind on what matters (ourselves). I've already recommended this book to a couple of friends who are going through tough times in their relationships.

[CGY Reviews · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this to be a great little book that kept my interest throughout. Jaeson D. Rau has essentially put together a compendium of advice here. I have never gone through divorce myself but I am a godparent to children whose parents divorced and I saw a lot of what happened during that divorce reflected in Jaeson D. Rau’s words. He is sufficiently savvy to be specific too. He writes about parenting plans, detailing everyday things including the child(ren)’s diet and punishment for wrongdoing. His approach and attitude is that of parental consistency, communication and cooperation, albeit in the face of the difficulties that divorce raise. Jaeson D. Rau is not preachy or overly flippant and evidently takes the gravity of divorce and its impact as seriously as the topic merits, but manages to achieve this in a down to earth manner that really ‘speaks’ to readers.

[Page After Page · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a step-by-step guide for people (maybe erring on the side of men) navigating their way through divorce. The author doesn’t consider himself an authority however, and acknowledges that he may be wrong. He simply wants people to avoid common major pitfalls and says everything as he sees it. He suggests 10 things to avoid what he describes as idiocy within divorce proceedings and promote a generally improved world for everyone involved. He wears his research and influences on his sleeve by starting each of his 10 chapters with a quote. The book is concise, with to-the-point chapters without any superfluous waffle or preaching. In my opinion, maybe more books could be as simple, matter-of-fact and unpretentious!

[Chapter And Hearse · Rating 4 out of 5]

Jaeson D Rau believes that divorce is damaging for all concerned and I have great respect for him for trying to counteract this by writing about it. He is not simply complaining about divorce as many people do, but doing something to address the status quo and offering what he feels are useful things to think about. He is not setting himself up as a guru or speaker of universal truths, just sharing his take on the situation. He is a great believer in the process of mediation in place of deferring to a lawyer, along with the intrinsic calm, peacefulness and respect that this engenders at a time so commonly filled with antagonism. He has written an easily digestible book, full of what appears to be genuine insight that many people could learn from.

[Reading Right · Rating 4 out of 5]

Rau writes in such a way that is simple and attractive. He doesn't bog down his advice with an overflow of statistics because he writes from his own experience. The brevity of the book just makes it that much easier to pick up again and flip to the supportive lines you need for the day. Overall, a good How To.

[Jaeson Rau · Rating 5 out of 5]

Again, I am biased because I wrote this book. It is short and easy to read. It breaks divorce down and shows there is a better way.

If you have children and are going through divorce, this book is exactly what you need to read.

[Valery · Rating 4 out of 5]

Jaeson D. Rau writes a very personal message in his book, How to NOT Be An Idiot When You Get Divorced. With clean and concise language, Rau has encapsulated in just a few short chapters how to behave like an adult during a difficult transitional time. In other words, he tells the reader not to be an idiot during these trying times. One of the first and most important components of the book is to take care of one's health. This sets the tone for the entire book, because without health, you have nothing. Rau also focuses on divorce's impact on children and describes how the children affected by divorce should really be the primary concern, over all else. This book about managing divorce is a short, easy read with concrete information on how to get through a divorce whether through mediation or the use of lawyers.