I found this book while browsing the nonfiction titles at the public library. Since I now work in a (Presbyterian, not Catholic) seminary library, it caught my attention. It was published by Ignatius Press, which makes it no surprise that it is,at heart,a book of Catholic apologetics. The hook for this book is that the author was raised by parents who are agnostic and atheist. She opens the book with an experience from her childhood when she went to a summer church camp with friends and was briefly ostracized for being the only girl who wasn't saved by the end of camp. Her search for spiritual answers really began in earnest in her 20s when she married and quickly became pregnant. Her husband, who considered himself a nonpracticing Christian, was also searching for answers. Both of them, through intense reading and interactions online from respondents to the author's blog, found their way to the Roman Catholic Church. Even if you end up at another doorstep and not at that of the Catholic church, I imagine most humans have wondered about and asked the same questions the Fulwilers did. That makes the book an interesting read.
Stepping back from the obvious apologetics function of the book, I thought it was interesting to see the social problems endemic to our culture which this young couple took for granted and didn't seem to question. Having so recently read "Cut Adrift: Families in Insecure Times" by Marianne Cooper, my mind snatched them up like little flashing warning lights. First is the student loan debt they carried from her husband's numerous degrees. Here is a super-smart, hard-working couple who are trying to start a new business but, being burdened by debt, must live with her mother. Next is their health care situation. Because they are opening a business on a shoestring, they opt for a plan without pregnancy coverage. I have to tell you, I was absolutely aghast at that one----as in, what were they thinking? The first child's birth was in a birthing center with a midwife, so was apparently more affordable. The second pregnancy, however, revealed a genetic blood disorder that predisposed the author to deep vein thrombosis and blood clots. This meant she had to see a high risk pregnancy specialist whose services would run $15,000 with $2,000 required up front. Mind you, that is only the doctor's fee and doesn't include hospital charges. You can see the next load of debt hovering over this couple. To top that off, she must give herself injections in her stomach of a drug that costs nearly $1,000 a month for the duration of the pregnancy. They have no prescription drug insurance. In the end, they abandon the idea of starting a business and her husband goes to work for a law firm which provides health insurance. Because they did indeed become Catholic, they have chosen to forgo artificial contraception, even though she must take a blood thinner that causes birth defects for six months after each birth and was warned against having more children since her health situation while pregnant is precarious. According to the book jacket , they now have six children. Her blog says she has been back in the hospital with a pulmonary embolism. They have made choices I probably wouldn't have made, but I don't fault them for their strong faith which allows them to follow a difficult path. What does stand out to me is the crummy job our society does in supporting a hard-working young couple who are willing to raise the next generation. Surely to goodness we can do better than this.