I was curious about a lot of the controversy surrounding this book. Considering the mythos that has developed around Laura Ingalls Wilder and her family, a book that paints Laura as a cold and manipulative mother and dethrones her as the true author of the Little House books is going to rankle feathers. Of course, this book is not about Laura, but about Rose. After reading it, while I feel I have a good grasp of the development of her political theory, I fail to have an appreciation for a woman who was supposedly a brilliant conversationalist and writer. So much of the first half of the book was devoted to Rose's existential crisis and writings from when she was in a deep depression that it's hard to like her or see what drew other people to her.
Part of this is that beyond living in impoverished circumstances as a child, I'm still clueless as to what Laura did to her that made her childhood so miserable. Rose obviously felt responsible for the calamities that befell their family while they were living in DeSmet, even believing that at the age of 3 she had started the fire that burned their house down, but whether or not Laura did anything to make her feel that way is not clear. A lot of the times children think things are their fault even when they aren't and without an adult doing anything to imply it was. And considering that memory is highly reconstructive and Rose was 3 and Laura who was the only adult present when the fire started and she left no record that Rose had started it, I have to wonder if Rose's memory is even accurate here. Further, considering that Holtz admits she later exaggerated or made up events in her adult life...
To be fair, Holtz pants a good picture of the hard times that had befallen the nation and the Wilders at around the time of Rose's birth, postulating that raising a child during the good times is hard enough but when you're broke, homeless, and have suffered the death of another child in infancy even more daunting. And it could have been the due to poverty and grief that the Wilders were not as emotionally available to Rose as she needed them to be. Still, to make claims that Laura was manipulative and cruel to Rose and Almanzo without painting a picture of how this looked seems like mud slinging. And he also seems to interpret Laura's actions in a negative light. For instance, when she wrote a letter to her publisher asking that Rose get 10% of her royalties he caulked it up to her guilty conscious rather than considering other possibilities, such as that finally feeling financially secure she wanted to help her daughter out. Holtz could be right of course, but this tendency to give everything the most negative spin possible doesn't help much.
In short, I didn't feel like I came out with a good understanding of what was obviously a very complex mother-daughter relationship. And it wasn't until he briefly mentioned that Almanzo had died that he said that theirs seemed to have been a warmer relationship. Still, there was no mention of how Rose reacted emotionally to his death.
Considering that the family dynamics were what I was most interested in, the book was rather disappointing. In a lot of ways this book felt uneven. Some chapters I was glued to and fully interested in, others I sloughed through. I got annoyed with the use of the same quote being used repeatedly to illustrate something. I also felt my lack of connection with the times she lived in, as he would allude to works of fiction written around this time to illustrate something about Rose, but as I'd never read that book I had no idea what to draw from it. The lack of context was frustrating in several instances. Other parts felt like a Who's Who of the times.
It was interesting to read about her relationship with her informally adopted children, especially Rexh Meta. And she did live a very interesting life, which made wallowing through page after page examining her existential crisis all the more tedious. I am glad to know she came to terms with her life towards the close of it.
Which brings me to my final qualm, how much of a hand Rose played in crafting the Little House books and her feelings about them. The evidence Holtz presents seems to indicate that Rose was happy that her edits reflected her staunch individualism and that succeeding generations of children would be exposed to her ideas, yet Holtz seemed to think that Rose was shafted by Laura in taking full credit for them without giving Rose her due. While it does seem that Rose found editing them burdensome, Rose seemed to find everything burdensome. She had problems with hypothyroidism and possibly was suffering from major depression or bipolar. I can't say I have a good feel for how much credit is owed to Rose for shaping the books successfully. I would have liked more context into the nature of the argument of the changes needed for "By the Shores of Silver Lake" for example. However, Rose seems to have been happy with the ideology she plugged in there.
On the one hand, this was frustrating because it gave me little of the info that I craved, but there were parts of the book I genuinely enjoyed and found fascinating.