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Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No: Making Life Right When It Feels All Wrong

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Yes, you can learn to say what you mean and mean  what you say. This best-selling guide has already  transformed thousands of lives--and can change  your as well. The authors' pioneering Assertiveness  Training Technique can help you gain recognition  and promotion on the job, renew your marriage, put  more zing in your sex life, deal with your  children more effectively, ...more
Paperback, 304 pages
Published October 15th 1975 by Dell
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May 18, 2011 rated it really liked it
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I don't know why I keep torturing myself with self-help books. I guess it's just a hobby of mine. ;) This one acutally had some useful information in it. As someone who goes from passive then straight to aggressive this book did give good advice on how to be assertive.
Oct 02, 2012 rated it really liked it
This book is timeless. In fact, everyone should read this because there are certain aspects in our lives that we are unassertive about. If people would only know how to properly express their feelings towards another - a loved-one, a friend, a boss - then this world would become a better place.
Mar 19, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Despite some weirdly dated material, especially about gay people, this book is overall a self-help classic that offers well-written, practical and useful ideas for increasing one's assertiveness.
John Kewish
Apr 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
One of the most important books I have ever read. Concise, well supported chapters guide the reader toward the vision of a more manageable future.
Shubham Agnihotri
Mar 17, 2017 rated it really liked it
"Don't say Yes when you want to say No" a book on Assertive Training. Seriously, I bought it for its title but this book has more than that No. When you start reading you may find it uninteresting because of subjects it talks about. It has some good ideas about 'reinforcers', 'assertion vs aggression', 'goal orientation' and lastly 'being assertive at job', these are common ideas and one might find it intriguing. I skipped one chapter that was centered on 'get thin' because I already don't like ...more
Mar 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Enjoyed much of the book but give it 5 stars because at the end there is a mediation exercise that I did at an event years ago that I have tried to remember that printed in the Appendix!
Feb 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A must to read.
Prabuddha Das
Apr 04, 2016 rated it really liked it
I say yes most often and also get troubled by it. I could not hold me to buy this seeing its title but somehow it could not meet the expectations set. I got lost after first two chapters and could not relate with the title. It was simply reading the cases. Some of the examples are brilliant. To my surprise I was able to find the insight I was looking at in the last few chapters.
Jan 06, 2013 marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
best book ever
Neeraj Gera
Nov 03, 2012 marked it as to-read
Everyone should read

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I don't know why I read this thing may be because I'm addicted to self-help books, but it really has some unique way to act what the title of the book says "Don't say yes when you want to say no ".If you've got some time or wanna eradicate this common problem that we face today, Give it a try... Happy Reading!!
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