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Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns & Encountering Naked Reality

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Have you ever had an itch and not scratched it? In the Buddhist tradition, this points to a vast paradox: that by refraining from our urge to scratch, great peace and happiness is available.

On Getting Unstuck, Pema Chodron introduces a rare Tibetan teaching she received from her teacher, Dzigar Kontrul Rinpoche, and one that has become critical to her practice. Here, she u
Audio CD, 3 pages
Published January 1st 2005 by Sounds True (first published November 30th 2004)
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Jan 30, 2010 rated it really liked it
This collection of talks by Pema Chodron are on the topic of "shenpa," an idea roughly translated as "hooks" or "attachment." When we get trapped in our head instead of being present, it's this shenpa we're experiencing. Shenpa is not the thoughts we have or the emotions we feel, but the sticky part that keeps us from getting back to the present moment. When we realize that something is hooking us, we can take an attitude of curiosity and joy at discovering the shenpa and get back to the present ...more
Jun 14, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: spiritual
Pema Chodron makes Tibetan Buddhism accessible to the western mind. I found this one particularly relevant and helpful. I find it fascinating that, while westerners, and Christianity in particular, emphasize our shortcomings and original sin, Buddhists emphasize the basic goodness, the soft spot in the human heart. Personally, I find this much more helpful.

In order to make a difference in the world, one must learn compassion. And the place to start is with compassion for one's self, and one's sh
Andrea Luquetta
Dec 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing
There is no escaping Pema Chondron's simple language. Her voice is beautiful, her tenor compassionate, but her call to mindfulness and staying present is unwavering and pure.
Erin Rouleau
Jul 18, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Pema is simply the best. She really knows the modern, Western mind and knows how to make it applicable. There's something so warm and humorous and wonderful about her voice. She knows how to bring some levity to the situation. I just love her.
Piat Orendain
May 24, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Short but sweet! This book helped me talk about addiction with a friend of mine that is currently trying to quit smoking. In trying to do some research to help my friend out, I also learned a great number of things about myself and how we as a people are addicted to so many things, critical thinking; sugar; beating ourselves up; and all sorts of other really insidious mental traps that spiritually bog us down. What we don't realize is that we allow ourselves to be ruled by these so-called person ...more
Her descriptions of our common nature and common suffering is beautiful. She inspires us to become more present and to stay with our habitual patterns to uncover and move forward on our path. I love her insights.
ياسمين خليفة
Feb 19, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Another must listen audio book from the great teacher Pema Chodron
Nov 05, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2013
With great compassion, humour, and accessibility, Pema Chödrön guides us through experiencing negative emotions, identifying 'hooks' or 'shenpa' - that very first moment when you feel hurt or threatened, that sharp intake of breath and momentary blindness - and working with shenpa to understand it and strip it of its reactive and instinctive power. Since listening to this audiobook I often smile to myself when I notice my own moments of shenpa and remember her phrase, 'shenpa attack.' If nothing ...more
Steve Woods
Jun 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: buddhism, meditation
As we find our way along the path and the Dharma gradually becomes a part of our living we all need the wisdom of those who have gone before us. This is one of those experiences that addresses the issue of getting caught up in our practice. Essentially it is and must remain a fluid thing that flows over and through us in a kind of stream, the constant intrusion of self however can set up a battleground that becomes self reinforcing. This is a discussion about the nature of our journey through th ...more
Sonja Reid
Sep 23, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: buddhist-topics
I love Pema Chodron's writings, and so was excited to see that I could get an audio book of hers from the library. She's a great speaker - in fact, many of her books are transcribed talks. As with all of her writings, she explains aspects of meditation practice drawn from her experience as a Tibetan Buddhist nun. Getting Unstuck explores "not itching the scratch", and just sitting with what that feels like. Her point is that we run away from discomfort, be it emotional or physical, and that we r ...more
Apr 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I love listening to her on my commute to and from work. So refreshing, enlightening, and funny!
May 04, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: introtobuddhism
Very down to earth and funny teachings on being engaged in the difficult times.
Jan 17, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: buddhism
Wonderfully down to earth talks on using the dharma as a kind and loving way to work on the ways we sabotage our own lives.
Feb 19, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audiobooks
This book really helps to clarify the why!
Jan 20, 2008 rated it really liked it
Listening to this book - actually a collection of lectures. She's a good speaker - she can be light and funny while talking about pain. She's honest about her own faults, which is encouraging.
Brad McKenna
May 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: buddhism, audiobooks
I ask again, is it possible to give 6 stars?

In this recording, Ms. Chodron dives deep into a specific Buddhist idea: Shenpa. With her usual wit, she says that traditionally, Shenpa is something that's ineffable and then mocks her attempt to explain in words something that can't be explained in words. Shenpa, roughly, is the idea that you get stuck (hence the title). It has also been translated as "ego-clinging".

So this entire recording is Ms. Chodron giving examples of when we run into Shenpa.
May 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
My second Pema Chodron book, also an audio version so I get to hear her presentations to a workshop, hear her take and respond in an impromptu manner to questions, hear the audience reaction, and so on. Since this is something being taught to the reader, I really appreciate the availability of her workshops on tape. Following on the heals of the Compassion book, this takes a different angle and really helps us see the benefit of looking to see where we get stuck. I wonder if there is someone who ...more
Mar 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2017
While this isn't really a book, it resonated profoundly with me. Mindfullness is all the rage as part of treatment for depression and anxiety and this series of lectures, in its own way, really helped me better understand some psychological principals and how they mesh with some eastern philosophy principals. The bottom line of what i took from this is that we all have triggers, learning to recognize them and perhaps some days see them without reacting (super tough as that's why they are trigger ...more
Jul 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
SHINGPA! It was a cool little listen, this lady talked about this thing called shingpa which loosely translates into attachments. But then she goes on to explain that meditiation just makes uou more aware of the shinpas (attachments to feelings almost) and helps you not distance yourself from them , but not be controlled by them either. It helps you become aware of them and that they are there. It was a good way to think about meditation and feelings.
Jennilyn (Thiboult) Nevins
Pema on "shenpa", or the urge, the hook, that triggers our habitual tendency to close down. We get hooked in that moment of tightening when we reach for relief. To get unhooked, we begin by recognizing that moment of unease and learn to relax in that moment.
Jun 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Loved this and needed to read this. T
Eliot Burdett
Jul 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Tips on observing oneself from someone who is wise, down to earth and, at times, laugh out loud funny.
Sep 20, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-2017
I listened to the audio version of this. I love Pema's way of speaking and teaching. I always find something helpful and enlightening in her teachings.
Diana S
Aug 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
I like a lot of her philosophies and perspective alterations to guide oneself to healthier states of being.
Feb 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Pema continues to capture me with her warmth, humor, and candor. In this set of talks she introduces us to the concept of "shenpa" aka getting hooked. It's not hard to recognize how we get hooked, but it is hard to know what to do about it. Pema offers tools we can use to deal with our shenpa. I wholeheartedly recommend this set.
Lisa Butterworth
Feb 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This felt full of awakening. I really really connected to that rising up of "stuck" "attachment" "hooked" and the awareness, compassion, and mindfulness needed to awaken from the dream every single day. it was just the thing I needed to read today.
Jan 18, 2012 rated it really liked it
I seem to be working my way through my local library's Pema Chodron holdings. This one deals with the Tibetan Buddhist concept of "shenpa," Difficult to describe, shenpa is the surge of energy that hooks us and can keep us stuck in habitual negative patterns. "Staying" with the feeling and ridding ourselves of our storylines, both in traditional meditation and in our everyday living (easier said than done, of course) is the main teaching. I find that I can pick these books up (or in this case, C ...more
Diana Shaffner
Jun 11, 2013 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Anyone
Shelves: personal-growth
Who does not love Pema? In her compassionate voice she teaches us about "Shenpa". She explains how our giving in to urges empowers the urge and makes it stronger. Our giving in to the urge creates a new habit which becomes stronger yet again and finally becomes an addiction. This can be the point where we may feel stuck. Getting unstuck challenges us to review how we react to things we encounter. Its a timeless message but maybe more relevant today than ever. How easy it is to become addicted to ...more
Jun 16, 2016 rated it really liked it
When I was in my late teens or early-20's, I couldn't seem to make it through any of Pema Chodron's books.

Now, though, I find myself really enjoying her talks and writing.

This main focus of this book is about Shenpa and using things like the four R's (Recognition, Refrain, Relaxing, and Resolve) to work with it.

The only reason for the four-stars rather than five is I had difficulty at times relating to some of the discussions, since they were about things I haven't directly experienced (drug/alc
Oct 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
This is an audiobook of several different talks by Pema Chodron. Because meditation is discussed a lot, this might not appeal to people who have never meditated or have no knowledge of what's involved. Even so, she speaks eloquently on the way we get ourselves stuck in certain emotional states, addictions, or in loops with other people or in our heads. She presents concepts and techniques in an accessible, down-to-earth, engaging way. This audiobook was only about 3.5 hours, but it took me a whi ...more
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