Brad Cunningham is a brilliant man. Not only was he a natural athlete, and he had been a football player in high school, he was so brilliant the world of finance and banking continually offered him the kind of work which earned him high salaries despite the fact he was always moving around. Handsome, charismatic, a high-end shopper of cars and houses - the man never had to ask a woman twice for a date - or to marry him. He was a real catch. So when he pushed his way into women's lives, they wanted it. No matter if they never met his mother and father before marriage. No matter if he never introduced them to his hometown past. Who cared if they only knew him a few months? What did it signify if he was in another relationship, with children, and yet he was now making another baby with another woman, hopeful for his love - and marriage?
This is a fantastic true crime story to read, and it is also one of Ann Rule's best researched. However, as far as the story itself, there are circumstances here which make this a tainted victim story for me. Cunningham was a deceiver who was difficult to arrest, partially because he never gave up struggling against his incarceration for murdering his wife. He knew the law and used it to avoid justice. The police had him high on their suspect list because no one else had motive, and his alibi was poor. The murdered woman left a note indicating she believed he might try to harm her and she was meeting him alone to get her kids from a required visitation. He was maybe the last person to be with her before she was killed. This is not a who-done-it. Everyone thought the husband killed her. Instead, this is a how the system doesn't work, and how people help killers have their fun.
He moved around a lot, he lied about and hid his past from people, he had a great job and money, a good college education and a well-spoken demeanor which gave him power and authority. Nice cars, a big house, expensive clothes and an important title at a bank was more than enough to convince five beautiful women, some of whom won beauty contests, others who were doctors and professionals themselves, as well as some who were strippers and high school drop outs, to want to marry him. Most of these women quickly became pregnant shortly after they began their relationship with him, even doing so when they knew he was married or supporting another family. Even after his sadism surfaced, even when it became clear he wanted a wife only to demean her and take all of her assets, even when he was only nice in front of people until the papers for divorce were filed (at that point, he did everything he could to get them fired from their jobs, including passing out nude pictures and revealing/telling embarrassing stories about the women), the ladies protected him because of their children, and lingering hopes of love. Maybe they had no idea he was capable of murder, but they each certainly knew they had made a mistake to become involved with him after awhile. Yet, some of them had a baby or two more with him after they knew he was mean and narcissistic. Each continued to listen to his self-serving advice, sign over even more of their assets, and generally forgive him and excuse him his cruelties again and again.
Ann Rule generally does a great job of explaining the circumstances around a murder. She doesn't embellish or include gratuitous violence. She uses court documents, police reports and interviews everyone connected to the people involved. She travels to hometowns, and places of birth, talking to school teachers and neighbors. She researches newspaper stories and city hall records. She is a trained journalist and a great writer. I think she writes the best true crime books.
I've noticed several things about the stories of the people she selects to profile: people continue to love and support the killers even after they know the killer is a bad person. They might not believe that the killer killed, or that the thief stole anything, but they continue to support and help the suspects despite their awareness or knowledge of other bad behaviors.
Some people are too stupid to live. They may have fantastic skills and be fantastically lovable, but they are too dumb to live long without offering a predator openings to take advantage. Predators sometimes attack even if you do everything right to protect yourself; they are certain to take you for everything you got if you engage in idiotically naive or self-sacrificing behaviors.
The things people excuse and ignore: suspects who, while married or in a relationship with babies, makes more babies with someone else; suspects who keep getting in legal trouble again and again; suspects who beat up or terrorize other people; suspects who borrow money/cars/houses/objects and destroy/sell/lose/never return the borrowed items; suspects who show patterns of irresponsibility/self-destruction/sadism; secret or odd acquisitions or losses financially; and last but not least, peculiar rigidity/strictness in morality, cleanliness, dress, and/or punishment.
If you are lonely and are desperate for a love interest, read my opinion below first and PLEASE think:
People are naturally predators! Really! Love dampens down after about two years. Kids each cost at minimum about $15,000 a year to support in food, diapers, doctors, clothes, beds, car seats, toys, medicines, etc., if you REALLY want to give your children a good life. The daily stresses of jobs, kids, finances make even the most adoring couple temporarily hate each other, and sometimes those occasions of mutual hate stretch out longer and longer. During those times, people will do things to spite or hurt each other, and maybe it will be something that can't be fixed. Relationships are rarely fair over periods of time. One might discover they always do the toilets and diapers, the other may feel most of their money is going to the house and kids with nothing left over for themselves. Lack of justice and fairness is built into many relationships, and over time, may destroy the relationship, even if both of you mean well and are decent people.
Love isn't enough, and if one of you only may have money it doesn't mean that person will want to share year after year, going without what they want in order to support you for the rest of your lives together. If one of you has or makes all of the money, the other one will eventually have less power and authority over decisions. Sometimes that means a lot of hostility and regret builds up despite whatever affection between the two of you. LOVE ISNT ENOUGH! Beauty isn't enough, either. Everyone becomes plainer or uglier, even in just the passing of ten years, from when they were at the height of their personal beauty. And everyone changes over time, EVERYONE.
Before you quote a lot of 'truisms' at me about love and beauty, not only have I been married almost 40 years, I've seen a lot of relationships around me. Marriage is a contracted legal state, with legal financial consequences. It works best when there is mutual respect and mutual decision-making. It is, overall, at best, a working partnership between equals. If the marriage is functioning in any other way, it is not a good marriage. It almost never works if one is doing all of the work and the other one is doing all of decision-making. However, even though I think equal partnership is best, I have seen marriages work despite if one partner chooses to become a silly useless adult child, and if they think about things at all, hopes the other is taking care of everything important. While the one 'partner' functions as a giddy socialite, the other partner is doing all of the important business, and usually ends up using and/or hiding most of the assets, taking advantage of the other's intentional stupidity and blindness, while both profess deep and abiding love for each other. It definitely can work - until the one partner who is doing everything and has all of the money wants another younger, child adult partner.
Rule number one: finish high school - learn how to read and write and do math really well.
Rule number two: work on yourself and prepare yourself to be a functioning stand-alone adult. If you couldn't finish high school, go to community college and get your GED, no matter what. If you discover you like it, get an Associates or even a Bachelor's. No matter what. Some jobs will sponsor further education. Grow your brain and your personal resources. Keep a pot of money for emergencies that only YOU access. Take care of yourself. YOU are your own best friend and lover! Men definitely know this instinctually.
Rule number three: when socializing, buy your own drinks, get them yourself, and only drink one. If someone gets you one, nurse it, go the bathroom and dump it. Hint: learn what the water-colored drinks are and order that if someone is getting a drink for you until you have met the parents of who you are with. If you want to get drunk, do it safely in your home, by yourself. Being drunk with people only means you are too stupid to live.
Rule number four: if someone looks really nice and sexy, is very flattering and seems to adore you, and has a great car or clothes or house, and tells you 'everything' about themselves - CHECK OUT THEIR FAMiLY before you accept what you are hearing and seeing about this person. Take the time to see them over many many months, if not years. Always use condoms. Always tell someone or make a note of it somewhere where you going and who you are with. DO NOT ACCEPT WHAT PEOPLE TELL YOU AS PURE TRUTH, without visiting their family at some point. The best thing is to date for a couple of YEARS, not a couple of months, before trusting someone with baby-making and money. You want to see how they act, and act out, in many different situations. You can't trust your feelings, but you can trust facts.
Rule number five: Ask yourself if you can give a baby a good life with your available resources by yourself FIRST. Forcing a baby into a relationship without a mutual decision is a predatory action, mostly done by females, but men do it, too. (Predatory behaviors may seem to be primarily a masculine trait, but remember predation is also part of many female strategies.) However, being predatory doesn't mean the trait puts you at the top of the food chain or make of you a person of wise choices. Mostly, it causes you to think with body parts that have nothing to do with the ones for reasoning.
(Many of Rule's books mention this seemingly attractive predatory strategy often: making a baby without consulting the partner. It's plain stupid. It's not a ticket for love and a fun family life. It's a weapon to enslave you by the partner who doesn't care as much as you do about the baby at worst, or a source of resentment, rage and distrust at best. A baby conceived for the purposes of putting pressure on the partner for marriage or making the relationship stronger NEVER works in the long run.)
Rule number six: read Ann Rule true crime stories.