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Success as an Introvert for Dummies
Thrive as an introvert in an extrovert world Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and author J.K. Rowling have more in common than being highly successful. They're also introverts. Success as an Introvert For Dummies identifies common misunderstandings about introverts and highlights the strengths often found in people associated with this worldview. Success as an Introvert For Dummies examines the traits common to introverts and the benefits they bring to both work and life. You'll learn: how to boost your confidence while learning strategies for successfully living in an extrovert world; how to understand introversion and where you fall on the introvert/extrovert continuum; tools to improve relationships with colleagues, partners, friends, and children; ways to talk less, communicate more, and showcase your abilities at work; how to deal effectively with parties, interruptions, and crowds; and much more. * Offers examples of how introverts can thrive in a world dominated by extroverts * Outlines the positive aspects of introverted personality types * Provides actionable ways to promote introverted qualities in work and life Success as an Introvert For Dummies is for anyone looking to understand the introvert's worldview and how they fit into a society dominated by extroverts.
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First published January 1, 2013
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April 26, 2019
موفقیت درونگراها به زبان آدمیزاد
اولین چیزی که بعد از خواندن یا حتی حین خواندن کتاب به ذهن میرسد این است که این کتاب تنها مختص درونگراها نیست و در آن تنها به مسائل مربوط به درونگرایی برونگرایی نمیپردازد.
کتاب تنها بخش کمی از حجم به نسبت زیاد خود را به مسئله درونگرایی پرداخته و الباقی کتاب روش های موفقیت در کار و زنگی است. که این قسمت هم مورد استفاده درونگراها و هم برونگراها است.
من این موضوع را با این کتاب شروع کردم چون کتابفروش کتاب خانم سوزان کین را نداشت (سکوت قدرت درونگراها). برای شروع کتاب خوبی بود و از وقتی که گذاشتم راضی هستم. امیدوارم فرصتی دست بده تا کتاب خانم کین رو هم بخونم.
این کتاب مانند الباقی کتاب های سری دامییز نیاز به سیر اول تا آخری ندارد و از هر جا که بیشتر مورد نیاز انسان باشد می توان رجوع و شروع کرد. حتی از فصولی که مورد نیاز نیست چشم پوشی کرد.
ترجمه هم خیلی خوب بود.
----موارد زیر را برای خود می نویسم جهت یادآوری در آینده ----
مانند الباقی کتاب های خودیاری نیاز به دوره مجدد دارد.
- زندگی شخصی. بخش سوم مهمترین بخش
حل گفتگوی درونی منفی
افزایش اعتماد به نفس
تجسم خلاق تجسم موفقیت
بازگو کردن حرف مخاطب به خودش با کمی تغییر در شرایط انتقاد و عصبانیت مخاطب
- ارائه مناسب فصل هفت
- مدیریت بالادست ارتباط با رییس فصل هشت
- تعیین هدف گذاری شغلی فصل نه
اولین چیزی که بعد از خواندن یا حتی حین خواندن کتاب به ذهن میرسد این است که این کتاب تنها مختص درونگراها نیست و در آن تنها به مسائل مربوط به درونگرایی برونگرایی نمیپردازد.
کتاب تنها بخش کمی از حجم به نسبت زیاد خود را به مسئله درونگرایی پرداخته و الباقی کتاب روش های موفقیت در کار و زنگی است. که این قسمت هم مورد استفاده درونگراها و هم برونگراها است.
من این موضوع را با این کتاب شروع کردم چون کتابفروش کتاب خانم سوزان کین را نداشت (سکوت قدرت درونگراها). برای شروع کتاب خوبی بود و از وقتی که گذاشتم راضی هستم. امیدوارم فرصتی دست بده تا کتاب خانم کین رو هم بخونم.
این کتاب مانند الباقی کتاب های سری دامییز نیاز به سیر اول تا آخری ندارد و از هر جا که بیشتر مورد نیاز انسان باشد می توان رجوع و شروع کرد. حتی از فصولی که مورد نیاز نیست چشم پوشی کرد.
ترجمه هم خیلی خوب بود.
----موارد زیر را برای خود می نویسم جهت یادآوری در آینده ----
مانند الباقی کتاب های خودیاری نیاز به دوره مجدد دارد.
- زندگی شخصی. بخش سوم مهمترین بخش
حل گفتگوی درونی منفی
" گفت و گوی درونی منفی نمیگذارد به شکوفایی کامل برسید. نمیگذارد دوست پیدا کنید (من خیلی کسل کننده ام. کی دلش میخواد با من بپره). نمیگذارد از نردبان شغلی بالا بروید (من برای شغل های مدیریتی به اندازه کافی خوب نیستم). وحتی نمیگذارد به عشق دلخواهتان برسید (اون باحالتر از اونیه که بخواد با کسی مثل من باشه)"
افزایش اعتماد به نفس
تجسم خلاق تجسم موفقیت
بازگو کردن حرف مخاطب به خودش با کمی تغییر در شرایط انتقاد و عصبانیت مخاطب
- ارائه مناسب فصل هفت
- مدیریت بالادست ارتباط با رییس فصل هشت
- تعیین هدف گذاری شغلی فصل نه
December 28, 2020
[Selten so dankbar für das zweite "für" gewesen^^]
Dieses hilfreiche Buch hat mir meine Mutter zu Weihnachten geschenkt - und wir lieben hier die Dummies-Reihe, die humorvoll alltägliche Probleme löst.
Eine Übersicht über den Inhalt:
1. Unterschiede Intro- / Extrovertierte
2. Tests: Introvertiert vs. Sensibel vs. Schüchtern (!)
3. Wie wird man ein Introvert
4. Im Arbeitsleben glänzen (!)
5. Sich als Führungskraft profilieren
6. Als Teamleitung führen
7. Reden halten (!)
8. Von unten führen
9. Vorstellungsgespräche meistern (!)
10. Als Unternehmer erfolgreich sein (!)
11. Freunde gewinnen
12. Introvertierte Liebe (!)
13. Feste gelassen feiern
14. Für Extros: Intros ein guter Freund sein
15. Introvertierte Kinder erziehen
16. 10 berühmte Introverts
17. 10 Tipps für Networking (!)
18. Für Extros: 10 Dinge, die Introverts nicht hören wollen
Ich kenne mich ja schon seit 30 Jahren und habe dank dem Internet recht schnell den Begriff "introvertiert" entdeckt und mich damit identifizieren können. Daher beschäftige ich mich seit einiger Zeit damit, wie wir uns das Leben in einer extrovertierten Welt vereinfachen können (siehe unbedingt Susan Cains Meilenstein "Quiet"!). Daher waren einige Kapitel von geringerem Interesse, besonders, da ich das unfassbare Glück habe, einen verrückten introvertierten Freundeskreis und einen introvertierten Ehemann zu haben, die mich völlig verstehen, wenn ich mal nicht auf eine Party will oder mal einen Tag den Fernseher auslassen und meine Ruhe brauche. Ich habe oben mal alle Kapitel markiert, die für mich dennoch hilfreich waren und so betrachtet kam doch einiges zusammen:
Insbesondere das Kapitel über Bewerbungsgespräche ist gerade wieder aktuell... auch in dem Kapitel über das Unternehmer-Sein konnte ich Tipps für mich herausziehen, da ich letztes Jahr mein eigenes Lektorat (freiberuflich) gegründet habe. Selbst in dem Kapitel über introvertierte Liebe habe ich was notiert, denn ich bin furchtbar schlecht im Streiten und renne immer davor weg bzw. schalte völlig ab.
Für Menschen, die sich gerade erst mit Introversion beschäftigen und sich noch nicht gut auskennen, deren Kind / Freund / Ehepartner introvertiert ist und sie nichts damit anzufangen wissen, oder für Introverts, die im Berufsleben aufsteigen wollen, hält Frau Pastor jedoch einige gute Ratschläge bereit.
Dieses hilfreiche Buch hat mir meine Mutter zu Weihnachten geschenkt - und wir lieben hier die Dummies-Reihe, die humorvoll alltägliche Probleme löst.
Eine Übersicht über den Inhalt:
1. Unterschiede Intro- / Extrovertierte
2. Tests: Introvertiert vs. Sensibel vs. Schüchtern (!)
3. Wie wird man ein Introvert
4. Im Arbeitsleben glänzen (!)
5. Sich als Führungskraft profilieren
6. Als Teamleitung führen
7. Reden halten (!)
8. Von unten führen
9. Vorstellungsgespräche meistern (!)
10. Als Unternehmer erfolgreich sein (!)
11. Freunde gewinnen
12. Introvertierte Liebe (!)
13. Feste gelassen feiern
14. Für Extros: Intros ein guter Freund sein
15. Introvertierte Kinder erziehen
16. 10 berühmte Introverts
17. 10 Tipps für Networking (!)
18. Für Extros: 10 Dinge, die Introverts nicht hören wollen
Ich kenne mich ja schon seit 30 Jahren und habe dank dem Internet recht schnell den Begriff "introvertiert" entdeckt und mich damit identifizieren können. Daher beschäftige ich mich seit einiger Zeit damit, wie wir uns das Leben in einer extrovertierten Welt vereinfachen können (siehe unbedingt Susan Cains Meilenstein "Quiet"!). Daher waren einige Kapitel von geringerem Interesse, besonders, da ich das unfassbare Glück habe, einen verrückten introvertierten Freundeskreis und einen introvertierten Ehemann zu haben, die mich völlig verstehen, wenn ich mal nicht auf eine Party will oder mal einen Tag den Fernseher auslassen und meine Ruhe brauche. Ich habe oben mal alle Kapitel markiert, die für mich dennoch hilfreich waren und so betrachtet kam doch einiges zusammen:
Insbesondere das Kapitel über Bewerbungsgespräche ist gerade wieder aktuell... auch in dem Kapitel über das Unternehmer-Sein konnte ich Tipps für mich herausziehen, da ich letztes Jahr mein eigenes Lektorat (freiberuflich) gegründet habe. Selbst in dem Kapitel über introvertierte Liebe habe ich was notiert, denn ich bin furchtbar schlecht im Streiten und renne immer davor weg bzw. schalte völlig ab.
Für Menschen, die sich gerade erst mit Introversion beschäftigen und sich noch nicht gut auskennen, deren Kind / Freund / Ehepartner introvertiert ist und sie nichts damit anzufangen wissen, oder für Introverts, die im Berufsleben aufsteigen wollen, hält Frau Pastor jedoch einige gute Ratschläge bereit.
November 23, 2018
I’m loving this book already! Introvert is so me!
November 26, 2019
If you prefer to live inwardly but have to go out in the world then this book has some good information and advice to manage without allowing the world to swallow you alive.
February 12, 2014
** The insider’s guide to introversion **
Innie or outie?
No, we’re not talking navels here, but about introverts and extroverts. And, as an introvert herself, author Joan Pastor knows certainly knows what she’s talking about!
Her book _Success as an Introvert_ successfully opens up the often misunderstood internal world of the introvert. If you’re an introvert, you’ll likely feel understood...and if you’re an extrovert, you’ll likely understand more.
Think of this book as the insider’s guide to introversion. In the words of the author:
“From cocktail parties to crowded cubicle farms, the universe seems to be designed for social butterflies. But behind the scenes, a “quiet power” revolution is going on. Introverts are coming into their own, both personally and professionally—and in the process, they’re starting to remake the world so it works for them…In these pages, you discover why introverts are so wonderful and why the world couldn’t get along without them. Better yet, I show you how to use your introverted strengths to reach your full potential. And I also tell you how to redesign your professional and personal environments so they empower you to be happy, healthy, and successful...I’ve written this book to empower both innies (introverts) and the outies (extroverts) who support them. Whether you’re an innie or an outie, I hope you’ll feel welcomed and respected as your read these pages.” (p. 1)
Not sure if you’re an introvert? Then consider this list from the beginning of the book (pp. 8-9)
• You generally think before you talk, while outies tend to say whatever comes to mind.
• You like to focus deeply on a few interests, while extroverts tend to explore a lot of activities more superficially.
• You probably like texting or e-mailing people, while extroverts enjoy phone calls or face-to-face meetings.
• You may find multitasking stressful, while extroverts are usually pretty good at it.
• You likely weigh risks more carefully than an extrovert.
• You have a few very deep friendships rather than a lot of casual acquaintances.
• You tend to dress in colors an act in ways that help you blend in rather than stand out.
And, if you are an introvert, then you’ll probably shake your head in agreement (and/or cringe!) when reading this “Ten Things an Introvert Doesn’t Want to Hear” list (pp. 276-282):
1. “We were just in the neighborhood and thought we’d drop in.”
2. “Turn to the person next to you and introduce yourself.”
3. “Guess what—I told the waiter it’s your birthday!”
4. “We’re having so much fun; can we stay with you a few more days?”
5. “Oh, I just thought of one more great story…”
6. “Surprise!”
7. “Give your Auntie Ruth a big hug.”
8. “You’re so quiet; what’s wrong?”
9. “Yay! Our class reunion is coming up!”
10. “I’m so glad you returned my call; we have a lot to catch up on.”
I highly, highly recommend this book for all introverts and for the extraverts who support them.
(Note: If you’re already imagining some quiet time and space to savor this book, then you’re probably an introvert!)
Innie or outie?
No, we’re not talking navels here, but about introverts and extroverts. And, as an introvert herself, author Joan Pastor knows certainly knows what she’s talking about!
Her book _Success as an Introvert_ successfully opens up the often misunderstood internal world of the introvert. If you’re an introvert, you’ll likely feel understood...and if you’re an extrovert, you’ll likely understand more.
Think of this book as the insider’s guide to introversion. In the words of the author:
“From cocktail parties to crowded cubicle farms, the universe seems to be designed for social butterflies. But behind the scenes, a “quiet power” revolution is going on. Introverts are coming into their own, both personally and professionally—and in the process, they’re starting to remake the world so it works for them…In these pages, you discover why introverts are so wonderful and why the world couldn’t get along without them. Better yet, I show you how to use your introverted strengths to reach your full potential. And I also tell you how to redesign your professional and personal environments so they empower you to be happy, healthy, and successful...I’ve written this book to empower both innies (introverts) and the outies (extroverts) who support them. Whether you’re an innie or an outie, I hope you’ll feel welcomed and respected as your read these pages.” (p. 1)
Not sure if you’re an introvert? Then consider this list from the beginning of the book (pp. 8-9)
• You generally think before you talk, while outies tend to say whatever comes to mind.
• You like to focus deeply on a few interests, while extroverts tend to explore a lot of activities more superficially.
• You probably like texting or e-mailing people, while extroverts enjoy phone calls or face-to-face meetings.
• You may find multitasking stressful, while extroverts are usually pretty good at it.
• You likely weigh risks more carefully than an extrovert.
• You have a few very deep friendships rather than a lot of casual acquaintances.
• You tend to dress in colors an act in ways that help you blend in rather than stand out.
And, if you are an introvert, then you’ll probably shake your head in agreement (and/or cringe!) when reading this “Ten Things an Introvert Doesn’t Want to Hear” list (pp. 276-282):
1. “We were just in the neighborhood and thought we’d drop in.”
2. “Turn to the person next to you and introduce yourself.”
3. “Guess what—I told the waiter it’s your birthday!”
4. “We’re having so much fun; can we stay with you a few more days?”
5. “Oh, I just thought of one more great story…”
6. “Surprise!”
7. “Give your Auntie Ruth a big hug.”
8. “You’re so quiet; what’s wrong?”
9. “Yay! Our class reunion is coming up!”
10. “I’m so glad you returned my call; we have a lot to catch up on.”
I highly, highly recommend this book for all introverts and for the extraverts who support them.
(Note: If you’re already imagining some quiet time and space to savor this book, then you’re probably an introvert!)
June 21, 2014
I'll do a full review of this over on my blog later on this week, but for now, I'll just say that this book strikes me as the iPhone of introversion books. It covers more aspects of being introverted (neuropsych research, workplace survival, job interviews, entrepreneurship, dating, friendship, relationship maintenance, child raising, and "introversion 101 for extroverts") than any other book I've read so far. However, in almost ALL of those areas, I've read at least one book that covers that specific aspect better.
There's something vaguely ironic about this "jack of all trades and master of none" approach, given that we introverts *tend* to prefer a deep-and-narrow approach to learning, rather than a shallow-and-wide one. HOWEVER. Most of the information in there seems solid, and the book would probably make a good jumping-off point for someone who knew pretty much nothing about introversion.
My only cautions are that:
- some of the marketing info for entrepreneurs feels WILDLY outdated, or at least irrelevant for those of us who do most of our business online (really? People still DO fax-marketing now?) Some of it might even be illegal (for the love of the gods, do NOT add someone to your mailing list after following them up 7 times and getting no response) or disrespectfully offputting (assumptive sentence closes, I'm looking at you)
- also, I got twitchy at the concept that we introverts "owe" it to our extroverted friends to make a habit of saying yes to invitations we're not interested in, or pretending to be interested in extroverted friends' small-talk. Why not just look for friends whose interests genuinely more closely match yours?
- finally (possibly for ease of writing), there does seem to be an occasional assumption that *all* introverts will act in a certain way. I know the author acknowledges early on in the book that different people have different levels of introversion, but the impression I get is that she's seeing introversion as having a single set of qualities, and you're introverted or not-introverted to the extent that you have each quality in that set. My understanding, however, is that someone might be *extremely* introverted based on one of the qualities, and not at all based on another. So sometimes that grated too.
That said, I still think the book is valuable for newbie introverts and the extroverts or ambiverts who want to understand them. Just don't take everything in it as gospel; and realise that if you don't match something in there exactly, it doesn't mean you're not a "real introvert".
There's something vaguely ironic about this "jack of all trades and master of none" approach, given that we introverts *tend* to prefer a deep-and-narrow approach to learning, rather than a shallow-and-wide one. HOWEVER. Most of the information in there seems solid, and the book would probably make a good jumping-off point for someone who knew pretty much nothing about introversion.
My only cautions are that:
- some of the marketing info for entrepreneurs feels WILDLY outdated, or at least irrelevant for those of us who do most of our business online (really? People still DO fax-marketing now?) Some of it might even be illegal (for the love of the gods, do NOT add someone to your mailing list after following them up 7 times and getting no response) or disrespectfully offputting (assumptive sentence closes, I'm looking at you)
- also, I got twitchy at the concept that we introverts "owe" it to our extroverted friends to make a habit of saying yes to invitations we're not interested in, or pretending to be interested in extroverted friends' small-talk. Why not just look for friends whose interests genuinely more closely match yours?
- finally (possibly for ease of writing), there does seem to be an occasional assumption that *all* introverts will act in a certain way. I know the author acknowledges early on in the book that different people have different levels of introversion, but the impression I get is that she's seeing introversion as having a single set of qualities, and you're introverted or not-introverted to the extent that you have each quality in that set. My understanding, however, is that someone might be *extremely* introverted based on one of the qualities, and not at all based on another. So sometimes that grated too.
That said, I still think the book is valuable for newbie introverts and the extroverts or ambiverts who want to understand them. Just don't take everything in it as gospel; and realise that if you don't match something in there exactly, it doesn't mean you're not a "real introvert".
July 14, 2015
As an innie, I had previously read Susan Cain's book also. I prefer this book as it is a more balanced point of view that sometimes innies should have a few outie tricks up their sleeves and gives some coping tips. As an innies we have very little tolls for coping in this outside world and the introvert extrovert thing is really applicable in how I interact with people and take in information so it is really important to me to get some coping skills as I am an extreme introvert unfortunately.
August 14, 2014
This book had some interesting points about how introverts behave and interact with the world. It also had some good advice on how to function in an extroverted world if you are extremely introverted. Advice on jobs, but also for family and friends, and relationships between innies and outies.
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