Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Him Want to Commit?

by Connell Cowan, Melvyn Kinder

Why is it that so many women have everything going for them-except satisfying personal relationships? In this breakthrough book, two clinical psychologists reveal the surprising answers. Writing from a much-needed male point of view, the authors tell why smart women are almost magnetically drawn to the wrong men, and how they can change their love-defeating attitudes to open up new opportunities for romantic happiness.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Love, Nonfiction, Marriage, Psychology

320 pages, Mass Market Paperback

First published January 1, 1985

Reviews

[Natalie Sifuma · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was hesitant to pick this book up when I first saw it in my parents' house; if anything, I rolled my eyes at it because the title, and seeing that it was authored by men, gave off a mysogynistic aura. But as the saying goes "don't judge a book by its cover" - and I guess in this case, its title. While I don't want to dwell too much on the title, I will say that it could have had a more appropriate, or at the very least, inviting one.

On to the content.
Stellar stuff! I mean as soon as I got to the first case study, I was eager to read about couples and their dilemmas, and see through them what women can do better to be in sustainable relationships with men. I especially enjoyed the section on becoming friends with your partner (or potential partner) and how fundamental it is - because let's be honest, we want someone we can be ourselves around, and who better to do that with than someone we consider our friends?

The authors used a variety of case studies [couple examples] which was great because I resonated with some of the stories, and found myself taking some notes that I can continue to reflect on.

This book is for women, but some sections appeal to men too. I'd certainly recommend it to people who are striving to be in better relationships, or who are actively dating to find a life partner.

[Horace · Rating 1 out of 5]

I love relationship books; they're my guilty pleasure. I enjoy even the fluffiest of them, but this one was horrible. Dry and dumb!

[Sue · Rating 5 out of 5]

left off on page 92

[Poupina · Rating 2 out of 5]

I decided to revisit this book once I took it out of storage and realized I don't remember anything worth regurgitating all these years later. I now know why: I hate the format & direction, amongst other things. I appreciate the male perspective on what their bonding zones are, but was not keen on reading how turned off and unable to bend they seemed to be, at every attempt [which they deem faults] to make them committal once they engage with said women. Running away, withdrawing or staying silent because a woman is "pressing you" for intimacy or more security [as she sees it] - like marriage, just comes across as juvenile. The first half has chapters like: Woman's Contempt, Need to Control, Desire To Give More than A Man is Ready to Receive...! The second half was better.

This book would read better as: Women Men Love, Women Men Love to USE, & LEAVE.

Too many men writing to women about how they should be. *blank stare* How come no man is writing on how to spot the noncommittal, emotionally unavailable, user dudes. Nobody seems to want to get on that.

[Julie Barrett · Rating 4 out of 5]

Women men love, women men leave, why men are drawn to women _ what makes them want to stay by Cowan_ Connell - Kinder_ Melvyn
Understanding the different kinds of love. Has many insistence of cases and after hearing from each side a decision or choice is made and the outcome.
Differences between the man and woman and how early childhood really does play a big part on when you are older.
I received this book from National Library Service for my BARD (Braille Audio Reading Device).

[Arastoo · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book, helps you understand the male-female psychology and the battle of the sexes per say, how to understand men and how men should understand women! It can definitely save you from getting into another terrible relationship or reduce your anxieties and actually openly love the other who is in a relationship with you

[Pure · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very interesting, a must read.

[LUCILLE · Rating 5 out of 5]

Another very good book every woman must read. What is interesting is, the authors are men themselves. I have read this many times.

[Kara Merry · Rating 5 out of 5]

inspiring,comforting like comfort food,extremely well written.