Empowering Principles
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▪ this, describe the kind of person you would have to be to attain your goals.
▪ here is no need to put any limitations on what’s possible.
▪ : they don’t know what they want. You can’t hit a target if you don’t know what that is.
▪ I learned something superimportant; my success depended on doing my best not just once in a while but consistently.
All people who succeed dedicate themselves to continuous improvemen
▪ reason we set goals is to give our lives focus and to move us in the direction we would like to go.
▪ The harder you prepare, the luckier you seem to get.
▪ Michael’s desire to achieve his goal was so intense that would hang on the monkey bars at school trying to elongate his body because he thought it would help him make the team. (This just shows you the power of “stretching” yourself!)
▪ when I met Michael Jordan, I asked him what he thought set him apart from the other players, what it was that had advanced him time and time again to personal and team victories. What made him the best? Was it God-given talent? Was it skill? Was it strategy? Michael told me, “Many people have God-given talent, and I’m certainly one of them. But what has set me apart throughout my entire life is that you’ll never find anyone more competitive than I am. I will not settle for second in anything.”
▪ I’ve interviewed many of the greatest achievers in the world, and one of the interesting things I’ve learned is that each of their incredible accomplishments began with the same first step: the setting of a goal.
▪ Years ago, one of the most important ways I changed my life was to change the pattern of the way I moved, the way I gestured, the way I spoke. At first, I thought this was kind of silly and a little like “putting on airs,” but what I found was that by moving my body in new ways, I literally sent a message through my nervous system back to my brain about what I expected from myself. It began to change my feelings and mindset. I began to think more dynamic thoughts and take more powerful, positive, and aggressive actions. But the secret was doing this consciously and deliberately in the beginning and until these unfamiliar movements became my own. Eventually, I didn’t have to think about them anymore. I wasn’t acting. They were simply powerful, positive habits within my mind and nervous system.
▪ We all must realize that emotion is created by motion. The way we move changes the way we think, feel, and behave. Movement affects our body’s chemistry, including everything from more physical activities (such as running, clapping, or jumping) to the smallest movements in the muscles of the face.
▪ The Problem Solving Questions
1. What is great about this problem?
2. What is not perfect yet?
3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
4. What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it?
5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
▪ One thing that’s useful to know about all this: when you change your focus, often you don’t immediately change direction. Isn’t that true in life as well? Often there is a lag time between when you redirect your focus and when you experience catches up. That’s all the more reason to start focusing on what you want quickly and not wait any longer to solve the problem.
▪ The reality is that whatever you focus on you move toward.
▪ Once you understand how beliefs are like tables, you can begin to see how they are formed and get a hint of how you can change them, as well. First, though, it’s important to note that we can develop beliefs about anything if we just find enough legs to support them
▪ What are some of the reference experiences you’ve had that make you feel certain you are loving? Maybe someone has told you that you are a very loving person. Or maybe you do things every day that make someone else feel more comfortable, more happy, or more hopeful. Maybe you feel good toward other people, and just feeling loving means that you are full of love for others. But you know what? All of these experiences mean nothing until you use them to support the idea that you’re loving. As you do so, the legs make you feel solid (certain) about the idea and cause you to begin believing it. Your idea feels solid and now it’s a belief.
▪ How do we turn an idea into a belief? Let me offer you a simple metaphor to describe the process. If you can think of an idea as a table with one or two legs, you’ll have a pretty good picture of why an idea doesn’t feel as solid as a belief. Without its legs, that table won’t even stand up by itself. A belief, on the other hand, is a table with enough solid legs. If you really believe “I’m loving,” how do you know you are? Isn’t it true that you have some references to support the idea? In other words, don’t you have some experiences to back it up? Those are “the legs” that make your table solid that make your belief certain
▪ How did these amazing individuals do it? They all, at some moment, decided that they’d had enough. They decided they would no longer tolerate anything but the best. They made a real decision to change their lives. What do I mean by a “real decision”? So many people say things like, “Well, I really should lose some weight. I should make more money. I should do something to get a better job. I should stop drinking.” But you can “should” all over yourself, and things still won’t change!
▪ Was he lucky? Maybe, if L.U.C.K. means Labor Under Correct Knowledge.
▪ “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”
- Anthony Robbins
▪ Massive, consistent action with pure persistence and a sense of flexibility in pursuing your goals will ultimately give you what you want, but you must abandon any sense that there is no solution. You must focus immediately on the actions you can take today even if they are small one
▪ YOUR PAST DOES NOT EQUAL YOUR FUTURE.
▪ Like a sponge, I learned as much as I could and begun applying what they taught me immediately. I began to develop a series of strategies and understandings of my own.
▪ In the process of becoming more, I attracted the woman of my dreams,
▪ My secret was focusing on the needs of other people. I constantly asked the question “How can I add something of value to people’s lives?”