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Mourning Diary

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A major discovery: The lost diary of a great mind—and an intimate, deeply moving study of grief

The day after his mother's death in October 1977, the influential philosopher Roland Barthes began a diary of mourning. Taking notes on index cards as was his habit, he reflected on a new solitude, on the ebb and flow of sadness, and on modern society's dismissal of grief. These
Hardcover, 261 pages
Published October 12th 2010 by Hill & Wang (first published January 1st 2009)
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Jan 28, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Brian by: Proustitute
2013 is the ten year anniversary of my mother’s death.

Pre-dawn, Las Vegas, August 17. “I’m sorry to wake you,” my sister’s voice through the receiver, “but Mom died last night.”

C.S. Lewis: No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.

Barthes conjures words wrenched from suffering. A day’s events are distilled and filtered through the lens of loss. Every ache, an intensity that wounds anew. Barthes: At each “moment” of suffering, I believe it to be the very one in which for the first time I r
Feb 26, 2016 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Diane by: Rowena
Shelves: grief, memoirs
This is a book that was very meaningful to me, but it is not something I would widely recommend. It was such a personal read that I even had trouble discussing it with friends.

When Roland Barthes' mother died on October 25, 1977, he started writing notes about his grief. This mourning diary covers nearly two years, and some passages were so moving and powerful that they felt poetic. This book was published after Barthes' death (tragically, he died just a few years after his mother, due to compli
May 30, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: autobiography
“That’s how I grasp my mourning. Not directly in solitude, empirically, etc.; I seem to have a kind of ease, of control that makes people think I’m suffering less than they would have imagined. But it comes over me when our love for each other is torn apart once again. The most painful point at the most abstract moment…”- Roland Barthes, Mourning Diary

I doubt I’d have picked this book up had it not been for my uncle’s recent death. Grief isn't the sort of thing I exactly want to think about but
Dec 16, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
برای مادرمردهها، کتابهای سوگواری فقدان مادر مزهی دیگری دارد؛ دست خودشان نیست. میپسندند این مناسک «باز-چشش» و «تحمل» رنج را. هیچکس مثل یک مادرمرده نمیتواند یک مادرمردهی دیگر را بغل کند. همدیگر را بغل میکنند و میزنند روی شانهی هم. باشد که تنهایی و فقدان نترساندشان. دستم مدام بر شانهی بارت میکوبید. دست او هم.

تجربهی بارت از مرگ مادر سهمگین است. بار خاطرات هستی، عکس خودش آنقدرها سبک نیست. چنبره میزند روی حافظه. میفشارد. رنج دارد دیگر. رنجور ما هم که حساس؛ رنج میکشد. اما که یک جای کار را درست نمیخواند
Sinem A.
Aug 09, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Barthes in annesinin ölümü ardından tuttuğu 3 parça günlükten oluşan kitap bir düşünürün saf ve en yalın halini görmek açısından çok etkileyici idi.
Aslında kitap daha çok yazarın gün gün yazdığı küçük notlardan oluşuyor. Kısa ama üzerine düşünülecek cümlelerden. Bu küçük notları daha sonra birleştirip "Vita Nova" dediği annesinin ölümüne dair bir roman yazma tasarısı var ancak hiçbir zaman gerçekleşmiyor.
Aslında insanı bu kadar ele geçiren bir duygu karşısında yazmak kurgu yapmak oldukça zor ben
Sep 08, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir-biography
Barthes' mother died on October 25, 1977. Her son, Roland, being an invalid-type had been nursed and coddled by her most of his life, but in their years of his mother's illness adopted the role of nurse himself. Barthes' relationship with his mother was one of extreme intimacy: he lived with her his whole life, and when she passed the world as he knew it changed irremediably. TO chronicle this change he kept a "mourning diary" in which he scrawled away, inconsistently over the proceeding two yea ...more
cristina c
Aug 21, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Nell'Ottobre del '77 Roland Barthes perde sua madre; il padre era morto quando lui era piccolissimo e forse questo fatto, unito a screzi e difficoltà di rapporti col resto della famiglia materna, aveva reso il loro rapporto esclusivo dandogli una connotazione più simile ad un rapporto di coppia che filiale.
Dal giorno successivo alla morte e per circa due anni Barthes tiene una sorta di diario; sono annotazioni di stati d'animo, sprazzi di ricordi, brevi riflessioni. Frammenti di un discorso dol
نعیمه بخشی
Sep 20, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biography, 1394
سطرهایش، جملههای کوتاه و کلمات گزینششدهاش غمی دارند برآمده از ذهن انسانی که متفاوت است. و تفاوتش در نگاه اوست و در فکرهایش.

رولان بارت در این کتاب فیلسوف غمگینی است که هیچ تسکینی ندارد. جدیت جملههایی که در کتاب و مقالات دیگرش دارد در اینجا فرو میپاشند و بهجایاش اندوهی مینشیند که ثمرهی بیچون و چرای سوگواری است. رولان بارت، اینجا پسری است که مادرش را، برای همیشه از دست داده است. حالا ترکشدگی، تنهایی و رنج تنها دارایی او هستند.
Feb 04, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
تا حالا با خوندن هيچ كتابى انقدر غمگين نشده بودم،
این کتاب یادداشتهای روزانهی بارت است پس از مرگ مادرش.
جانسوز و فوقالعاده.
Jan 21, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
ما فراموش نمىكنيم، بلكه چيزى خالى در ما آرام مىگيرد. ...more
Pardis Parto
Nov 17, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
بیرحمانهترین قضاوت درباره «خاطرات سوگواری» این است که مالیخولیای نویسنده این کتاب را تنها یک سخنرانی پراکنده در عزای مادرش بدانیم. درست است که رولان بارت نوشتن این یادداشتها را درست از روز مرگ مادرش آغاز کرده اما کتاب که به نیمه میرسد، مخاطب احساس میکند که دیگر تنها ماجرای مرگ مادر نویسنده در کار نیست؛ بارت، گویی از این خاطرات، دریچهای رو به موضوع «فقدان» باز کرده و در حال نگریستن به مقوله «ازدستدادن» در سطوح مختلفی است که انسان را دچار غم، اندوه و سردرگمی خودش میکند. اگر کسی را از دست دادهاید، ...more
Oct 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
تو هرگز بدن یک زن را نشناختی
من بدن مادر بیمارم را شناختم، بیمار و سپس در حال احتضار
ss:من از تو مراقبت خواهم کرد،قدری آرامش تجویز خواهم کرد
RH: تو شش ماه افسرده بودی چون می دانستی. عزاداری، افسردگی، کار و غیره. اما مانند همیشه این ها را با قوه ی تمیز بر زبان آورد
رنجش. نه، عزاداری (افسردگی) با بیماری فرق دارد. از چه چیزهایی باید علاج پیدا کنم؟ تا چه حالی، چه زندگی ای بیابم؟ اگر قرار باشد شخ {تازه ای از درون من} به دنیا بیاید، همچون لوحی سف
Michael Palkowski
Apr 06, 2013 rated it liked it
The existence of this book is interesting ethically at least because it is invasive reproduction of a writer's own private scribblings on index cards sutured together for the sake of commercial ends. Ethics aside, the content is really staggeringly aphoristic, infinitely quotable and full of concise instantiated grievance. The observations however require a specific frame of mind to read and the fragmentary nature of the notes does mean that a linear reading is almost fruitless, except if readin ...more
Fateme Banafshe
Feb 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
یادآور خاطراتی از سوگواری، مرگ، ترکشدگی، فقدان، دلتنگی، اندوه، درد، تنهایی، فراموشی و رنج.
رنجِ "بودن"، رنجی که شما را به جایی میرساند که آن را به عنوان بخشی جدانشدنی از وجودتان بپذیرید و بنویسید:
«چیزی نمیخواهم جز این که در رنج کشیدنام زندگی کنم.»
Narges Delpazir
Aug 26, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
از این جهت که این جهان و این زندگی ابدی نیستند، این خیلی طبیعیه که چیزهایی رو در زندگی از دست داده باشیم. اگر در دستهی آدمهایی قرار میگیرید که زمانی برای از دست دادن چیز یا آدمی عزیز سوگواری کردید، توی متن این نوشتهها حتما با جملات آشنایی برخورد خواهید کرد. ترجمهی محمدحسین واقف خوب نبود.
از متن کتاب:
“بخشی از من به نوعی شب زندهداری نومیدانه ادامه میدهد؛ و همزمان بخشی دیگر در تقلا است تا ناچیزترین امورم را به شیوهای نظم بخشد. این را به مثابه یک بیماری تجربه میکنم”
„Seit Mam.s Tod keine Lust, irgend etwas ‚aufzubauen‘, außer im Schreiben. Warum? Literatur = der einzige Bereich der Vornehmheit (wie Mam. es war).“
Mohammed Yusuf
Jul 23, 2016 rated it really liked it
للمذكرات لغتها البسيطة مهما كان كاتبها حتى لو كان فيلسوفا تصعب قراءته في أعماله الأساسية ، حين نقرأها كأنا نتوق الى معرفة جانب اخر من الكاتب جزء من تكوينه ، تاثير الحياة على كتاباته ، الذي هو بالقدر نفسه فضول معرفي

طريقة بارت في كتابة هذه الشذرات لا تجعلنا نعايش حياته كاملة بل اللحظات منها في قمة تجريديتها ، أراهن أنه لو قرأنا أو مررنا معه في كل هذه اللحظات سنرى شيئا مختلفا بهذا الكتاب ، لا نصفه وكأنه نفاقا حتما ولكن ربما نعامله بإندهاش و عدم تصديق ، لأنها كلحظات هي مهمة لكن بالنسبة له فقط ، ربما
Nov 26, 2011 rated it really liked it
Barthes recorded his experience of mourning on little slips of paper over the two years following his mother's death. He expressed so many things exactly as I've thought them -- the existential shock of her sudden nonexistence, the confusion over the present tense, the fear of the catastophe that has already happened and CANNOT happen again, the confusion of finality in the midst of your own numbing, ongoing-ness, the agony and guilt of symbolic rebirth, the sudden marking of before and after, a ...more
Apr 29, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
En août dernier, nous étions passés à Urt sur la tombe de Roland Barthes et de sa mère, Henriette Binger.

Le hasard veut que le Seuil, avec la coopération de l'IMEC, publie aujourd'hui le Journal de deuil que le fils a tenu à la mort de sa mère en 1977, et ce pendant deux ans.

Brèves notes sur la douleur pour la plupart, les textes de Barthes abordent abordent parfois, mais très en surface, les oeuvres sur lesquelles l'écrivain travaillait à l'époque. Barthes s'interroge aussi sur la douleur, su
Derek Owusu
May 30, 2015 rated it really liked it
You're never finished with books like this.
Mana H
این کتاب عنقریب به فارسی منتشر خواهد شد
با دو ترجمه، یکی خوب یکی افتضاح
Oct 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
For writers grief is either a blessing or a curse because they are able to articulate with exacting detail, the nature of their sorrow. This is a lovely book.
Hayder Hasan
Mar 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I have taken my time reading this because I needed to put myself in a certain mood to be able to fully appreciate it.
This was an extremely beautiful and heart-wrenching journey. This diary is so raw and vulnerably honest. You can feel his mourning in your bones.
Dec 06, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
از کتاب «خاطرات سوگواری» چه می آموزیم؟
راهنمای مقابله ادبی با مرگ عزیزان

«از این که در نهایت می توانم با رنجم زندگی کنم، شگفت زده می شوم.»
– رولان بارت، خاطرات سوگواری

بی رحمانه ترین قضاوت درباره «خاطرات سوگواری» این است که مالیخولیای نویسنده این کتاب را تنها یک سخنرانی پراکنده در عزای مادرش بدانیم. درست است که رولان بارت نوشتن این یادداشت ها را درست روز مرگ مادرش آغاز کرده اما کتاب که به نیمه می رسد، مخاطب احساس می کند که دیگر تنها ماجرای مرگ مادر نویسنده در کار نیست؛ بارت، گویی
Nazanin Banaei
Nov 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
چگونه بدانم که اگر مرده باشم بیشتر رنج نمیکشم؟

۳۱ دسامبر ۱۹۷۸
رنج کشیدن سخت است، اما اثرش بر من( چون در رنج کشیدن: نه رنج به خودی خود : مجموعهای از اثرات غیرمستقیم در میان است)
نوعی رسوب، زنگار و گل و لای است که روی قلبم جمع شده؛ نوعی تلخی دل( زودرنجیها، تلخیها،حسادتها،کمبود عاطفه.)
چه تناقضی؛ با از دست دادن مامان برعکس چیزی که او بود میشوم. میخواهم براساس ارزشهای او زندگی کنم و تنها به چیزی مخالف آن میرسم.

۱ آگوست ۱۹۷۸
سرخوردگی از جاها و سفرهای گوناگون. هیچجا واقعاً راحت نیستم. چیزی نمیگذرد که این
Sep 14, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Точно това исках да прочета отдавна. Удивителен Ролан Барт! - пише за неописуемото - мъката, страданието след загубата най-скъпия човек. Пише така, че го преживяваш и неговата мъка оживява в теб. Прочетох книгата за няколко часа, с много повторения и връщане. И веднага я започнах пак. Никъде другаде не съм чела нещо толкова добре написано за мъката и страданието. И през цялото време ми напомняше за Ромен Гари ("Обещанието на зората") и за силната му връзка с неговата майка. Кой, ако не французин ...more
Sad and beautiful. I wonder if we all feel this way when we lose person meaningful to us. If so, I'm already saddened and afraid.

There is something terribly genuine about this book; maybe the fact that it wasn't supposed to be published, that was written on slips of paper throughout the period of almost two years and that this period of grief was very unhealthy for Barthes and thwarted him from leading any normal social or academic life he was leading prior to this event.
What is even sadder, p
Since this is a diary, that by the way was not meant to be published, I knew going in that it would be a slightly different read than usual, but let me just say that it was a bit strange. Roland Barthes, a literary theorist, philosopher, and linguist, wrote this immediately after the trauma of his mother’s death. There were some wonderful quotes, which I’m listing below, but other than that, this was quite boring. I may have appreciated it somewhat if I was familiar with Barthes’s work.

Some quo
Jul 28, 2011 rated it liked it
As a short form diary taken in the form of short notes to himself, Barthes goes from intensely affecting to banal and back to illuminating from one entry to another. This should be expected--it was unintended for publication and completely unedited by the author. He recognizes and allows the banality and the egoism in suffering, which is where both the most affecting and boring parts of the diary stem from. There is much to be learned from such unfiltered grief.

* "in taking these notes, I'm trus
His meditations on loss, mortality, grief, and love are necessary, emotional, pure, outside of any pretentiousness. Easy - possible - to read in the sense of the mourning being so open you're able to look it in the eyes, so no paralysing fear of not knowing.
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Roland Gérard Barthes was a French literary theorist, philosopher, linguist, critic, and semiotician. Barthes' ideas explored a diverse range of fields and he influenced the development of schools of theory including structuralism, semiotics, social theory, design theory, anthropology and post-structuralism.
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“Don't say mourning. It's too psychoanalytic. I'm not mourning. I'm suffering.” 64 likes
“We don’t forget, but something vacant settles in us.” 25 likes
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