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A Goal Diggers Guide
The book is written by a self proclaimed gold digger (well goal digger is more fitting) She tells women some of the things she's done to get more money from men and she introduces some unconventional ways that women can do the same. She encourages them to also be independent and invest the money that they accumulate from men...she discuss some celebrity encounters (but was careful to not name any names. About a year ago I came across a book that caught my attention, it was about a woman who made a living getting money and the finer things in life from men, however, in exchange for it she would give them sexual favors. It made me think, I was getting the same amount and more from men pretty much all my life and I didn’t have to do the demeaning things that she did. How hard is that? Lay on your back allow a man to have his way with you, for somewhere between 2 minutes and 2 hours then hold out your hand hoping he’ll at least give you enough money to re-do your weave that he sweated out... and then be ashamed to show your face in public because who knows what he told his boys. So, I thought if she can write a book why cant I? I feel it is my duty to show women that we hold the power; we have the greatest thing that men want (unless they’re gay and even then they emulate US), They work on our turfs, on our terms and on our time…never forget that. Most of them will do anything for it…think about it, how many men are in prison because they just had to have it and couldn’t get it willingly? How many men cut off their friends because they lived out a scene from the movie “The Best Man”? Do you know that one of the greatest wars between two nations was because of a woman? Just ask Helen of Troy. It was a woman that made Adam eat from the tree. How many Politicians have fallen victim to interns or even call girls and how many men have went bankrupt because of the ‘Boobie Trap’ Strip Club? The answer is many; many have straight up lost it, their minds, wives, careers, life savings and sadly freedom. I didn’t make them the way they are I just capitalized off their weakness. Physically we aren’t stronger than them but then again, we don’t have to be because we can weaken them with the curves of our bodies, the words that roll of our tongues, our art of seduction and most importantly our minds. Getting their dough is easy, getting it without having to give up anything? Now, that’s the challenge.
270 pages, Paperback
First published October 1, 2010
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June 21, 2018
I reckon this book gives advice about female success in a detailed and practical way. I recommend to read this book together with The Power of the Pussy by Kara King.
Back to the topic, this book can be a good beginning guide for girls want to gain things (wealth, life lessons or even small stuffs), more opportunities from men, or even for those who want to get easier in relationship and socialising. I found most of the tricks in the book is really useful and most of times those methods lead to positive consequences.
Please be aware that the only way to make your knowledge work is practicing the tactics introduced in the book, as well as developing them based on your own case.
You may find some of the lessons in this book seem wired or embarrassing even when you read on. Please remember, however, the first step to new, quicker ways to success is always being willing to take challenge and jump out of your comfortable zone.
Back to the topic, this book can be a good beginning guide for girls want to gain things (wealth, life lessons or even small stuffs), more opportunities from men, or even for those who want to get easier in relationship and socialising. I found most of the tricks in the book is really useful and most of times those methods lead to positive consequences.
Please be aware that the only way to make your knowledge work is practicing the tactics introduced in the book, as well as developing them based on your own case.
You may find some of the lessons in this book seem wired or embarrassing even when you read on. Please remember, however, the first step to new, quicker ways to success is always being willing to take challenge and jump out of your comfortable zone.
March 29, 2021
This book had some really great gems in it. I enjoyed it thoroughly and it showed me that I don't have to give up sex to get what I want from men. My favorite thing about this book was the major mindset reframing and shift. Baje emphasizes the point that many men interact with women just to solely use them for sex. WHY would we be ok with that? Yet, constantly, women are made to feel bad for turning down a man or using him when THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING! A man can do something nice for you with the expectation of something, but you never agreed to anything. They bank on making us feel bad, but we have the power to change that.
There were quite a few pieces of info that were outdated, but the core message was invaluable.
There were quite a few pieces of info that were outdated, but the core message was invaluable.
February 12, 2011
I'm the author of this book so im biased lol more info on AGoldDiggersGuide.com
A Self-Help book for single, financially savvy women; It outlines how to dress, present yourself, what subjects to get educated in, and what type of places to visit in order to meet and attract wealthy men. It not only gives pointers on how to get financial favors from your suitors without giving IT up but it also gives pointers on how to make the money you accumulated work for you in the future. The Author (Baje Fletcher) shares the lessons she's learned over the years and inspires women around the globe to never lose sight of their goals. Gold Digging or GOAL Digging? You decide.
A Self-Help book for single, financially savvy women; It outlines how to dress, present yourself, what subjects to get educated in, and what type of places to visit in order to meet and attract wealthy men. It not only gives pointers on how to get financial favors from your suitors without giving IT up but it also gives pointers on how to make the money you accumulated work for you in the future. The Author (Baje Fletcher) shares the lessons she's learned over the years and inspires women around the globe to never lose sight of their goals. Gold Digging or GOAL Digging? You decide.
January 14, 2016
Quite possibly the worse book I have ever read in my life. No structure, just non-stop rambling and anecdotal storytelling. Completely lacking structure.
March 26, 2023
At first I was not going to write a review - for all the "GOAL" Diggers, this book is not a bad one. It offers a non-bullshit guide to improve oneself to get the thing one wants. The very beginning part of the book deal with the morality hurdle - that it's not wrong to get what you want.
For a while, this book (along with other gold digger books I've read) was rather hard to digest because it was so close to my upbringing (but on a receiver end). I can never forget one of my business family friend once told me that, men of his age who are successful, unless they have some biological problems, are all bound to have young girlfriends on the side while married. Yes, his word was blunt, but he wasn't exaggerating. I actually rarely see ultra-successful men without the "girlfriend" (or GOAL diggers) - I spent my teenage years hearing all of them bragging about their fresh catch. Even the ones you'd never suspect because he seemed so family oriented.
This "review" would divide to 2 parts: The girl and the man. My aim isn't to moralize the situation, but rather to give the whole thing a human touch:
The girl
===
A girl entering such relationship must understand that this is a fair trade. The ideal that "this time is different" that girls nowadays need not worry about their biological clock is nothing new: flappers said that in the 20s but the Great Depression smack the truth into them real quick.
Thus, here's where a fair trade comes in. The girl must understand that they're trading something so valuable to them for money: their youth, their ability to find a partner they love, the time they need to grow themselves to understand who they are what they want in life.
In the book, the author quickly pointed out that a girl should never feel obligated to trade their bodies for money. True. But obviously there are more things than just flesh - it's also about respect oneself and gaining the respect from your eventual partners.
Money can always be made, time can't. But of course, there will be situations where the girl's time isn't worth that much and she'd be much better off trading her time for money - I here, think a girl should take the time to decide if that's true for her. In addition, I might even argue that sometimes, the girl is doing a service to the man:
The man
===
It's way too easy for people express disgust towards the man who have several girlfriends while married - myself being one of them. But it's easy to forget that such men are often the damaged ones.
For the vast majorities of males, 20s and 30s or even 40s are spent working in a 9-5 job with weekend on dates. Later on, once married and have kids, they devote more of their attention to raise their children. However, for the ultra-successful men, they simply don't have such luxury. They often spent 20s, 30s, 40s or even teens doing nothing but work. 100 hours work week is the norm. Yes, they do get married - often to the "trophy" wives that other can't fathom anyone could be unfaithful with.
But there's a huge drawback for such lifestyle.
For such male, they never grew up - they never had the luxury to. Human mental development takes time and solitude. Devoting such long hours on nothing but work deprived such male of the luxury of becoming a man. Thus, their trade off of success is waking them up when they hit their mid-50s. Realizing that they feel so empty inside, they finally realized the being of their existence is to love and to be loved by somebody. But all they have and can show for, is their work.
Thus, they begin having girlfriends. To be frank, those girlfriends are mostly not for physical but more for mental connections. The man in this picture just want to feel the experience to love somebody, and to be loved by somebody (that's how strip clubs make money. A fair trade).
Yes - it's easy to judge and say that such man is ruining their family and their children. But the truth is, they never had the family they craved for. They're broken because they never had the chance to experience the normal human experience a typical male could experience - they ruined something they never had.
For a while, this book (along with other gold digger books I've read) was rather hard to digest because it was so close to my upbringing (but on a receiver end). I can never forget one of my business family friend once told me that, men of his age who are successful, unless they have some biological problems, are all bound to have young girlfriends on the side while married. Yes, his word was blunt, but he wasn't exaggerating. I actually rarely see ultra-successful men without the "girlfriend" (or GOAL diggers) - I spent my teenage years hearing all of them bragging about their fresh catch. Even the ones you'd never suspect because he seemed so family oriented.
This "review" would divide to 2 parts: The girl and the man. My aim isn't to moralize the situation, but rather to give the whole thing a human touch:
The girl
===
A girl entering such relationship must understand that this is a fair trade. The ideal that "this time is different" that girls nowadays need not worry about their biological clock is nothing new: flappers said that in the 20s but the Great Depression smack the truth into them real quick.
Thus, here's where a fair trade comes in. The girl must understand that they're trading something so valuable to them for money: their youth, their ability to find a partner they love, the time they need to grow themselves to understand who they are what they want in life.
In the book, the author quickly pointed out that a girl should never feel obligated to trade their bodies for money. True. But obviously there are more things than just flesh - it's also about respect oneself and gaining the respect from your eventual partners.
Money can always be made, time can't. But of course, there will be situations where the girl's time isn't worth that much and she'd be much better off trading her time for money - I here, think a girl should take the time to decide if that's true for her. In addition, I might even argue that sometimes, the girl is doing a service to the man:
The man
===
It's way too easy for people express disgust towards the man who have several girlfriends while married - myself being one of them. But it's easy to forget that such men are often the damaged ones.
For the vast majorities of males, 20s and 30s or even 40s are spent working in a 9-5 job with weekend on dates. Later on, once married and have kids, they devote more of their attention to raise their children. However, for the ultra-successful men, they simply don't have such luxury. They often spent 20s, 30s, 40s or even teens doing nothing but work. 100 hours work week is the norm. Yes, they do get married - often to the "trophy" wives that other can't fathom anyone could be unfaithful with.
But there's a huge drawback for such lifestyle.
For such male, they never grew up - they never had the luxury to. Human mental development takes time and solitude. Devoting such long hours on nothing but work deprived such male of the luxury of becoming a man. Thus, their trade off of success is waking them up when they hit their mid-50s. Realizing that they feel so empty inside, they finally realized the being of their existence is to love and to be loved by somebody. But all they have and can show for, is their work.
Thus, they begin having girlfriends. To be frank, those girlfriends are mostly not for physical but more for mental connections. The man in this picture just want to feel the experience to love somebody, and to be loved by somebody (that's how strip clubs make money. A fair trade).
Yes - it's easy to judge and say that such man is ruining their family and their children. But the truth is, they never had the family they craved for. They're broken because they never had the chance to experience the normal human experience a typical male could experience - they ruined something they never had.
January 16, 2018
Definitely not what I expected but once I buy a book I read it. I thought this book was about goal setting. I didn’t know that it was about gold digging without having sex lol. Nevertheless it was entertaining to listen to. While it serves no purpose to a married woman or a real independent woman, I do appreciate the fact that it’s out there for young girls who might otherwise abuse their bodies.
July 28, 2023
Great read on how to value yourself. The most important chapter is the last one. Baje proves to be a solid role model when colorfully stating “taking money from men should be a pass time; it matters more what you do with the money (I.e. invest, buy real estate, set yourself up for retirement, etc.).
May 14, 2019
Amazing book
This woman is amazing I give her all my respect and thank her for sharing her beautiful story with us.
This woman is amazing I give her all my respect and thank her for sharing her beautiful story with us.
July 2, 2022
It was better than Ho Tactics at least.
October 22, 2016
I really have to say, I've become fascinated with these types of books. While I disagree with some of the statements made and it contradicts itself at various parts (focus on you, but other bitches fail bc they suck, but you are somehow different...) I feel like you NEED to have this kinda of mentality in order to make this book really show you it's rewards.
Part of the way, I began to really share the books (and Baje's) sentiments towards men because it explains what to look out for, and having this on my Kindle gave me a physical thing to remember whenever I interacted with men. Soon enough, I realized the book was telling the truth and it's just a matter of time until you start reading the signals.
Bake does an excellent job of explaining the rules and giving real world examples, along with her own experiences. Some rules didn't make sense until I read the chapter fully and finally, it all fits together rather neatly. I'm definitely going to go back periodically and re-read certain parts just to soak in. I'm torn between telling all my friends and keeping this for myself, haha (but seriously share this with the RIGHT people).
Part of the way, I began to really share the books (and Baje's) sentiments towards men because it explains what to look out for, and having this on my Kindle gave me a physical thing to remember whenever I interacted with men. Soon enough, I realized the book was telling the truth and it's just a matter of time until you start reading the signals.
Bake does an excellent job of explaining the rules and giving real world examples, along with her own experiences. Some rules didn't make sense until I read the chapter fully and finally, it all fits together rather neatly. I'm definitely going to go back periodically and re-read certain parts just to soak in. I'm torn between telling all my friends and keeping this for myself, haha (but seriously share this with the RIGHT people).
September 10, 2016
This is one of those books you don't want others to know you have read it, but you are glad you did. I wish I read this book as a teenager. One of the main points I took away from this book is to value my body and not to use my body as tool of exchange/currency. I think this is a great book to help build self-esteem, self-respect, self-confidence, and personal value in young girls. It is important to look beyond the hype and focus on the underlying message. As women, we deserve the best and we set the standard. You have teach people how to treat you.
December 30, 2014
Man 99% just want sex :/
I love how she say women we gotta help each other ,I am feminism I stand out for my girls but I noticed some of the girls are very envy and mean,it's something else to deal with,but I can tell the women who wrote this book it's very mature and been thru things that had made her mature, but short story she is fantastic on sharing her life stories and experiences , I'm glad I read this book I am going to read it over ,and over .
I love how she say women we gotta help each other ,I am feminism I stand out for my girls but I noticed some of the girls are very envy and mean,it's something else to deal with,but I can tell the women who wrote this book it's very mature and been thru things that had made her mature, but short story she is fantastic on sharing her life stories and experiences , I'm glad I read this book I am going to read it over ,and over .
January 10, 2016
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A Gold Digger's Guide is an incredibly realistic and infinitely helpful tool for getting money through dating.
Not only that, but I finally feel like someone broke down investments enough for me and explained it from my point of view for me to understand. I feel pretty confident now in going forth and investing my finances
I didn't give it the full five stars because I couldn't help but objectifying and sex-negative the entire book was.
A Gold Digger's Guide is an incredibly realistic and infinitely helpful tool for getting money through dating.
Not only that, but I finally feel like someone broke down investments enough for me and explained it from my point of view for me to understand. I feel pretty confident now in going forth and investing my finances
I didn't give it the full five stars because I couldn't help but objectifying and sex-negative the entire book was.
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February 13, 2011Great book!
September 4, 2013
This book was really, really entertaining. I read it because the author leads a life so completely different than mine. If she had a reality tv show I'd totally watch it.
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