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4.36  ·  Rating details ·  4,185 Ratings  ·  372 Reviews
De Mello's spiritual classic remains at the top of the Fount bestsellers more than five years after its original publication.
Paperback, 192 pages
Published December 11th 1990 by Zondervan (first published 1990)
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Oct 13, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: future enlightened souls
This is one of the more personally challenging books I've ever read. It made me think... hard. I wanted to sit down and argue with this guy. I didn't like how it was written. I didn't like what he said about people and selfishness and being and love, but I can't stop thinking about it. The more time passes, the more I think thiss asshole is on to something. The Pope must have thoght so too, since he EXCOMMUNICATED HIM FOR WRITING IT.
Mar 28, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
I picked up this book at a monastery in Northern California about 10 years ago and have kept it close ever since.

De Mello, espousing no religious agenda, contends we've been brainwashed as to our typical ideas of love and happiness. This untypical priest--his writings were denounced by the Pope--says our attachments, illusions, conditioning and general unawareness keep us anxiety-ridden. (Maybe the Pope didn't like de Mello's appreciation of the prostitute scene in Fellini's "8 1/2.")

The author
Tom Tabasco
"You guys are such idiots. Just look at you all. Fretting about, worrying, stressing about everything... But hey, I have the key to take all of your stresses away! Yes, I do! Look closely in my eyes, though, because before you have the chance to ask me what that key is, and why I'm not explaining it properly to you, I'm going to slam a little cute story in your face that is going to distract you from the fact that I have actually just told you nothing at all". Voilà! It's magic!

I'm giving this
Anita Louise
Jan 07, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My favorite spiritual book. Anthony de Mello helped me to understand, "I'm an ass, you're an ass". He tells us we're all sleeping, and he clobbers us over the head with a wake up call.
Feb 03, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Awareness, Anthony de Mello's most popular book, is a beautiful bridge between Western and Eastern spiritual thought. de Mello was a Roman Catholic priest who grew up in India, and his intimate familiarity with both traditions combined with a deep understanding of world mysticism provide seekers of a Western background (i.e., Christian) a thought provoking introduction to Eastern spiritual thought. After his death in 1987, de Mello was censured by the Vatican's Defeneders of the Faith (headed at ...more
Aug 11, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: spirituality
I have read this one 5 times now. How obvious it is that we don't want to wake up. We don't want to admit, or give up our attachments! I have tried to focus on his teachings for years now, and denounce my attachments but I always end up back in square one. I fall into the same patterns and expectations. How did he do this? Better, how do I do this? My biggest concern with this book is that he wants us to "give up" attachments like our family for example. He claims that once you no longer "need" ...more
Feb 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: all-time-favs
I believe that it took awhile before I was ready to read this. I like E. Tolle and James Findley. Prerequisites to them were Joseph Campbell's work and Thomas Moore (not the theologian but the psychotherapist)and writers like Robert Bly and Richard Rohr. So I suppose it was a crooked road that led to him. I am not Catholic so the displeasure of him from the hierarchic powers of that church does not affect my opinion or respect for de Mello. That being said, I absolutely love this book. A book th ...more
Jun 18, 2007 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Zen enthusiasts
Shelves: essays-ideas
Considering the length of Awareness (184 pages), it’s taken me a long time to read what I have of it. As a matter of fact, I haven’t quite finished it, but it’s due at the library and I’m taking it back.

It’s taken a long time to read, partly because the book is a collection of meditations and, of course, the whole point is to take time to reflect on them. In addition, though, I have to say that, like a dictionary, it offers very little in the way of plot. There’s just one message in each of its
How to write a best-selling spiritual / self-improvement book?
Challenge peoples thoughts. Destroy their beliefs, no matter what they are. Tell them how miserably they are leading their lives, what scoundrels and idiots they have been.
(Yes, people love to hear that. Probably, that's the reason they have taken up that book/course. A perfectly happy person would seldom pick-up a spiritually enlightening book.)
Ask them tough questions. What is "happiness"? Who is "I"? What is life's goal? You don't
Garland Vance
I hated almost every minute of this book but had to read it for a class. de Mello combines Christian, Hindu, Buddhist and New Age worldviews mixed with a dose of radical individualism to create a spirituality devoid of any significant beliefs except for the fact that we don't need other people if we are aware of ourselves.

Throughout the book there were sentences and sometimes paragraphs that I thought were insightful. But I continually found myself wishing that I was finished with this book. FIN
Nov 30, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Book that tought me that I am not my emotions, and to wake up, which I haven't really done, because I have too many snooze buttons.
Apr 28, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very challenging personal philosophy for everyday living. At first, I almost despised the content, but as the pages went by, the ideas contained therein wormed their way into my consciousnesses and really made me think about the nature of reality and how I perceive myself in it. The ideas are original, different and very difficult to accept. The language and tone that the book is written in seem like condescending preaching from a moral high-ground... but, once I toned down my ego a bit, put asi ...more
Iliana Gonzalez
"on dependence:
---to depend on another emotionally-- what does it imply? it means to depend on another human being for my happiness. Think about that. Because if you do, the next thing you will be doing is demanding other people contribute to your happiness... Perfect love casts out of fear where theres is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you, If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself;
Jun 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Awareness Review

Well, I must really love this book. I’ve read it 3 times in my life. There was a time in my life where I wanted to wake each day with a favorite quote – I chose 52 different quotes (one for each randomly drawn card from a deck) from 5-6 books, with about 10 of the quotes from this one. The reading this most recent time in an effort to better understand the culture of India, where I am now working with several of their citizens. Anthony de Mello brought Buddhist parables, Hindu ph
Taymara Jagmohan
Now now.
This was a soul grabbing one. I can't imagine I learnt so many theories from just a 192 pages today. Wow.
I learnt to never cling to anything; for life in itself is a disappointment, and once we understand that, then we'll get the happiness we truly deserve. I also learnt about happiness, and how it isn't a thrill. It's just that wonderful feeling that cages us freely. It is an amazing feeling, and this entire world accepts us once we are happy. No one wants an unhappy soul.
Once again I l
Jan 02, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Anthony de Mello was an indian Jesuit priest and a psychotherapist. The book definitely felt like reading a speech. De Mello argues that life is easy only if you let go of your attachments, cravings and illusions. You’ve got to drop the labels and you’ve got to understand that the negative feelings you experience are in you and not in the external world around you. Until you drop everything, you can’t experience happiness because true happiness is uncaused unlike excitement. In order to change, ...more
Laura Westmeyer
Mar 14, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
Awareness is the title of this book, and it's evident from the first few lines that is exactly what this book is about. Anecdotes, parables, stories get the reader to see that everything in life has to do with awareness and perception. This book is full of short reads and the writing style is highly abrasive and entertaining. More comments to come when I finish...

Some notes from the book (not my own comments here)
--Eagle that was born and raised like a chicken, unaware of the heights to which it
เอกภพ สิทธิวรรณธนะ
อานเลมนีแลวรูสึกเหมือนนังอยูในหองบรรยายเลกๆ กับบาทหลวงผูขามพนเขตแดนทางศาสนา เขานังบนอาสนะหรือไมกอยูหลังโพเดียมพูดตรงๆ แสกหนาคนฟังแรงๆ อยางไมตองกลัววาคนฟังจะชอบหรือไมชอบใดๆ

Awareness อธิบายประกอบเรืองเลามุงตรงไปทีการตระหนักรู หรือการมีสติกับปัจจุบัน สำเนียงจริงจัง จีมาทีใจคนอาน ไมบรรยายภาพกวางๆ รวมๆ หรือเปนหลักการ หนังสือใหประสบการณการตระหนักรูไดในหลายจังหวะ

อานแรกๆ อาจจะลงๆ กับทาที หรือวิธีการเชือมโยงระหวางคนอาน กับหนังสือ และสำเนียงการสือสาร ตองใชเวลาปรับตัวสักระยะ กวาจะทำใจรับมือลีลาของผูเขียนได
Mar 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
After quite some time, I finished reading "Awareness" by Anthony de Mello.
Although it is not long, and the language is not difficult, the book is not easy to read or like. It is not written for entertainment, but for thinking, thinking beyond everyday routine. It criticizes society and human values. It will turn your world upside down, well, at least that's what I felt after reading it. I think it will take me forever to process everything I read in the book, and, probably, forever would not be
Feb 19, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is amazing.

So short, so simple, yet so powerful. I was struck with its simple logic and its basic concepts and how hard these are for us to acknowledge. It will put a mirror to your soul and challenge you to reassess everything you ever though you knew.

This book puts into perspective how we make our own lives difficult and how we truly hold the power over true happiness. This is a book that I will read again and again. I highly recommend it to anyone that anyone that is in pursuit of
Christopher Maricle
This book is fun - not becuase it's light. It's because it feels like someone left a tape recorder on during a retreat and wrote down exactly what he said, so it feels like you are in the room with him, and his tone and charm come right off the page. But it's not simplistic - it's challenging. Best quote: "To see at last with a vision unclouded by fear or desire."
Jan 22, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Mind. Blown. Amazing read. Some parts I was aware of and am currently living, and others I will implement into my life. Definitely a reread kind of a book, to fully absorb all of this great advice.
Barry Ross
Jan 13, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
life changer
Jun 18, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: philosophy
I picked up this book because I am always striving to be more aware in order to live my life to the fullest. When I first started reading this book, I thought, “This guy is insane.” As I got further into his writings, I saw that he actually hit the nail on the head and I began thinking, “This guy is brilliant.” De Mello, a native of India, was a Jesuit priest and psychotherapist. Throughout this book, divided into short chapters, he relates different stories from Christianity, Buddhism and Hindu ...more
Cait • A Page with a View
It's all very basic and any simplistic points are buried underneath tons of rambling. And just when he starts to actually get to something meaningful, he moves on. I got absolutely nothing new out of this and think there are countless other authors who say the same exact things waaaaay better.
Apr 23, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
4.5 stars
Dimitris Hall
"Thinking you can change yourself by changing your situation or your surroundings is like thinking you can change your handwriting by using a different pen." (paraphrased)

I want to be more aware in my life. That's why I had been looking for books on the matter a few months ago when I found this one. I ordered it from World of Books and for the first time they disappointed me: the book never arrived at my doorstep. Thirsty for thought-provoking material and wisdom shared aplenty, I looked for the
Jeff Maziarek
Jan 31, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I was originally exposed to the content in this book in 1995 via a tape series called "Wake Up to Life," which is actually the source material for the book. While DeMello's teachings are clearly even more powerful when you hear him speak, this book is also a valuable spiritual growth resource. In my own book I quote passages from this book more than any other title I reference. DeMello, however, is not for everyone because he can be irreverent at times, and doesn't pull any punches when speaking ...more
May 05, 2015 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Słowo zmęczyłem będzie dobrym podsumowaniem. Książeczka jest mała, ale bardzo męcząca, im dalej tym gorzej. Myślałem, że będzie to książka obnażająca prawdy rządzące światem, na które jesteśmy zazwyczaj ślepi. Że będzie pomagała przeprogramować myślenie. Widocznie ona tak działa, tylko nie na mnie. Na początku czytając słowa skierowane bezpośrednio do mnie, a mające mnie "obudzić", nieraz odpowiadałem w myślach autorowi - do kogo ty mówisz? Do mnie? Ale ja się wcale tak nie czuję! Nie trafiłeś, ...more
Jan 10, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Buku ini saya baca pada saat saya sedang belajar praktik Konseling di program Profesi Psikologi. Rasanya cukup mengena juga saat Anthony de Mello membahas tentang kebergantungan emosional kita, dan juga untuk lebih jujur dengan diri kita sendiri: apa sih yang sebetulnya kita rasakan saat menolong orang lain? Kenapa kita terus melakukan itu?

Kita jadi kecanduan secara emosional saat orang berterima kasih atas bantuan kita, dan ujung-ujungnya kita jadi dikendalikan oleh kecanduan itu. Ini cukup men
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Anthony de Mello was a Jesuit priest and psychotherapist who became widely known for his books on spirituality. An internationally acclaimed spiritual guide, writer and public speaker, de Mello hosted many spiritual conferences.

The few talks which he allowed to be filmed, such as "A Rediscovery of Life" and "A Way to God for Today," have inspired many viewers and audiences throughout the United St
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“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.” 286 likes
“Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children, to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture. To acquire happiness you don't have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. Does anybody know why? Because we have it already. How can you acquire what you already have? Then why don't you experience it? Because you've got to drop something. You've got to drop illusions. You don't have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something. Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings. Do you know where these things come from? From having identified with all kinds of labels!” 94 likes
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