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Rejection Free: How to Choose Yourself First and Take Charge of Your Life by Confidently Asking For What You Want
Is the fear of rejection holding you back from taking massive action? Do you refrain from asking for what you want because of getting a NO? Do you depend on the opinions of others to define your self-worth?
I know rejection hurts. We take it personally when people fail to give us what we desire the most. But getting rejected is a state of mind. It has power over you if you let it in by believing the worst. You can learn to free yourself from the feeling of shame and the fear of loss. By taking action in the face of fear, you release yourself from an emotional rollercoaster and learn to live your life with confidence.
In Rejection Free, you will learn how to …
*choose yourself first no matter what people think of you.
*ask for what you want without the fear of hearing NO.
*break free of rejection in any situation that calls for you to be brave and confront your fears.
*stop trying to please the wrong people and pay attention to the right ones.
*realize that rejection isn’t all about you (and how inspiring this is!).
*put an end to the trap of predictability and the ways it hurts your chances for success.
*overcome your self-doubt and become great at asking for what you want the most.
*supercharge your confidence and take charge of your life.
*desensitize yourself to rejection so you can handle anything that comes your way!
Debunking the Lies
Rejection is full of lies we believe about ourselves. One of the first steps to recovery and creating a rejection-free lifestyle is breaking away from these lies by becoming totally honest with ourselves. Aligning our thoughts and ideals with the reality of the situation makes less resistance for ourselves. The lies are what keep you trapped and continue the pattern of living in rejection hell.
A Roadmap to Freedom
When you avoid being rejected, you eliminate all possibilities of losing, looking bad, or failing completely. You play it safe. You look for the non-fail, safe methods that are guaranteed to reduce your failure rate. By not risking, you risk more. By hiding, you stay afraid. This book offers a way out of your pain by working through the stages of rejection.
Learn to Ask For Anything
There is a price to pay for not asking. By trading in your pride and fear of embarrassment, you could be giving up large sums of money (asking for a raise), your freedom (asking for time off), and the opportunity to thrive instead of survive.
if you don’t ask that person out on a date, someone else will;
if you don’t ask for more money in your work, you’ll have less money;
if you don’t ask for support, you end up doing it alone;
if you don’t ask how it’s done, you’ll end up doing it the wrong way
Desensitize Your Fear
Doing the things that scares you numbs your fear of rejection. By taking action and breaking out of your fearful comfort zone, you condition your mind and senses to move forward and break all mental obstacles holding you back. What could you do with your life if nothing was in your way? The answer: You could do anything and everything!
Choose your life and live to the max, ask for everything you want and overcome your greatest fears holding you back!
I know rejection hurts. We take it personally when people fail to give us what we desire the most. But getting rejected is a state of mind. It has power over you if you let it in by believing the worst. You can learn to free yourself from the feeling of shame and the fear of loss. By taking action in the face of fear, you release yourself from an emotional rollercoaster and learn to live your life with confidence.
In Rejection Free, you will learn how to …
*choose yourself first no matter what people think of you.
*ask for what you want without the fear of hearing NO.
*break free of rejection in any situation that calls for you to be brave and confront your fears.
*stop trying to please the wrong people and pay attention to the right ones.
*realize that rejection isn’t all about you (and how inspiring this is!).
*put an end to the trap of predictability and the ways it hurts your chances for success.
*overcome your self-doubt and become great at asking for what you want the most.
*supercharge your confidence and take charge of your life.
*desensitize yourself to rejection so you can handle anything that comes your way!
Debunking the Lies
Rejection is full of lies we believe about ourselves. One of the first steps to recovery and creating a rejection-free lifestyle is breaking away from these lies by becoming totally honest with ourselves. Aligning our thoughts and ideals with the reality of the situation makes less resistance for ourselves. The lies are what keep you trapped and continue the pattern of living in rejection hell.
A Roadmap to Freedom
When you avoid being rejected, you eliminate all possibilities of losing, looking bad, or failing completely. You play it safe. You look for the non-fail, safe methods that are guaranteed to reduce your failure rate. By not risking, you risk more. By hiding, you stay afraid. This book offers a way out of your pain by working through the stages of rejection.
Learn to Ask For Anything
There is a price to pay for not asking. By trading in your pride and fear of embarrassment, you could be giving up large sums of money (asking for a raise), your freedom (asking for time off), and the opportunity to thrive instead of survive.
if you don’t ask that person out on a date, someone else will;
if you don’t ask for more money in your work, you’ll have less money;
if you don’t ask for support, you end up doing it alone;
if you don’t ask how it’s done, you’ll end up doing it the wrong way
Desensitize Your Fear
Doing the things that scares you numbs your fear of rejection. By taking action and breaking out of your fearful comfort zone, you condition your mind and senses to move forward and break all mental obstacles holding you back. What could you do with your life if nothing was in your way? The answer: You could do anything and everything!
Choose your life and live to the max, ask for everything you want and overcome your greatest fears holding you back!
171 pages, Hardcover
Published March 12, 2021
About the author
Scott Allan
34 books56 followersScott Allan is the creator of Do the Hard Things First, the international bestselling book on discipline and action, published in 16 languages and read in over 30 countries.
Through his books, courses, and the H.A.R.D. Framework™, Scott has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, solo creators, and driven professionals stop overthinking, cut through scattered effort, and build the kind of daily action that turns momentum into real results.
A former corporate business trainer in Japan with over 10,000 hours invested in mindset mastery and performance coaching, Scott brings a direct, no-nonsense approach to personal development.
He doesn’t teach motivation—he teaches systems. His work is built on one core belief: the hard thing you’re avoiding is almost always the most important thing you could be doing. And the gap between where you are and where you want to be is closed by facing that thing first, every single day.
Scott’s Do the Hard Things First platform includes the 24-Hour Discipline Reset, the 7-Day Priority Reset, the 30-Day Hard Things Challenge, and a growing community of people committed to doing what matters most.
His weekly newsletter, Hard Things First, reaches readers in dozens of countries with practical strategies for building discipline without relying on willpower.
Whether you’re a founder avoiding a difficult conversation, a creator stuck in planning mode, or a professional who knows exactly what to do but can’t seem to start—Scott’s work gives you the framework to stop spinning and start moving. Today.
Through his books, courses, and the H.A.R.D. Framework™, Scott has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, solo creators, and driven professionals stop overthinking, cut through scattered effort, and build the kind of daily action that turns momentum into real results.
A former corporate business trainer in Japan with over 10,000 hours invested in mindset mastery and performance coaching, Scott brings a direct, no-nonsense approach to personal development.
He doesn’t teach motivation—he teaches systems. His work is built on one core belief: the hard thing you’re avoiding is almost always the most important thing you could be doing. And the gap between where you are and where you want to be is closed by facing that thing first, every single day.
Scott’s Do the Hard Things First platform includes the 24-Hour Discipline Reset, the 7-Day Priority Reset, the 30-Day Hard Things Challenge, and a growing community of people committed to doing what matters most.
His weekly newsletter, Hard Things First, reaches readers in dozens of countries with practical strategies for building discipline without relying on willpower.
Whether you’re a founder avoiding a difficult conversation, a creator stuck in planning mode, or a professional who knows exactly what to do but can’t seem to start—Scott’s work gives you the framework to stop spinning and start moving. Today.
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September 20, 2018
After struggling with acceptance and forgiveness towards myself I realised that a fear of rejection was driving it all.
This is a great book. I found it uplifting, humorous and full of sense. Since reading I am working towards seeing what might in the past have seemed like a rejection differently. I no longer reject and second guess myself.
Highly recommended.
This is a great book. I found it uplifting, humorous and full of sense. Since reading I am working towards seeing what might in the past have seemed like a rejection differently. I no longer reject and second guess myself.
Highly recommended.
February 15, 2020
Can resonate with the experiences
Loved every page of this book with real-life examples and ideas to try overcoming the fear of rejection. Some humorous stories as well, makes one feel that one is not alone in this quest. Having dreams and goals but know you have to ask from others , this book has given me the motivation to continue
Loved every page of this book with real-life examples and ideas to try overcoming the fear of rejection. Some humorous stories as well, makes one feel that one is not alone in this quest. Having dreams and goals but know you have to ask from others , this book has given me the motivation to continue
July 11, 2023
This book encourages self-improvement by challenging yourself to the extreme. The author presents concepts and techniques in a straightforward manner, making them accessible to readers of all backgrounds. The book is filled with relatable anecdotes and real-life examples that illustrate the power of asking and its impact on one's life.
January 29, 2021
Useful
Has some good ideas. It is a lead generator. Good read, not too long. I wish the end had some checklists or summaries of an action plan. Perhaps forms that could be used to achieve the goals. Or perhaps that is in his paid product.
Has some good ideas. It is a lead generator. Good read, not too long. I wish the end had some checklists or summaries of an action plan. Perhaps forms that could be used to achieve the goals. Or perhaps that is in his paid product.
April 23, 2019
Easy to learn ides
In this book Scott shares easy to learn and easy to apply ideas to overcome rejection. His advice is both genuine and well thought through.
Thank you.
In this book Scott shares easy to learn and easy to apply ideas to overcome rejection. His advice is both genuine and well thought through.
Thank you.
September 12, 2020
Some good stuff
January 26, 2021
Short and straightforward!
I appreciate the exercises in this book.
I appreciate the exercises in this book.
July 28, 2021
The author said the same thing over and over throughout the entire book. It really slogged along
June 2, 2023
This is a good book with some good ideas on how to overcome rejection, some seem a bit extreme but it’s an interesting read overall
March 15, 2018
Do you value yourself?
It starts with you - what you think of yourself and how you choose to respond to any given situation according to Scott Allen. Are you ready to value yourself? Then dig in.
It starts with you - what you think of yourself and how you choose to respond to any given situation according to Scott Allen. Are you ready to value yourself? Then dig in.
January 3, 2022
Fairly basic book here is my summary:
See rejection how you want - people are as rejected as they make up their minds to be, this is only as important as you perceive it.
You can control the outcome of any situation where rejection is an issue, you have a choice to let it defeat you or empower you.
Dealing with rejection is all about how you handle it - didn't get a job is that because you are not good enough or others were simply better suited?
If you didn’t receive unconditional love as a child but don't think you can get it from others, you would come across as needy. Instead love yourself, focus on giving your love to someone in a way that you never received it, this will increase your personal value.
If you like and respect yourself, you’ll never have to worry about lack of love in your life.
It is important to keep trying and don't miss out by being afraid of rejection. Get out of your normal routines so you are comfortable with risk.
Decide what matters to you as most important not what matters to other people.
VLOG summary: https://youtu.be/7WHEjU9G97w
See rejection how you want - people are as rejected as they make up their minds to be, this is only as important as you perceive it.
You can control the outcome of any situation where rejection is an issue, you have a choice to let it defeat you or empower you.
Dealing with rejection is all about how you handle it - didn't get a job is that because you are not good enough or others were simply better suited?
If you didn’t receive unconditional love as a child but don't think you can get it from others, you would come across as needy. Instead love yourself, focus on giving your love to someone in a way that you never received it, this will increase your personal value.
If you like and respect yourself, you’ll never have to worry about lack of love in your life.
It is important to keep trying and don't miss out by being afraid of rejection. Get out of your normal routines so you are comfortable with risk.
Decide what matters to you as most important not what matters to other people.
VLOG summary: https://youtu.be/7WHEjU9G97w
July 3, 2016
Scott Allen has written a comprehensive and insightful understanding of how we limit ourselves in life. In his book, he has carefully developed his theory and personal experience of self-rejection and how it plays out in life by applying his personal experiences to everyday situations that all of us live with to varying degrees.
Rejection Free is packed full of examples and applications for how to choose to become free of rejection fears. Scott Allen holds the reader's hand by demonstrating how and encouraging personal growth through exploring reality and challenging the reader's core beliefs with cognitive behavioral techniques. The depth of his insights and understanding creates an avenue for our path to personal freedom. I am so impressed with the content of his work and know there is not a person I would not recommend his book to. Thank you Scott.
Rejection Free is packed full of examples and applications for how to choose to become free of rejection fears. Scott Allen holds the reader's hand by demonstrating how and encouraging personal growth through exploring reality and challenging the reader's core beliefs with cognitive behavioral techniques. The depth of his insights and understanding creates an avenue for our path to personal freedom. I am so impressed with the content of his work and know there is not a person I would not recommend his book to. Thank you Scott.
August 4, 2016
The Master-crafter at Work! Congratulations Scott for Yet Another Masterpiece!
Looking at the intricate process of outside influences on our lives, the positives and negatives we keep on collecting while under the false pretence of their being an unavoidable component of life, we end up taking rejection in stride so much that it starts to stint our own growth.
Scott has picked up this all too important trait so common amongst masses and addressed it a befitting manner.
I have always enjoyed reading Scott's books and this one is no exception!
Thank You!
Looking at the intricate process of outside influences on our lives, the positives and negatives we keep on collecting while under the false pretence of their being an unavoidable component of life, we end up taking rejection in stride so much that it starts to stint our own growth.
Scott has picked up this all too important trait so common amongst masses and addressed it a befitting manner.
I have always enjoyed reading Scott's books and this one is no exception!
Thank You!
August 7, 2019
This book hits you head on about facing your fears of rejection. Most of us realize our fears are in our head, but we can't get past it. This book makes one look closely at these rejection fears so they can be broken. Action still must be taken to break the cycle of rejection, and this book puts those actions in perspective.
August 16, 2016
This book opened my eyes to love that I have been longing for. This book changed my life. Thank You Scott Allen.
March 3, 2018
Un libro muy bueno, con ejercicios para trabajar en el tema del RECHAZO...
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