Reconnecting: A Self-Coaching Solution to Revive Your Love Life

by Joseph J. Luciani

There's no doubt about every conflict in every relationship involves two people with two different perceptions, and every solution requires two partners to arrive at a single shared perception. You can't repair a damaged relationship by yourself, and you can't change your partner into someone else. Does that mean the situation is hopeless? Absolutely not! In Reconnecting , Dr. Joseph Luciani, the celebrated author of the renowned Self-Coaching series, introduces a proven, practical method you can follow to encourage your less-than-cooperative partner to join you in a meaningful healing process, even if you have to take the first steps on your own. Dr. Luciani begins by helping you evaluate your own level of insecurity and, using his Self-Talk technique, do something to improve it. He shows you how to use Self-Talk to become a catalyst for change in your relationship by eliminating your contribution to the problem. You'll identify your own personality patterns and use Self-Talk to let go of personal baggage, stop listening to what hurts you, and see the problem as a whole. Next, you'll learn how to apply Catalytic Self-Coaching to your relationship. You'll find out what it means to create a relationship vacuum, and you'll start working with Self + Self = Us Portraits. You'll also discover how to risk trusting each other and to begin coaching each other away from destructive habits and toward a more truthful and loving relationship. This eye-opening and life-changing guide offers constant support on your journey toward a more loving and rewarding relationship. You'll find plenty of prescriptive advice to help you make sense of your own personality patterns and cope with the anxiety and depression that often accompany difficult relationships. Dr. Luciani's success stories of patients who have changed their lives will help you realize that you're not alone and there is hope. Complete with a valuable discussion of the essential principles of successful relationships and how to put them into action every day, Reconnecting is the resource you need to break free of destructive habits and create a new, more secure relationship that brings you the companionship, commitment, trust, and true love you need.

Genres: Marriage, Psychology, Self Help

272 pages, Hardcover

First published April 1, 2009

About the author

Dr. Joe has been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than forty years. He's the internationally best-selling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, published in ten languages. He's written articles and been featured in numerous national magazines and newspapers, including O, The Oprah Magazine, Redbook, USA Today, Fitness, Health, Shape, and Body and Soul. He appears frequently on national TV, radio, and the Internet.

Reviews

[Scott Thompson]

Nothing ground breaking but if you need a refresher on personality styles to help you understand a spouse or coworker then it is a worthwhile read. I feel like these books should be popular because a lot of relationships struggle and this book is probably worth 5-6 counseling sessions. I like how he said that you only really need one person to get the ball rolling. We forget that sometimes when we try to "confess others sins". If we put down 50 shades and picked up books like this maybe the divorce rate might change.

[Colleen]

Interesting self coaching book. Points out that every conflict in interpersonal relationship is equally owned by both of the individuals. Some parts of the book was simplistic yet oddly complicated by the definitions of the personality types. Okay read some good info

[Tess Mertens-Johnson]

I have been married for 30 years, and thought this may help and give tips about keeping the marriage fresh.
I am also going through a bad employment situation. I found the advise this book gave could also be used in the work force. I found it amazingly parallel as to how the marriage advice on self coaching to make yourself a better partner also was sound advise on being an employee.
Two for one from this book

[Derek]

Every conflict in interpersonal relationship is equally owned by both of the individuals involved in the conflict. In order to stop the downward spiral, it only takes the effort of one individual extracting himself from the mess to begin the healing process. Most bad behavior can be traced back to insecurity and our defensive reaction to those circumstances that cause us to feel threatened.

[Tracy Dixon]

I thought this book was overly simplistic. In his opinion, the reason for all negative behavior is insecurity. I'm not sure I agree. I also felt it was light on remedies for stifling negative thoughts.