I was feeling low one day and decided to pick up this book so I could stop being codependent to my mother's out of control, Borderline personality disorder. I needed to remind myself that I had to give God control of the things I can't handle and live one day at a time. I like the spiritual guidance in the book even though it's too secular for me. I learned here about the 12 steps, which I had been curious about. I'm not personally an alcoholic, but my dad is, and I have some strong codependent tendencies, which Al-Anon deals with even if one's family isn't involved with alcoholism. Expressing strengths and weaknesses and allowing God to change me are essential. But some things don't need to be stirred up or used as an excuse to go back to people or situations that weren't working. It's not up to me to force contact, reunions, repentances, and the like. It's up to me to repent of my own wrongdoing, find my own closure, and be an example, living out principles of respect. Responsibility without authenticity doesn't work.