Sensitive: The Power of a Thoughtful Mind in an Overwhelming World

by Jenn Granneman, Andre Sólo

A ground-breaking look at the power of sensitivity to transform our relationships, career and life, from world-leading experts. Do you have a heightened sense of empathy? Do you often notice details that others ignore? Do you ever feel overwhelmed in a busy, loud environment? If you answered yes to any of those questions, chances are you're a 'highly sensitive person', along with one fifth of the population. Highly sensitive people exemplify our most humane traits. They embody not just emotional sensitivity - qualities like empathy, kindness, and concern for strangers - but physical sensitivity too, processing all information very deeply. Our modern loud and harsh world wasn't built for highly sensitive people, but their unique strengths make them inspiring leaders, heartfelt caretakers, careful decision-makers and natural-born artists. Sensitive will shatter the myth that being sensitive is a weakness and celebrate the power of a deeper, more tuned-in mind. Offering a new way of unlocking potential, it will give sensitives - and those who care about them - the tools to be successful in school, work, life and love. Based on more than twenty years of research in neuroscience, psychology, and human genetics, it will be the first book to explore the science of sensitivity. Sensitivity exists on a continuum and we're all sensitive to a degree. This book will reveal the power of embracing a soft heart in a harsh world and teach every sensitive to thrive.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Mental Health, Personal Development, Audiobook, Health

260 pages, Paperback

First published February 28, 2023

About the author

Jenn Granneman is on a mission: to let introverts everywhere know it’s okay to be who they are. She has advocated for introverts since 2013, when she created IntrovertDear.com, the popular online community and publication for introverts. For most of her life, she felt weird, different, and out of place because of her quiet ways; now, she writes about introversion because she doesn’t want other introverts to feel the way she did. Jenn lives in Minnesota, and no, she doesn't want to go out this weekend.

Reviews

[Catherine (alternativelytitledbooks) - still catching up! · Rating 3 out of 5]

**Many thanks to NetGalley, Harmony, and Jenn Granneman and Andre Solo for an ARC of this book!**

"Oh, please be careful with me
I'm sensitive and I'd like to stay that way"-Jewel

Jenn Granneman and Andre Solo unite to discuss the mental, physical, and emotional ramifications of being sensitive in an endlessly loud (and unrelenting) fast-paced world. While most people associate sensitivity strictly in terms of feeling too much, these authors take the time to explore the overall effect of being prone to sensitivity. One in three people actually fall into this category, so much like Cain's book on Introverts, these two hope to bring some 'normalcy' to being sensitive and the positive potential that sometimes lies dormant in discussions of this characteristic.

Sensitive people have 5 specific gifts including empathy, sensory intelligence, depth of processing, and depth of emotion. If those around the sensitive person are able to identify this trait and feed into it, the sensitive person's ability to think and feel so deeply can be a asset rather than a liability. Sensitive people also can become overstimulated easily, so it's essential that the sensitive person knows their own limits and holds to their own boundaries for optimal mental and physical health. Sensitive people are also susceptible to a boost effect, where any extra effort in terms of recognition, praise, etc. can help them to skyrocket past others in terms of success, whether in building relationships or a career.

These two authors just so happen to run an online community called "Sensitive Refuge" where many like minded sensitive folk can come to commiserate over shared experience...and I have to be honest, in some ways this book felt like a ploy just to get people to go check out their online presence. There are plenty of quotes and lived experience from their members throughout, which could be interesting but at times also felt a bit redundant and like filler. Many non fiction self help books utilize examples of famous people or famous stories to sell a point or make the topic relatable...but the amount of time these two spent talking about the sensitive side of Bruce Springsteen was a bit much for me personally. (I mean, at least they shared a quote where Bruce himself acknowledges he doesn't have much of a singing voice...but I took more from this admission than the sensitive backstory the authors shared! 🙈)

While I found this book to be informative overall, I think it also struggled in differentiating between sensitive people and empaths (at times) and since EVERYONE seems to classify themselves as an empath these days, I think this was a missed opportunity to draw a clear distinction between the two. I wanted to leave this read feeling empowered and knowing whether I could identify aspects of my sensitive nature to harness or reel in, but I think this book just tends to point to sensitives as feeling and thinking too much ALWAYS, and if that's the case, I'm not sure where I land.

I appreciate what these two sensitive authors were trying to do and there is plenty of interesting information here if you're willing to sift through it...however, I think at the end of the day I found I prefer the Quiet: or at least, Susan Cain's kind of Quiet.

3.5 stars

[Cari · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book made me feel seen. I've always known that I'm a highly sensitive person, but the quiz in the first chapter made me understand just how many of my behaviors are attached to that. Sensitivity is not just a mindset - it's part of living, whether it's from dealing with loud noises or absorbing other people's feelings. My son is also an HSP, and I am trying to make sure he grows up with support instead of falling prey to "the Toughness Myth," as the authors describe it. Since he is a boy, he will have to deal with that even more than I had to. This book is really important for both HSP and their loved ones. Being highly sensitive is not a hindrance--we have many strengths that keep us attuned to other people. We feel more deeply and sink into a creative flow more easily. While there were some sections I had to skim because I knew the content, some people will be exposed to it for the first time (mindfulness being key). Mindfulness has been a big part of my recovery from the Toughness Myth and with handling my depression and strong feelings.

[capnlagoon · Rating 2 out of 5]

Pros
- Good practical tips for combatting overstimulation, creating accommodations for yourself at home and at work, relationships and turning empathy to compassion
- Really interesting and comprehensive information on the concept of sensitive people, the neurological differences between sensitive people and others, and the role of DNA versus environment (turns out to be 47% and 53% respectively).
- Strong conclusion
- Overall, relatable, usable and refreshing. I am glad I read this book and I feel confident that the knowledge is has given me will help me better understand myself and make accommodations in my life to center my strengths and honor my needs.

Cons
- Felt a bit like a trek… somewhat long and arduous. I am unsure if this is due to being dense, or overwritten… but I do think the pacing is off because of wonky chapter organization and it was difficult to push through.
- Not all of the sections felt necessary for this book and I feel would have been better suited in a more narrowly-focused book, such as the section on raising sensitive kids. As a grown-up sensitive kid, it was vindicating to have it confirmed that I had different needs as a sensitive kid and they were not met and I was mistreated, so for that it was somewhat valuable to me.
- Seemed almost excessively and unevenly positive about high sensitivity and praising it as a superpower, which lost me a little bit and turned me off. Yet, I do understand why they chose to write the book this way, because they want to combat the prevalent and pervasive stigma of anti-sensitivity in popular culture.
- Some of the section on job crafting felt like “do more labor for the same amount of pay, trust me bro, you’ll love it” but maybe that’s just me.

My biggest issue…
This book does a poor and unconvincing job of differentiating between highly-sensitive people and autistic people. All of the described traits highly sensitive people (and especially highly sensitive children) have are common autistic traits. The accommodations they benefit from are the same accommodations autistic adults and children benefit from. I have so many annotations that were basically just “this is autism”, “how is this not autism”, and “say it’s anything but autism challenge impossible”. Yet, the authors swear they’re different, and the only real argument as to why (that I recall) comes down to certain patterns of activation in certain regions of the sensitive brain which were not observed in autistic brains. This is full of holes to me. How did they select which autistic brains to use? If I had to guess, it would be diagnosed autistic people, which tend to be autistic people who are more overtly/visibly and stereotypically autistic, which tend to be white men — so it is very possible that only one type of autistic brain is being compared here. That’s a problem because autism is a spectrum and manifests differently in different populations, and there is no (as far as I am aware) one autistic cognitive or neurological profile. That’s why it isn’t diagnosable via brain scan. Furthermore, do the authors have any real education on or knowledge of autism in adults, or are they operating off the knowledge most people have on autism — which is to say, very little and usually incorrect. I feel like there’s ableism possibly at play here as well.

[Elizabeth · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was really interesting. It gave both a personal and a research based approach. The book wasn’t too technical, making accessible to the lay reader. I learned a good bit about myself and how I approach the world and relationships in it that I had never realized came from being sensitive. I feel stronger after reading this book! I received a free advanced copy of this book from NetGalley.

[Mikala · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book made so much sense.

Chapter 6 WOW. Everything said here.

Takeaways:

I'm a person who constantly apologizes to others, or minimizes my feelings, with the caveat of being "too sensitive". I make myself small and put others feelings before my own and in the long run I end up alone and with out any true friends around me because I felt like I was "too sensitive", took things "too seriously", had "too many feelings" and it was my fault that I was just "too sensitive".

This read has come at a really important time in my life where I am in the midst of a personal soul shift in which I'm realizing that being "sensitive" isn't something to constantly apologize for or use as an excuse to let others have power over me. I'm realizing being sensitive is a gift and something that makes me an empathetic friend and listener and extremely attuned to the feelings of others. I care about how I made others feel and I also never forget how others made ME feel.

I truly feel like this book is finding me at a pivotal moment in my life and consciously helping me get to know myself better and realize that who I am is not something to apologize for.

[Millie Barrow · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book hit me hard.

I’ve always had an internal battle with myself being ‘too sensitive’. This in particular peaked when I started my art practice and discovered feminism. I’d have conversations with friends and often be told ‘You’re overreacting’, ‘You take everything so seriously and personally’, ‘It’s just a joke, calm down’ and I always listened to them, despite the discomfort it caused me which I’ve swallowed for years.

This book has helped me realise that that sensitive side of me, the part I’m coming to love most about myself is actually my super power. Just because I think deeply about the world and others, doesn’t mean I should be shamed for that. Surely that’s the goal for our community? To care and be compassionate for one another. Isn’t that what great leadership is and love?

This book has truly validated emotions I have been suppressing for years. I know I still have a lot of work to do to believe in my sensitive self, but this has given me the tools to start.

To all my friends who have been told ‘You’re overreacting’, we’re not. We’re just deep, compassionate thinkers in the world and that’s our super power 💜

[Karen Ng · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Sensitivity is defined as the ability to perceive, process, and respond deeply to one's environment. This ability happens at two levels: (1) perceiving information from the senses and (2) thinking about that information thoroughly or finding many connections between it and other other memories, knowledge, or ideas."

[Blossom Machado · Rating 2 out of 5]

If you're picking this up for yourself: you probably already know more about yourself than this can teach you. It's pretty corny and uses some anecdotal evidence to help readers relate to other sensitive people. Might make you feel "less alone," I guess. I think reading The Highly Sensitive Person, the book with the actual research on sensitivity, is more useful.

If you're reading this for someone else: you might gain some understanding of how sensitive people think. This could serve as a basis for understanding and communicating with your loved one. It has some checklists and stuff that might help.

Overall, kinda corny. Didn't love the way sensitivity was labeled a "superpower." I also didn't love that they just made claims that certain people are highly sensitive. Like, Jefferson?? Thomas Jefferson is a highly sensitive person?? Did he tell you that???

I'll give it a 2 because it might help other people, I guess. I think I'm just not a self-help girly.

[Abigail Moreshead · Rating 4 out of 5]

I didn't read this book cover-to-cover; I chose the chapters that seemed most relevant/interesting. Some of this was information I learned in Elaine Aron's much older book on the same topic, which I read portions of years ago, but it was still very empowering to read this and to gain a greater understanding of what it means to be an HSP (which I fit almost all the characteristics of, as listed in the book). The chapter on careers helped me understand that my high degree of sensitivity is one of the reasons why I have made the career choices I have, even if I did not understand that it was a factor at the time. Overall, this book feels very validating to those of us who need more time and space to process the world and who want to be valued for our depth and creativity rather than our ability to "keep up" with the rest of our "loud fast too-much world."

[Jen Brodehl · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 Stars- What an amazing and informative tribute to highly sensitive people. If you are sensitive or anyone you know and love is sensitive, this is a must read. It has so much valuable information and tips and tricks for those living with all kinds of sensitivities. I’m so happy I found this book, it so validating and resourceful!

[Aurimas Gudas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jenn Granneman ir Andre Sólo knyga „Jautrūs žmonės: kaip jautrumą paversti stiprybe“. Knygą parašė du jautrūs sutuoktiniai. Knyga skirta 3-jų skaitytojų kategorijoms: jautriems žmonėms, kurie jau žino arba nežino apie savo jautrumą ir nejautriems žmonėms, kad geriau suprastų jautriuosius. Apie jautrumą galima rašyti daug ir plačiai, bet pirmiausia reikia rašyti apie jautrumo privalumus, nes daugybė žmonių jautrumą laiko trūkumu, našta ar netgi prakeikimu. Pateikiu labiausiai patikusias ištraukas:
Žvelgdami į funkciniu magnetiniu rezonansu (fMRI) darytas nuotraukas, jie pastebi skirtumus jautrių žmonių smegenyse, o atlikdami mokslinius tyrimus išskiria jautrių žmonių elgesį bei galingus jautrumo pranašumus.
Aplenkęs laiką (Georgas Simmelis) tvirtino, kad žmonės turi ribotą kiekį psichikos energijos - dabar žinome, kad tai daugiau ar mažiau tiesa - ir dirgiklių kupina aplinka jos ryja gerokai daugiau.
Tiesą sakant, žodį jautrus net vertėtų pakeisti žodžiu reaguojantis. Jei esate jautrus, jūsų kūnas ir protas stipriau jaučia supantį pasaulį. Stipriau reaguojate į širdgėlą, skausmą ir netektį, bet taip pat ir į grožį, naujas idėjas bei džiaugsmą. Neriate gilyn ten, kur kiti pračiuožia paviršiumi. Nepaliaujate galvoti, nors kiti nuleidę rankas keliauja prie kitų reikalų.
Taigi jei dažnai panyrate j apmąstymus apie kokią nors idėją, įvykį ar patirtį, nors kiti jau seniausiai tai būna pamiršę, galbūt esate jautrus asmuo.
Kuo aukštesnis žmogaus IQ, tuo didesnė tikimybė, kad jis pasižymės ir itin jautriems asmenims būdingais bruožais.
Kitaip tariant, kuo jautresnis esate, tuo daugiau gaunate iš bet kokios patirties - tiek geros, tiek blogos - ir tai iš esmės priklauso nuo jūsų genų.
Psichoterapeutai tvirtina, kad bet kokio amžiaus jautrūs žmonės daro didesnę pažangą ir iš kiekvieno terapijos seanso pasisemia daugiau naudos. Suaugę jautrūs žmonės net gali būti atsparesni stresui nei mažiau jautrūs, nors atrodytų, kad turėtų būti priešingai.
Tad jautrūs žmonės turi potencialo itin stipriai paveikti pasaulį, jei tik išmoks, kaip efektyviai panaudoti savo empatiją.
Jautraus menininko įvaizdis neveltui tapo kliše: jis grįstas tiesa. Protas, pastebintis daugiau smulkmenų, mezgantis daugiau ryšių ir gyvai jaučiantis emocijas, - kone tobulai pritaikytas kūrybiškumui. Tai nereiškia, kad visi jautrūs žmonės yra kūrėjai, bet dauguma kūrėjų iš tiesų yra jautrūs žmonės - šitai gali patvirtinti bet kas, kam yra tekę su jais dirbti.
Šis kūrybiškumas nefunkcionuoja vienas. Jis paremtas trimis kitomis jautrumo nulemtomis dovanomis: jutiminiu intelektu, nuodugniu informacijos apdorojimu bei emocijų gilumu — būtent šie trys komponentai kartu sudaro kūrybišką protą.
Taigi visi turime tam tikrą dirginimo slenkstį ir visi siekiame, kad tas kibiras būtų pripildytas iki tam tikros optimalios ribos, kad dirgiklių nebūtų nei per mažai, nei per daug.
Jei kada esate pasakęs, kad jaučiatės perdegęs arba daugiau nebegalite, veikiausiai jau kurį laiką patiriate pernelyg stipru dirginimą. Nuovargis taip pat yra nuolatinio pernelyg stipraus dirginimo požymis: jeigu visada jaučiatės pavargę - net tada, kai pailsite, - gali būti, kad jūsų nervų sistema pertempta. Kaip sakoma, tai toks nuovargis, kurio net miegas neišvaiko.
Už humorą atsakinga prefrontalinė smegenų žievė, ta pati smegenų dalis, kurią veikia ir pernelyg stiprus dirginimas. Kitaip tariant, neįmanoma vienu metu juoktis iš pokšto ir įausti, kad visko darosi per daug.
Dėmesys - tai lyg šviesa, vienus dalykus apšviečianti, o kitus paliekanti tamsoje.
Pasak Snow, kai vengiame konflikto, kitas žmogus taip niekada ir negauna progos pažinti tikrojo jūsų. Artimieji taip ir nesužino, ką galvojate, kas jus trikdo ar kaip iš tiesų jaučiatės. Gal atrodo keista, bet konfliktai iš tiesų santykius stiprina, nes išmokstame spręsti problemas ir palaikyti vienas kitą sudėtingomis akimirkomis.
„Narcizai ar toksiški žmonės puikiai moka priversti mus abejoti savimi ir savo nuojauta, — perspėja Martin.
Nemažai daliai jautrių žmonių puikiai sekasi su globa susiję darbai, pavyzdžiui, psichoterapeuto, mokytojo, gydytojo, slaugytojo, dvasininko, vaikų ar senelių globėjo, masažuotojo arba koučerio.
Jautriems žmonėms puikiai sekasi ir su kūryba susijusios profesijos, pavyzdžiui, rašymas, muzika ar menai.
Elaine Aron, tyrėja, sukūrusi terminą itin jautrus asmuo, teigia: „jūs gimėte būti tarp patarėjų ir mąstytojų, dvasinių ir moralinių mūsų visuomenės vedlių. Todėl tikrai turite kuo didžiuotis.“

[Courtney]

I think I unconsciously had high expectations for this book. I didn’t learn anything new. It just felt flat. I’m a big fan of Sensitive Refuge and both authors seem absolutely lovely. I can’t let myself give it a bad rating.

[Andrea · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book describes me perfectly! It helped me understand why I am the way I am. This book enabled me to see the advantages of being sensitive instead of viewing it as a shortcoming. I also appreciated all of the practical suggestions and advice in the book. Highly recommend!

[Madalina Marinescu · Rating 3 out of 5]

"Sensitive" este o pledoarie pentru "perfecțiunea" hipersensibililor.

Probabil e o carte bună pentru cei din proximitatea persoanelor hipersensibile, aducând lumină în modul de funcționare a acestora. Dar dacă te numeri printre cei sensibili, mai mult ca sigur nu îți va aduce multe informații noi, doar unele confirmări ale unor trăiri sau comportamente.

Minusul cel mai mare al cărții, din punctul meu de vedere, e supra-aprecierea persoanelor hipersensibile (HSP). Într-adevăr, există multe avantaje şi un potențial imens în spatele acestor trăsături, dar din păcate, nu toate caracteristicile sunt la fel de plăcute, nici pentru persoanele în cauză, nici pentru cei din jurul lor. Chiar dacă miza cărții e aceea de a destigmatiza persoanele sensibile, se creează un dezechilibru care nu face bine nimănui.

Mi-au plăcut mult incursiunile în genetică şi epigenetică, precum şi capitolul despre creşterea copiilor hipersensibili — probabil cel mai reconfortant şi cel care a oferit cea mai multă validare.

[Caro Cárdenas Castro · Rating 5 out of 5]

Soy una persona altamente sensible y este libro me ha ayudado a reconocerlo y abrazar ese ser que soy.
Me siento más fuerte al entender cómo mis diferencias me han hecho poderosa en mis diferentes roles.
Un libro recomendadísimo para aquellos que han sido etiquetados como sensibles, para personas interesadas en aprender más sobre otros con sensibilidad emocional y para psicólogos que quieren mejorar en su entendimiento de personas con reacciones emocionales más intensas de lo habitual.

[Jim · Rating 4 out of 5]

I told my friend who works with psychologists that I was reading a book about Highly Sensitive People, and he said he thinks the way we categorize people is wrong, lol. While HSP may not be a medical diagnosis, I found this book super insightful for seeing my sensitivity as strength. Throughout my life, I have felt too sensitive for this world, but Sensitive helped me understand, in the right setting, I can really thrive as a sensitive person. And hey, considering in which setting a person thrives may be a helpful consideration for all people, not only HSPs.

[Brianna Schwartz · Rating 4 out of 5]

I felt so heard by these authors. I can't count the amount of times that people have said I'm sensitive, in different ways. And with it came a level of shame.

But this book normalizes high sensitivity; 1 in 3 people have varying levels of sensitivity.

I learned that it's genetic (checks out, father) and with some tools, can be your greatest strength. Definitely gives me a lot to think about.

[Tara Cignarella · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sensative by Jenn Granneman and Andre Solo
Overall Grade: B
Writing: A-
Details and explanations: B+
Coverage of the main topic: B
Best Aspect: Some super great section about embracing yourself and others for who they are naturally.
Worst Aspect: Too much filler as I have found in so many self-help type books

[KDV · Rating 4 out of 5]

Validating!

[Mehtap exotiquetv · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jenn Grannemans Buch "Sensitive" ist eine faszinierende und hilfreiche Lektüre für alle, die herausfinden möchten, ob sie selbst ein sensibler Mensch sind und was Hochsensibilität eigentlich bedeutet. Die Autorin beschreibt einfühlsam, welche Kriterien sensible Menschen ausmachen und wie sie sich in verschiedenen Lebensbereichen – sei es im Beruf, in Beziehungen oder in der Erziehung –zeigen kann.

Besonders wertvoll sind die zahlreichen praxisnahen Tipps, die helfen, mit emotionaler und körperlicher Überforderung umzugehen.Granneman vermittelt Strategien, um besser mit intensiven Gefühlen und äußeren Reizen zurechtzukommen, ohne die eigene Sensibilität als Schwäche zu sehen. Stattdessen ermutigt sie dazu, die eigene Sensibilität als Stärke anzuerkennen und bewusst in den Alltag zu integrieren.

Das Buch ist leicht verständlich geschrieben und enthält viele Beispiele aus dem echten Leben, die es noch greifbarer machen. Egal, ob man selbst hochsensibel ist oder Menschen im Umfeld hat, die es sind.Sensitive ist eine absolute Leseempfehlung für alle, die sich mit dem Thema Sensibilität und emotionales Wohlbefinden auseinandersetzen möchten.

[Laina Johnston · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was good. ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain is still my favorite book relating to the topic of sensitivity but there is still valuable information in this book as well.

[Amie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting and on point, but I didn’t learn many new facts

[Walter Gallo · Rating 3 out of 5]

⭑ ⭑ ⭑ (3 estrellas)

“Sensitive” (en castellano “Altamente Sensible”) de Jenn Grannemann y Andre Sólo ofrece una mirada introspectiva sobre lo que significa ser una persona altamente sensible en un mundo que a menudo valora la dureza por encima de la empatía. El libro proporciona ejemplos claros y personales que pueden resonar profundamente con los lectores que se identifican como sensibles. Los autores hacen un buen trabajo al destacar la importancia de la sensibilidad como una fortaleza, y no como una debilidad, y cómo esta puede ser cultivada para mejorar las relaciones y la vida diaria.

Sin embargo, a lo largo del libro, me encontré con que algunos puntos se repetían con demasiada frecuencia, lo que hacía que ciertas secciones se sintieran un tanto monótonas. La insistencia en la misma idea, a veces sin una nueva perspectiva o profundidad adicional, puede hacer que el lector sienta que el material es redundante. Aunque la intención es reforzar la importancia de la sensibilidad, esto podría haberse logrado con un enfoque más variado y dinámico.

En algunos momentos, el enfoque del libro me pareció demasiado simplón, quizás por la falta de complejidad en algunos argumentos o por tratar ciertos conceptos de manera superficial. A pesar de estos aspectos, “Sensitive” sigue siendo una lectura accesible e inspiradora para aquellos que buscan comprender mejor esta cualidad y encontrar formas de aceptarla y celebrarla en su vida cotidiana.

[Lindie ✦ · Rating 4 out of 5]

I feel seen tysm

[Josh · Rating 4 out of 5]

Fantastic book. Even if you are not an overly sensitive person yourself, Sensitive will provide you with better awareness of the issues that sensitive people in your life face and provides a number of tools and resources to help them thrive amidst the challenges of everyday life.

[Hanne · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've known for a while that I'm highly sensitive. I get easily overwhelmed by auditive and visual stimuli.I can't stand certain fabrics because they feel wrong. I leave a meeting very nervous because the energy was nervous and not because I have any reason to be. I look away with so many movies or series, can't handle anything scary, have never been able to watch the news, and even with many fiction books and movies i cry my eyes out feeling every scene into every single bone in my body (holding the number one spot for many years now: "breaking the waves").

But I never connected this to many of my other traits, both my obstacles and my core strengths, this until my coach pointed some of them out, and I subsequently read this book.

I especially like how it wants people to embrace this, not as an obstacle but as a strength that you just have to learn how to manage.

I might need to read it a few times more until it really hits me, but it's all building and connecting.

[Jane Morrison · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really helped me embrace sensitivity and reframed how I see my personality! I wish I'd read this sooner.

Parents, leaders, managers, friends and partners (not just sensitive people themselves) will probably gain a lot from this book. If 1/3 people are highly sensitive, that's a lot of people in our lives. Its long past time that we shifted to a society that celebrates diversity rather than trying to make everyone the same.

The only thing I'd have liked to know a bit more about is the intersections with existing oppressions. There is some light mentions on neurodiversity, gender etc but I would have liked more.

[Stephanie Liebhart · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this as a non-sensitive person to better understand the sensitive people in my life. I appreciate the simple language and writing style. They often say "all sensitive people are different" and then go on to give advice for all sensitive people, which, of course, is difficult to do since everyone is different. That being said, I enjoyed reading about the experiences of sensitive people in many areas of life (relationships, work, leadership, parenting) and understand the effort to make sensitivity a super power. I know the sensitive people in my life often struggle to view it that way, but I value it and wish I had a bit more, especially after reading this book.

[katie · Rating 4 out of 5]

arc kindly sent to me by viking books.
- This is one of those books that i wish i had read sooner, it was so insightful and made me feel seen and understood in every chapter. Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo did an amazing job at explaining sensitivity to people who aren’t necessary sensitive. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Elise · Rating 3 out of 5]

As an HSP, I've already read the seminal works on this topic. Sensitive is interesting and a quick read, but I don't think I learned anything new on the topic.