The Story of You: And How to Create a New One

by Steve Chandler

In the tradition of Stephen R. Covey's The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People, and M. Scott Peck's The Road Less Traveled, motivational speaker and author Steve Chandler's personal growth gem transcends all categories to impact psychology, business, self-help, and contemporary social commentary. For the first time in history, readers have a definitive book on what keeps them from succeeding. Chandler breaks new ground with his startling revelations and fresh interpretations about people as diverse as: Elvis Presley, Van Gogh, Governor Bill Richardson, actor Tyrese Gibson, Dr. Andrew Weil, Hugh Hefner, Mark Twain, and the biblical character Lazarus. By exposing people's stories as the most false and limiting part of their lives, Chandler invites you into a new world of action and creative accomplishment.

Read by the author.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Business, Psychology, Audiobook, Philosophy, Personal Development

Audio CD

First published August 1, 2006

About the author

(Arabic: ستيف تشاندلر)
Steve Chandler, bestselling author of 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself, Time Warrior and 30 other books, is known as America's notoriously unorthodox personal growth guru. He has helped thousands of people transform their lives and businesses.

Steve invites you to join his inner circle, the Wealth Warrior Movement, whose sole focus is supporting you in creating greater prosperity for yourself. Join by visiting and you will receive prosperity-building messages from Steve three times a week, each and every week, as well as monthly webinars by Steve, books by Steve and the members-only CREATING WEALTH Audio Series.

And... Steve's NEWEST book Wealth Warrior will go out to all members of the Wealth Warrior Movement when it's published in September 2012.

Reviews

[Mohammed Alsaleh · Rating 5 out of 5]

هذا الكتاب .. هو من أروع الكتب التي قرأتها في حياتي
أنصح بوضعه أمامك .. تعيده كل عام مرة .. ففيه إلهام رائع للعمل والطموح والمثابرة والاجتهاد .. يبث فيك أشياء رائعة ويضع عينك على لفتات غريبة وعجيبة .. ويسرد قصص قمة في العطاء والتضحية ..
هو من أحب الكتب لقلبي .. قرأته مرة وهو في الرف لأعيد قراءته مرة أخرى .. بحول الله هذا العام ..

ستيف تشالندر .. كاتب استطاع أن يزرع في شخصه الكثير حتى كتب هذا الكتاب .. كانت له مسيرة نجاح أنموذج بالصبر والمصابرة والكد والكفاح حتى وصل لما وصل إليه فأصبح من أفضل المحاضرين عن النجاح في العالم بل وكتبه تباع بملايين النسخ ..

الكتاب يحكي عن كيفية كتابة قصة حياة جديدة لك .. كل إنسان يريد أن يكتب قصة حياته وفق ما يشتهي .. والقليل منا من يطبق ذلك ..

أنصح بقراءته بشدة .. الكتاب لم أجد له عرض في الترجمة الخاصة به .. لكنه يباع مترجم للعلم

[Chad Bunch · Rating 4 out of 5]

A pretty good work of inspiration. I like the fact that Mr. Chandler is very straightforward and does not sugar-coat anything. I also picked up an incredible piece of advice that has helped me in my pursuit of becoming a full-time author. This advice will motivate me every single day of the year.

[Noha Al-Yahya · Rating 5 out of 5]

من الكتب التي يجب ان تكون جاهزة على الرف لإعادة قراءتها كل عام
يخرج عقلي من حالات الجمود التي تصيبه
ويمنحني التفاؤل مهما كنت أعاني الكثير

[Lizzy Toth · Rating 2 out of 5]

I’m sure the author is a great motivational speaker, but this read like an absurdly long motivational speech. Moral of the book... “If you have a problem... fix it.”

[Heba · Rating 1 out of 5]

ليس سيئاً :)
قرأت سابقاً كتاب "100 طريقة لتحفيز ذاتك" للمؤلف ذاته
أعجبني جداً بوقتها ..
لا أعلم هل كان مستوى الكتاب أعلى من هذا
أم أن ذائقتي الأدبية تغيرت

احتفظت منه باقتباس أعجبني :

لا تسأل نفسك عما يحتاج إلأيه العالم
بل سل نفسك
عما يضخُّ فيك الحياة
ثم اشرع في القيام به
لأن ما يحتاجه العالم
هو أشخاص تدب فيهم الحياة

[April · Rating 5 out of 5]

The writing is simple and straightforward and there's important information here for those who want to make changes in their lives but think they can't do it--or have struggled already to make changes. But it's only because of the stories they have about themselves that they keep telling themselves. When you change your story of what's possible for you and what has happened to you in the past, you change what's possible for you to do and be now and in the future.

I learned about this author from The Life Coach School and Brooke Castillo. I want to read other books of his but my local library only had this one.

Book coincidences:
- Death of a Salesman is mentioned in this book as well as in another book I’m concurrently reading called Passion & Reason.

“Maybe it’s in the pain and struggle that we humans grow the most.” pg. 13

“Start saying, now, ‘TRUE STORY: Who I am is more than enough!’ Finish your session by saying, ‘That’s my new story, and my life is about making it true in this present moment.’” pg. 22

“In other words, don’t have ‘disorganized’ be a part of my bad story. Just figure out what will serve the actions I want to take. There’s no story at all in that.” pg. 23

“It served that part of you that wanted an excuse. Stories always serve some part of us. We think we need our alibis. But it’s up to us to find out if they are serving the weak part or the strong part.” pg. 30

“Right now, he wants to portray himself as a victim of things that happen to him. He wants to say to me that life has happened to him.
But if I’m to work with him at all, I must return him to the source of his power. I can’t have him not see the stories he’s telling. Because once he sees the stories and their power to limit him, he can tell new ones. We communicate our value through stories, not through claims or sales pitches, but through stories. Mack couldn’t see that. He would make up a story, such as the one about 9/11, and then tell it as if it were the truth.
But, it was just a story.” pg. 31

“The stories say more about the teller’s internal fears and hurts than they do about external behavior. We project these stories out onto the world and make the world reflect the inner feeling.
Stories alter external reality to fit our preexisting beliefs.” pg. 32

“What do we now really have the power to do?
Let’s start here, then: we do what we believe we can do.
Isn’t that right?
Don’t we wake up each day and do what we believe is possible to do? If we didn’t think it was possible, why would we waste time doing it? Or even thinking about doing it? If I don’t believe it’s possible for me to play for the Phoenix Suns, I’m not going to pencil in a try-out on my daily calendar. I’m not even going to think about it. We simply ignore things we don’t think are possible.
So Step One in the failure of the human being to achieve his or her potential is that the human being only does what he believes he can do.
Failure Step Two is this: we only believe we can do what we’ve done before.
Is that not true? How else do I really believe I can do something? The surest and most common way is to remember that I have done it before. So I say to myself, ‘I can do this. I’ve done this before.’
But this grim two-step doesn’t leave much room for growth. If I only do what I believe I can do—and I only believe I can do what I’ve done before—then I’m kind of stuck, aren’t I? My only possibilities for today are to do what I’ve done before. Isn’t that why most people keep repeating their habits, day after day after day? They find their wheel. They get on it. And go around.” pg. 36-37

“Underneath each lie and motivating each lie was this one: ‘I am powerless.’ Because we are not. Because the story can always also be ‘I am powerful beyond belief.’ Just as the lawyer Marianne found out.
And that’s the key: to learn to get beyond belief. To go to that place inside that exists beyond belief. Because it is belief that is stifling the power that wants to express itself. The whole point of calling my client a liar was to get him to go beyond his belief. To get to that storyless place that all creative energy comes from.” pg. 40

“Instead, we almost always draw conclusions about ourselves when things go wrong and spin a tale around those conclusions so that we end up living inside a truly painful story.” pg. 42

“People love to be inspired. In fact they wake up every day secretly, subconsciously yearning to be inspired by someone. They hope someone will come along who will wake them out of their cynical stupor, their depressingly bad dream that keeps asking them, ‘Is this all there is to life? Is this really as good as it gets?’” pg. 58

“How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were? What if some quirk erased all your memory and dropped you in a little town on another continent to live? You had all your faculties, and you could start a new life. You just wouldn’t know how old you were, or have a past to live up to (or be depressed about). How old would you be then?
Do you have an answer to that question? . . .
You can’t be old unless you have a story about how old you are. . .
So if you didn’t ‘know’ how old you were, how old would you be?” pg. 70-71

“I reminded Francis (because we had talked many times before) that ‘crisis’ was a perception and, therefore, his choice. He can perceive and describe things any way he wants, and to choose the most catastrophic and alarming, self-victimized language only disempowers him at a time when power is what he needs. The word crisis only makes him weak in the face of the ‘crisis.’ At that moment Francis needed to be strong. Even stronger than usual.” pg. 74

“He was cruel, but honest, in his response. He said that if you’re not writing, it’s simply because you don’t want to write. There are things you are doing that you’d rather do. And if you don’t want to write, why bother with time management anyway? Why bother with a writer’s workshop, even? When you have something in your life you really want to do, you don’t have to ‘find’ time, because you’ll already have made time. You’re already doing it.” pg. 81-82

“Time is not the problem. Focused intention is the problem. Desire is the problem. High levels of desire generate focus and commitment and soon people are making time for their project. . .
So I just sat there in that writer’s workshop listening to Lawrence Block tell us that, if we weren’t finding enough time to write, it meant we didn’t want to write. I reminded myself that this is true of anything I want to do. I want to remind myself every day (every day!) that time is made, not found. (It’s always available.)” pg. 83

“GO TEAM!: Play for me. Live for me. Add to my story!
Sports are fun. For me, they are one of the great joys in life. And I do have teams I cheer for, including my beloved Arizona Wildcats. But it’s important that I don’t start confusing things. That I don’t try to enhance my own identity by leeching success from the team. Being a fan is fun when I know how to keep it playful. It’s a game, I remind myself. Just a game. The real danger of confusion comes from making the outcomes of the games important to my story, and then of making my story important to my happiness.” pg. 89

“It would be great if we could plant a chip in everyone’s head (and maybe in the future we will) that sends the brain a simple message each morning when people wake up and go out into the world.
The message would say, ‘You’re already enough.’
It would mean that people could be confident of their power. They could reach deep inside for what they needed and know that they always had enough in there to get the job done.
The chip would not only give them confidence, it would lead them to more and more growth. They would enjoy the fun of increasing their skills and depth, because the chip would ground them every day in a starting block that says they’re already enough. They would be certain that they had access to enough resources inside them for anything and everything important.
This chip would be a breakthrough, because most people don’t start from that place. In fact, most people I know and work with start from ‘I’m not enough.’” pg. 91-92

“There is power beyond the story. If we can step outside our stories and perform for people, we accelerate our success.” pg. 104

“He had discovered a great law of human action, without knowing it—namely, that ‘in order to make a man or boy covet a thing, it is only necessary to make the thing difficult to attain.’ At that point, Mark Twain adds his own observation: ‘Work consists of whatever a body is obliged to do, and Play consists of whatever a body is not obliged to do.’” pg. 117-118

“Pleasure was the ego seeking instant gratification. Pleasure was the second piece of chocolate cake. Happiness, on the other hand, was walking down the lane 2 pounds lighter and feeling more energy because of the new program of exercise and healthy food. That was happiness. Pleasure was the extra cake being chewed up in the mouth. That was pleasure. Happiness was often the feeling of being lighter and more in control of your life force.
Whereas pleasure did not last. And pleasure was worse than that. Not only did pleasure not last, it did something even more upsetting. It turned itself around. It turned itself inside out, like one of those reversible hand puppets that are angels on the one side and devils on the other. Because what is happening to me now? I am only an hour past the eating of the cake, and I am feeling a little sick! A little bloated! Where’s the pleasure? It was the best Devil’s food cake ever! Why can’t I still enjoy it? What kind of a cruel joke does pleasure play on me? Not only am I not feeling pleasant about having eaten the cake, I am feeling downright bad about it. I am angry with myself. I am disgusted.” pg. 129-130

“‘You have put your head into your book, but not your heart. You have not only put your head in it, but you have put your fast-forward, greed-head into it. You are racing forward to the future sales of the book with no care for the poor reader. There is no gift for the reader if you do this so fast, as part of your rush-rush life of multitasking and enforced busy-ness and a longing to live in your own future.’” pg. 154

“We have no idea how much we create in each present moment. Because we don’t see it with our instant-gratification eyes, we don’t think anything is happening.” pg. 155

“Drugs rob from the future to deliver a false rush to the present. Not a good investment.” pg. 160

“Matt Furey continued by saying, ‘The purpose of exercise is to increase awareness of your thoughts—and of your feelings—and of how you look, move, stretch, and so on. Those who follow what I’m talking about KNOW that you can eliminate and banish fear via exercise, not to mention depression and a host of other negatives.’” pg. 168

“Ralph Waldo Emerson. . .said, ‘It is easy to live for others; everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.’” pg. 170

“‘The message of the Angel of Death was not that death is imminent or that death is fearsome,’ he said. ‘The message was this: Don’t waste your time. You will die eventually, but death is not that scary. What is scary is to waste your life.’” pg. 175

“They haven’t decided who they are!
‘They haven’t sunk a lot of psychological capital into a particular self,’ says Lewis. ‘When a technology comes along that rewards people who are willing to chuck overboard their old selves for new ones—and it isn’t just the Internet that does this; biotechnology offers many promising self-altering possibilities—the people who aren’t much invested in their old selves have an edge.’
The people most willing to chuck overboard their old selves for new ones are young people.” pg. 176

“Many people realized after that that money was just paper. It was not wealth itself, but just a symbol for wealth. Falling in love with money was, as Alan Watts said, ‘like falling in love with an inch.’ You are loving a symbol of measurement, but nothing real. Just a story.” pg. 182

“Only the story of you gets in the way. Because the story of you tries to preserve your self-importance. And that self-importance always has you being hurt by others. Always.” pg. 193

“Most of us do the opposite. We want to know our strengths so we can relax in them. Hide out in them. That’s why it’s really true that what you’re good at is exactly what is keeping you from being great.” pg. 201

“Five stages [of mastery], each one feeling much better than the one before it. So how do I progress through these stages? The answer is this: by doing the hard part. The more I do something, the more I like it. It’s also true that the more I like something, the more I do it—they’re both true, but it doesn’t matter which you put first. One will always lead to the other. Doing leads to liking, and liking leads to doing (which leads to liking, which leads to more doing).” pg. 202

“When you, yourself, are not enough, nothing else is enough.” pg. 209

“Money doesn’t convert to happiness. In fact, it can be the very thing that makes happiness feel unreachable. Because it can take away the incentive to make a big effort. It can make it feel unnecessary to take a heroic journey. The hero’s journey is then replaced by trying to buy pleasure to cover the void.” pg. 209

“Because one option, if the story isn’t making you happy, is to keep trying to add to the story. Add travel. Try to collect experiences and accumulate postcard moments all over the world. (Would travel have the same value for you if you weren’t allowed to tell people about it? You can go anywhere you want but you can’t say where you’ve been.) Or adding objects—some people add art objects to their story; some people buy companies to add to their story. Some buy cars and then make sure other people see them in those cars.” pg. 209-210

Book: borrowed from SSF Main Library.

[BUDOOR · Rating 4 out of 5]

خلاصة الكتاب بأنك تستطيع أن تكون ما تريد بأي لحظة بمجرد تخليك عن قصتك التي تضعها لنفسك وتضعفك.كتاب مميز وقصير جداً، حتى أنني أعرته لصديقة يوماً دون سياسة الإرجاع وإشتقت له فأعدت شراءه بعد حين. من الجميل جداً، العودة له لطاقته المحفزة وفلسفته اللطيفة.

[Zainah Aljishi · Rating 5 out of 5]

اوقعني هذا الكتاب في حبه ! كالصديق الوفي اجده حين احتاجه قد تكون كلماته حاده لكنها صادقه وفعاله في نفسي ..خمس نجوم بجداره

[Sumaia · Rating 3 out of 5]

قراءة سريعة. أغلب المعلومات مكررة ومرت علي من قبل. الترجمة ركيكة في بعض الأحيان
فكرة الكتاب أنه أنت بخياراتك وقراراتك تكتب قصتك الشخصية وليس الآخرين

مقتطفات من الكتاب

- في كل مشكلة تسير شوف الجانب الايجابي فيها وكيف ممكن تستفيد منها وتحولها لصالحك- أنا من يكتب القصة
- في العادة اما نجرب أشياء جربناها من قبل أو أشيء تعتقدي انك تقدري تسويها - سوي شيء جديد وجرب
- تغلب على الصوت الداخلي اللي يقول انك ماتقدر
- شوف الكبر في العمر بطريقة أخرى - الأشجار والجبن كلما زاد عمرهم كلما زادت قيمتهم -وزادت الحكمة
- الوقت يتم تنظيمه وليس ايجاده -الوقت متاح على الدوام - إذا لم نجد الوقت الكافي للكتابة فهذا يعني أننا لا نريد أن نكتب
- كي تصبح بارعا في جمع التبرعات فعليك أن تظهر بمظهر المؤازر للمتبرع وتعينه على ادراك حلمه أن يحدث تغييرا في هذا العالم
- المتعة لحظية وتجلب الألم أما السعادة تجلب المزيد من السعادة
- يجب أن أعمل كي أبقى دائما في حالة نشطة
- عندما تكتب كتابا ركز على جودة الكتاب أكثر من تركيزك على التسويق له
- النجاح والفشل ممكن يبطئان من تطور المرء -النجاح بسبب الغرور والاعتقاد بأنك وصلت للمطلوب
- عندما تدرب الجسد فإنك تدرب العقل في نفس الوقت
- نوكيا ودراستها لسوق الشباب
- اخرج من لعب دور الضحية في قصتك
- بيل جيتس واستفادته من شكاوى العملاء في تطوير الشركة والبرمجيات

[Moniqa · Rating 1 out of 5]

When I started this, my first thought was, "Some authors shouldn't read their own audiobooks," and 5 minutes later, "Nor write them." I made it through two chapters. The smug, self-aggrandizing tone, especially in response to other people's struggles, and endless tautologies make this title an exemplar of why people hate the entire genre of self-help. The premise that everything we think we experience in the world is a fictional story in our minds would have been suitable for a blog post, not a 5-hour-long audiobook. At 1.5x speed, though, the book may have value for anyone struggling to fall asleep.

[Natasia Angel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Your story is not you. Whatever people tell you about who you are, you can change it. Hell. Whatever you tell yourself everyday, you can change it around.

Thank you, Steve Chandler, for the encouraging words. I also want to thank my aunt, who has always shared great books & knowledge since I was in primary school.

This is not the usual book I read. I was quite skeptic about the format because I didn't know whether short chapters are really working. But it did. It was fun & easy to read.

[Chrissie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think there's some good advice in here for anyone and everyone. It may not ALL resonate, but some of it will. I'm not a big fan of sports, and there was several sport-related stories and metaphors. However, I'm glad I read it!

The stories you tell yourself, even if they are "facts and true" can change your life. So craft your stories carefully.

[mmmm · Rating 3 out of 5]

I laughed aloud several times reading this book; he's an engaging writer. Because I'm kind of obsessed with the idea of personal story, I found this book interesting despite being hardly unique in the literature. It's worth a read if you like this kind of thing.

[Amanda Baskin · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book I'll have to add to my top 20 life-changing perspective-shifting books.

[Gabriela Bazan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Tons of great stuff

[Nadya Ichinomiya · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it! Found a ton of value that is useful for my work.

[Santhi · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book title intrigued me to read it. I love the idea that the power of the story we tell ourselves about ourselves that defines our path.

[Liquidlasagna · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would say that this book could be considered Leo Buscaglia without the sugarcoating

[Darlene Deffes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a good book and so true. I have read this book several times and will reread it several more times. I respect his honesty and forthrightness. He's human too.

[Mervat Eissa · Rating 4 out of 5]

من اروع كتب ال
self development
اللي قريتها في حياتي
....
فعلا كما كتب عنه "كتاب قصة حياتك : سيؤثر عليك تأثيرا ساحرا نازعا القيود المصطنعة التي يطلب منا المجتمع الايمان بها ليمنحك قصة حياة جديدة تماما"
.
الكتاب ملئ بالفصول التي لا يجب ان يفوت قراءتها اي انسان يرغب في قصة جديدة لحياته!!

"ان الكبار دائما ما يكون لديهم شعور بالاهمبة والغرور انهم لا يريدون ان يعترفوا بانهم لا يعرفون كل شئ وتعتمد قصتهم علي انهم قد تعلموا بالفعل كل ما هو مهم!!!!الفصل الاول "اين تعلمت قصتك؟
"
"الجحيم اخف ضراوة من امراءة تشعر بالاحتقار "الفصل الاول "اين تعلمت قصتك؟

الفوضي هي اسمي اشكال النظام, انها نظام في شكل اكثر تعقيدا من النظام اليومي العادي الذي نعرفه...انا غير مضطر لجعل صفة غير منظم جزء من قصتي "الفصل الثاني:الفوضي اسمي اشكال النظام


ان القصص تغير الواقع الخارجي ليتناسب مع معقداتنا المسبقة. الفصل الثالث "هل انت قصة يرويها احمق؟

اذا سمعت صوتا يعلو داخلك قائلا انا لست رساما فارسم بكل الوسائل المتاحة وسينخرس ذلك الصوت" فان جوخ الفصل الرابع :اخرس الصوت الذي في راسك"

انني شجاع وجرئ ولا اخشي الخسارة بل انني اسخر من الهزيمة" ان هذا في استطاعتنا ولكن نادرا ما نفعله: الفصل الخامس: تحديد سقف نجاحك

عندما يشعر الناس بالاثارة فانهم يحققون النجاح في حياتهم " والتر كرايسلر ....الاثارة عبارة عن ظاهرة داخلية تبدا من الداخل وليس من الخارج : الفصل السادسما السر الحقيقي للنجاح؟

احيانا اجهش بالبكاء وانا اشاهد فيلما..لماذا ابكي؟ انني ابكي لانني حزين..علي حياتي الضائعة حياة اهدرت في الاشفاق علي الذات وكان من الممكن ان تكون حياة ممتلئة بالاعمال الرائعة. الفصل السابع: جرعة من الالهام اللذيذ

لم يفت الاوان بعد كي تصبح ما تتمناه" جورج اليوت : الفصل الثامن" قصة التقدم في العمر

العقبات تدعم المسيرة : الفصل التاسع: حول قصتك الي شعلة متقدة

الوقت يتم تنظيمه وليس ايجاده..الوقت ليس هو المشكلة ولكن التركيز هو المشكلة..ان الخط العظيم الفاصل بين النجاح والفشل يمكن التعبير عنه بخمس كلمات "لم يكن لدي اي وقت" الفصل العاشر: هل هناك وقت لتحقيق هذا الانجاز؟

ان افدح الحماقات ثمنا هي الايمان الشديد بالاوهام علي جلائها الفصل الحادي عشر: هجمة مجملي السيرة الذاتية

التمييز ليس الا قصة سلبية اراد بعض الناس ان يعطوا لانفسهم احساسا بالتمييز من خلالها فانهم يعتقدون ان التقليل من شان قصة شخص اخر يعزز من قوة قصتهم: الفصل الثاني عشر : قوة خلق الوعي

ان لم يكن الامر ممتعا فلن تبرع فيه: الفصل الثالث عشر: قصة الاخذ والعطاء

المتعة هي الاشباع اللحظي الذي تنشده الانا..اما السعادة فهي غالبا ذلك الشعور بانك اخف وزنا واكثر سيطرة علي حيويتك..لو ان الناس قدروا الفارق بين المتعة والسعادة لتجنبوا كثير من الالم: الفصل الرابع عشر : اختيارك:المتعة ام السعادة

الطريق هو الهدف: الفصل الخامس عشر هل تحبه حتي الموت؟

لقد خلقنا لكي ننفخ في حياة بعضنا البعض : الفصل السادس عشر : القصص التي نرويها لارضاء الاخرين

اذا اهملت الارادة فانها تغوص ف اعماق روحك لدرجة اننننها تخرج منك مشوهة الفصل السابع عشر: ما مصدر قوة ارادتنا


ليس هناك نجاح مثل الفشل............ممثل كوميدي ف افتتاح مسرحيته" هل تدرون من الاشخاص الذين لا اطيقهم حقا؟ من الذين اكرههم : الاخرين!..............لا تعش من اجل الاخرين! الفصل ال ثامن عشر: النجاح والفشل يبطئان من تطور المرء

الاطفال يتمتعون بميزة تكنولوجيةعن البالغين.انهم لم يقرروا بعد اتجاههم..من لا يسمع الموسيقي يظن الراقص مخبولا ..الفصل التاسع عش قصة غير مكتملة

كل شخص مهم بالفعل دون اختلاق قصة الاهمية الذاتية لدي الاخرين... الفصل العشرون كيف تنهي قصتك؟

نحن مخلوقات سامية تمتلك خبرة انسانية ....الفصل الحادي والعشرون : الان سنحاول صنع المستحيل



عندما تتنامي القوة الحقيقية للانسان وتتسع معرفته
يزداد الطريق الذي يمكن ان يتبعه ضيقا
حتي انهلا يختار شيئا ف النهاية
لكنه يفعل كل ما يتوجب
عليه فعله فحسب

[Clayton Bray · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a must read for adults.

[Adrian Lee · Rating 3 out of 5]

The whole book revolves around "stories" created by ourselves. It's about perception. How we perceive something really matters. Perhaps those who study Organizational Behavior already be familiar with this. Besides, it provides some different viewpoints. Sometimes we just need to think out of the box, be it everything, every problem that we encounter every day.

More than often, we've came across some people who are complaining about their "stories", the fact that makes them look pitiful is no one is going to hear their "victim" stories. Well, there is one paragraph in the book which I found match this type of people, it says:

"I reminded Francis that "crisis" was a perception and, therefore, his choice. He can perceive and describe things any way he wants, and to choose the most catastrophic and alarming, self-victimized language only to disempower him at a time when power is what he needs. The word crisis only makes him weak in the face of the "crisis". At that moment Francis needed to be strong. Even stronger than usual."

[Abdulrhman Al-Khamees · Rating 2 out of 5]

طبعاً صادف اني قرأت النسخه المترجمة من هذا الكتاب والحقيقة ان ترجمتها جيدة . طبعاً فيه كلمات علقت ببالي بعد قراءة هالكتاب .. او اقتباسات منها ..

" يجب على المرء ان يجرح كرامته كي يتعلم شيئاً جديداً "
د. توماس سزاز

- لكل فوضى جانب إيجابي .. حاول ان تجد هذا الجانب ..

- كن انت التغيير , انس اﻻخرين . توقف عن محاولة تغييرهم , انهم ليسوا مشكلتك
مشكلتك هي نفسك . قم يتغيير نفسك . ثم تابع نظرة اﻻخرين إليك

- ﻻيكتب اﻻ ماتقولمون بكتابته

المتعة لاتدوم -

المتعة ليست هي السعادة -

لو ان الناس قدروا الفارق بين السعادة والمتعة لتجنبوا الكثير من الالم , والسعادة تجلب سعادة اكبر -

[Arminda Lindsay · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's kind of like "Reinventing Yourself," only totally different. It's a gorgeous walk through the how and why we get "programmed" the way we do and what (and whose) those stories really are and what you can choose to do with the story. This book came to me at a particularly apropos time and reading it felt like a big hug from the universe and Steve Chandler reminding me that it's all made up anyway, go have fun with my story and don't take it all so seriously. Don't like the story you're in? Recast yourself!

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a pretty typical motivational book. I had a difficult time connecting to the part with his wife wanting a job working retail at Nordstroms. But some of his messages and quotes are interesting and I had trouble putting down the book in parts.

The book is really short, since the font is big and there is very little content per a page. If you want a fast, "Ahhh!" read, then this is a great book.

The book does give you a warm, fuzzy feeling and want you to try new things.

[Pamela Hall-Hamilton · Rating 5 out of 5]

I had read this book a few years ago. I still enjoyed is as much this time around. Chandler is a witty, sharp and amusing author that really knows his stuff. He wrote this using some of his own life experiences divulging a few funny and confidential little secrets. I would recommend this to anyone that wants to change their story.

[Frank Hamrick Jr. · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was inspired by this book. For me this was a "can't put it down" type of book. I rarely read a book twice...this is a rare book. I think his message regarding "story" is spot on and incredibly important.

[Stori · Rating 4 out of 5]

We all create stories about who we are, why we are the way we are, and some stories enhance our life while other stories create barriers to our goals and dreams. This was a great reminder about how we are free to create a new story.

[Black Sun · Rating 2 out of 5]

I liked the ideas and principles, but there was something about the delivery that I didn't connect with. I am sure it will be helpful to others though. This did not stop me from reading other materials by him I am currently reading another title.

[Vivalc · Rating 2 out of 5]

Well perserverence...not to doe with the music still in you sort of thing...taking risks....alot of what I already new but my sister gave it to me so I read it.