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Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships
Winner of Twenty Book Awards
Emotional Magnetism is communication expert, Sandy Gerber's newest release. It is a self-help book for people who want to improve their communication and connection in their personal and professional relationships.
Have you ever felt unheard or misunderstood? Maybe your partner just doesn’t seem to get why some things are important to you. Or perhaps your boss is seemingly oblivious to half the things you’ve pointed out in the past week. You’re not alone.
In this unique and timely book, award-winning communications expert, Sandy Gerber shares how to quickly identify what you emotionally need to be happy (1 of 4 Emotional Magnets) and how to communicate that to the people in your life to be understood and accepted.
There are four communication motivators that magnetize our attention and motivate us to listen or act. These Emotional Magnets drive our choices in our relationships, career, and life with our partners, family, friends, team, customers, and strangers.
Gerber’s highly relatable stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and Emotional Magnets quiz, helps you to:
- Identify what blocks your communication NOW.
- Discover what you emotionally NEED to be happy.
- Learn HOW to create greater engagement with your words.
- Understand WHY the people in your life make the choices they do.
As you’ll quickly discover, when you know how to communicate what you need to be happy and respond to the Emotional Magnets of the people around you, you’ll magnetize your relationships. Not only will you be heard and understood, but you’ll understand what people want—and how to deliver it.
"My mission is to help people to understand themselves better so they can communicate what they emotionally need to people at home and work. I call it a "love train". My philosophy: the more of us who know our Emotional Magnets and share them, the more empathy we create, the more relationships we nurture and potentially save, and the more love and acceptance we create in our world."~ S. Gerber
Emotional Magnetism is communication expert, Sandy Gerber's newest release. It is a self-help book for people who want to improve their communication and connection in their personal and professional relationships.
Have you ever felt unheard or misunderstood? Maybe your partner just doesn’t seem to get why some things are important to you. Or perhaps your boss is seemingly oblivious to half the things you’ve pointed out in the past week. You’re not alone.
In this unique and timely book, award-winning communications expert, Sandy Gerber shares how to quickly identify what you emotionally need to be happy (1 of 4 Emotional Magnets) and how to communicate that to the people in your life to be understood and accepted.
There are four communication motivators that magnetize our attention and motivate us to listen or act. These Emotional Magnets drive our choices in our relationships, career, and life with our partners, family, friends, team, customers, and strangers.
Gerber’s highly relatable stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and Emotional Magnets quiz, helps you to:
- Identify what blocks your communication NOW.
- Discover what you emotionally NEED to be happy.
- Learn HOW to create greater engagement with your words.
- Understand WHY the people in your life make the choices they do.
As you’ll quickly discover, when you know how to communicate what you need to be happy and respond to the Emotional Magnets of the people around you, you’ll magnetize your relationships. Not only will you be heard and understood, but you’ll understand what people want—and how to deliver it.
"My mission is to help people to understand themselves better so they can communicate what they emotionally need to people at home and work. I call it a "love train". My philosophy: the more of us who know our Emotional Magnets and share them, the more empathy we create, the more relationships we nurture and potentially save, and the more love and acceptance we create in our world."~ S. Gerber
206 pages, Kindle Edition
First published May 10, 2022
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About the author
Sandy Gerber
3 books20 followersSandy Gerber is a best-selling author, communications and marketing strategist, and TEDx speaker. As CEO of NEXT Marketing Agency, she set a new standard for innovative communications, growing the company from her bedroom into one of the Top 100 Fastest Growing Companies in British Columbia.
She has revitalized some of North America’s most beloved brands, founded three successful companies, and received 20+ awards for her popular book, Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships - all while being a single mom.
She's enlightened thousands from the speaker stage and has coached hundreds of people in effective communication. Gerber counts winning a limbo contest at 14 as one of her greatest achievements.
sandygerber.com
She has revitalized some of North America’s most beloved brands, founded three successful companies, and received 20+ awards for her popular book, Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships - all while being a single mom.
She's enlightened thousands from the speaker stage and has coached hundreds of people in effective communication. Gerber counts winning a limbo contest at 14 as one of her greatest achievements.
sandygerber.com
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April 3, 2023
Emotional Magnetism is that kind of book that keeps you thinking "oh yes, why have I never thought of it?", it sheds light on those things that seem obvious but normally get too little attention.
The author basically focuses on the major flaws in our everyday communication at work, with our family, friends, partners, giving plenty of examples that are quite relatable, then proceeds to give you insights and share food for thought on how to become more attuned to other people's needs by empathically connecting with them but also, and this is new material for me, trying to understand what their so called emotional magnets are (what is most important for them and what we should keep in mind when communicating, according to the different magnet or magnets a person has). There's also a very useful set of practical excercises you can do at your own pace.
I really enjoyed the narrator being the author: she has a very nice, soothing voice and you can literally hear how passionate she is when explaining her ideas.
The author basically focuses on the major flaws in our everyday communication at work, with our family, friends, partners, giving plenty of examples that are quite relatable, then proceeds to give you insights and share food for thought on how to become more attuned to other people's needs by empathically connecting with them but also, and this is new material for me, trying to understand what their so called emotional magnets are (what is most important for them and what we should keep in mind when communicating, according to the different magnet or magnets a person has). There's also a very useful set of practical excercises you can do at your own pace.
I really enjoyed the narrator being the author: she has a very nice, soothing voice and you can literally hear how passionate she is when explaining her ideas.
May 11, 2022
As a communications professional, this book helped me improve my writing, especially for larger groups when appealing to or motivating different types of people. Reading tip: I’d recommend starting with the quiz (page 109 or online at www.sandygerber.com) to learn what your type is (Experience, Value, Safety, Achievement). If you leave this book lying around, don’t be surprised when everyone wants to pick it up and do the quiz themselves!
Reading the example scenarios of how each type might respond to situations like buying a car, having a surprise house guest, or taking a road trip were helpful in guessing what the magnets for others in my life might be. And importantly, why they would react differently to situations than I would.
This is an approachable book to dive into, you get the author’s personality (and west coast Canadian flavour, eh?), plus more on improving your relationships to understand and make yourself better understood.
Reading the example scenarios of how each type might respond to situations like buying a car, having a surprise house guest, or taking a road trip were helpful in guessing what the magnets for others in my life might be. And importantly, why they would react differently to situations than I would.
This is an approachable book to dive into, you get the author’s personality (and west coast Canadian flavour, eh?), plus more on improving your relationships to understand and make yourself better understood.
May 16, 2022
Personal life or professional life communication plays an important role, and it could be one of the deciding factors for success and the quality of relationships we have in our lives.
In this book, Emotional magnetism, Sandy Gerber addresses how to create close human relationships based on understanding people's needs, which basically fall into four categories: Safety, Achievement, Value, and Experience (S.A.V.E.). She calls these four emotional magnets, and it's one emotional magnet that is dominant in every person and tends to dictate their decisions in life.
The book is divided into three parts:
1. What is Emotional Magnetism?
2. The Emotional Magnets
3. Finding your Emotional Magnet
First, she explains the concept of Emotional Magnetism, then the second part, discusses about the four Emotional Magnets in details like what they are, how they behave, and how you can use them to communicate effectively, and Lastly in the third part, there's a '22 questions' quiz to identify your main Emotional Magnet and the four steps to activate Emotional Magnetism.
Most importantly, this book is not about manipulation but about understanding yourself and others. Emotional magnetism teaches why we are attracted to or repelled by certain experiences, words, and actions. It can help you in two ways to become a better communicator: you become more self-aware and learn to communicate better and address your own needs, and second, you have more empathy for others because you understand better the reasoning behind people's behaviour.
This is a compact size book, written in easy language, and so compelling that you can finish it in one-two sittings only. It is a powerful and thoughtful guide to unlocking better communication and connection in your relationships. I personally learned so much from this book and would highly recommend it to everyone who is looking for a great book on communication.
In this book, Emotional magnetism, Sandy Gerber addresses how to create close human relationships based on understanding people's needs, which basically fall into four categories: Safety, Achievement, Value, and Experience (S.A.V.E.). She calls these four emotional magnets, and it's one emotional magnet that is dominant in every person and tends to dictate their decisions in life.
The book is divided into three parts:
1. What is Emotional Magnetism?
2. The Emotional Magnets
3. Finding your Emotional Magnet
First, she explains the concept of Emotional Magnetism, then the second part, discusses about the four Emotional Magnets in details like what they are, how they behave, and how you can use them to communicate effectively, and Lastly in the third part, there's a '22 questions' quiz to identify your main Emotional Magnet and the four steps to activate Emotional Magnetism.
Most importantly, this book is not about manipulation but about understanding yourself and others. Emotional magnetism teaches why we are attracted to or repelled by certain experiences, words, and actions. It can help you in two ways to become a better communicator: you become more self-aware and learn to communicate better and address your own needs, and second, you have more empathy for others because you understand better the reasoning behind people's behaviour.
This is a compact size book, written in easy language, and so compelling that you can finish it in one-two sittings only. It is a powerful and thoughtful guide to unlocking better communication and connection in your relationships. I personally learned so much from this book and would highly recommend it to everyone who is looking for a great book on communication.
June 7, 2023
Thank you to Netgalley for providing this ARC (Audiobook Version) in exchange for an honest review.
This book introduced me to the idea of emotional magnetism. I immediately resonated with the idea and was excited to see how the four different emotional magnets fit into my own personality, my husband's, my family's, and even my co-workers'. The book breaks down the concept that there are four main emotional magnets that people live by: safety, accomplishment, value, and experience. The book includes the emotional magnetism quiz that can help you understand your own emotional magnets as well as that of your loved ones. Additionally, it helps you to identify how these emotional magnets affect your communication style and communication needs.
I think this book should be required reading for any group working on long-term projects and can definitely be helpful in family, friendships, and romantic relationships. As an audiobook this book was truly enjoyable. The author does a great job at presenting the content and to show off some of what I learned here is are a set of reviews for this book based on yours emotional magnet.
Safety - The book was easy to listen to. The author makes it clear when to pause and take notes and provides clear examples of how to apply have your emotional communication needs met without offending your partner/boss.
Accomplishment - This book will add to your communication expertise and will help you make a good impression on your partner, friend, and/or boss as you become a magnetic communicator!
Value - As someone who listens who listens to audiobooks regularly, I highly recommend the audiobook version of this book. The author's voice is clear and easy to understand. The content is well organized and useful for improving personal and professional relationships. You can listen to the entire book in under 5 hours so it is very easy to finish this book within a week. If you are nervous about the time investment request it from your library so that you can get the most out of the content without having to spend money - that said this is the type of book you may want to go back to so it is definitely worth the investment.
Experience - I am an avid audiobook listener because it is the best way to get through those day-to-day tasks that I would otherwise hate doing. I listened to this entire book in a week while washing dishes, doing laundry, and cooking dinner. Let me just tell you I was looking forward to hearing this book so much that I actually cleaned more this week than I have in the entire year. Sandy's presentation of the book in incredibly pleasant and often times I felt like we were in a conversation instead of me just listening to her book.
This book introduced me to the idea of emotional magnetism. I immediately resonated with the idea and was excited to see how the four different emotional magnets fit into my own personality, my husband's, my family's, and even my co-workers'. The book breaks down the concept that there are four main emotional magnets that people live by: safety, accomplishment, value, and experience. The book includes the emotional magnetism quiz that can help you understand your own emotional magnets as well as that of your loved ones. Additionally, it helps you to identify how these emotional magnets affect your communication style and communication needs.
I think this book should be required reading for any group working on long-term projects and can definitely be helpful in family, friendships, and romantic relationships. As an audiobook this book was truly enjoyable. The author does a great job at presenting the content and to show off some of what I learned here is are a set of reviews for this book based on yours emotional magnet.
Safety - The book was easy to listen to. The author makes it clear when to pause and take notes and provides clear examples of how to apply have your emotional communication needs met without offending your partner/boss.
Accomplishment - This book will add to your communication expertise and will help you make a good impression on your partner, friend, and/or boss as you become a magnetic communicator!
Value - As someone who listens who listens to audiobooks regularly, I highly recommend the audiobook version of this book. The author's voice is clear and easy to understand. The content is well organized and useful for improving personal and professional relationships. You can listen to the entire book in under 5 hours so it is very easy to finish this book within a week. If you are nervous about the time investment request it from your library so that you can get the most out of the content without having to spend money - that said this is the type of book you may want to go back to so it is definitely worth the investment.
Experience - I am an avid audiobook listener because it is the best way to get through those day-to-day tasks that I would otherwise hate doing. I listened to this entire book in a week while washing dishes, doing laundry, and cooking dinner. Let me just tell you I was looking forward to hearing this book so much that I actually cleaned more this week than I have in the entire year. Sandy's presentation of the book in incredibly pleasant and often times I felt like we were in a conversation instead of me just listening to her book.
August 5, 2022
Have you ever misunderstood what others meant by what they say? Have you ever felt misunderstood by your partner, friend, coworker? Have the people in your life not understood why certain things are important to you? Have you questioned why others find certain things important to them? “Emotional Magnetism” might be just the tool you need to help you and the others in your life better understand each other.
“Emotional Magnetism” walks readers through common communication blocks, common needs for readers, ways of learning how to improve engagement and finally helps readers better understand why others make the choices that they make. There is also an easy quiz for readers to take to help them figure out what is most important to them in their lives.
There are four magnets that Gerber discusses: experience, safety, value, and achievement. Gerber breaks them down and uses real-life examples to show readers what it looks like when a person falls under each magnet. Gerber also shows the common communication block and what is important to that type of person. It adds helpful insight to both the person who is that magnet and the people around them. It allows the person who has the type of magnet to be aware of their communication block so that they might continue to communicate differently when trying to get their point across. It allows people outside that magnet to understand why the person acts the way they do.
Gerber does a great job of explaining where her original sources for communication styles came from and turns them into a functional tool for everyone. She also clearly states that she is not a therapist, but that she is in the marketing realm, where communication is important. Knowing that she is not coming from a psychological background helps make this communication toolset more tailored to everyday life and use.
Even though this reader has the psychological education, “Emotional Magnetism” is realistic and great for everyone. It is not told in complicated terms and has lots of everyday examples of how to apply the communication toolset. This can help almost anyone ranging from divorced partners who have to co-parent, to coworkers, and even friends who seem to have a strained relationship.
“Emotional Magnetism” walks readers through common communication blocks, common needs for readers, ways of learning how to improve engagement and finally helps readers better understand why others make the choices that they make. There is also an easy quiz for readers to take to help them figure out what is most important to them in their lives.
There are four magnets that Gerber discusses: experience, safety, value, and achievement. Gerber breaks them down and uses real-life examples to show readers what it looks like when a person falls under each magnet. Gerber also shows the common communication block and what is important to that type of person. It adds helpful insight to both the person who is that magnet and the people around them. It allows the person who has the type of magnet to be aware of their communication block so that they might continue to communicate differently when trying to get their point across. It allows people outside that magnet to understand why the person acts the way they do.
Gerber does a great job of explaining where her original sources for communication styles came from and turns them into a functional tool for everyone. She also clearly states that she is not a therapist, but that she is in the marketing realm, where communication is important. Knowing that she is not coming from a psychological background helps make this communication toolset more tailored to everyday life and use.
Even though this reader has the psychological education, “Emotional Magnetism” is realistic and great for everyone. It is not told in complicated terms and has lots of everyday examples of how to apply the communication toolset. This can help almost anyone ranging from divorced partners who have to co-parent, to coworkers, and even friends who seem to have a strained relationship.
July 24, 2022
Emotional Magnetism by Sandy Gerber is a refreshing self-help book that helps readers reassess the blockages in their relationships. Whether you’re struggling to succeed at work or in your parenting style, Gerber uses real facts and anecdotes to bring you up to speed on what’s going so wrong and how you can fix it to achieve balance in your life.
The book is divided into three parts: defining the operatives of emotional magnets, an in-depth breakdown of each persona and its creation and finally, discovering your own personal Emotional Magnets. Gerber has created a simple and practical guide for heightening your self-awareness around emotional needs—your own and others’. By using the teachings of Gerber’s ‘SAVE’ (safety, achievement, value, experience) method found in this book you’ll have the opportunity to test yourself with the Emotional Magnets quiz and learn the four easy steps to becoming an Emotional Magnet in your relationships. The exercises, quizzes and advice are uniquely eye-opening, comforting, and can be life-changing.
Through the use of her own experiences gained from two failed marriages, co-parenting struggles and the building of a marketing empire she has established a wealth of knowledge and credibility that the reader can trust without feeling attacked. The author include real statistics from reputable sources like the Harvard Business Review, which ensures the book is factual and pragmatic. The facts compel the reader to pause and reassess one’s own life professionally and domestically.
Gerber states that, although she is not a psychologist, she is a communications expert and praise must be given for the forthright and honest approach adopted. An impeccable identification of audience truly allows for the improvement of your ability to communicate in a way that positively engages and influences others in a win-win way. Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships by Sandy Gerber is an empowering self-help book that will improve your self-awareness, communication skills, and your relationships.
The book is divided into three parts: defining the operatives of emotional magnets, an in-depth breakdown of each persona and its creation and finally, discovering your own personal Emotional Magnets. Gerber has created a simple and practical guide for heightening your self-awareness around emotional needs—your own and others’. By using the teachings of Gerber’s ‘SAVE’ (safety, achievement, value, experience) method found in this book you’ll have the opportunity to test yourself with the Emotional Magnets quiz and learn the four easy steps to becoming an Emotional Magnet in your relationships. The exercises, quizzes and advice are uniquely eye-opening, comforting, and can be life-changing.
Through the use of her own experiences gained from two failed marriages, co-parenting struggles and the building of a marketing empire she has established a wealth of knowledge and credibility that the reader can trust without feeling attacked. The author include real statistics from reputable sources like the Harvard Business Review, which ensures the book is factual and pragmatic. The facts compel the reader to pause and reassess one’s own life professionally and domestically.
Gerber states that, although she is not a psychologist, she is a communications expert and praise must be given for the forthright and honest approach adopted. An impeccable identification of audience truly allows for the improvement of your ability to communicate in a way that positively engages and influences others in a win-win way. Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships by Sandy Gerber is an empowering self-help book that will improve your self-awareness, communication skills, and your relationships.
June 10, 2023
Rating: ★★★★☆ (4/5)
Hey, have you heard of "Emotional Magnetism" by Sandy Gerber? It's an emotional rollercoaster that will tug at your heartstrings and leave you feeling all the feels.
This book takes you on a journey of love and healing like no other. Gerber's writing is so raw and authentic, it's like she reached right into your soul and pulled out every emotion. The characters are deeply layered and relatable, facing their own struggles and demons. You can't help but be drawn to their stories and root for their happiness.
What I loved most about "Emotional Magnetism" is how it explores the power of human connection. It delves into the complexities of relationships and the way they can shape our lives. Gerber tackles themes of forgiveness, redemption, and second chances with grace and sensitivity.
The chemistry between the characters is electric, and their interactions are charged with emotion. You'll find yourself swept up in their journey, experiencing their highs and lows right alongside them. Get ready for some heart-wrenching moments and heartwarming triumphs.
Sandy Gerber's writing style is evocative and immersive. She has a way of describing emotions that makes you feel like you're right there, experiencing everything firsthand. You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll be left with a lasting impact.
While the pacing may have some slower moments, the depth and intensity of the story make up for it. The author takes her time in unraveling the characters' journeys, allowing for a more profound emotional connection with the reader.
"Emotional Magnetism" is a powerful and heartfelt novel that will stay with you long after you've turned the last page. Sandy Gerber weaves a story that explores the complexity of love and the healing power of human connection. So, grab a box of tissues and prepare to be swept away by this emotionally charged masterpiece.
Hey, have you heard of "Emotional Magnetism" by Sandy Gerber? It's an emotional rollercoaster that will tug at your heartstrings and leave you feeling all the feels.
This book takes you on a journey of love and healing like no other. Gerber's writing is so raw and authentic, it's like she reached right into your soul and pulled out every emotion. The characters are deeply layered and relatable, facing their own struggles and demons. You can't help but be drawn to their stories and root for their happiness.
What I loved most about "Emotional Magnetism" is how it explores the power of human connection. It delves into the complexities of relationships and the way they can shape our lives. Gerber tackles themes of forgiveness, redemption, and second chances with grace and sensitivity.
The chemistry between the characters is electric, and their interactions are charged with emotion. You'll find yourself swept up in their journey, experiencing their highs and lows right alongside them. Get ready for some heart-wrenching moments and heartwarming triumphs.
Sandy Gerber's writing style is evocative and immersive. She has a way of describing emotions that makes you feel like you're right there, experiencing everything firsthand. You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll be left with a lasting impact.
While the pacing may have some slower moments, the depth and intensity of the story make up for it. The author takes her time in unraveling the characters' journeys, allowing for a more profound emotional connection with the reader.
"Emotional Magnetism" is a powerful and heartfelt novel that will stay with you long after you've turned the last page. Sandy Gerber weaves a story that explores the complexity of love and the healing power of human connection. So, grab a box of tissues and prepare to be swept away by this emotionally charged masterpiece.
August 13, 2022
I thoroughly enjoyed reading Emotional Magnetism! I love personality tests and tools that help us get to know ourselves better and how we relate to the people in our lives.
In this book, there are four emotional magnets (safety, achievement, value, and experiences) and a quiz to help you identify which one is your primary emotional magnet. Learning about these emotional magnets—and the motivations and blockers that come with them— can help in how you approach certain situations with other people. You learn how to “speak their language,” and this can help improve your communication with them overall.
I was surprised to learn that my primary magnet wasn’t what I thought it would be. But after reading more about it, I started seeing evidence of it in my day-to-day conversations and decisions. I also identified my husband’s primary magnet. When I told him about the book and which magnet I suspected was his, he totally agreed. He thought the book sounded interesting and wants to read it next.
Emotional Magnetism is a quick read (just 169 pages), but I plan to go back and re-read the parts specifically about my emotional magnet and my husband’s because I think it’s worth spending a little more time studying in-depth.
In this book, there are four emotional magnets (safety, achievement, value, and experiences) and a quiz to help you identify which one is your primary emotional magnet. Learning about these emotional magnets—and the motivations and blockers that come with them— can help in how you approach certain situations with other people. You learn how to “speak their language,” and this can help improve your communication with them overall.
I was surprised to learn that my primary magnet wasn’t what I thought it would be. But after reading more about it, I started seeing evidence of it in my day-to-day conversations and decisions. I also identified my husband’s primary magnet. When I told him about the book and which magnet I suspected was his, he totally agreed. He thought the book sounded interesting and wants to read it next.
Emotional Magnetism is a quick read (just 169 pages), but I plan to go back and re-read the parts specifically about my emotional magnet and my husband’s because I think it’s worth spending a little more time studying in-depth.
March 20, 2023
In this audiobook, a communication coach identifies four emotional "magnets" that you can target to better craft your message to your audience.
The book does a good job of explaining the Safety, Achievement, Value, and Experience motivators, how they affect people, and how you can leverage this understanding for better communications and relationships. However, I think these categories are oversimplified. For instance, in the quiz, I scored highest on Experience and lowest on Achievement. Yet, the goal-oriented aspect of Achievement is probably my #1 motivator. And while I identify with the curiosity and creativity aspects of Experience, I'm the farthest thing from spontaneous.
I think this book is a valuable resource when it comes to understanding communication and persuasion. But when it comes to understanding people? No.
Thanks, NetGalley, for the ARC I received. This is my honest and voluntary review.
The book does a good job of explaining the Safety, Achievement, Value, and Experience motivators, how they affect people, and how you can leverage this understanding for better communications and relationships. However, I think these categories are oversimplified. For instance, in the quiz, I scored highest on Experience and lowest on Achievement. Yet, the goal-oriented aspect of Achievement is probably my #1 motivator. And while I identify with the curiosity and creativity aspects of Experience, I'm the farthest thing from spontaneous.
I think this book is a valuable resource when it comes to understanding communication and persuasion. But when it comes to understanding people? No.
Thanks, NetGalley, for the ARC I received. This is my honest and voluntary review.
March 22, 2023
I actually liked this book. I am going to give it a try. My husband says he will take the quiz too so I'm excited
August 14, 2025
Emotional Magnetism by Sandy Gerber is all about helping you tap into the power of your emotions to create more success and fulfillment in life—both personally and professionally. Gerber makes it clear that emotions aren’t just feelings to manage—they’re tools you can use to connect, influence, and grow.
What I love about this book is how relatable it feels. Gerber shares real-life examples and practical advice, breaking down complex ideas into steps you can actually apply. She talks about authenticity, empathy, and persuasion in a way that’s easy to understand and inspiring, making it feel like she’s guiding you personally.
The book also comes with exercises, worksheets, and prompts so you can put the concepts into practice right away. It’s not just a book to read once and shelve—it’s something you can return to whenever you want to grow, reflect, or improve how you show up in the world.
What I love about this book is how relatable it feels. Gerber shares real-life examples and practical advice, breaking down complex ideas into steps you can actually apply. She talks about authenticity, empathy, and persuasion in a way that’s easy to understand and inspiring, making it feel like she’s guiding you personally.
The book also comes with exercises, worksheets, and prompts so you can put the concepts into practice right away. It’s not just a book to read once and shelve—it’s something you can return to whenever you want to grow, reflect, or improve how you show up in the world.
June 20, 2023
The Wishing Shelf Book Awards 2022
Category 7 (Audiobooks)
FEEDBACK
This audiobook was entered in our book awards. This is what our listeners thought:
Title: Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships
Author: Sandy Gerber
Narrator: Sandy Gerber
Star Rating: 5 Stars
Number of Listeners: 8
Stats
Narrator Performance: 9/10
Writing Style: 8/10
Content/Plot: 9/10
Cover: 5/5
Sound Quality / Music / Sound Effects: 4/5
Of the 8 listeners:
8 would listen to another book by this author.
8 would listen to another book narrated by this performer.
8 thought the cover was good or excellent.
8 felt it was easy to follow.
8 would recommend this audiobook to another listener to try.
Of all the listeners, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘subject knowledge’.
Of all the readers, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘putting over a message’.
Of all the readers, 2 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘writing style’.
8 felt the pacing was good or excellent.
8 thought the author understood the listeners and what they wanted.
8 thought the narrator understood the listeners and what they wanted.
Listeners’ Comments
“I would recommend this book to anybody who wants to communicate better. I felt it was easy to follow and informative. Also, the author did a fab job of narrating the text. Cool cover too!” Male listener, aged 40
“The author understands how important how important communicating is, in work life and personal life. How wonderful to find a self-help book that helps!!!” Female listener, aged 32
“I liked how honest the author was over how poorly she communicated with her ex-husband. Lots of helpful advice in here. Best of all, the author never dumbs it down and seems enthusiastic on the subject.” Male listener, aged 49
“Practical, informative and told with enthusiasm. Enjoyed this in the car driving to and from work.” Female listener, aged 47
To Sum It Up:
‘A fascinating insight into communication and its importance in developing strong relationships. A GOLD MEDAL WINNER and highly recommended!’
Category 7 (Audiobooks)
FEEDBACK
This audiobook was entered in our book awards. This is what our listeners thought:
Title: Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships
Author: Sandy Gerber
Narrator: Sandy Gerber
Star Rating: 5 Stars
Number of Listeners: 8
Stats
Narrator Performance: 9/10
Writing Style: 8/10
Content/Plot: 9/10
Cover: 5/5
Sound Quality / Music / Sound Effects: 4/5
Of the 8 listeners:
8 would listen to another book by this author.
8 would listen to another book narrated by this performer.
8 thought the cover was good or excellent.
8 felt it was easy to follow.
8 would recommend this audiobook to another listener to try.
Of all the listeners, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘subject knowledge’.
Of all the readers, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘putting over a message’.
Of all the readers, 2 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘writing style’.
8 felt the pacing was good or excellent.
8 thought the author understood the listeners and what they wanted.
8 thought the narrator understood the listeners and what they wanted.
Listeners’ Comments
“I would recommend this book to anybody who wants to communicate better. I felt it was easy to follow and informative. Also, the author did a fab job of narrating the text. Cool cover too!” Male listener, aged 40
“The author understands how important how important communicating is, in work life and personal life. How wonderful to find a self-help book that helps!!!” Female listener, aged 32
“I liked how honest the author was over how poorly she communicated with her ex-husband. Lots of helpful advice in here. Best of all, the author never dumbs it down and seems enthusiastic on the subject.” Male listener, aged 49
“Practical, informative and told with enthusiasm. Enjoyed this in the car driving to and from work.” Female listener, aged 47
To Sum It Up:
‘A fascinating insight into communication and its importance in developing strong relationships. A GOLD MEDAL WINNER and highly recommended!’
January 9, 2024
"Emotional Magnetism: How to Communicate to Ignite Connection in Your Relationships" by Sandy Gerber offers a compelling exploration of effective communication for building meaningful connections. The book excels in its focus on the emotional aspects of communication, providing readers with insights and strategies to foster deeper connections in their relationships.
One of the book's standout qualities is its emphasis on the emotional dimension of communication. Sandy Gerber skillfully delves into the intricacies of how emotions influence our interactions, offering practical guidance to enhance the quality of relationships. The author's emphasis on connection as a core theme resonates well with readers seeking to establish and maintain genuine bonds.
Gerber's writing style is engaging, and the book is structured to guide readers through actionable steps to improve their communication skills. The inclusion of real-life examples and scenarios adds a relatable dimension, making the advice more applicable to various interpersonal situations. The book's holistic approach considers both verbal and non-verbal communication, contributing to a comprehensive understanding of emotional magnetism.
However, some readers may find the book lacking in concrete, step-by-step strategies for certain communication challenges. While the emphasis on emotional connection is valuable, a more detailed exploration of specific communication scenarios could enhance the practical applicability for a wider audience.
In conclusion, "Emotional Magnetism" excels in its exploration of emotional communication, providing valuable insights for readers seeking to deepen their connections with others. The book's emphasis on fostering genuine relationships sets it apart, making it a recommended read for individuals looking to enhance their interpersonal communication skills. While it may benefit from more detailed strategies in certain areas, its overall focus on emotional connection makes it a valuable resource for those navigating the complexities of relationships.
One of the book's standout qualities is its emphasis on the emotional dimension of communication. Sandy Gerber skillfully delves into the intricacies of how emotions influence our interactions, offering practical guidance to enhance the quality of relationships. The author's emphasis on connection as a core theme resonates well with readers seeking to establish and maintain genuine bonds.
Gerber's writing style is engaging, and the book is structured to guide readers through actionable steps to improve their communication skills. The inclusion of real-life examples and scenarios adds a relatable dimension, making the advice more applicable to various interpersonal situations. The book's holistic approach considers both verbal and non-verbal communication, contributing to a comprehensive understanding of emotional magnetism.
However, some readers may find the book lacking in concrete, step-by-step strategies for certain communication challenges. While the emphasis on emotional connection is valuable, a more detailed exploration of specific communication scenarios could enhance the practical applicability for a wider audience.
In conclusion, "Emotional Magnetism" excels in its exploration of emotional communication, providing valuable insights for readers seeking to deepen their connections with others. The book's emphasis on fostering genuine relationships sets it apart, making it a recommended read for individuals looking to enhance their interpersonal communication skills. While it may benefit from more detailed strategies in certain areas, its overall focus on emotional connection makes it a valuable resource for those navigating the complexities of relationships.
May 3, 2023
3 1/2 stars. This reminded me of "The Five Love Languages" but is also reminiscent of the philosophy behind Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. I like to read books like this once in a while because I work with adolescents and their parents who often have communication issues (and face-to-face communication is definitely a dying art). But I learned a few things about myself by reading this as well. The author's premise is that people mostly act according to their emotional needs, and we all have one emotional need (value, experience, safety, or achievement) in particular that drives us. By appealing to others' needs, we are able to smooth over lines of communication. This is a valid idea, and being mindful of others can hone empathy skills.
There is some padding, mostly at the beginning, that I ended up skipping over (yes, value is one of my emotional needs lol) and I felt that the "need categories" could easily bleed into each other. Determining what motivates others is really the key, which itself requires some communication skills. For example, a marathoner who's run a race in every state could seem very achievement oriented, but maybe he or she is also in it for the experience. Someone who is focused on saving money seems value oriented--but maybe they're focused on saving money for their kids' activities and don't want to spend unnecessary time at work because they'd rather spend quality time with family (safety orientation). The author does admit that people's needs can fluctuate over time and changing circumstances, and are influenced by upbringing.
Overall: This is a short, easy to read book, and it's something I could share with parents and adolescents, as well as family and friends.
I read an advanced reader copy of this book, and this is my voluntary review. Opinions are my own.
There is some padding, mostly at the beginning, that I ended up skipping over (yes, value is one of my emotional needs lol) and I felt that the "need categories" could easily bleed into each other. Determining what motivates others is really the key, which itself requires some communication skills. For example, a marathoner who's run a race in every state could seem very achievement oriented, but maybe he or she is also in it for the experience. Someone who is focused on saving money seems value oriented--but maybe they're focused on saving money for their kids' activities and don't want to spend unnecessary time at work because they'd rather spend quality time with family (safety orientation). The author does admit that people's needs can fluctuate over time and changing circumstances, and are influenced by upbringing.
Overall: This is a short, easy to read book, and it's something I could share with parents and adolescents, as well as family and friends.
I read an advanced reader copy of this book, and this is my voluntary review. Opinions are my own.
May 29, 2023
Emotional Magnetism - Sandy Gerber
Let's face it, we KNOW we should read self-improvement books, we ALL have areas we need to work on improving. However, although I strive to
Therefore, if I was asked to recommend a resource with easy- to-follow advice that can greatly improve BOTH your personal and your professional life, this is easily the one I would recommend.
The author (Sandy Gerber) presents the information in this book in a way that makes it enjoyable to read and to implement. Although it will require a bit of practice to learn and effort on your part to learn and implement, Gerber's method has the power to greatly improve both your personal and your professional life with minimal effort.
I have worked professionally in the communication field primarily as a technical writer (online help developer and so on) for the past few decades, and I have worked in Information Technology / Information Systems for my entire career. Obviously, I can communicate professionally, however I have always had a struggle with successful verbal communication in my personal and my work life.
Note: Although I previously mentioned these books are not typically my favorites, I have read a wide range of the most popular of this type, particularly related to improving communication.
Let's face it, we KNOW we should read self-improvement books, we ALL have areas we need to work on improving. However, although I strive to
Therefore, if I was asked to recommend a resource with easy- to-follow advice that can greatly improve BOTH your personal and your professional life, this is easily the one I would recommend.
The author (Sandy Gerber) presents the information in this book in a way that makes it enjoyable to read and to implement. Although it will require a bit of practice to learn and effort on your part to learn and implement, Gerber's method has the power to greatly improve both your personal and your professional life with minimal effort.
I have worked professionally in the communication field primarily as a technical writer (online help developer and so on) for the past few decades, and I have worked in Information Technology / Information Systems for my entire career. Obviously, I can communicate professionally, however I have always had a struggle with successful verbal communication in my personal and my work life.
Note: Although I previously mentioned these books are not typically my favorites, I have read a wide range of the most popular of this type, particularly related to improving communication.
April 10, 2023
This book was extremely helpful. The author did a great job of helping me understand myself and the different types of emotional needs that other people have. I definitely felt like this book helped me figure out how to better communicate with others. For example, I was doing something I didn't even realize I was doing during communication. When other people come to talk with me, I often will have my own personal story to share after they've told me their story. Sometimes this is okay but many times I need to do a better job of listening to others instead of jumping in and telling them my story. This book challenged me to be a better listener and really take the time to understand the emotional needs of the people that are important to me. I thought the author did a great job of narrating the book, as well. Huge thanks to Netgalley and the audiobook publisher for allowing to listen and review this audiobook.
May 10, 2023
This book explores how four core values can be thought of as emotional magnets, and how being conscious of what our magnet is, and what it repels and attracts, can improve our communication. The four magnets are Safety, Achievement, Value, and Experience. Someone can have aspects of all of these, but through the descriptions and examples provided, it was easy and interesting to determine my own core value. I think I used to be Achievement, but after some life, I am totally a Safety magnet. The author’s goal is to show how understanding of the magnets and their strengths and weaknesses can help people be more compassionate to one another by understanding each other better. I love this thought, but I also found some of the rationale oversimplified. Overall, a good read, with some perspective I’ll be thinking about in my relationships.
May 15, 2024
I read this from a business perspective. It was on some list somewhere out there on the internet saying it was good read to learn how to book more clients. The list wasn't wrong but it's written for romantic, more meaningful relationships (such a family or friends). Although at one point the author does say "hey, you can use some of this advice for business".
Although I read this for different reasons, my rating still reflects the overall quality of it. The examples she gives to help you communicate better and further understand the important person in your life are good. However, to me, she leans a little too heavy in the examples teaching you and doesn't dive deep enough to the why and really, really discussing the different emotional magnets. If anything, this is more a quick self help book.
Although I read this for different reasons, my rating still reflects the overall quality of it. The examples she gives to help you communicate better and further understand the important person in your life are good. However, to me, she leans a little too heavy in the examples teaching you and doesn't dive deep enough to the why and really, really discussing the different emotional magnets. If anything, this is more a quick self help book.
May 7, 2023
I normally don’t rate self-help books. But I was pleasantly pleased with this one! This was a different take on communication styles than what’s typically been published… I almost felt like I was going through an Enneagram test to see where I fit. In fact, on that note, I highly suggest skipping ahead to take the test in this book, and then going back to listen to the appropriate chapters. It turns out I had equal answers for two communication styles. Everything mentioned in this book was 100% relatable for business or couples or friendships and even with your kids! Make sure to listen to all the styles, though, so that you understand different ways to speak to each person. This was the perfect layman’s guide to understanding individuals and it left me wanting to do better.
June 9, 2023
This was very interesting and I'm going to look how I can use this in my life.
Because I listen to books during my commute I want to go back to the exercises when I have time to make notes.
I think everyone can take something from this book to learn more about yourself and/or about people with a different emotional magnet.
The author is also the narrator ans she did a good job, she has a clear and nice voice to listen too.
I did the quiz on her website and did have some troubles picking the right answer for some questions. Maybe because it came to the conclusion that two main emotional magnets, but maybe it was a bit to specific in some answers and then the answers didn't feel good to me.
There are more useful extras on her website.
Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for providing me with a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
Because I listen to books during my commute I want to go back to the exercises when I have time to make notes.
I think everyone can take something from this book to learn more about yourself and/or about people with a different emotional magnet.
The author is also the narrator ans she did a good job, she has a clear and nice voice to listen too.
I did the quiz on her website and did have some troubles picking the right answer for some questions. Maybe because it came to the conclusion that two main emotional magnets, but maybe it was a bit to specific in some answers and then the answers didn't feel good to me.
There are more useful extras on her website.
Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for providing me with a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review!
June 21, 2023
With valuable insights and practical advice, Emotional Magnetism guides readers to enhance their communication and foster deeper connections in both personal and professional relationships. Particularly insightful is the information on identifying the (mostly unconscious) “communication blockers” we all typically employ. An indispensable resource for anyone seeking to enhance their emotional intelligence and cultivate meaningful connection in all aspects of their lives.
I was provided a review copy by the publisher.
I was provided a review copy by the publisher.
April 26, 2023
EMOTIONAL MAGNETISM by Sandy Gerber is a smart, actionable, practical and immediately relatable guide to navigating the relationships in your life, both the one you have with yourself as well as the ones you have with others. Well-placed anecdotes bring her insights to life -- and I was struck by how much a relatively fast read could have such a lasting impact on me -- for the better of all my relationships. I received a copy of this book and these opinions are my own, unbiased thoughts.
May 3, 2025
This book is a must read for anyone that wants to communicate better with others. It has definitely helped me become a better listener. Knowing “why” people do and say what they do and say is key. It’s amazing what I’m learning about myself too. Now I know what makes ME tick. Eye opening book and cannot recommend enough! This book was gifted to me by NetGalley. What a blessing! Thank you Sandy Gerber.
April 18, 2023
We all live in a very interpersonal world! To effectively work & function together, we must learn how to gel together. I particularly found this book interesting as I’m always striving for ways to improve my relationships with others. This book is especially helpful when you’re forming teams & you need to make sure you put the right people together.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
July 17, 2023
A really interesting read that helps give context to and tips to navigate communication differences and intentional and (more importantly) non-intentional blocks.
Really loved the easy to digest format, practical tips and writing style.
^ Early issue provided by NetGalley for review.
Really loved the easy to digest format, practical tips and writing style.
^ Early issue provided by NetGalley for review.
September 4, 2023
A well-researched piece on emotional motivators and a four point plan on communicating. This book is easy to understand and concise. Gerber kept me engaged and opened my awareness of the words individuals use in conversations.
January 20, 2023
🏆 2022 BIBA® Non-Fiction: Relationship Communication Winner!
May 27, 2023
What rubbish is this ???
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