According to Michael Singer, we spend the vast majority of our lives just trying to be Okay. Some stress from interacting with the world upsets us and we strive to regain emotional neutrality. First we think about what will make us feel okay, then we try to make it happen. The interaction between the outside world, our emotional reaction, and our thoughts constitute what Singer calls the “three-ring circus.” Yet we are not the circus: we are the subjects watching the circus. The path to “living untethered,” to gaining your personal freedom, lies in recognizing that you are the subject not the object, the observer witnessing each moment in front of you, including your thoughts and emotions. The world out there isn't you.
Singer's diagnosis of the human condition, and prescription, is at once simple and profound: holding on to what bothers you about the world is a formula for suffering; therefore, surrender your personal judgment of the world, the part of you that likes or dislikes what’s out there, and accept reality. How do you do this? By using every moment of your life to free yourself. Singer enumerates a number of techniques for doing this, including positive thinking and the use of mantras, but the most powerful of the techniques is witness consciousness: noticing that you're noticing, that the mind is creating thoughts and emotions, and practicing nonjudgmental awareness.
"Things are the way they are…if you're wise, you'll start to change your reactions to reality instead of fighting with reality." -Singer
Singer creates a compelling vision of a life lived in harmony with yourself. Most modern problems, he believes, are caused by psychological blockages. Spirituality is the inner work of releasing these blockages by allowing thoughts to come and go, by relaxing and releasing. The energy flow released as a result yields a deep, indwelling well-being regardless of circumstances. There's no need for a positive external event. Energy just springs from inside, an enthusiasm for life or for whatever you're doing. Learn to work with your body and its energy, allow the blockages to clear, and experience unending joy.
Singer has a religious way of talking about this process which may not work for everyone. He describes the energy that is always flowing through us as Shakti. The psychic scars–mental impressions left over from unresolved thoughts and feelings–or energy blockages he labels samskaras. Language about imaginary energy flows and samskaras initially turned me off until, with the help of my therapist, I made the connection to PTSD therapy. Clearing blockages to release energy is analogous to trauma incident reduction, probing an issue with provocative questions to experience the emotion in a safe environment. Research into trauma desensitization shows that this therapeutic technique works. Learning that research confirms something similar to what Singer describes lends his conceptual framework some legitimacy, despite his religious jargon.
Singer's work is also susceptible to the same criticisms that apply to every spiritual guru hyper-focused on the individual and personal freedom, namely: it seems to "free" the person from any social obligation or responsibility. What of the role of our (in)actions in perpetuating privilege and thus the oppression of others? The sharp division between the individual and social dimensions of spirituality makes his repeated admonition that "the world has nothing to do with you" troubling. Nearly every decision we make has "something to do" with the world around us; we're part of a capitalist marketplace in which demand for certain goods (whether cheap plastic household items, off-season fruit, or carbon-based, dirty energy) drives corporate profit-seeking behavior and creates negative externalities, including massive human suffering and ecological devastation.
Still, I'm sympathetic to the perspective that you need to get your own house in order before you can help others. If you can't create harmony in yourself, how will you change your community? Stated as a Kantian imperative we might say: Live the life that, if everyone lived it, would make the world a better place. Singer's formulation of a life well lived certainly fits the bill. "The highest life you can live," he admonishes, is one in which "every moment that passes in front of you" is better off because of your presence.
Despite my concerns about its hyper-individualistic perspective, Living Untethered offers some solid guidance for how to get in touch with the you that's in there, and stop identifying with the inner narrator that's constantly making judgments about the world. You have two choices: continue struggling with life or allow the energy to flow; hold on to pain and latch on to what you think will save you or let the energy heal the psychic scars so you can enter into a state of ecstatic well-being. You can free yourself and reach a state in which reality doesn't bother you. It simply exists and you simply exist in perfect harmony. Let that become your new motivation, rather than meeting your needs. Then you'll be living untethered.