From the author: "Many of us go through life with words and feelings stranded in our hearts. Words we deeply feel but never say. Sometimes we never have the chance. We don't always get to say goodbye. We don't always know when will be our last hug, high five, smile, laugh or 'I love you.' All we have is today, now, and what we do in this one, shining moment."
Say All the Unspoken Things is about living, speaking and loving from our deep hearts. Written as personal letters from a father to his daughters, it covers topics such as: bravery, wonder, beauty, kindness, romance, and God's patient love. This book will help us find our stranded words, speak more freely and move us away from a shallow life.
I read the first few chapters. Cried. Then I called my best friend and read them aloud to her on the phone. We both cried. For thirty minutes. She sobbed. For thirty whole minutes. Neither of us has experienced anything like this before. Ever. It was a moment.
The letters are intimate, warm and personal -it feels like you are there with the author as he reads- (his daughter is falls asleep on his shoulder as he writes the second letter.) I felt like I was there in the living room as John was reading to his girls, and somewhere during the reading, the letters were for me. The book is beautifully written. It is literary nonfiction at its best. The first few chapters are about how God created us and is with us, they are not preachy or religious. Just honest. Then the book covers themes like wonder and kindness and relationships- and the Song chapter is my favorite.
This is the only book I’ve ever read - ever - that evoked such a powerful and deep response. I recommend reading it slowly and out loud. Then call your best friend and read it to her.
tender and delicate letters from a father to his daughters - and i'm not an emotional person but as i read this book, i found myself wiping tears off my face in almost every chapter.
Say All the Unspoken Things is one of the best spiritual books of the past 20 years - brilliantly written and warm. The book is intimate, personal and full of of stories for his young daughters, but don't be fooled, each chapter has deep dives and fresh revelations:
"Many of us go through life with words and feelings stranded in our hearts. Words we deeply feel but never say. Sometimes we never have the chance. We don't always get to say goodbye. We don't always know when will be our last hug, high five, smile, laugh or 'I love you.' All we have is today, now, and what we do in this one, shining moment."
"We are addicted to distraction. When we are distracted by screens, we miss everything. To live in wonder is to pause. To live in wonder is to pay attention."
"Beauty hovers over all of us, in our darkness and our light, in the withered frailty of life, in the breathless triumph of death. Beauty is in our sleeping and waking, our innocence and tragedy. Beauty is found in small, unseen gestures of love, humming softly in every act of kindness."
"Remember to sing. The way back to your heart is through song. For you were created in Song and to Song you return."
This book was written for three young girls, but I never felt disconnected. I was right there, experiencing it with them. It left me feeling grateful and full hearted. Put this book at the top of your "Want to Read" list - it's that good.
TITLE: Say All the Unspoken Things: A Book of Letters AUTHOR: John A Sowers PUB DATE: 02.01.2022 Now Available
Say All the Unspoken Things is about living, speaking and loving from our deep hearts. Written as personal letters from a father to his daughters, it covers topics such as: bravery, wonder, beauty, kindness, romance, and God's patient love. This book will help us find our stranded words, speak more freely and move away from a distracted and shallow life.
REVIEW: To those that are closest to us, we rarely ever say how much we love them - we know and assume they do, but hearing from our hearts the deep love and connection we have is so important. This book by Sowers through letters to his daughters teach us how to share and say all the unspoken things of love, compassion, and everything else in our hearts.
If you're an avid reader, then you will immediately recognize the structure with which John A. Sowers approaches "Say All the Unspoken Things: A Book of Letters."
Perhaps done most successfully by National Book Award-winner Ta-Nehisi Coates, the structure is presented entirely as a series of letters to the author's child/children. In this case, Sowers addresses the entirety of "Say All the Unspoken Things" to his three daughters - Dass, Evangeline, and Rosie.
The framework for these letters is presented as a gentle calling forth of saying all the unspoken things that we often hold back in our lives with those whom we love the most. Sowers, it is put forth, is encouraging us to release the stranded and exiled words we have in our hearts so that there are no doubts in our relationships nor regrets in our lives.
I struggled mightily with "Say All the Unspoken Things," a book with which I expected to deeply resonate yet a book that time and again left me feeling disconnected from its messages and disenchanted with its lofty aspirations.
First, and foremost, it is worth mentioning that rather than being a book about saying all the unspoken things to those with whom we are in relationships the book, is in fact, solely framed around Sowers's role as a father to his three daughters. While there will undeniably be those who connect with these messages, or letters, those expecting a broader framework will be disappointed by the narrower approach.
There was never really a moment in this otherwise inspirational book where I felt like these were "unspoken" things. Instead, It seems like Sowers took the major areas of life and simply tapped into broad, inspirational parenting messages. "Say All the Unspoken Things" actually comes closest to succeeding toward the book's end when Sowers does, finally, write individually to each of his daughters with letters that feel personal, intimate, and based upon genuine relationship.
I just wish that Sowers had taken the same approach during the previous 200 pages.
The letters, at least until the end, reveal occasional personal stories but very little about Sowers's daughters. I found it difficult to connect with "Say All the Unspoken Things" because these people felt like broad strokes rather than living, breathing souls. This is especially troubling because they are actually living, breathing souls and not fictionalized characters.
The letters, with only a handful of exceptions, never truly feel like actual letters. Instead, they feel like inspirational parenting messages with a strong evangelical foundation. This became especially true when Sowers began writing about love and romance. Instead of "unspoken things," we get gender stereotypes and "aw shucks" advice.
I kept hoping that at some point I would find a way to connect with "Say All the Unspoken Things," but it simply never happened. Instead, I grew increasingly frustrated with the lack of connection I felt to these people and these letters. Ultimately, I felt like by the end of "Say All the Unspoken Things" that an awful lot remained unsaid.
Most likely to appeal to those who will resonate with its faith-based roots and inspirations, "Say All the Unspoken Things" simply never truly worked for this writer/minister/activist. While I do have an appreciation for its inspiring messages and for Sowers's obvious love for his daughters, "Say All the Unspoken Things: A Book of Letters" is a definite miss for me.
As a woman who grew up without a father - I was deeply moved by this book. Sowers’ tender letters to his own daughters spoke directly to me as an adult daughter. As I read, I found myself in tears on many occasions - and I suspect this book will touch many readers but most especially women, who, like me, never heard words like this from their own father.
This book is full of beautiful and “unspoken” things.
This book is a beautiful read for parents, especially if you have daughters. It’s a collection of letters from a loving father to his three daughters written during the first year of the pandemic. Even though the author was writing to his daughters, I felt like he spoke directly to me. The past few years have been an emotional roller coaster for many of us, and it had us all thinking that we don’t want to leave the unspoken things unsaid. As I read this book, I could feel the author’s heart in every letter. He touches on topics such as bravery, wonder, beauty, kindness, romance, boundaries, guarding your heart, and God’s patient love.
The author has written 33 “letters” categorized in 8 different divisions:
Part 1: You Are Created Part 2: Identity and Purpose Part 3: Growing Young Part 4: Becoming Part 5: Developing Character Part 6: Friends and Relationships Part 7: Finding and Being In Love Part 8: Dreams and Legacy This book is a great reminder to speak more freely and move away from a distracted shallow life. It will leave you inspired to love those around you well and leave a lasting legacy.
One of my favorite quotes in the book,
“We are addicted to distraction. When we are distracted by screens, we miss everything. To live in wonder is to pause. To live in wonder is to pay attention.”
In this damaged and fatherless world, I found it refreshing to find a dad who tapped into his heart and revealed to his daughters what truly matters in life, and how much he loves them.
“Beauty hovers over all of us, in our darkness and our light, in the withered frailty of life, in the breathless triumph of death. Beauty is in our sleeping and waking, our innocence and tragedy. Beauty is found in small, unseen gestures of love, humming softly in every act of kindness.”
Another favorite quote, “If you live complaining and speaking of your losses, ruminating on bitterness, hurts, and negativity, you will become these things. But if you live grateful and speak life, if you meditate in your hearts on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy,” you become these things. Be mindful of the stories you tell yourselves and the stories you tell others about yourselves.”
If you are looking for a deeply moving and meaningful book this Spring Break, I highly recommend this one!
I have received this product through the Front Gate Media exchange for my honest and unbiased product review; all opinions are my own.*
John writes letters to his three daughters kind of based on topics: gratitude, love and home, wonder, bravery, seeds, time, friendships, boundaries, etc. John does share some things worth pondering over, but with the letters (chapters) being written specifically to his daughters, often mentioning people they know and their own relational dynamics, I frequently felt a disconnect. It just felt a little too personal reading words specifically directed at his young daughters. He does include questions for the reader at the very end of the book relating to each of the letters/chapters, though I think it would have been better for the reader if they were directly with the correlating portion of the book than at the back.
Maybe it has to do with where my head space is right at this moment of reading it, but I wasn’t all that invested in it, sadly. I felt the idea, really just the title, of this book is one to take to heart, but I just had a hard time connecting with it overall. I guess I had also expected it to be more about being intentional with our time and words with others, not so much of life advice and encouragement from a parent to their child. It’ll likely mean a lot to John’s daughters when they read this but as a reader who does not know any of them, it just felt odd. Rating 2.5 rounded to 3.
Say All the Unspoken Things: A Book of Letters is a compilation of letters the author wrote to his three young daughters over the course of a year. Perhaps not so coincidentally, the author began the book a year following the death of his mother.
The writings cover a wide variety of topics in which the dad passes along his parental wisdom, cautions, hopes for, and encouragement to his daughters. Being a religious man, each topic also is heavily peppered with his religious views. He also includes a personal lettter to each of his daughters.
The book is an easy read and the messages come across as heartfelt and sincere. I strongly agree that all of us should be sure the important people in our lives know how much they mean to us, and that there is worth in recording your values for your children and loved ones in some way, so that they can reference the material in years to come.
So why didn't I rate this book higher? There's just something about it that bothers me a bit, but it hasn't quite worked itself through to the point of clarity yet. Perhaps it's that the title promises a broader perspective than strictly parenting wisdom; or that as worthwhile for his children I felt the book to be, I never really felt personally connected to the book. I realize I'm swimming against the current on this one, and yes, I definitely do have a heart. This was just a so-so read for me.
My thanks to Thomas Nelson who permitted me access to an e-ARC of the book via NetGalley. The book is scheduled to be published on 2/1/22. All opinions expressed in this review are my own and are freely given.
What a beautiful book about the importance of telling your loved ones just how much they mean to you. Author John Sowers began writing g letters to his daughters after he lost his mom. He realized there was so much he didn’t get to say to her, and questions he’ll never have the answers too. So John decided to write letters to share his thoughts, feelings, insights, love, joy, fears, accomplishments, everything and anything that came to mind. I thought this was so special that his girls will have these letters to treasure when they grow up. My mom kept a journal when I was pregnant with my first daughter, and when Katelyn gave birth to Luna my mom gave the journals to her. I read them and was blown away by how much I didn’t remember from my pregnancy but also thought it was so special my daughter can read about her life in my tummy and her birth. This journal will be treasured by many generations. I’ve started and stopped journaling many times and keep thinking it’s too late. It’s never too late. I loved reading the letters John wrote and his encouragement to his readers to not hold in your feelings and thoughts, share them. We don’t know what day is our last so don’t put things off. I was inspired to put pen to paper and start my letters to my kids and grand baby. It doesn’t have to be more then one journal, I can write it to everyone. I also want to get back into sending cards, postcards, even a simple text to let all my friends and family know I’m thinking of them and how much they mean to me. Thank you John!
Are you like me, and sometimes unable to express your true feelings? Is it easier to put your thoughts into writing, instead of verbally saying them out loud? During the pandemic John Sowers began to write letters to his three daughters to share how much he loved them, and to also encourage them in their daily lives. These letters are moving and eloquent reminders of his love for his daughters, but they are equally beneficial to all of us who read them. They cover a myriad of subjects, and a multitude of emotions, and they provide tremendous insight and wisdom.
'Live simple lives. Create space for your souls to breathe. Rest on Sundays. Be thankful and content and free. Forgive others.' (p. 186)
Sowers urges readers to tell their loved ones just how they feel, and to do it now, instead of later! Reading this book was especially emotional for me! I knew that my father loved me with all of his might, but it would be wonderful to have his thoughts and feelings in writing, to read whenever I wanted.
Say All the Unspoken Things is a gem, and it's a book that you'll want to share with others. Best of all, Sower's letters remind us that we are deeply loved by our Heavenly Father.
I received a copy of this book from FrontGate Media. There was no obligation for a favorable review. These are my own thoughts.
This book had me all up in my emotions from the author's note to the very last page. What a beautiful book of letters from the author, John Sowers, to his three daughters. The letters touched on various topics such as love, kindness, and growth. However, the main message was loud and clear. SAY ALL THE UNSPOKEN THINGS. Tomorrow isn't promised. You also never know who you might inspire.
THIS. This is what we need more of in this crazy world. Every letter resonated so deeply as I have an amazing little girl myself. In addition to this, I was also raised by the most hardworking and loving single father. It was so wonderful to read such heartfelt words from a father to his girls. I got emotional reading some of these letters because they're just so raw, beautiful and so wholesome. I also laughed a lot too.
I'm just going to hug this book for a bit longer. I had a similar idea to this and used to write short letters in a journal to my daughter when she was first born. I think I stopped when she was one and a half years old because life. After reading Say All the Unspoken Things, I think I'll go find that journal and continue writing letters to her. There is so much strength and power in words. You never know who might need to hear them.
I love this book. What a great way to write to someone and put it into a book. But if you're thinking this may not be for you I encourage you to read on. There's some beautiful writing in here. The author writes words of encouragement, wisdom, and with such heart it quickly has you turning to the next chapter (or letter).
I found myself highlighting a lot. Some of my favorite chapters are Song and Beautiful. But there's not one chapter I didn't enjoy or have a takeaway from. I've read some of it to my wife and she loved it as well.
Most of us wish we could've said things to those we love while they're around, but seldom do it. It takes intentionality, time, and being driven by love to do it. The author has questions for the reader to help get you started in case you want to say all of your unspoken things. You don't have to be a writer in order to do it. You can use your authentic voice.
This book is a keeper for me. I'll pull it from the shelf when I need some inspiration or to gather my own questions as a spring board to write to those I love and cherish. What a gift to the readers and to the author's daughters. I wish people spoke from their heart like this more.
There were many truly beautiful lines in this book, both well placed quotes and original material. However, as a whole, Say All the Unspoken Things just fell flat for me. The letters were impersonal (until the last few pages when Sowers wrote individual letters) and I often wondered who the target audience was. At some times I felt like I couldn’t relate because I didn’t know anyone in the story, and at other times I felt disconnected because many of the ideas discussed were thoughts and discoveries I had on my own at a young age and later developed into something more profound. I wasn’t able to find the true grit and unbridled bluntness that I felt a book like this should have. Instead of honest truths, I found Say All the Unspoken Things to be full of trite metaphors for very run-of-the-mill self help novel advice. Another reviewer put my thoughts into words when he said that by the end, he still felt like much was unsaid.
Overall, I don’t think the issue is that Sowers is a bad writer. I think he has a gift for words. I simply believe that this book tries to walk the line between intimate and marketable and falls short on both sides.
"Say All The Unspoken Things" is wonderful, sweet story collection written in a form of personal letters from a father to his three young daughters. Each letter covers topics such as bravery, gratitude, love, deduction, kindness and many more.
I thoroughly enjoyed the read. I appreciated the author's honesty and bravery to share his thoughts with the readers on such a personal level. Through the book you get a glimpse into the author's life journey, you relate to his challenges and admire his strength in sharing his weaknesses and imperfections with his daughters. He says, this is real me, we are not perfect, but with a little faith, humility and lots of love and determination we can overcome the toughest hurdles in life and thrive to be better every day.
It's a very inspiring collection of letters. I feel like every person has those unspoken things they've been wanting to say or maybe didn't get a chance to do so. What a moving, beautifully written book. Father's unconditional love shines right through these letters!
This book of letters gave me mixed emotions. A few letters had me annotating and tabbing the full page. Others had me skimming and sometimes even annoyed at the example the author is setting for his daughters (his traditional views on females ). However this book did have a few letters that had me shedding a few tears of how deep they touched me. I do have to give a warning that at times I did feel uncomfortable reading a book dedicated to his living daughters, I felt like I was barging in on a private moment. Over all I would read it again/ or at least my tabbed pages.
I think that this book is a sweet reminder of what our loved ones mean to us and how we may recollect our memories once they are gone. Also, I liked that the author was able to write down many memories of his daughters while they're still young, so that one day they can go back and reread his thoughts/viewpoints of themselves in the future. This book by John Sowers is a must read for anyone who enjoys sentimental recollections!
*Thanks to Goodreads & Thomas Nelson Publishers for allowing me to read an e-copy in exchange for my honest opinions.
That was short and sweet and I loved it!! 😭 A book of letters ...a book of wisdom shared. It reminded me of a book I'd want to write my kids, knowing full well they would not all currently be in a place to receive it...but praying that one day, they each would. Or...it reminded me of a book I'd want a father to write to me. His heart/love for his daughters shines through but the advice he gives is for anyone wanting to walk in wisdom. Full of quotes worth dwelling on (I shared several on fb yesterday).
I think I had a different expectation of what this book was supposed to be. I loved the idea of “say all the unspoken things” coming from a father to his kids. In reality this book for me felt like someone trying to tenderly preach platitudes.
Granted, this was written during the pandemic and I believe that sense of unknowing and contemplation helped shape this book.
I did like this line: “Our brief and fragile lives are splintered reflections of infinite and immortal beauty.”
This book has taught me so much. This is one where I will need to reread. I would definitely recommend to Christian’s who want to better themselves and learn about the person who they are. I’m going to rate this 5 stars because of the information since I will carry this throughout my life and use it to became a better person. I read this one over time to soak in the information and can’t wait to share what I’ve learned to others.
I really liked the idea for this book, to write letters (essays) to loved ones, in this case his daughters. I would have appreciated it more if he stuck to deeper insights about their family relationships and the things he saw in each child. There were lots of quotes from philosophers, poets, and scripture that filled too much space.
I was randomly recommended this book, so didn’t really know what to expect. Some moments I found it a little hard to get through the letters out of boredom, but other moments I felt like John was talking to me directly and challenging me to be my best self. I almost felt I was one of his daughters and these letters were written for me.
This was a daily reading for me because each letter contained things I wanted to spend time with. Some of it is like sitting through a sermon but it’s mostly tender and encouraging. These are letters to his daughters. There are questions here to ask yourself, words you might say to your children or yourself.
Beautifully written. He is honest about his strengths and weaknesses. Life is not perfect. Every person has unspoken things they've been wanting to say or maybe didn't get a chance to do so. What a moving, beautifully written book.
I loved how the author connected to his three daughters through life lessons and through what God says about different aspects of life. So many encouraging words and emotional stories that I could really relate to. Definitely a feel-good read with lots of wisdom!
Loved the idea of this book. Started out GREAT. I quickly became distracted by the focus on religion. Though I appreciate other’s beliefs and am comfortable with all religions, it is not what I’m looking for in a book