I got to the end of the introduction to Part 3 about Mothers.
There are so many problems with this collection it’s hard to know where to start. So I’m going to list them below, and while numbered these are in no particular order. I’d be very hard pressed to pick which of these is the worst of the offences listed.
1) No First Hand Accounts
Neither of the female authors who wrote this book have any first hand accounts, interviews, or new information on any of these stories. Instead they are just regurgitating the stories as they were told by someone else. How can you have a new perspective, interest, or reason to tell the story if you haven’t been to the site, talked to those who have experienced the phenom, or at least done more than read an article by another (more experienced likely) author. With nothing new to contribute (that doesn’t fall into the points below) there is really no sense in publishing this book.
2) Feminist Manifesto of Misleading Proportions
The introductions and large portions of the ghost story narratives themselves read as feminist political manifestos. To the point where I found it not only obnoxious but downright insulting. As a female myself I do not believe many of the things stated are fair or even true based on todays society. In the 1800s sure; but not today. For example, you can’t honestly tell me that the majority of women still go to college only to find a “suitable husband”!?! Don’t put a spin on a story just so it meets your specific narrative. It is very obvious and leaves no room for you to be incorrect.
3) Not Qualified at All
If someone wants to write a book dissecting society, it’s treatment of women, the ramifications, and how that might influence ghosts or spirits; then you had better have a professional at least consulted. It would be better if the psychologist, feminine studies professor, historical professor, sociologist, or any number of experts wrote the actual book; but at least have someone consulted, quoted, and vetting your statements. The women who wrote this book have zero credentials (except that they presumably each identify as female) to make any of the far reaching, condemning, and frankly at times insulting comments they make.
4) Cherry Picking to Fit a Motive
Throughout the book the women defend why they chose the examples they did. At first in part 1 I was mostly okay with this. In part 2 it started to be very skewed that they were intentionally ignoring specific styles of ghost stories (presumably as they didn’t fit their feminist, man-hating agenda). By part 3, about mothers, I was flat out insulted.
Who are these women to decide that mothers who’ve lost their child and haunt the area looking for them, or committed suicide after losing a child are ‘not interesting’!?!?
Im sorry but how dare you take someone’s massive grief and disregard it. Whether it’s a well substantiated haunting story or not! Obviously neither of these women have lost a baby or known someone who had. Because no one with half a heart and knowledge of what it’s like to see a child die would be so disrespectful as to literally blow-off a very specific type of motherly trauma that is often connected to haunting. I could not be more disgusted in the attitude and tone this section took. Hence why I chose to put this book down and not complete it.
Overall
The constant arrogance, disrespect, and man-hating energy from this book (as far as I read) is just gross. Each time I read a new section or justification for why these authors believed a certain spirit was remaining or how in life the woman was held down by men felt more and more like they were using these stories (many tragic and heartbreaking) in order to further their inexperienced,, certainly not professional, commentary regarding the patriarch.
Don’t get me wrong, many statements made are totally true. And both capitalism and the patriarch are rife with obvious massive problems. But I do not think taking a paintbrush and making assumptions, having done no first hand research and with no educational background on the topics at hand, is appropriate. May I apologize to the memories, spirits, and legacy of each of the women discussed in this book for having their story used as a prop. In no way is this a memorial to any of these women, nor is it fair for these women to dissect and decide on motives or feelings at that time based on someone else’s version of a story they have read.
Finally may I apologize with all sincerity to anyone who has lost a child or been close to someone who has, for such callus disregard of your trauma and plight that these women shove you in a corner as if your stories are worthless or insignificant. As a childless women (partially by choice), and someone who has been present watching and attempting to support the grief of a mother whose child died, let me offer you my sincere apology that this book has been published and put out into the world with the phrasing that your stories are boring or not worthy of the authors time.
Please note: I received an eARC of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. This is an honest and unbiased review.