HIGHLIGHTS:
1. CONGRUENCE:
- Designing your work and life. It comes down to making good choices, consistent with your compass, and what you value.
- Point of impact: from personal to global.
- Type of impact: renew - repair- sustain - support new-new.
- Moneymaking, impact making, expression making.
- Maximizing reality.
- Strategy: Retreat. Review. Reflect. Reinforce. Train.
- Millennials and Gen Z workers especially demand a work experience that is meaningful and that gives them a sense that they are having an impact on the world.
- You need to ask for help. When you reach out to the world, it’s been our experience that the world reaches back. And that changes everything.
- Telling a new story, especially to yourself, can be a powerful way to change your experience on the job.
2. GOOD ENOUGH:
- “Good enough for now” is one of the big reframes because you’re changing your internal narrative.
- Create relationships with people, not things – that’s one way you get off of the hedonic treadmill.
- ACTION: Plan positive energy breaks at three-hour intervals every day.
- You have no control over other people, and little control sometimes over your circumstances. When we design our work life, we begin by accepting what is, and then find small ways to redesign our circumstances. We get curious, talk to people, try stuff, and start telling a new story. In the process, we find ourselves more engaged and more energized.
- The secret to “good enough for now” is to have a bias to action. Set the bar low. Clear it. Then do it again.
- ACTION: Every two weeks once you’ve met your previous goal you make a small incremental change.
- If you fall behind, no problem just reset your goal and start over but no threat. Your brain needs to pay a penalty for messing up.
3. ACCOUNTABILITY:
- When we create accountability the likelihood of our meeting our commitment increases substantially.
- You will have established a method you can rely on for making changes.
- REFLECTION: what did I learn? What did I initiate? Who did I help?
- ACTION: Learning, initiating, and helping. Try to do this daily, or at least every few days, and no less than once a week.
- Continue this daily login for 3 to 4 weeks.
- The “good work journal” can help you gain awareness of what’s working in your life and what’s not. Over time, these practices contribute to a sense of moving in the right direction. And when you get used to setting the bar low and making the small incremental adjustments that come from noticing what’s working, it all starts to add up to significant changes in your experience of work.
4. SMALL THINGS:
- Look for small things. Look out for what we call unlearning. Set the goal to initiate something new at work at least once a week. Do you do something in the service of others? Small interventions count. Small gestures build good karma.
- To reflect is to think, ponder, or meditate on an idea or experience. Quiet time and focused energy to select ideas or experiences.
- Savoring & Insight: Reflection is a powerful way to train your capacity for noticing your experience. Welcome to more for free.
- ACTION: Make the micro goals each week easy.
- Money and meaning are just two different measurements of what I value.
- Most people care about both their success in making money and their success in making an impact.
- Finding and maintaining the right combination supports them and living a meaningful life.
- Dramatic stuff in a stuck situation includes our own old baggage: old wounds not yet fully healed, sensitivities we just can’t seem to dampen, and biases no one has talked us out of yet.
- The best doable option: Formulate a list of actually available options, then pick the best one.
- Gravity problems: It’s not a problem because there’s no effective action you can take, and if you can’t take action, it can’t be solved.
- If you are careful about finding the right problem and you get good at reframing your problem in a way that gives you the creative freedom to prototype lots of solutions, you will have the best available chance at finding yourself in a job and life you enjoy.
5. REFRAME:
- Reframing problems is your go-to superpower.
- Overwhelm: I chose my way into this and I can design my way out.
- Do not let overwhelm turn into burnout.
- Start prototyping small changes to your task list. You will discover that you have more agency than you think, and whether you have to ask for permission to try something or not, you are the initiator.
- If you really want to get a lot of time and energy back, you should give away your most prized in high visibility activities. Those are the easiest ones to find takers, and giving them away frees up a lot of time.
- If you can get your key partners, intimates, and collaborators to join you in temporarily embracing your hyper-overwhelm, things will go much more smoothly for everyone.
- You are the designer and you are in control.
- Less is more list: Make your less is more list of things to drop, delegate, or renegotiate.
6. CHANGE:
- At work, you develop your autonomy by showing up in the work that you do and deciding to do it as well or better than is required. When you get in the habit of over-delivering on the job, good things start to happen.
- Change your self-talk from doubtful to positive and tell that story out loud. Develop yourself in concert with your intrinsic motivation to be an autonomous and creative worker, and to collaborate with others. Work hard to gain Mastery in your field and focus on what you need to make your job meaningful.
- To make change happen, you need to be the person who has that authority.
7. INFLUENCE:
- Influence that matters ask the people with the authority who are making decisions, often by providing an informed opinion on the pros and cons of the decision in question.
- Influence is a form of power that acts upon authority. Authority is the power to make decisions.
- Influence is the sum of the value you contribute and the recognition you get from contributing that value.
Influence = value + recognition
- Influence comes from a very legitimate place. It comes from the real value you create, strategically, and culturally aligned, for your organization.
- Most influencers become influential because their advice and counsel can add value. You add value to the organization, meaning you help it be more successful, by being useful and doing great work. Is important that the value you add strategically align with the organization's direction and is recognized by people who can do something about it, the ones with the authority to make decisions.
- Real influence comes from a repeat record of adding value and being recognized for it. Decision-makers need influencers because without them they’re left out on their own to figure out everything.
- Be a savvy political observer and keep adding value that’s visible to the right influencers and authorities, something good will come of it.
- A smart designer reframes her understanding of her organization to match this three-dimensional, moving system and works to increase her power and influence.
- When do you understand that influence is making an impact on good decisions, and that causes change, you can start to see through the politics of decision-making and it all starts to make sense.
- You understand the valuation process and how it acts on decisions. Once you start seeing these business situations more clearly, it doesn’t take long to realize how these new political insights put you in a position of power over your own work life. If you can get an alignment with the people who have power, and work on adding recognizable value, you will be engaging the political realities in a very healthy way.
8. AUTHORITY & INFLUENCE:
- Politics, and healthy organizations, is about making the organization run better.
- Redesigning your job where you are: Align yourself with the organization's strategies and goals and make sure that your value aligns with your own compass, and we predict good things will happen.
- Prototype doing more of it in ways that make it easy for your employer to like what you’re doing. If it works, just keep building your way forward to a more joyful job.
- Grad school is the solution if and only if you have identified the right problem to solve. Please have a bunch of prototype conversations, and if you prototype experiences you can be more certain that grad school will make a difference in your future.
- Before you quit, have that conversation with your boss. Ask one simple question. “What am I doing wrong?”
- What you choose to do in life is what gives your life meaning and a purpose. So make it a point to quit with a purpose.
- Make the connection tangible and touch base: a handwritten note, thanking someone for their time or being helpful, is always appreciated.
9. QUITTING:
- 2 to 6 months on this project to quit. Do you want to always be building a professional reputation in-network, both of which travel with you wherever you go?
- be clear and concise and emphasize the positives about your future challenges. Do you want to tell a consistent and positive story?
- Create a job description that includes everything you do, including the stuff that you were supposed to do and the stuff that you actually do. Make it a comprehensive list of all your responsibilities.
- Leave the campsite better than you found it: make a list of the people you work with and who work for you. Go to their boss and praise their accomplishments. Be selfless and give away any political or social capital you have.
- Quick reference manual: regular meetings, activities, and reports. Key colleagues and helpers. List current key issues, and problems to be addressed. List all problems that could resurface if not maintained. Procedures for regular functions of the job. Personal summary edge of each of your direct reports, including what makes them a great employee.
10. MOVING ON:
- Design is always a work in progress.
- The most effective way we know to pursue and learn new job opportunities starts with prototype conversations, rooted in your curiosity, with professionals in your area of current interest.
- Be a sincerely curious person and someone not looking for a job, you can become an insider through connections built by getting the story.
- When you’re out there “getting the story”, you are just a curious person who’s talking to interesting people doing interesting things in the field of work you’re interested in. You’re not a job seeker yet, which is why you are such an easy person to talk to you.
- Make a “take it with me” inventory: list all the assets you’ve gained during your employment in your current job learning‘s peak experiences, hard challenges, people relationships personal growth.
- Prototyping is the lowest way to get curious, try stuff, and take control of your work life.
- When you become a life designer, you don’t just accept the default reality of what’s happening to you. You build your way forward.
- Come up with a better way to tell people about what you do. Let your service or product be delightful and extraordinary. 250 words.
- When you have designed your customer's experience to be extraordinary and delightful, you find yourself working with people who are happy to work with you.
- Delighting your clients is a never-ending design process, but it’s fun to do.
- Being creative and having good social and emotional interpersonal skills are at the heart of the new creative economy, and the consultants and entrepreneurs who will succeed will be masters of soft skills.
- With disengagement at work at epidemic proportions, our work culture is not working, and the reason is that our organizations are filled with dysfunctional beliefs.
- Work is wasted or lacking in purpose. We have real problems to solve and real challenges to face, and we need to transform our work culture so that it works for individuals, organizations, and societies. By transforming your beliefs about work and sharing these reframes with others, you are contributing to far greater meaning and impact.
- The one thing we know with absolute certainty is this: life’s too short to be disengaged at work. And life is too precious to be disengaged at life.
“Wisdom Dates”:
Designingyourlife.com
Freelancer.com
upwork.com.