I really wanted to enjoy this book, but honestly I just didn't really vibe with it.
While there was a lot of good information in it and I think the overall message was an empowering one, there were definitely parts I thought were questionable and that I wouldn't necessarily want a teenage girl to read as her first experience of dating advice or feminist writing.
For example, "...it's less likely a man is going to feel like he was used for sex by a woman, and in most cases, if he was, he'd probably just be happy that he got to have sex." This is problematic because it enforces patriarchal messages that men should "just be happy they got laid" when consent is vitally important from both parties. While I think no harm was meant by this, it's not a good message especially for teenage girls who are quite impressionable and may think coercing men into bed is different to men coercing women. It's poor advice in a book about dating - you won't get genuine connection by using men and it also won't make you feel better, perhaps just powerful for the couple of days that follow (red flag). While women statistically suffer more severely from "fuckboys" than men do from "fuckgirls", the idea isn't to lower ourselves to their level. Being a "fuckgirl" is not excusable, even if we have it worse in the dating game. Feminism isn't about women getting to be like men, it's about women being themselves without discrimination, fear or violence. Don't fight the patriarchy by becoming the patriarchy.
The other thing that stuck out to me as problematic was, "...if a man does not offer to pay, I take it as a sign that he is not interested. I will always offer to split the bill, but if he doesn't decline my offer, we will be unlikely to have a second date." I personally don't agree at all with making an offer that is insincere and sets someone up for failure. People cannot mind-read and this comes across as immature and disingenous to me - not a great start for a relationship. It's misleading and if you're unwilling to pay for a date because of ideas of chivalry or anything else, let your date know or just don't make the offer to split the bill in the first place. Don't play games - it's exhausting.
At times it felt as if the author was criticising the patriarchy while making comments from a patriarchal perspective. Don't get me wrong, there was a lot of good stuff in this book, but there were statements that gave me the ick frequently enough throughout the book that made it an uncomfortable read. If I was to recommend a book on feminism and dating, I'd definitely suggest Bell Hooks' "All About Love" over this one.