As someone who has a problem with slowing down, relaxing, and doing nothing, I was intrigued by the premise of this book which aims to tech the reader how to embrace Niksen, the Dutch art of doing nothing.
“Niksen” consists of an introduction, six chapters, and an epilogue. Following the epilogue, the book also consists of the nikseneers’ manifesto, quick niksen tips, niksen tips from the Dutch, acknowledgments, bibliography, and an index.
Each chapter discusses a different aspect of the niksen way and also proves interesting facts, stories, or expert opinions from people living in the Netherlands or researchers who study some aspect of niksen. At the end of each chapter, Mecking provides three questions to niks on in ones free time.
In the introduction, Mecking begins with an idealistic life of being the perfect mother, wife, while having an organized house and well behaved children. Quickly, Mecking shares that the idealistic life she was previously referring to doesn’t exist and her desire to do nothing. Wonders when doing nothing became frowned upon except when collapsing from exhaustion. Further in the introduction, Mecking clarifies what Niksen aka niks is which is not to work, perform emotional labor, or to get mindful and what niks is not which is browsing Facebook, sitting and worrying about children, or meditating. I appreciate that Mecking discloses that as an outsider living in the Netherlands for over ten years, it has provided her with a unique perspective and opportunity to become closely attuned to the local customs. Likewise, I appreciate that Mecking is not presenting herself as an expert in niks but instead using this book as a way to share the extensive research she has obtained on this specific topic.
In chapter one, Mecking helps readers become familiar with the concept of niksen, the ways to approach doing nothing, and how people feel about niksen. Niksen is best defined as “doing something without a purpose, like staying out of a window, hangout out, or listening to music. Interesting to learning different ways people do nothing around the world such as dolce far niente in Italy, siesta in Spain, Sabbath (which is performed by the Jewish as well as seventh day Adventists,) and Wu-Wei by the Chinese. The is very little consensus of what Niksen is. Niksen is not working, not emotional labor, not laziness or boredom, mindfulness, reading books, watching TV, or browsing social media.
In chapter two, Mecking focuses on the Netherlands, presents her observations on the country as well as its ways of being. Mecking shares personal connection to the Netherlands through her grandfathers being the Polish ambassador to the Netherlands and mother lived there for eight years as well as her return to the Netherlands as an adult with a child. Interesting to read comparison between Netherlands country size with United States. Tiny county with tallest people averaging 6 feet tall. Reading the book makes me long to go to the Netherlands due to the slower pace of life, friendliness, and low stress levels. Oddly enough, researchers say it’s hard to make friends with the Dutch due to a tight knit society where people live in whole town or are their whole life. The Dutch are content, not happy. Like that the Dutch believes in everyone doing their own things, live and let live. Emotional outbursts are frowned upon and actions speak for themselves. Decisions are made by consensus and compromise. Flat work hierarchy.
In chapter three, Mecking explains where the need to be constantly busy comes from and what it does to ones health and social life. Mecking shares her attempts to niks which is quickly thwarted by thoughts of work and children. Presents history of busyness stemming from ancient times with a clear separation between work and leisure after the industrial revolution.Busyness is now used as an alternative status symbol since if you’re busy all the time, it means you are sought after. Niks can help with work/life balance and can lead to more work productivity.Fascinating that research shows that it’s easier for men to niks than women and that women are willing sacrifice their own leisure time for their husbands. Doing nothing is unheard of among women. People now self soothe with devices and screens instead of soothing from within. Dependence of tech also blur work life and personal life which leads to employers expecting employees to be constantly available.
In chapter four, Mecking shows how niksen can positively affect one’s life. Also shows that the brain is always active, even when doing nothing. Implies that niksen is brain’s default mode which is deactivated when motivated by external stimuli, an inner drive or anxiety. Workers view productivity by how many hours worked instead of getting a lot accomplished. Discussed procrastination and defines three three types of procrastinators which are anxious procrastinator, disgusted procrastinator, and manipulative procrastinator.
In chapter five, Mecking teaches the reader how to introduce and embrace niksen in work, home, and in public. Encourages reader to own their nothingness time as a way to prevent work burnout. Introduces concept of “FaceTime culture” which expects employees to never leave work before the boss. Recommends bosses to show self niks ring which will in turn lead to employees taking niksen themselves. Recommends niking at work by really taking a break by taking a walk and not continuing work. Recommends niking at home by reorganizing your environment, teach children to learn to entertain themselves, and do nothing as a family. Recommends niking in public by incorporating niksen during sports by leaving phone at home and not listening to music or finding a Niksen friendly hobby opposite from life currently lived. Suggests two ways to niks by either planning it or doing it spontaneously.
In chapter six, Mecking talks about situations in which niksen doesn’t work and addresses some of the criticism it has received. Says that niksen might not work for all due to culture and economic circumstances. Niksen can be used often, sporadically, or not at all. Mecking says that readers should not attempt niking if they are depressed, if it could get you in trouble if you have a job where you’re constantly monitored, or when there is nothing wrong in your life and your life is good enough. Liked was to trick brain into doing niks such as listen to music, create something,play, go for a walk, ride your bike, and listen to your body.
In the epilogue, Mecking ends the book by providing an update on her niksen journey as well as looking to the future and how niksen can help with productivity, picking and choosing things from other cultures, and looking for contentment instead of happiness.
Enjoyed the three appendix items consisting of the nikseeneers’ manifesto, quick niksen tips, and niksen tips from the Dutch.
As I finished reading this book, I liked that the concept of Niksen doesn’t require adding something new to ones life but instead requires that the reader takes the time to stop and learn to do nothing without feeling guilty or unworthy. In addition, I appreciated that Mecking works to remove the stigma of doing nothing, removes shame at taking time to not being active all the time, and encourages the reader to not view themselves as lazy or doing nothing as unimportant.