Fans of blogger Becky Rapinchuk's cleanmama.com will enjoy her latest book, 'Clean Mama's Guide to a Peaceful Home: Effortless Systems and Joyful Rituals for a Clean, Cozy Home'.
As someone who didn't grow up inheriting 'effortless' homekeeping skills from either parent, I've found myself needing to learn these (often onerous, but necessary) adult life-skills externally.
Based on the description, I expected step-by-step guides to tackling each room with how-tos and 'start here, end there' type suggestions, perhaps even hints on the best types of products to use and what to avoid, and certainly tips on how to save time and make cleaning more efficient in each space. I hoped to learn some useful tips and tactics to make keeping a clean home.
What Rapinchuk offers is, instead, a sort of rough philosophical guide to how to tackle cleaning, with broad instructions on how to create your own 'systems and rituals', to varying levels of success.
Suggestions I found helpful:
- If cohabiting, communicate with your partner / family / roommates to find out what tasks you each find more or less unpleasant; for example, I found out that despite disliking loading the dishwasher I actually quite enjoy unloading it, while my wife doesn't mind loading it but hates unloading, and likewise while I really enjoy doing laundry I hate tackling the dryer. Rapinchuk doesn't go deeply into how best to communicate, as her approach is a rather standard patriarchal hierarchy (her husband does very little in the way of housekeeping whatsoever), but I found the suggestion and ran with it, to very good results.
- Try to create 'rituals' (the words she's reaching for are 'positive associations') wherein you pair a pleasant task or small reward with a more onerous task. While hardly groundbreaking, the idea of actively trying to create positive (or at least defuse negative) associations with less-enjoyable but necessary tasks feels smart. An example of this would be setting your kettle to boil / coffeemaker to start, then unloading / loading the dishwasher, or gathering / starting a load of laundry, so that you have a 'treat' waiting at the end.
- Common sense, but again deeply reassuring: when setting up systems / routines (cleaning schedules) from scratch, be patient with yourself and don't attempt to tackle everything at once - for example, if your whole house is a mess after a move (case in point: myself), don't stare at the whole thing as you'll just get overwhelmed. Instead, tackle a room over the course of two (or more) days and breaking it up into tasks (for example, in a bedroom, tackling the clothes as one thing, then books, then knick-knacks, etc). I found the 'permission' to break things into small, manageable chunks helpful.
- To that end, with larger messes / tidying tasks, Rapinchuk likewise encourages you to tackle 'one surface at a time'. For example, if clutter in your living room gathers on the side table, coffee table, and desk, tackle one of these at once. You'll have done more than just stare at it and walk away, but also there's the chance that seeing one nicely-cleared surface will motivate you to tackle another.
- To a lesser extent, I liked the idea of dealing with clutter by gathering everything (other than, say, bills) into a box as you tidy, and then leaving it in that box. If after a month you've not pulled stuff out of the box, it may be time to donate / sell those items. I found this less helpful because if I did that, I'd live surrounded by boxes that were constantly being rifled through.
- Small but groundbreaking enough to make my wife and I laugh at how obvious (and good) a suggestion it was: fold your fitted sheet as best as you can, then tuck it into a matching pillowcase to store. Genius!
- Familiar to people who have read books by Marie Kondo, grouping items into zones (ie task zones) can make things run more smoothly. We all already do this - for example, having coffee and mugs near the coffeemaker, and having dishwasher tabs near the dishwasher - but being conscious of creating zones can help avoid clutter. I liked Rapinchuk's idea of using zones (in the way of bins or storage dividers) within bathroom drawers for grouping face care, hair care, first aid, etc supplies so that everything was logically lumped together.
Suggestions I found far less helpful:
- Hanging up your t-shirts because fold lines on shirts are ugly. I'm frankly baffled by this; when I fold my t-shirts correctly, they never crease, but also, how many people have this much closet space?
- 'Midday reset' wherein you schedule some major housework during an hour or so in the middle of the day. Most people work; she doesn't really suggest alternatives for alleviating pressure on morning and evening routines if you aren't privileged enough to live on one income, or if you work from home but don't get the 1 - 2 hour break she suggests is normal.
- Getting up at 5am and doing 2 - 3 hours of cleaning. This assumes a lot of things, not least of which the fact that you're not getting up at 5am to already be out the door by 5:30 for a long, painful commute, or indeed the fact that you might be living in a non-freestanding home (I don' think the author has any concept of something like a studio apartment) where vacuuming, doing the laundry, or rattling dishes around would be seen as antisocial or disruptive.
- Rapinchuk described her work routine, wherein she basically puts in about 2 - 3 hours of work from home (after, of course, cleaning for hours, exercising, walking her dog, feeding her spouse and kids, cleaning up after feeding her spouse and kids, and spending 2 - 3 hours cleaning in the morning), takes 2 hours or so midday to do more housekeeping, then works for another 1 1/2 - 2 hours maximum. As someone who works gruelling hours, I found this disjoint from most working peoples' lives painful. I'm not reading this book to understand that if I only had to work for 4 hours a day, I'd be better at keeping a clean home; I'm reading it to learn how to manage a home with a busy, modern life. I suspect many of her readers would feel likewise alienated by this.
Suggestions I found problematic:
- Keeping your phone downstairs at night because (direct quote) "electromagnetic fields mess with your natural body rhythms". Citation, please? No, really: this sort of fake-science pseudoholistic babble is the reason we have antivaxxers running around. We shouldn't permit or validate this views, and I sincerely hope that the publisher either puts in a note regarding this specifically being the author's view, removes the link (keeping your phone downstairs at night to avoid distractions and stressors so you can get a better night's sleep is perfectly good a reason on its own), or adds a link to a research article that supports this statement.
- Rapinchuk's home-made cleaning products are, for the most part, functional and low-cost alternatives to commercial brands. However, a huge red flag is her 'All-Purpose Disinfecting Spray' which uses a small portion of rubbing alcohol (isopropanol is roughly 70% alcohol by volume) or vodka (approximately 40% alcohol by volume) to water and vinegar, as well as essential oils. Her formula cannot possibly disinfect kitchen or bathroom surfaces to any appreciable level. It's far too dilute. The risk of pathogens like E. coli, Campylobacter, and others isn't to be taken lightly, and anyone potentially at greater risk from these pathogens due to pre-existing health conditions, age, or disability would be strongly discouraged from depending on this non-disinfecting 'disinfectant'. Instead, they should use a lab-tested commercial disinfecting product appropriate for kitchen and bathroom surfaces in particular. This, again, should be marked by the publisher as not actually disinfecting but rather as an 'all purpose cleaner', with a note that it will not kill most household pathogens. Even more alarming, Rapinchuk asks you to spray and then wipe, where most commercial disinfectants need time to act fully (5 - 15 minutes is standard; check the label on your products) to ensure a properly disinfected surface.
I did find it disappointing that at no point did Rapinchuk go into how to actually tackle things room by room; there are very rough guides (particularly with the bathroom, where she suggests spraying surfaces, moving to the next bathroom, then wiping the first bathroom, and so on to give things time to work) but nothing about, for example, how to tackle grout, what not to use on sealed kitchen surfaces, how to best tackle cleaning baseboards / trim, etc.
All in all, I'm glad I read this book for the few incredibly helpful tips, but I wish Rapinchuk had addressed how to tackle storage / clutter limitations in small living spaces, how to actually clean rooms from top to bottom in an efficient way, and I do hope the publisher considers the two 'red flag' items above prior to publication.
Advance reader copy kindly provided by HarperCollins .