Move on Motherf*cker: Live, Laugh, and Let Sh*t Go

by Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt, Emma Byrne (Foreword)

I'm not good enough. This shouldn't be happening. Things never work out for me. When we're anxious, stressed, or fearful, the negative voice in our heads can be extremely powerful. It tells us we're not smart or attractive enough. It berates us for our mistakes. And it keeps us feeling stuck in an endless loop of worry, shame, and hopelessness. But there is a way to shut it down. Blending evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and profanity, this unexpected guide will show you how to respond to your negative inner voice with one very important phrase: Move on, Motherf*cker (MOMF)! With MOMF, you'll learn to manage worry and anxiety, put a stop to unhelpful internal dialogue, and approach new situations with humor, levity, and perspective. You'll also find real tools to help you: set personal and professional boundaries; identify toxic or codependent relationships; become assertive without being aggressive; and stop seeking perfection. So, stop letting your inner voice tear you down. With this fun and effective guide, you'll learn how to take control of your negative thoughts and get back to living your best life.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Self Help, Audiobook, Mental Health

168 pages, Paperback

Published November 1, 2020

About the author

I am a recovering people pleaser, control freak, worrier, and motherfucker. One thing I know is that life sometimes hurts, and we can’t run from that. We have a choice of whether or not deny it or go with it. I’ve learned that going with it is a better investment, but I need to laugh while I’m doing it.

After more than 20 years of providing counseling services, I developed the idea of combining cognitive-behavioral and mindfulness techniques, with salty language and humor hold themselves accountable for choice. .

I am a board-certified in Health Psychologist and executive coach living in Michigan with my husband, two teenage sons, and the dog prince, Bacon. I am a human being and a work in progress just like you.

Reviews

[Madara · Rating 2 out of 5]

I rarely read self help books... Yet here I am, reviewing a self help book that I hoped would give me some pointers on how to deal with problematic situations using swear words...
CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy) and mindfulness is a great thing. Swearing is also a great thing! But... I was really annoyed with this book. The introduction was great! I ate it up and wanted to know more, to learn how swearing could help me remind myself that I'm great and I can do whatever I want! But swearing and the main motto "Move on Motherfucker!" just got lost between CBT, mindfulness and journaling prompts. And I'm not saying this book is bad. It's just not for me. Yes, I've noticed that from time to time I catch myself having a "bad" thought and telling myself to stop and "move on motherfucker" but overall this book seemed a bit too long and some of the real life stories the author used seemed unresolved because she only told the beginning of the story (or the problem) and we have no idea if the MOMF method helped her clients or not.

Review copy provided by the publisher and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

[Rachel · Rating 1 out of 5]

*thank you to Netgalley, Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt and New Harbinger Publications, Inc. for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review*


1 star.

I requested this book not knowing what to expect but that was why I requested it, because I was curious to see what it was about. Unfortunately it just didn't click with me and I lost interest pretty fast. I don't really have anything more to say. It simply wasn't for me.

[thewoollygeek (tea, cake, crochet & books) · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was hoping for something a bit different from other self help books, but this was a run on the mill same as many others available, it was amusing at times, but pretty much the same as many out there, not for me really

Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion

[Reading Our Shelves · Rating 4 out of 5]

Full review at: https://readingourshelves.com/2020/10...

Self-help books are so subjective – I feel like a good book in this genre is any one that you find at the time that you need it. That being said, I read this one all the way through in order to review it.

What drew me in first was the title. But, in the foreword and introductions, we learn that cussing is actually part of the point. There’s a newer concept in psychology that says swearing is good for you – it can help relieve stress, and it can be fun!

All the real concepts you need to understand the MOMF (Move On Motherf*cker) methodology are in the first chapter. The key one is the idea of the second arrow. For the sake of clarity, I’m going to quote the author’s explanation:

If you are struck with an arrow, it hurts like hell. You can’t change that the arrow struck you. That part is done… When you bitch and moan about the tragedy of the arrow striking you, you create your own suffering – in addition to the original wound. In other words, you are striking yourself with a second arrow.

Once you get the concept down, the rest of the chapters are about applying it to different situations. There are stories gleaned from the author’s experiences as a therapist, and journal prompts. The chapters include ones on: sticking up for yourself, being a control freak, your love life, parenting, work, illness/injury, bad habits, and having a rough past. Obviously, not every single chapter will apply to every individual – so, you could easily pick and choose, and not tackle every scenario in the book.

This book is coming out on November 3rd, and I got a preview copy through Books Forward.

[Erin Book Nerd]

I thoroughly enjoyed the writing content of this book! Having read it as an uncorrected proof on an iPad, I did have recurrent challengings with pages jumping which made sticking with the overall book difficult but what I did read, I quite loved. I was only three pages in when I texted a friend with a quote that I knew would resonate. She asked for the title of the book. F bombers with an interest in receiving constructive counsel on navigating in this crazy world would probably love this book. My mum (and any other person who bristles at profanity in general and the f word in particular) would not. I'm glad to know that "customer words" (cuss words) as my youngest brother called them when he was a tyke, help us process the world more effectively, at least if used judiciously. From time to time I have considered the effort of cleaning up my vocabulary. This book makes the argument that that action might be counterintuitive or at least, unnecessary. I liked how the author set up the Table of Contents so that one could tell at more of a glance which chapter might be the best after getting the basics from the first few chapters. MOMF tackles what could be tedious self work with frankness and humor. I received an ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. #MOMF #MoveOn

[Louise · Rating 5 out of 5]

MOMF to a better you!
Move on Motherf*cker :Live, Laugh and Let Sh*t Go by Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt is self-help with a difference. It is a book that encourages you to call yourself out on your sabotaging self, the part of you that delivers the guilt, degradation and all those nasty, negative emotions that we inflict upon ourselves.

Although the title of the book may shock some, it is by no means gratuitous, and once you get to understand the principle of MOMF, you’ll be more than ready to embrace it and start calling yourself a Motherf*cker, because that’s what MOMFing is all about - cutting down your own BS and moving the heck on!

The book covers topics including personal and work relationships, self-assertiveness and habits. There are suggested tasks scattered throughout such as a encouragement to try journaling and practicing mindfulness and other useful tools to help you along your personal journey.

Well written in a friendly, accessible style and packed to the rafters with real-life examples and solidly referenced scientific research, Move On Motherf*cker, Live Laugh and Let Sh*t Go is informative, highly enjoyable and I would absolutely recommend it to anyone that needs that nudge in the right direction to help them embrace their authentic self, so they too can MOMF!


A copy of this book was sent to me by the publisher in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

[Dee · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book as part of a group study with a friend. And was pleasantly surprised! The author does a great job of breaking down basic life issues and shows you how to thumb your nose at them. This doesn't replace therapy, but gives you some good tools. And uses humor! We all need a little more humor.

I found Move on, Motherf*cker to be a refreshing look at how we can help to heal ourselves from past trauma. She treads lightly on some common traumas and, at the end, addresses deeper traumas that she willingly admits this style may not work for.

The language won't work for some, but I enjoyed this fresh take.

[Kathy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting self-help book. It did make me laugh at times. Short chapters and very relatable. Nothing really new here but presented a bit differently

[Celia Giltinan-Kneip · Rating 5 out of 5]

I purchased a copy of this book in addition to receiving a copy from New Harbinger Publication, and I self identify as a fan of the author Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt. When I was first introduced to MOMF it gave me a new and different perspective. I eagerly read Dr. Jodie's first book Swear Your Way to Sanity and wanted more. This new book has clearly labeled chapters, and I dove right in. While I was looking for a refresher course in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy I discovered MOMF to be more than a coping tool but a real eye opener. Not only does this book help sort out inner thoughts of self critisim, it also helps us recognize and take responsibility for the thoughts that we let run through our brains. I found the book thought provoking and what to do with the thoughts. There is a lot of information in these pages and the book could be beneficial to many. MOMF is a great read for individuals, but I would also recommend it to corporate HR managers as a tool for both staff and for company wide cultural improvements.

[Giofab21 · Rating 5 out of 5]

Exactly what I needed in exactly the way i needed to hear it. The approach and message that this book has makes it easier to receive and accept whatever help or guidance you are in need of. Everyone could use a tune up regardless of what's going on in their lives but in this particular moment in time I found this to be the voice I could relate and be open to. A great find for a mind open to let s**t go!
I received an advanced copy of this book from Netgalley for my honest review.

[Kelley Williams · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm not big on self help books. But with everything going on in 2020, I have struggled more with negative self talk and decided to try some new things. I really enjoyed this book and I found very useful strategies to help navigate through my anxiety and negative talk. As a medical doctor, I value evidence based strategies and appreciate this approach! I will definitely be recommending this book to others.

[Cristina Hutchinson · Rating 3 out of 5]

Another book trying to monopolize on the acceptability of profanity in book titles these days.

The concept of the book itself was really good. I liked the simplicity of recognizing your negative self-talk and telling it to "move on, motherf*cker".

The book was organized into small chapters on various common feelings that we experience in our life. The chapters were then further separated into journaling prompts, stories/examples, and methods for overcoming these negative thoughts / feelings.

Overall an easy read, and I would recommend this to anyone struggling with negative self-talk and a good sense of humor; otherwise, move on, motherf*cker.

[Elizabeth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nearing middle-age, or maybe I am middle-aged already (I haven’t really thought about it) I’ve come to realize that most of us have some sort of anxiety, self-esteem, confidence, depression, or some other kind of ailment that keeps us from being our best selves. You may be thinking to yourself that despite these things, you’re killing it, and that may be true but if you’re still hearing an inner-voice occasionally, you haven’t quite beat the beast back yet. Not totally.

I loved this book for its rawness, humor, and point-blank assessment of how to get over ourselves when we need it the most.

[Jenny Williams · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an easy to read book with great real life advice. I LOVED this book. It felt like the author was talking to me personally! I loved that chapters were short and easy to follow with journaling homework included to bring home each point. I have been using MOMF and sharing with friends!

[Elaine Fultz, Teacher Librarian, MLS · Rating 4 out of 5]

Enlightening.

[Michelle Clement · Rating 4 out of 5]

A self-help book with salty language? I’m there. A bit more real than your average self-help read, this one is all about letting go of what you can’t control. One of my favourite posters at home says ‘maybe swearing will help?’ and this book explains how it actually does, and so much more! It’s full of actions you can take to swear your way through real self-talk and learn how to feel worthy, be assertive, and practice self-kindness while better understanding yourself, being present, changing negative patterns, and manage the daily stress of work, health, and relationships. Reading it is an act of self-love, as the author says: “Don’t be the one holding yourself back”. It’s here to help you work through the shit show that is life! And I don’t know about you, but I need this more than ever this year. And you’ll have a laugh while you’re at it! A kind of “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” for potty mouths. It’s full of so much information, it’s funny, and it will manifest your dormant ‘don’t mess with me’ vibes. And I love how the author gets straight to it, like that friend who calls you on your bullshit: there’s no flowery language that tiptoes around, she cuts right to the chase. It’s the kick in the pants a lot of us actually need to make real change in our lives. And I think this book will change my life: I’m going to go back and work through it page by page with my journal, one swear at a time. F*ck yeah!

[Anne Van · Rating 5 out of 5]

Feeling tired? Emotionally overwhelmed? Stressed? Lost your sense of humor? Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt's book "Move on Motherf*cker - Live Laugh & Let Shit Go" is just the antidote you need! Simply put, this book is a gem. Inside its covers you will find practical, research-proven methods to help relieve those bogged-down feelings. Using cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness techniques, adding in a healthy dose of cussing and humor, and Voila! You are on your way to a brighter mood and a broader more hopeful perspective along with an arsenal of coping tools in your back pocket.
Dr. Eckleberry-Hunt clearly shows how these tools can be applied across various experiences we human beings encounter in life. Let's face it - "Shit happens." What's important is how we respond and take charge of it when it does happen. The keys to doing this are found in the pages of this book. This gem of a book with help YOU put YOURSELF back in the driver's seat of YOUR life.
I've used the tools from this book many times over. And, I've offered them up to family, friends, and colleagues with success and laughter to boot. So, what are you waiting for? Grab this book, use it's tools and resources to wrestle with and take down your personal struggles, and turn them into opportunity, growth and success!

[Jessica · Rating 3 out of 5]

The things which let this book down for me were its sometimes brutal delivery without much substance, and the "different brand" of same advice - regurgitated without added value. I felt it was overly simplified in most places, and didn't bring new things to me.
I stopped after 80% mostly because of the narrator (having wanted to stop 20% in) but also because it was clear that I'd get more from time spent on other books.
I think some positive aspects of the book was it's brevity and basic statements if only to serve as an introduction to the subject to readers who haven't ever had counselling, therapy, or read any other texts (with or without the shitty stuff the author recommends saying to yourself). The brevity might inspire such readers to seek out more detailed and useful resources.
For me personally, as a standalone book I don't like it's lack of positive messaging, and didn't gain any useful advice or tools not already found elsewhere.
On Audible the narration is so horrendously offensive in tone, pitch, and downright rudeness that I had to check it wasn't the author narrating. Apart from the grating tone of the narrator I couldn't imagine any good practising counsellor, PhD or not, being respected if they spoke like that to clients seeking help.

[Jeff · Rating 3 out of 5]

I won this book through a Goodreads giveaway.

Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt presents techniques and strategies for personal growth, most involving a mixture of self talk with profanity, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, journaling, and mindfulness.

I chose this book because I was struck with the title. Sometimes my self-talk tends to be hard on myself, and I was hoping to learn some ways to reduce or eliminate this self defeating thought process.

I got the gist of what Eckleberry-Hunt was trying to say in the introduction. Subsequent chapters deal with specific areas of people’s lives, e.g., parenting, work, romance, etc.

The solutions Eckleberry-Hunt provides were not what I was expecting. I understand Cognitive Behavior Therapy, mindfulness, and journaling, and these are things I learned a long time ago. I guess if someone was unfamiliar with these techniques of personal growth, then they may find this book helpful. But if you have a general understanding of these concepts, then “Move On” may be fine as a refresher, but I did not learn anything new.

But to be fair, I have used the “Move On” technique and that has proved helpful.

[Danielle · Rating 4 out of 5]

With everything going on in the world today, a self-help book peppered with expletives is exactly what I didn't know I f*cking needed.

You may be wondering why a book on how to improve your life needs to include swears but it turns out they're kind of the point! Psychologists say swearing is good for you and relieves stress - I f*cking knew it! You'll learn how to swear your way through all sorts of negative thoughts and toxic situations but what really resonated with me was the reminder to let go of what I can't control. We're dealing with a total sh&t show of a year and this book calls you on your bullsh&t and gives you a kick in the ass to change your story. MOMF (Move On Motherf*cker!) is so my new mantra.

Thanks to NetGalley, New Harbinger Publications and Books Forward PR for the advanced copy to review.

[Irenic · Rating 3 out of 5]

While I have this on my Netgalley list, I actually purchased a copy of the book.

If you have feeling stuck, anxious, unhappy or any other emotion that can be associated with those, this is the book for you. It gives every life strategies on how to work on those emotions, the thoughts and actions associated with them.

However, as you would guess from the title, there is profanity in the book. If this is not your style, I would recommend against getting the book. However, if you are like me, and profanity is common place in your life, this book is for you.

I found the self-awareness activities relatable and doable.

Will this book solve your life's problems? Will this book make all of the bad emotions go away? NOPE, no book can do that. However, this book might give you a strategy or two that may lessen the bad emotions and their impact on your life.

[Lisa Konet · Rating 2 out of 5]

There are many self help books like this that condone swearing as powerful, I myself have quite a mouth too. However, there was nothing in in this book about empowerment, letting go, forgiveness; it was all the same just presented differently. Some parts were funny and I liked the short chapters, but not impressed.

Could recommend as a follow up to someone who liked "the subtle art of not giving a f**k."

Thanks to Netgalley, Jodie Elckleberry-Hunt and New Harbinger Publication Inc for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Available: 12/3/20

[sinag · Rating 1 out of 5]

1/5 stars!

I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

I really didn't get anything from this that is new to me or totally important at all. Maybe other readers may find this book helpful, but sadly this book feels to me like trying to justify saying profanities (in a boring way) when it doesn't even need to be critically analyzed whatsoever.

[Elisabeth · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was only okay. I think the premise was a little overhyped - essentially, this is a good book of basic CBT theories for a variety of difficult or challenging instances that commonly arise in life, with an added technique of using swearing to inspire humour and a shift in thinking. It's a good idea, and I appreciated the thought - but I don't know if I needed a whole book to educate me on the concept.

[Jessie Li · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quirky, digestible and helpful read!
If there were half stars I would give this book a 3.5. First off, I loved the fun and direct tone of this book! Although the language in this book could be offensive to some, I thought it was refreshing. The advice and exercises were good and a liked the little stories from clients. Overall great read!

[Amy Dakes · Rating 3 out of 5]

Another free audible book. This was decent. Not a wow, as so much information is the same you hear over and over. I think if you’re trying to work on improving yourself and your outlook, this won’t wow you. I found a few helpful tips, but nothing life changing. That said, it was engaging and very clear. It was not difficult to follow. It was more entertaining than similar books I’ve read.

[Mandy Hazen · Rating 1 out of 5]

This was a typical over obnoxious self help book. I get the point they were trying to make. It was just way to long for the point. I guess I just don’t get the whole idea and concept. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

[Susie · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is a pretty standard type self help book to me, however with swearing included. I didn’t feel like I learnt a lot more than from any other self help book to be honest.

Thank you NetGalley for my complimentary copy in return for my honest review.

[Rachel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt is vulnerable, well-researched, inclusive, and extremely thoughtful in her half memoir/half primer on polyamory. I learned so much about a way of living and loving that is different from the mainstream but still equally valid.

[Ines (Bookstaroom) · Rating 2 out of 5]

I've read many self-help books over the years and this one is nothing different than others, but I liked the stories though.

Thank you NetGalley for providing me this copy.