Before you begin to read this lengthy collection of thoughts, just let me forewarn you that I am Canadian, but this book is American, so my mind was discombobulated and my consistency in spelling the word as either colour or color may be lacking. I tried my best, but I can't be bothered to go back and check.
I decided to read this after reading George J. Boelcke's "Colorful Personalities", which is a similar take on what is presented in this book. There are some differences, though.
In Boelcke's book, there are four colours: Gold, Green, Blue, and Orange. To break it up really, really, really simply, Gold people are black & white, traditional, and extremely organized, Green people are very smart, love research, and are inexpressive emotionally, Blue people are compassionate and emotional, and Orange people are adventure-seeking, expressive and always looking for a good time. Boelcke says that we each have all of the colours to some measure, but we mostly operate in our two highest colours. I am Gold/Green, according to the test outlined in his book.
Now, in Taylor Hartman's book, four colours are presented as well: Red, White, Blue, Yellow. I quickly realized as I started reading that I had to discard my previous notions of colour profiling, and stop trying to line up the colours from the two books. The only colours that really line up are Yellow and Orange, and Blue and Blue (and there are still differences between Boelcke's and Hartman's Blues).
In his book, Hartman tells us that each colour is impelled by a different core motive: Red desires power, White desires peace, Blue desires intimacy, and Yellow desires fun.
I really wasn't sure that I agreed with a lot of the stuff when I started reading, but I decided to keep going and just take it all with a grain of salt. Some it was explained, and some of it I just don't take very seriously. I've taken the test three times now, twice online and once from the book, and I've gotten Red twice and Blue one time. I don't know that I agree that personality is innate, and I really found it hard to answer the questions from a childhood point-of-view. I don't really remember how I responded to certain things as a child, I don't think I act the same way that I did when I was a child, and I think that's why I got differing answers when I took the test more than once. I believe, after reading the rest of the book, that I'm probably Red with a high secondary Blue. I think that part of my confusion about my personality comes from the fact that my mom is most likely Blue, my dad is probably White, and my sister is Yellow, so I've grown up learning how to respond to a rainbow of colours. I know I've consciously practised what Hartman would call "Blue" personality traits, such as sensitivity and compassion, and I related to a lot of White traits as well. I haven't practised Yellow traits as much... which is probably the biggest source of contention between my sister and I! She is open-minded and adventurous, and I'm not as much that way. I tend to want to control everything.
Another reason there was confusion for me was that you have to pay very close attention, read between the lines, and figure out what Hartman means when he uses certain words or phrases. For example, I didn't initially connect at all to any of the descriptions of the personalities. Reds come off as belligerent, unemotional control freaks, Blues are perfectionistic, over-emotional and sensitive, White people are lazy and non-committal, and Yellows are directionless rebels that can't focus their lives. I really didn't connect at first to the Red "power" motive. As time went on, I began to realize that I think what he meant by power was more a description of a desire to control. He also said that Reds are very vocal. I'm not a very vocal person unless I know you well or feel very strongly about something. BUT, I'm introverted, and I don't think I've ever had a a platform to
to really practice Red traits. I do know that when I'm in a situation where I've been alone and/or had to take charge of running something, I act like a Red person. I also grew up with certain people saying I was extremely controlling, I could confront friends if I felt their behaviour was unacceptable, and I got called a "drill sergeant" a few times throughout my life.
One thing I thought was pretty ridiculous was Hartman's statement where he declares that if people want to get married without first taking the color quiz and determining their compatibility, it's their funeral. I'm paraphrasing, of course, but to me that statement has almost zero merit. People have been getting married, working together, building friendships and getting along for thousands and thousands of years without the Color Code, and they will continue to do so for as long as there's human relationships to be had. Yes, I believe that when applied correctly, it can help ease major tensions between people who don't understand one another, and it's probably saved many marriages and other relationships, but let's not overstate its importance here.
I really believe the most important statement was made near the end of the book. I've had to send the book back to the library so I don't have it here to quote exactly, but it addressed the biggest problem I had before I started learning about personality profiling. Hartman basically says that the Color Code should
never
be used to limit another person or pigeon-hole them, and you should
never
use it to justify your own limitations. I've known people who, when they've found out their color, decided to just say "This is who I am, I'm never changing, and screw you if you have a problem with it." It's unhealthy, it destroys relationships, and it's just wrong to respond that way. Just because I'm Red doesn't mean I shouldn't constantly be working towards being a compassionate, open person, or that I shouldn't work on my Yellow traits so that I understand where my sister is coming from.
Ultimately, it's an interesting concept, but take it with a grain of salt. Make sure you read and understand everything, and don't just pick and choose what parts you're going to listen to, i.e. don't learn your colour and decide that everybody else needs to work around you. Start building your character so you can work well with everyone.