I'm disappointed about this book... maybe I've just been spoiled, and I know there aren't a lot of good trans books out there, but this one just didn't 100% work for me.
So, firstly, the title and blurb misgender the main character. I get (in THEORY) why one might not want to spoil things, but this is literally a book about coming out as genderqueer. The blurb mentions that. I assumed originally that 1) this might be a gender-non-conforming (GNC) girl or nonbinary fem who binds, or 2) an AFAB nonbinary person who uses she/her pronouns... I mean, both exist, and I was particularly excited to maybe see more discussion on binding because of misogyny as well as dysphoria--I know personally I feel very uncomfortable with being outside and Looking Like A Girl because men may look at my chest or take it as an invitation to yell things at me. I'm also nonbinary, but obviously I'm not just interested in binding as a dysphoria thing.
But the whole book is about being nonbinary and Jamie does use they/them pronouns, so the blurb (and title)'s misgendering are inaccurate and give reviewers a chance to misgender the main character--which many do. See below. It's just not a good idea, and I found myself repeatedly thinking the title was wasted--yeah, some girls bind, but this isn't about that at all. This isn't about women who bind (a fascinating and underexplored topic), it's about a nonbinary person who binds. Nowhere are cis or at the very least non-trans women who bind explored. You could reasonably come away from this thinking that girls DON'T bind. I just... what???
The other main thing was the speed at which this book runs. I'm not sure if Rory is nonbinary, and I'm not sure if she's trans, and I'm not sure if her experiences of gender issues are just speaking to trans kids. It's not clear. I can see it going either way, but the book definitely did not feel accurate to me or anyone I know because most trans people do not find out they're nonbinary in a week--which is basically what Jamie does. There are about two pages dedicated to why they feel comfortable with the label of genderqueer (as opposed to male or female) and dysphoria. I can't imagine this as an accurate way for cis people to learn about trans people; there is a LOT more thought that goes into these things and it's way more complicated. Dysphoria was genuinely barely mentioned; it frustrated me that Jamie didn't seem to have any reason for feeling nonbinary other than a one-time visit to a cafe dressed as a guy. We don't really get to see them test anything out or explore androgyny, so we can't follow along on the journey properly or honestly get attached.
Also, obligatory "we live in the deep South and my parents aren't accepting until I come out at which point they suddenly are." I don't know; I was seriously frustrated that Jamie's mom went from calling people "queers" to being 100% totally okay with Jamie's pronouns IN THE SPAN OF ONE NIGHT. What. Oh my God.
Okay I'm done I'm sorry; the poetry was honestly very good (to my non-poet eyes) and overall I felt it was an easy book to sit down and read start-to-finish. I'm sorry for complaining so hard; I just feel like it gives me serious 'first book' vibes and I wasn't feeling that.
Ultimately, I don't see myself recommending it to anyone--it didn't feel accurate to my experience, it didn't feel very explanatory for cis people... I don't know. It's a fun read if you just want to sit down and breeze through something, but ultimately I think the book fell short of where it could've been.