Don't Let Jerks Get The Best Of You Advice For Dealing With Difficult People

by Paul D. Meier

Dr. Paul Meier takes a look at how selfish humans are. Through light hearted episodes, Dr. Meier sheds light on how individuals act as jerks, how to become aware of manipulation, and identifying our own "jerk" tendencies. Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You! provides laughs while at the same time showing ways to take control of our lives and build relationships with confidence, trust, and joy.

Genres: Psychology, Relationships, Nonfiction, Self Help

260 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1993

About the author

Extract of DR. Paul Meier's biography on the website of the Meier Clinics:

Paul Meier is an MD/Psychiatrist/Ordained Minister who is the founder of the national chain of non-profit Christian psychiatry clinics, the Meier Clinics. He has authored or co-authored over 80 books, mostly Christian self-help books like Love is a Choice and Happiness is a Choice, and also a series of Bible Prophecy novels, including The Third Millennium.

Reviews

[Laurie Wheeler · Rating 5 out of 5]

Not only interesting but enlightening, too.

[Amanda Skaja]

I didn’t “finish” this book as much as I’m finished with it. Don’t read books that aren’t enjoyable or that don’t add to your life in any way. I was not enjoying this at all, it was given to me as a gift and I thought I’d try to read it. Everyone can be a little bit of a jerk and some people are bigger jerks. Forgive people and if you need to, cut others out. Remember, peoples’ actions are a reflection of who they are and don’t take it too personal.

[Kym Janisch · Rating 1 out of 5]

I did not finish the book. I decided to look up the clinic the author owns and find a host of lawsuits and articles showcasing the nastiness of the author and clinic its employees all in the name of religion. I am not giving this twit a minute more of my time.

[Saty Pichardo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Este libro nos habla de como el egoísmo nos hace ser odiosos con los demás. También nos ayuda a no dejarnos maltratar por odiosos de altos grados y nos da estrategias para reconocer nuestros mecanismos de defensa y dejar ir la ira, aceptarnos y perdonarnos y a otros. También tiene varios test para medir nuestros avances.

[Paulette · Rating 4 out of 5]

Forgive your Jerk within, learn new thought patterns and forgive the Jerks in your life as you learn to define bad behavior.
There are tests to take in the book to determine your Jerk level. Except for a few, we all fit somewhere on the Jerk Scale as a First, Second or Nth degree Jerk and can often be our own most difficult person. The case histories included can be boring but sometimes they give help and hope for dealing with our own jerk within and in dealing with the Jerks who abuse.
If you are tired of being frustrated and controlled by selfish Jerks, this book will help you develop mature relationships, teach you positive self-talk and teach you how to navigate around dysfunctional jerks who can do you harm, “ forgive but don’t cozy up” and “ bury the hatchet, handle and all” but don’t forget. Sometimes it’s safer not to connect to some people.

[Stinger · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read this book on vacation, during which I had plenty of time to reflect. I loved it! Dr. Meier was extremely accurate in pinning me down as a jerk and identifying types of jerks with which we have to deal. This book proved helpful in dealing with persons in the personal and work realm. Cannot recommend this book enough!

3rd Reading: this is still a book I find immensely helpful. I read it once again during vacation, learning the degree of my masochism and how big a jerk I can often be. I cannot recommend this book enough to any human being save the most mature.

[Aldean · Rating 3 out of 5]

Probably my first-ever "self help" book (still a very small category for me), it caught my eye on teh shelf at the public library, and was actually a pretty good read. I can recall reading excerpts aloud to my mother and reading it straight through, so it must have had something going for it.

[Rone · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is fun to read. Yet, within all the humor one cannot help to do a thorough self assessment of one's own level of selfishness. It has been seven years since I have read this book - I have never picked it up since then - yet I can remember pieces of its wisdom to this day.

[Jeff Noble]

Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You // Advice For Dealing With Difficult People by Paul Meier (?)

[Doug · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title pretty much says it all. Learn of the different levels of jerks and how to deal with them, even when you are the jerk.

[Cheryl · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good.
Practical and helpful

A counseling book that doesn't feel or read like a counseling book. Highly recommend.

[Scott · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this for the first time about 14 years ago. A great book dealing with jerks in your life, including the jerk within!