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9 Rules of Engagement: A Military Brat’s Guide to Life and Success – A Motivational Memoir on Courage, Duty, and a Vietnam Veteran Father
The Emmy award-winning news anchor of Outnumbered Overtime with Harris Faulkner and cohost of the talk show Outnumbered shares the lessons she learned growing up in a military family, paying homage to the military ideals that shaped her and showing how everyone can benefit from bringing the wisdom of military service into their lives.Born into a military family, Harris Faulkner revered her father, a decorated career officer who served three tours of duty in Vietnam and raised his children with the values and ideals of the US military. Accompanying him from posting to posting, young Harris experienced firsthand how success in life was rooted in the knowledge, integrity, and leadership that came from her military surroundings. Indeed, these formative lessons in leadership and work ethic became the guiding principles for her career as a journalist, lessons she credits with her rise to become one of the top hosts on Fox News.Now, she shares the advice, wisdom, and tools that she absorbed through her military upbringing, examining how these ideals have shaped her professional and personal outlook and how everyone can incorporate them into their own lives. Using her father's career as the backdrop to her experience, she explores the lessons in courage, duty, patriotism, and responsibility that helped her succeed, demonstrating the truth to the axiom that in military families everyone serves-together. Along the way she also interviews current and former military families, generals, and other officers, and tells stories from her father's career to illuminate how and why the message and mission of the military is so effective at changing lives both on and off the battlefield.Illustrated with sixteen pages of never-before-seen photos of her early life and career, this instructive book, part memoir, part motivational life guide, reminds us of our most important values-the keys to a successful life.
251 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 5, 2018
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Harris Faulkner
6 books41 followersHarris Faulkner is an American newscaster and television host for the Fox News Channel. Faulkner is a co-anchor on Outnumbered and she is host of her own program, Outnumbered Overtime. Faulkner has received six Emmy Awards. She married TV reporter Tony Berlin in 2003 and they have two daughters.
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Terrific new book out by the wonderful Harris Faulkner, “9 Rules of Engagement.” Harris shares lessons from a military family. Enjoy!
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July 4, 2018This is a great, inspiring book.
June 18, 2018
I love Harris Faulkner, so I jumped at her new book. I also got audible, because I believe the author is usually the best orator on a book they have written.
For me, it started slow. I thought the first chapter was a bit all over the place. But, then it settled down and I looked forward to wandering the pages. It is worth a read, just for all the engaging stories throughout. As it progressed, I found myself sharing her ideas more often - a sure sign that I was enjoying it. I really feel like now I should go back and reread the first chapter. It might fall into line better for me.
I would recommend this book to anyone with some difficult obstacles or tough decisions in their path.
For me, it started slow. I thought the first chapter was a bit all over the place. But, then it settled down and I looked forward to wandering the pages. It is worth a read, just for all the engaging stories throughout. As it progressed, I found myself sharing her ideas more often - a sure sign that I was enjoying it. I really feel like now I should go back and reread the first chapter. It might fall into line better for me.
I would recommend this book to anyone with some difficult obstacles or tough decisions in their path.
July 10, 2018
One of the best books I have ever read! This book can relate to everybody. I am going to buy another copy for my daughter. After reading this book and following Harris Faulkner's advice, I feel i can accomplish any goal I have in my life. This book will inspire people to make their lives better. I am donating this book to my local library in the hope that lots of people will be able to read this book. I hope Harris Faulkner writes another book, soon!
December 2, 2018
My top three takeaways are: what it's like to be a military family, steps to achieving your goals, and how to be a better listener. A couple of listening tips are to stop interrupting with short answers such as uh-ha and sitting quietly for a longer period so that the speaker has plenty of time to talk. There are a handful of swear words in the book, but it was great that Harris narrates her own book.
July 2, 2023
9 Rules of Engagement
Harris Faulkner
I enjoyed Harris Faulkner’s message, and her delivery of the information. Her story, and the stories of her father and other mentors, were fascinating.
I would recommend.
Harris Faulkner
I enjoyed Harris Faulkner’s message, and her delivery of the information. Her story, and the stories of her father and other mentors, were fascinating.
I would recommend.
June 7, 2018
This has been the first book in a long time I didn’t quit reading until
I came to the end. Harris is a conservative (hate tags) who is
Compelling and engaging. It is a encouraging and well written.
I came to the end. Harris is a conservative (hate tags) who is
Compelling and engaging. It is a encouraging and well written.
January 30, 2019
we have more potential than what we think, Curry 500 3pt/day, active listening, develop allies for support and recognize those who not, gossip makes one intellectually lazy, surround self with right people, slay demons improve, disciplined and aware, women multi-task under pressure better than men, women in military 14.5% US 33% Israel Norway special forces group, value of porch sitting sit in silence, camo wear and ready, integrity do the right thing solve the problem do not move abuser correct the problem no blame accountability respect for human life, selfishness weakens the group and US, deal with each other to strengthen, own your moment, share spotlight raise bar to encourage greatness, emotional resilience rebound, be pure of heart, recruit team deal with demons stay ready devise mission wear camo unleash power of integrity think like a general own your moment when fail believe in a answer.
July 2, 2024
On the jacket of this book, I found truth of what I read in the pages of Harris Faulkner’s exposition of “Rules of Engagement.” It gave a glimpse of this author’s development making her who she is:
“Growing up in a military family, Harris Faulkner revered her father, Lieutenant Colonel Bob Harris, a high-ranking officer, pilot, and avionics specialist in the United States military who served two tours in Vietnam. As a young military brat accompanying him from post to post, Harris experienced firsthand how success in life was rooted in the knowledge, integrity, and duty that came from her military surroundings.”
Again, in her book dedication she gave honor to her parents who so taught her so well:
“My deepest gratitude to my parents, Shirley and Bob. You taught me everything there is to know about courage, grace, and love.”
This book is as much an autobiography as it is one about significant life lessons that everyone could apply to living a successful life. In Rule #6, Unleashing the Power of Integrity the reader, me primarily finds a deeper, richer look at the word’s significance in a life well lived. I typed out seven quotes from Faulkner on integrity that will impact my life. Mostly, these are truths I already know but they were so well articulated that they make me consider them more profoundly. The seven-point list is too lengthy for this review/report, but I intend to email it to my friends who I know will appreciate hearing…
I believe that the author’s application to the colleges she desired to attend at the age of 17, most indicates her confidence in her own worth and ability to succeed. Even her parents questioned why she did not check the box on her ethnicity. She even wondered if not making a distinction on her race would hurt her chances. But she felt that identifying herself as a minority was not the way she saw herself. She just wanted to make the best case for herself that she could. Her point to you in following her approach—“You are simply you.”
In Rule #7, “Think Like a General,” Harris relates about her interview with General Jack Keane, a retired four-star general and former vice chief of staff of the Unite States Army. You must read the book to fully digest the insights on leadership this man gives.
Finally, in the last chapter, Rule #9 Harris Faulkner’s heart of compassion is displayed in her expression of love at the time of her mother’s passing. It very seldom happens to me in reading or, for that matter, in viewing a touching story on video, but here I came to tears. And here is a lessoned learned for all of us:
“But what my mom was helping me to discover…is that we have more time than we think and we have less time too. We have more time to complain and do things like shop because they take less energy. But we also have less time to love and be engaged in relationships of all kinds with others because those are major commitments.”
I know some friends who are averse to growth in their lives; they live in the past so much of the time, dwelling on not only the glorious but the troubles. Harris addresses this problem in a wonderful way with advice from her parents to their children:
“They wanted us to know we only grow in one direction. No one gets to go backward. Learning to ‘bounce forward’ is critical. They wanted us to understand that the same values that carry us through this world will carry us into the next…’bounce forward.’ I’ve never liked the phrase ‘bounce back.’ I mean really, who wants to go backward? Things are never going to be the same…”
I recommend, encourage my Goodreads friends, my Facebook friends, my family and all my friends to read this book. Afterall, at 82 years old I have found a freshness and an encouragement for living victoriously in the pages of this book. And let me add a word about the author, herself: Harris Faulkner anchors daytime news broadcasts Outnumbered and The Faulkner Focus. If you can’t believe this woman of integrity to be truthful in reporting, you can’t believe any others.
“Growing up in a military family, Harris Faulkner revered her father, Lieutenant Colonel Bob Harris, a high-ranking officer, pilot, and avionics specialist in the United States military who served two tours in Vietnam. As a young military brat accompanying him from post to post, Harris experienced firsthand how success in life was rooted in the knowledge, integrity, and duty that came from her military surroundings.”
Again, in her book dedication she gave honor to her parents who so taught her so well:
“My deepest gratitude to my parents, Shirley and Bob. You taught me everything there is to know about courage, grace, and love.”
This book is as much an autobiography as it is one about significant life lessons that everyone could apply to living a successful life. In Rule #6, Unleashing the Power of Integrity the reader, me primarily finds a deeper, richer look at the word’s significance in a life well lived. I typed out seven quotes from Faulkner on integrity that will impact my life. Mostly, these are truths I already know but they were so well articulated that they make me consider them more profoundly. The seven-point list is too lengthy for this review/report, but I intend to email it to my friends who I know will appreciate hearing…
I believe that the author’s application to the colleges she desired to attend at the age of 17, most indicates her confidence in her own worth and ability to succeed. Even her parents questioned why she did not check the box on her ethnicity. She even wondered if not making a distinction on her race would hurt her chances. But she felt that identifying herself as a minority was not the way she saw herself. She just wanted to make the best case for herself that she could. Her point to you in following her approach—“You are simply you.”
In Rule #7, “Think Like a General,” Harris relates about her interview with General Jack Keane, a retired four-star general and former vice chief of staff of the Unite States Army. You must read the book to fully digest the insights on leadership this man gives.
Finally, in the last chapter, Rule #9 Harris Faulkner’s heart of compassion is displayed in her expression of love at the time of her mother’s passing. It very seldom happens to me in reading or, for that matter, in viewing a touching story on video, but here I came to tears. And here is a lessoned learned for all of us:
“But what my mom was helping me to discover…is that we have more time than we think and we have less time too. We have more time to complain and do things like shop because they take less energy. But we also have less time to love and be engaged in relationships of all kinds with others because those are major commitments.”
I know some friends who are averse to growth in their lives; they live in the past so much of the time, dwelling on not only the glorious but the troubles. Harris addresses this problem in a wonderful way with advice from her parents to their children:
“They wanted us to know we only grow in one direction. No one gets to go backward. Learning to ‘bounce forward’ is critical. They wanted us to understand that the same values that carry us through this world will carry us into the next…’bounce forward.’ I’ve never liked the phrase ‘bounce back.’ I mean really, who wants to go backward? Things are never going to be the same…”
I recommend, encourage my Goodreads friends, my Facebook friends, my family and all my friends to read this book. Afterall, at 82 years old I have found a freshness and an encouragement for living victoriously in the pages of this book. And let me add a word about the author, herself: Harris Faulkner anchors daytime news broadcasts Outnumbered and The Faulkner Focus. If you can’t believe this woman of integrity to be truthful in reporting, you can’t believe any others.
November 25, 2022
The Emmy award-winning news anchor of Outnumbered Overtime with Harris Faulkner and co-host of the talk show Outnumbered shares the lessons she learned growing up in a military family paying homage to the military ideals that shaped her and showing how everyone can benefit from bringing the wisdom of military service into their lives.
Born into a military family, Harris Faulkner revered her father, a decorated career officer who served three tours of duty in Vietnam and raised his children with the values and ideals of the U.S. military. Accompanying him from posting to posting, young Harris experienced firsthand how success in life was rooted in the knowledge, integrity, and leadership that came from her military surroundings. Indeed, these formative lessons in leadership and work ethic became the guiding principles for her career as a journalist, lessons she credits with her rise to become one of the top hosts on Fox News.
Now, she shares the advice, wisdom, and tools that she absorbed through her military upbringing, examining how these ideals have shaped her professional and personal outlook and how everyone can incorporate them into their own lives. Using her father’s career as the backdrop to her experience, she explores the lessons in courage, duty, patriotism, and responsibility that helped her succeed, demonstrating the truth to the axiom that in military families everyone serves—together. Along the way she also interviews current and former military families, generals and other officers, and tells stories from her father’s career to illuminate how and why the message and mission of the military is so effective at changing lives both on and off the battlefield.
Illustrated with sixteen pages of never-before-seen photos of her early life and career, this instructive book, part memoir, part motivational life guide, reminds us of our most important values—the keys to a successful life.
Born into a military family, Harris Faulkner revered her father, a decorated career officer who served three tours of duty in Vietnam and raised his children with the values and ideals of the U.S. military. Accompanying him from posting to posting, young Harris experienced firsthand how success in life was rooted in the knowledge, integrity, and leadership that came from her military surroundings. Indeed, these formative lessons in leadership and work ethic became the guiding principles for her career as a journalist, lessons she credits with her rise to become one of the top hosts on Fox News.
Now, she shares the advice, wisdom, and tools that she absorbed through her military upbringing, examining how these ideals have shaped her professional and personal outlook and how everyone can incorporate them into their own lives. Using her father’s career as the backdrop to her experience, she explores the lessons in courage, duty, patriotism, and responsibility that helped her succeed, demonstrating the truth to the axiom that in military families everyone serves—together. Along the way she also interviews current and former military families, generals and other officers, and tells stories from her father’s career to illuminate how and why the message and mission of the military is so effective at changing lives both on and off the battlefield.
Illustrated with sixteen pages of never-before-seen photos of her early life and career, this instructive book, part memoir, part motivational life guide, reminds us of our most important values—the keys to a successful life.
June 24, 2018
True accounting of a military brat growing up in the Vietnam era
nice to see an account of the very real positive aspects of growing up in a military family. I am about the same age as her father and had a similar deployment pattern,kids and my wife died after my retirement . the observations and lessons she relates ring true a i could identify with the situations she recalled. I was particularly struck by the description of how her father managed the terminal illness and passing of his wife. It was a Paralympic mind although in my case it was Alzheimer's over 10 years. It was a mission for me too and most of my civilian friends didn't get it. I have been a fan for some time and now one why.
nice to see an account of the very real positive aspects of growing up in a military family. I am about the same age as her father and had a similar deployment pattern,kids and my wife died after my retirement . the observations and lessons she relates ring true a i could identify with the situations she recalled. I was particularly struck by the description of how her father managed the terminal illness and passing of his wife. It was a Paralympic mind although in my case it was Alzheimer's over 10 years. It was a mission for me too and most of my civilian friends didn't get it. I have been a fan for some time and now one why.
January 30, 2023
Great motivational book! Harris talks about her upbringing as a military "brat" and the life lessons taught to her and lived for her by her Mother, Father and Grandmother. I am tempted to give this book to my 3 college granddaughters, because, if they read it and applied even some of the 9 Rules, their lives would benefit. Harris is a remarkable woman. Minor note, Haris legally changed her name to Harris Faulkner when she was younger. She worshipped her father, Bob Harris, who was called Harris by everyone. Faulkner is a family name. Harris quote: "Success is a journey, it is not a destination."
February 6, 2021
It always amazes me that successful celebrities think they know ‘the one true way to be successful.’ Is no one else on the planet successful by using other methods, but maybe not trying to profit from publishing a book? And she has the temerity to blame President Obama for the Mideast disaster brought on by President Bush’s extension of the terrorist campaign in Afghanistan to Iraq. I gave up reading when she (and her editor, apparently) thought her father’s aircraft had a ‘radio’ engine, instead of a RADIAL engine. ‘nuf said.
March 28, 2019
As a military wife (and mother) I found this to be engaging and straight forward... Something you'd like your kiddos to read before leaving the nest. I liked that there were pragmatic steps to take to live a healthier, more satisfying life: running, prayer, yoga; not just a bunch of personal anecdotes strung together. I'm taking off one star because the dad/mom stories were pretty unbalanced, but, overall a good read...
February 18, 2024
I did not know the author before listening to this book. The cover picture at first glance made me think it was going to be about a stewardess as I did not initially notice the "Arm[y]" on the plane. I felt like her experience as an army brat was better than what I have known others to experience, but it may just be her way of presenting everything with positivity. A little too Hoo Raw you can do anything you set your mind to for me.
February 10, 2019
Some of the personal stories were interesting, particularly Faulkner's stories about her father, but the actual rules were readily apparent to anyone with sense and the advice was so vaguely broad as to be of little use. On the whole, I cannot justify an entire book devoted to essentially repeating the same old mantras.
June 26, 2019
Very good debut for this newswoman that brings her military background to bear on professional and personal advice for business people. I personally won't use some of her pointers, just because I am not in a high-level position.
I enjoyed the stories Faulkner shared from her father's experiences in the Army and also her own.
I enjoyed the stories Faulkner shared from her father's experiences in the Army and also her own.
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May 24, 2019
Harris Faulkner is as good in her book as she is in person. I have heard her speak twice. She is very personable. I listened to this book on Audible and she helps put emotion behind the words.
Insightful book.
Insightful book.
October 28, 2018
Too preachy! Quite boring. I am sure Faulkner is a great inspiration but this book is too blah.
June 20, 2019
Bone dry. The author is intelligent, but I found the book repetitious and boring.
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September 25, 2019Harris was engaging and expressive, sharing some of her experiences and how they relate to life, as well management.
November 16, 2019
I didn't realize it was basically a self help book but I really enjoyed reading her story and how she dealt with it.
January 28, 2021
I have never read a book written by someone who served in the military or close to a military family. I really enjoyed the book.
February 4, 2022
[audiobook]
3.8 stars
3.8 stars
June 26, 2022
3.5 I Loved the motivational chapters and her love for her folks!
June 11, 2022
I love Harris Faulkner as a commentator on Fox. I didn't realize she wrote this book until once again, I was in jail. Harris is a great author. I have the utmost respect for her, her family and her father. Mr. Faulkner, as a US Army veteran, I salute you sir. I served yes, but you did the full twenty. Much respect to you. God Bless sir
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