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Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics

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Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Authors and widely respected therapists and ACOA workshop leaders Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understa ...more
Paperback, 144 pages
Published September 15th 1987 by Touchstone
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I think this book is more helpful for the person just realizing they come from an alcoholic home, offering sound information in a kind manner. However, for those that are already familiar with the territory, there are still some nuggets of wisdom to pick up and good reminders.

The book is in a Q & A format so it's easy to digest and well-structured.

It does a good job of identifying common issues and giving advice on what would be most helpful to do, think, or feel in place of the typical scars th
Vincze Andrada
"As a child, it may have been necessary to bury certain traumatizing experiences. If a child is being abused emotionally, physically or sexually and there is no one to turn for help, she or he might think, "It's not really bad. It's no big deal. In fact, it doesn't even bother me that much." Such denial can allow children to live through horrors which, if fully comprehended, might be devastating. To bury the pain was to ensure survival as a child." ...more
Aurélien Thomas
Jan 09, 2015 rated it it was ok
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I have picked this up hoping to get advice regarding how to change some negative and pervasive aspects of my character, that I know stem from me being a ACOA. I was slightly disappointed ,as the advices given are far too light and not very helpful!

In fact, most of it all stresses the main characteristics of an ACOA's personality, while insisting these features can be overcome and/or turned into strength. Nothing wrong with that, but for a book titled 'Recovery', I had expected something else an
Sep 02, 2008 rated it really liked it
You will hate and love this book at the same time. It really helps thoughs of us that grew up in a unhealthy relationship identify the real problems that we have learned, but you'll hate it cause it makes you deal with the problems you have learned. This book with help you discover yourself and cope with problems in your childhood. ...more
Apr 14, 2008 rated it really liked it
Sort of eye-opening in a semi-self help way, but not overtly so nor in a language that requires a special psych-decoding dictionary. I liked it. It actually made me a realize a few things about why I am how I am, because of things that happened to me as a child.
Robert Henry
Nov 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Fantastic book. Recommend for anyone adult children of alcoholics.
Thomas Kilroy
Sep 12, 2020 rated it really liked it
It is said Alcoholics don’t have relationships; they just take hostages. Emotional hostages for sure and in a subtle and deadly way, physical too.

This book is powerful in the sense that it brought to me a different perspective of being the "Adult Child of an Alcoholic"(ACoA). What resonates most is the book's highlighting of the role of anxiety for an ACoA and its insidious ongoing effects in life. Never knowing what to expect when you approach your house, or when your phone rings. Things can b
Nov 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
at first, i wasn’t going to share this. because: embarrassment, shame, fear, etcetera etcetera.

but i ain’t no punk -- not used in a derogatory manner -- meaning that i ain’t never gonna be scared to live my best life. ever, ever again. (cue Lil Duval) moving forward: out loud. on purpose. and I’m definitely not gonna be reading in secret. all i have to offer in this life is my authenticity. i’m reading this book because I need it. i didn’t know I needed it until recently. for when the scars are
Apr 10, 2020 rated it really liked it
Question and answer format, this book does a great job of characterizing how growing up in an alcoholic family will influence an individual. It offers hope and how it will feel during the recovery process, but it did not provide a lot of detail in how to achieve recovery. Seems like it would be a good complement to someone in therapy. It was great to recognize behaviors in an ACoA family member and to help put it all into perspective.
Feb 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Wisely helpful,insightful and undoubtedly life changing.

The road to recovery is long,winding and often treacherously tough.
This book has always been my trusty companion to help me
navigate the storms and misdirections along the way.

Still here,still recovering,still learning.
“One day at a time.”
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Dec 28, 2010 rated it it was amazing
Everyone has at least one of the following: an alcoholic in your family, an alcoholic in the family of a loved one, or people in your life who have the dysfuctional behaviors often perpetuated in codependent families. Therefore, everyone should read this book.
Donna Waggener
Jan 28, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I'm in a 12 Step Recovery Program for Adult Children of Alcoholics and found this book very helpful with good information ...more
Nov 02, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Really great reference for personal growth. I am hoping to read it again soon. Update: Re-read and still a great reference.
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