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Ask Me About My Uterus: A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women's Pain

Abby Norman (Goodreads Author)

3.95 · Rating details · 1,015 ratings · 220 reviews

For any woman who has experienced illness, chronic pain, or endometriosis comes an inspiring memoir advocating for recognition of women's health issues

In the fall of 2010, Abby Norman's strong dancer's body dropped forty pounds and gray hairs began to sprout from her temples. She was repeatedly hospitalized in excruciating pain, but the doctors insisted it was a urinary tr ...more

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Feb 23, 2018 Erin rated it really liked it

Shelves: kindle, netgalley

Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced ebook in exchange for an honest review. Thank you Abby Norman for your courageous voice in advocating women's health.

Ironically as I write this review, Nelly Furtado's version of Maneater is playing. A song that I feel my fellow Canuck turned into a powerful anthem for women.
In this non fiction/memoir Abby Norman launches the microscope and
takes look at women's health and the author's own personal struggle with endometriosis, Abby Norman explores just ho ...more

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Feb 14, 2018 Heather rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction, netgalley, kindle

I was really looking forward to reading this, and now that I'm done with it, I can tell you my excitement was not displaced.

I very much enjoyed certain aspects of it, but also experienced feelings of indifference to it.

At certain times, my attention strayed. I would read several paragraphs before realizing I was not absorbing any of what I had just read. It was quite tedious and repetitive at times, but I believe, in a way, that is a small testament to how the author must have felt (and probabl I was really looking forward to reading this, and now that I'm done with it, I can tell you my excitement was not displaced.

I very much enjoyed certain aspects of it, but also experienced feelings of indifference to it.

At certain times, my attention strayed. I would read several paragraphs before realizing I was not absorbing any of what I had just read. It was quite tedious and repetitive at times, but I believe, in a way, that is a small testament to how the author must have felt (and probably still feels) when she repeatedly told her doctors there was a problem, only to be met with disbelieving exasperation.

Aside from that, I found this book to be a mix of memoir and non-fiction, both that [obviously] pertained to the synopsis. It was more of a memoir than I had originally anticipated, but I believe all of the back story was very necessary to convey her message. It helped me understand and empathize with the author.

This book taught me a lot not just about endometriosis, but self-advocating for physical and mental health symptoms and treatments. The medical jargon was a tad confusing at times, but also very informative. I like when books teach me things, especially things I know nothing about. This book definitely did that, and that is the largest reason why I appreciate it so much.

The writing style was very easy to read and made me feel like the author was having a laid back conversation with me, face-to-face. It felt personal, inviting and informative.

Over all, I'd absolutely recommend this book, if only for the simple fact that I think it's important to know how and when to pay extra attention to the signs your body and mind are giving you, but also how to take a stand against ignorance. To know that when you need help, or simply information, from doctors who don't advocate for you, you need to learn how to advocate for yourself, because no one knows how you feel inside better than you do.

Thank you to NetGalley, Perseus Books, PublicAffairs, Nation Books, and Abby Norman for a digital ARC of this book in exchange for my honest review. Publication intended for March 6, 2018. ...more

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Dec 05, 2018 Jo rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction, inspirational

I initially picked out this book, because it has the word "uterus" in the title. According to some of our society, people actually don't want to talk about uteruses, and it is apparently a taboo subject. For me, I fail to see how on Earth that is even remotely possible. When I began reading this book, I felt like I was listening to a friend, offloading her troubles, to a being that totally understands and more importantly, believes, in women's pain. Many, MANY Doctors and consultants however, do I initially picked out this book, because it has the word "uterus" in the title. According to some of our society, people actually don't want to talk about uteruses, and it is apparently a taboo subject. For me, I fail to see how on Earth that is even remotely possible. When I began reading this book, I felt like I was listening to a friend, offloading her troubles, to a being that totally understands and more importantly, believes, in women's pain. Many, MANY Doctors and consultants however, don't.
This book is a memoir of Abby Norman, and her battle with endometriosis, and the utter struggle she has had to get any kind of understanding or even recognition of the disease from Doctors. I have PMDD, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, which is a very, very severe form of PMS. As well as many physical symptoms, there are a range of emotional ones too, and they are life debilitating. I used to feel weak and pretty pathetic, because of the struggles I deal with for two weeks of every month, but now, I'm really unapologetic. If I'm in pain, and I'm finding it hard to deal with, I'll make that known. Unfortunately, like Abby Norman, I know all too well, that feeling of being shunned by a doctor when you feel so ill. I'm not sexist, not in the least, but, I've not came across one male doctor yet, that has took me seriously about my condition. The most I've received, is a prescription for some painkillers I've had before, and a closed door. That, is why I stopped seeing male GPs. I'm not saying all the female doctors understand and support that there is such a condition, but they definitely would, if they were the ones suffering with it. I find it such a sad world, that we, as women, are expected to deal with pain quietly as we are the child bearers, or, we are then told, it is all in our heads. We still have to fight to be heard, and that is where the health care system fails us. I mean, why the hell, should we suffer in silence? The belief that being a woman is a preexisting condition is in all aspects wrong, and I'll always argue with anyone with that belief. And yes, just writing this review has set my rage alight!
Abby Norman is a force, and she is an inspiration for women who have suffered with such pain. Uterus, or no uterus, I would definitely recommend this personal and poignant memoir.

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May 12, 2018 Canadian rated it it was ok

Shelves: autobiography-and-memoir, medicine, human-body-anatomy-and-physiology, illness-and-disease, obstetrics-and-gynecology

Rating: 2.5

At the beginning of her second year of college at Sarah Lawrence, Abby Norman experienced excruciating knife-sharp abdominal pain, which eventually took her to the hospital, caused her to withdraw from university, and led to surgery to remove a “chocolate cyst”, a type of ovarian cyst that forms when endometrial tissue (the membrane that lines the uterus) grows inside the ovary. Norman’s battle with endometriosis—with debilitating abdominal and pelvic pain, and eventually, with inexpl Rating: 2.5

At the beginning of her second year of college at Sarah Lawrence, Abby Norman experienced excruciating knife-sharp abdominal pain, which eventually took her to the hospital, caused her to withdraw from university, and led to surgery to remove a “chocolate cyst”, a type of ovarian cyst that forms when endometrial tissue (the membrane that lines the uterus) grows inside the ovary. Norman’s battle with endometriosis—with debilitating abdominal and pelvic pain, and eventually, with inexplicable neurological deficits—was far from over. Her condition did not allow her to return to Sarah Lawrence, but Norman did gain a job as a medical records clerk. This gave her an education of another sort: a medical one. She determinedly read medical texts and journals to understand what was going on in her body. Her research led to a successful surgery to remove a problematic appendix and to the discovery that part of her large intestine was not where it ought to be. Nevertheless, the excessive bleeding and abdominal pain continued. They were life-altering. At the conclusion of the book, Norman finds herself battling other strange symptoms, which at least one medical professional tells her (yet again) are “all in her head”.

Women’s pain, particularly that pain associated with the reproductive organs, is (as Norman repeatedly tells us in this book) all too often regarded as the manifestation of a psychiatric illness. A very significant portion of Norman’s hybrid nonfiction/memoir is dedicated to relating key details of a traumatic and unusual childhood at the hands of a mentally ill, severely eating-disordered mother, who regularly withheld food from her daughter—to the point of near starvation. Norman feels she has reason to deliberate over the link between trauma and physical illness, but ultimately recognizes that, for far too long, real anatomical and physiological bases for women’s pain have been categorically dismissed or left uninvestigated.

While Norman should be lauded for her perseverance and determination in her struggle to understand her condition, seek a cure, and bring attention to a disease that likely plagues more than one in ten women, I do wish her book had received the editorial oversight it needed. Norman has a lively, colloquial style, but she is prone to prolixity. She regularly goes off on unnecessary tangents; she rambles and repeats herself. Her diction is often imprecise—for example: the word “edification” is used when “education” is meant; “particulate” is chosen over the correct “particle”. I grew more and more frustrated as I read, finding the last quarter of the book a particular slog. The organization of the material is also less than optimal.

While I believe there is value in Norman’s book, I cannot recommend it wholeheartedly. I found the medical science the author addressed to be interesting; I only wish there had been more of it. ...more

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Nov 24, 2017 Janday rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: everyone

Shelves: 21st-century, advance-readers-copy, america-american, biography-memoir, feminism-womens-studies, medicine, my-library, nonfiction

"Even now, it's been so many years since I've lived in a pain-free body that I don't really remember what it feels like."

I'd accuse Abby Norman of plagiarizing me if I didn't wholeheartedly, bone-achingly, gut-wrenchingly, atom-pulsingly believe her. Even though this is a book about endometriosis, everyone should read this book. Norman recounts her own experience with endometriosis and the (seemingly innumerable) complexities related to endometriosis (spoiler: it is not a "menstrual" disease, it ...more

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May 06, 2018 Barbara (The Bibliophage) rated it really liked it

Shelves: feminism-and-women-s-studies, medical-memoir, own-digital, chronic-illness-and-pain, 2018, booked2018

Abby Norman tells her often harrowing story with grace in Ask Me About My Uterus. She’s had to make her way through life in pain, and mostly alone. I’m in awe of her courage and fortitude!

Norman spent her childhood with an absent father, and a functionally absent mother who was too sick with her own disease to care for her children. In case that wasn’t hard enough, her abusive grandmother stepped in to care for Abby. Somehow, she survives this and has the unimaginable presence of mind to request Abby Norman tells her often harrowing story with grace in Ask Me About My Uterus. She’s had to make her way through life in pain, and mostly alone. I’m in awe of her courage and fortitude!

Norman spent her childhood with an absent father, and a functionally absent mother who was too sick with her own disease to care for her children. In case that wasn’t hard enough, her abusive grandmother stepped in to care for Abby. Somehow, she survives this and has the unimaginable presence of mind to request emancipation at age sixteen.

As she tells this part of the story, I cheered for her while I was marveling at her teenage grit. Norman moved forward with life, got herself help, and thank goodness, had people who were equipped to offer her safe and healthy shelter.

Amazing as it is, this is only one small segment of Abby Norman’s story. She actually explains her childhood as an adjunct to the excruciating abdominal pain she began experiencing at nineteen. As with many people who experience chronic pain, Norman searches for an explanation. Is it a result of her difficult childhood? Was the neglect an emotional or physical catalyst?

Doctors don’t take her seriously. So finding an explanation isn’t simple cause and effect. Norman begins to do medical and scientific research about endometriosis. Turns out there isn’t much information available, which leads her to examine why women’s pain isn’t addressed effectively or often.

It’s these components—her story and her research—that make up Ask Me About My Uterus. Norman deconstructs each topic with eloquence and care. She acknowledges that each endo patient has a different story, including those from the LGBTQIA+ community. And yet, many pieces of her story are clearly universal to endo and other chronic pain patients.

My conclusions:
As a woman living with chronic pain, I wanted to first bump Norman every page or so. I’m also an adult woman who survived an untraditional upbringing, especially as it related to medical care. More fist bumps for her story and survival.

Abby makes the world of living with invisible illness visible. She puts her uterus, her sex life, her heart and soul on display. And it’s obvious her intention is to help women with endo and other types of chronic pain. She’s a fighter who tells a damn interesting story.

I never felt that Norman was a drama queen looking for sympathy. Instead, her approach was matter of fact and easy to read. She’s solution-oriented and a captivating writer. I’d like to give this book to my doctors. There are also a few doctors in Norman’s story that I’d like to give a piece of my mind. The mom in me wants to charge in and fight for justice. But thankfully, Abby Norman is doing a great job of that in her life and in this book.

Acknowledgements:
Thanks to NetGalley, Abby Norman, and Perseus Books, PublicAffairs, and Nation Books for the digital ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review. ...more

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Feb 22, 2018 Nikki rated it it was ok

Shelves: published-2018, ebook, own-kindle, non-fiction, feminism, netgalley, auto-bio-memoir, 2018

My main issue with this book is that it is poorly written and/or edited. The chapters, and writing in general, are meandering and oftentimes baffling as to why certain writing choices were made. Too often, probably most of the time, the author seemed to want to introduce a story/topic but it was done in such a way that the proceeding content just felt like non sequiturs. In many ways it felt like listening to someone speak that took a million tangents and only sometimes completed their thoughts. My main issue with this book is that it is poorly written and/or edited. The chapters, and writing in general, are meandering and oftentimes baffling as to why certain writing choices were made. Too often, probably most of the time, the author seemed to want to introduce a story/topic but it was done in such a way that the proceeding content just felt like non sequiturs. In many ways it felt like listening to someone speak that took a million tangents and only sometimes completed their thoughts.

The author also makes allusions to her mother's illness and the severity of it but does not even bother to tell us what the illness is until the 24% mark. If you're using it to support your views/statements etc., you should probably be clear on what the illness is. Also, the book summary pretty much gives you the proper information to go into the book that the author does not bother to tell you until well into the book. She does not really make it clear that she is serious about dance until later on and there is no mention of weight loss, gray hairs or a dwindling "dancer's body" until nearly the end. I feel as though all of this should have been clear to the reader from the get-go, sans the help of the book summary, via some sort of prologue or first chapter. The author also spent entirely too much time focusing on her childhood, very weakly trying to tie it into the topic at hand. At the most, the childhood should have been a chapter that could have been alluded to randomly, not large random swathes of discussions dedicated to it throughout. Seriously, where was the editing?

While there was information on the trials and tribulations of being a woman dealing with doctors throughout history, it was minimal IMO and absolutely nothing you have not read if you have read on this topic prior. However, it is the only reason I am (currently) not giving the book 1 star instead of 2. The reason I wanted to read the book was this, which the title implies will be the bulk of the book, but is actually a minimal amount of the pages.

Overall, the book is much more of a rambling, poorly put together memoir than it is a book on "a quest to make doctors believe in women's pain." Bare minimum it was about this particular author's quest, which is quite different IMO than a quest for all women.

Disclosure: ARC received from Netgalley & publisher in exchange for an honest review. (They may regret this.) Any and all quotes were taken from an advanced edition subject to change in the final edition. ...more

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Mar 13, 2018 Rhiannon Johnson rated it it was amazing

**In this post I review ASK ME ABOUT MY UTERUS and PERIODS GONE PUBLIC. Publishers have provided complementary copies to me in exchange for honest reviews** .
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Let's talk about...uteruses/uteri! Yes, those are both acceptable plural forms of 'uterus'. Half the human population has one but *wow* are they controversial! However, regardless of where you stand on hot button issues like birth control and abortion, you probably agree that periods, albeit annoying, aren't very revolutionary. But you are ...more

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Mar 27, 2018 Paula Dennan added it · review of another edition

Ask Me About My Uterus is a a searingly honest account of Abby Norman’s struggle to get a diagnosis of endometriosis. Considering it takes on average 7.5 years for women to receive that diagnosis, Norman is far from alone which is where the subtitle of the book comes in; A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women’s Pain. Woven between the narrative of her own pain is a history of how women and the pain they suffer is treated, mistreated and continuously dismissed by the male dominated fields of me ...more

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Apr 04, 2018 Vanessa rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: feminism, nonfiction, memoir, pretty-covers, 4-stars

There's this quote in the book about how conditions that seem to lurk unnoticed in a woman's body go unnoticed by others because, for one thing, they are an assumed part of womanhood, and, for another, women are taught to keep those pains private. This was one of the parts - among many others - that really hit me because it took me almost a decade to realise that there might be something wrong with my body because ever since I was a child I heard that it's normal for periods to be painful to the ...more

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Mar 18, 2018 April rated it really liked it

A cross between a blunt but heart-felt memoir and a medical mystery; Abby delves into life with chronic pain and a medical system which refuses to believe it. I appreciated that she early (and more than once) noted that despite the title; women are not defined by their ownership of a uterus. More than that; as a woman who has had her own medical woes, I recognized and can certainly empathize with the many familiar ways in which Abby has navigated a health care system which has always been Men Fi ...more

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Dec 15, 2017 Lisa rated it liked it

Shelves: arc, auto-biographies-and-memoirs, nonfiction, readin2017

I received an ARC of this title from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I'm going to be honest and say that I was expecting more from this. I thought it would be more about Norman's health struggles and fights with her doctors. Instead, the constant focus on Norman's horrific childhood were a distraction from that. While her background was important to the story, it felt like there was more focus on it than necessary, turning it into a general memoir by Norman, rather than a medical-focu ...more

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Jan 24, 2018 Hanna rated it it was amazing

Wow, I was absolutely enthralled by Abby Norman's journey. Part memoir, part history of women's pain, this book was everything I was looking for & more. Norman is a skilled researcher, in large part, because her life has greatly depended on it, but also because she's truly an academic at heart. Norman artfully wove her story into the fabric of shared experience regarding women's turbulent history navigating our health in a medical world that is set up to dismiss us. This read is both extreme ...more

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May 04, 2018 Ashley rated it it was ok

I wanted to like this—after all, I’m super fascinated by the politics of the female body. And while I feel for the author, this book isn’t great. The writing and structure are clunky, and the whole thing is about 100 pages too long. Norman’s writing is best when she’s summarizing medical or historical knowledge, but those moments are often dwarfed by the meandering chunks of memoir. Despite the gorgeous cover and a few interesting tidbits, I’d skip this one in favor of more academic fare.

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Jun 02, 2018 Jillian Coleen rated it it was amazing

Shelves: audiobook

I came across Abby Norman’s Ask Me About My Uterus on Bitch Magazine’s list of most anticipated non fiction for 2018 and was immediately interested. A few of the women that I love dearly in my life have been affected by endometriosis, and I’m aware that it’s a challenging disease to both diagnose and treat. Reading this, however, opened my eyes to just HOW difficult it can be to obtain quality healthcare for women, who are constantly questioned and disbelieved. It lit my rage on fire.

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Sep 22, 2018 Ashley rated it liked it

Shelves: class-gender-race, feminism-and-sexuality, memoir, non-fiction

I liked this overall, but had a hard time reading it, and it wasn't what I was expecting.

Abby Norman dropped out of college due to debilitating pain she started experiencing one day, and which doctors minimized for years before she finally was semi-diagnosed with Endometriosis (among other things). The title and synopsis of this book makes it seem like more of a book about the relationship between women and doctors, but really this is a memoir that mostly focuses on Abby's medical history, and s I liked this overall, but had a hard time reading it, and it wasn't what I was expecting.

Abby Norman dropped out of college due to debilitating pain she started experiencing one day, and which doctors minimized for years before she finally was semi-diagnosed with Endometriosis (among other things). The title and synopsis of this book makes it seem like more of a book about the relationship between women and doctors, but really this is a memoir that mostly focuses on Abby's medical history, and she sort of extrapolates outward (with help from research, yes) how her journey was affected by (or could have been different than) the way that the medical establishment treats women, and specifically, women in relation to their reproductive systems/sexual organs, and as a result, how under researched Endometriosis is as a condition, and how often misunderstood. She does acknowledge that she is a cis white woman, and that cis women aren't the only ones affected by this, that other people with uteruses (like trans men) are also affected, but again, this is mostly a memoir, and she is white and cis, so that's the focus.

Going in, I was expecting way less of Abby and more of a general exploration of gender/sexual bias in the medical field. The title is really a problem, I think. Framing it as "women's pain" makes it seem like that is the actual topic of the book, when it is just a subtopic, something she deals with as a consequence of her medical history. And really, it is a compelling book, but combined with those expectations, and the fact that her experiences kept giving me anxiety (they related a little too much to some experiences I've had of my own), and the fact that her experiences are just horrific. This woman is in PAIN the whole book. It doesn't let up, and she describes it in detail.

Her abusive childhood is also something that she grapples with the whole book, and is gone into detail. She eventually became emancipated from her family, but not before her manipulative grandmother, and mentally ill mother traumatized her for life.

Occasionally she would step away from her own life and do little mini-history lessons. She relates Gilda Radner's troubles, which horrified me. Gilda knew she was sick for a long time (years) before she was eventually diagnosed with stage IV ovarian cancer , but doctors never believed her, or minimized her pain. She also goes further back than that. There is a lot of nonsense with Freud, and you know what, I'm done with that guy. He was a fuckhead. These were honestly the parts of the book I enjoyed the most.

So, all in all, this book was a good experience, but it wasn't what I was expecting, and the subject matter made me anxious, so it wasn't a super pleasant reading experience.

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Sep 18, 2018 Josephine rated it it was amazing

2019 review:

5 stars.

This was my first re-read of Ask Me About My Uterus - I read it again as research for my Society & Culture PIP. I have never once (in memory) cried because of a book, but this made me sob. I cannot express to you how much I needed this book in my life. Read it, read it, read it. This will not be my last re-read of this masterful piece of non-fiction.

P.S I wrote a short note to the author via Instagram and she so kindly replied.

2018 review:

5 stars.

I have read a few memoi ...more

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Mar 05, 2018 Corinna Fabre rated it liked it

Ask Me About My Uterus is an informative and well-researched read on an under-treated ailment and, maybe more importantly, on the general systemic dismissal of women's pain. The author, Abby Norman, draws from her own medical experiences to illustrate the problems that are all too often faced by all women who look for help addressing chronic issues alongside her personal history to create a nuanced tale of what it takes to take your health and hope into your own hands.

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Apr 11, 2018 MarissaQ rated it liked it

I found Abby's story very relatable, we are both Sarah Lawrence women with chronic pain who have mothers with chronic pain who grew up below the poverty line. I love that she's bringing this issue to light because it's an important one. What I felt the story lacked was that it's structured as part personal narrative, part science/theory of endometriosis, part history of the treatment of women in medicine. I suppose I wanted more personal narrative, or more science and history. It kind of sits in ...more

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May 10, 2018 Amy rated it really liked it

Abby Norman does an amazing job of describing life as a woman with endometriosis. She mixes in humor, with very specific details about living with this disease. It’s amazing she found the time and strength to write this terrific book. Reading her book let me know that my own struggles with endometriosis and adenomyosis are real, not in my head, and to keep searching for the right doctor who will listen and validate my pain.

In addition to being a great read, “Ask Me About My Uterus” is a wonderf ...more

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Mar 08, 2018 Alex Linschoten rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Shelves: health

A personal story of endometriosis pain mixed in with the meta-tale of how female pain has always been undervalued by a (male-dominated) medical profession. Both parts are interesting, but her writing really shines when she describes the raw sensations in her body as well as her ongoing process of dealing with the fallout. Recommended.

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Mar 07, 2018 Molly T rated it really liked it

Shelves: chronic-life, 2018, reviewed

Thank you to Nation Books for providing me a copy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review.

I have been looking forward to this book for months and am thrilled by its place in the revolution we are currently witnessing: women, especially young women, taking a stand against a patriarchal and hierarchical healthcare system that has failed us for centuries. Thankfully, my excitement was not misplaced.

Ask Me About My Uterus is part memoir and part social commentary, with Norman’s perso Thank you to Nation Books for providing me a copy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review.

I have been looking forward to this book for months and am thrilled by its place in the revolution we are currently witnessing: women, especially young women, taking a stand against a patriarchal and hierarchical healthcare system that has failed us for centuries. Thankfully, my excitement was not misplaced.

Ask Me About My Uterus is part memoir and part social commentary, with Norman’s personal story occupying the majority of the narrative. The narrative begins with Norman becoming ill during her first semester at Sarah Lawrence and then oscillates between her youth and adulthood, covering first her diagnosis of endometriosis, then rewinding to her traumatic childhood and teenage years (for which I would give a content warning for disordered eating and neglect, which some readers may find upsetting), and finally fast-forwarding to her experience of worsening health but increasing advocacy work in her 20s. Though at times chaotic, the structure of this narrative feels important: it makes Norman’s story not just about her physical illness and pain, but about her.

The strongest section of the book is its closing chapters, when the story returns to Norman’s worsening health and her encounters with the healthcare system. I had a hard time putting the book aside as her medical problems became more complex and mysterious (not unlike an episode of House M.D.) and she fought to, literally, save her own life. Her accounts of having her physical symptoms dismissed by medical professionals over and over again are heartbreaking and infuriating, but represent reality for so many women.

As a young woman with chronic pain, I have deep admiration for the willpower and strength Norman’s story illustrates. I think any woman who has ever felt dismissed or devalued by the medical system will find solace and encouragement in this debut memoir, and I hope others (especially healthcare professionals) will find it as a source of knowledge and understanding. ...more

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Nov 24, 2017 Janet rated it it was amazing

Shelves: zz-2017ng-when-i-read, kindle

I received a DIGITAL Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher -
For any woman who has experienced illness, chronic pain, or endometriosis comes an inspiring memoir advocating for recognition of women's health issues

In the fall of 2010, Abby Norman's strong dancer's body dropped forty pounds and gray hairs began to sprout from her temples. She was repeatedly hospitalized in excruciating pain, but the doctors insisted it was a urinary tr ...more

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Jul 20, 2018 Kristy Miller rated it really liked it

Shelves: non-fiction, memoir-biography, social-cultural-studies, 2018-personal-challenge

I can’t begin to describe how difficult this book was to read. I knew it would be emotional read but I underestimated how emotional, how painful it would be to get through this. I thought it would be comforting to read about others struggling with the same things I have struggled with for 22 years, but it was just unrelenting.

The book itself is good. Abby lays out her struggle with endometriosis and other physical, mental, and emotional struggles of her life. Along with this she tells the infuri ...more

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Jan 04, 2018 Anna rated it it was ok

Shelves: medical

I have one question after reading this book: WHERE WAS THE EDITOR? Somebody really needed to go through this book and cut cut cut cut a lot of it. It's a shame, because I actually really enjoy the author's writing style and I am here for more books about women's experiences with endometriosis. The whole thing ends up being a jumbled health crisis memoir/ troubled family upbringing memoir/ history of women's health-lite, and it just doesn't work. About the author's upbringing- I get that some bac ...more

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Feb 09, 2018 Ashley Holstrom rated it really liked it

Shelves: 2018, print, adult, science, non-fiction, memoir-biography, body, reviewed, galley

Uterus-owners have endured pain that gets brushed off as “hysteria” for centuries. Abby Norman’s is brushed off as “all in her head.” She suffers endometriosis undiagnosed for years, her leg goes numb, she loses 30 pounds. When she gets to a doctor, she’s sent home with antibiotics. And so Norman begins the quest to find the answers for herself, reading medical journals and tracking her symptoms. But she runs into the same problem over and over: Doctors don’t believe her and make decisions for h ...more

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Feb 11, 2018 Amy Kreydin rated it really liked it

Shelves: womens-health, netgalley

Ms Norman weaves her personal experiences living with the diagnosis of endometriosis, and the history of women being ignored by medicine. It's a painfully brutal look at the ways women's health is misunderstood, insufficiently researched, poorly managed, and frequently misdiagnosed as being all in our heads. I'm reminded of the sobering statistics around adverse childhood events, or ACEs, and that it is typical of a woman with a chronic health issue to spend a minimum of three years seeking a di ...more

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Jan 05, 2019 Mary Margaret rated it it was amazing

This book makes me angry.

I had a conversation with a lover about Hozier's Cherry Wine, and the music video that goes along with it. It's about abuse: He was struck by anger; I was simply sad. Later, I tried to reason with this response. Maybe anger stems from hate, and sadness stems from love. I was feeling sadness because of my feelings for previous lovers, for my mother, for every person I'm intimate with, who have bore bittersweet abuse; he was feeling anger because of his feelings surroundi ...more

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Jun 01, 2018 Dina rated it it was ok

While it does tackle a very difficult and relevant topic, the author's ramblings and tangents just had me heavily skimming the second half of the book.

There is a lot of jargon, a lot of medical terms, and a lot of self-pity. Though, the author is justified sometimes in the incompetence of the medical professionals that she encountered, the way she makes it sound is that there isn't a single doctor out there who will take a woman seriously when she comes to them with pain. And to be fair, she we ...more

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May 09, 2018 Sarah Hannah added it

Shelves: 2018, health-fitness, memoir-essay-biography

Infuriatingly unresolved ending, but I guess that was unavoidable and also kind of the point. Really good, vindicating, tragic, anger-inducing, smart.

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Abby Norman is a science writer based in New England. Her work has been featured in Harper's, The Independent, Literary Hub, The Rumpus, Futurism, Paste, Seventeen, Atlas Obscura, Medium, and others.

She has been interviewed and profiled by NPR/WNYC, The New York Times, Playboy, Forbes, Glamour, and Bitch Magazine. Her work has been praised by The New York Times Book Review, The Wall Street Journal ...more

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“Although a male physician could quite easily, and convincingly, assert that ovarian cancer was “silent,” if you were to really listen to women who have had ovarian cancer speak, you’d find that it wasn’t so much that the disease process was silent—but that they were. Conditions that seem to lurk unnoticed in a woman’s body go unnoticed by others because, for one thing, they are an assumed part of womanhood, and, for another, women are taught to keep those pains private. I’ve often found it curious that when a woman is suffering, her competence is questioned, but when a man is suffering, he’s humanized. It’s a gender stereotype that hurts both men and women, though it lends itself to the question of why there is a proclivity in health care, and in society, to deny female pain.” — 8 likes

“In retrospect, that was the moment I realized my ignorance was going to exacerbate whatever the problem was, and that I had to prescribe myself some kind of medical education, at least as it pertained to my situation.” — 6 likes

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