Boundaries & Protection

by Pixie Lighthorse

 
For more information, see the author's website:
 
https://www.pixielighthorse.com/bound...
 

Genres: Self Help, Spirituality, Nonfiction, Relationships, Philosophy, Witchcraft, Audiobook

161 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 15, 2017

Reviews

[Reba · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would have loved for this book to have been edited to tie together more as a cohesive whole. As it was, it seemed to me like a collection of musings on the same central theme, with the somewhat rambling writing style that musing has.

Although there was nothing new to me in the content, I appreciated the reminders and underlined several phrases that felt like great encapsulations of a particular concept. I also really liked the appendix of boundary-supporting phrases to play with.

Would definitely like to read an expanded, more tightly written version of this book, especially one that weaves in personal anecdotes as examples.

[mary · Rating 5 out of 5]

this book is wonderful for meditation and reflection! it’s a lot of shorter prompts (this is not a textbook on how to enforce boundaries) that offer affirmations and food for thought. i loved taking a few minutes each day to read a page.

[Vanessa · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was just what I needed.

[Audrey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely some helpful reminders and ways to rethink boundaries and how to implement them. Go slow! A lot of emotions came up with this one (same with Goldmining the Shadows).

[Chris · Rating 3 out of 5]

Any book that starts with "Assume you are human..." is always interesting to me.

This book is honestly been very helpful to me. Although I went through it pretty much all in "one sitting" it is written as a devotional (a book to help you be ardently dedicated and loyal to a topic). It has been very helpful, although some of the examples seem to be more for those of the Choctaw.

[Jordan Wixom · Rating 4 out of 5]

Could benefit from multiple readings, or perhaps one at a time to allow reflection space

[Jaina Bee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Unique and universal, powerful healing wisdom.

[Angy · Rating 5 out of 5]

While visiting a local metaphysical shop, the employee recommended this book to me, and I am glad to have listened to their suggestion by picking up this book. It's a small book with short chapters, but each sentence carries a lot of power and thought, and it does take a little while to truly soak in Pixie Lighthorse's validating advice and words of wisdom. It's the kind of book that would benefit the reader with multiple reads rather than just going through it quickly. There's a lot of information regarding how to heal from boundary violations and how to set your own boundaries, and a lot of it is written in an intuitive way that is somehow easy to follow and understand. I am so glad to have read this book and consider it one of my favourites now for self-help. I will be recommending it to my friends whom I think need it most. I look forward to reading more from Lighthorse in the future.

[kates · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is a useful meditation on boundary setting. I found it incredibly affirming and normalizing. The language is clear, grounded, and accessible. There are not many examples shared, so it’s up to the reader to connect this perspective to the actions and various relationships in their life.

Some favorite quotes:

"Creating boundaries with our own thinking process is a necessary part of being well."

“Adults get to make the rules about the relationships they are in and this includes with our parents.”

“We often go through relationship wanting our partners to be our everything, to complete us, to know us better than we know ourselves. This is a tall order and unlikely to be delivered. It may be enough that we offer one another empathy and enjoy the companionship.”

“In a codependent system, how we feels relies on how someone else feels.”

[Madeline Storch · Rating 4 out of 5]

“I will tell you so that you are clear: You are sacred. You are beautiful. You are magnificent.”

“The most important thing is to take responsibility for what you need because of what you are going through.”

“Love flourishes where there is room for humanness, imperfection, and forgiveness.”

“Perhaps it will be helpful to write down your dreams and indulge the darkness of the night as you begin to feel more at ease inside your skin—as you free yourself from the chains that have kept you from your most vital self.”

“Deeming ourselves undeserving of love, respect, and kindness is dishonoring of our existence and all that had to take place to bring us here—the spiritual details of which we can only guess.”

[Kelsey · Rating 3 out of 5]

I came across Pixie’s work while tumbling through the online wells of somatic work and other feminine/spiritually-based writers. I quickly purchased this and her companion book “Goldmining the Shadows” and while I’m currently just breaking into the latter I believe these two bodies or work are great for what they are. Which to me are palatable introductions and an easing into of the provided content. Bite-sized information, nothing of overwhelming nature, and easily applicable for damn near every creature. While I *personally* may have desired more grit or fleshing out I’d consider this book a pocket-pal — something that affords reminder in time of need or swift refresher when muddied by our trenches.

[Siobhan · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book as part of a therapeutic book club for empathy and HSP’s. It’s not a book I would have gravitated towards otherwise, but appreciated the experience.

I liked the simple 1 page chapters, so it didn’t seem as overwhelming to sit with. Following along with weekly journal prompts helped me to be able to put the words into practice. Digesting the material with a virtual monthly community gave me a chance to process in a different way.

It’s definitely something I could reread at other times in my life and applicable to the work I’m doing in my own personal therapy.

Would recommend for others who are empaths and/or highly sensitive persons.

[reid · Rating 4 out of 5]

Less of a factually supported thesis and more of a thought provoking/ reflection prompting guide. Particularly poignant in the context of maintaining self esteem as a feminine energy subjected to/ involved in relationship power struggles; women in relationships with Strong Personalities will do well for themselves to adopt some of these boundary setting and maintaining strategies. I found the Language Prompts especially useful in planning to navigate difficult (as made so by masculine entitlement, domination language, persuasion where acceptance would benefit both parties, etc…) conversations with difficult men.

[Anne · Rating 5 out of 5]

I recently listened to the audiobook of “Boundaries & Protection” and absolutely loved it! However, I believe that the audiobook format somewhat detracted from the experience. This is definitely a book to read and own, as its numerous chapters are filled with thoughts and affirmations that are best savored and revisited. The standout aspects were the author’s clarity in writing, her emphasis on honoring ourselves and others through setting clear boundaries, and the helpful language prompts at the end. Simply beautiful!

[Francesca · Rating 5 out of 5]

I didn’t find a single typo in this excellent book, not a single one. A rarity in today’s world and it speaks volumes of the author’s integrity and respect for herself, her work and efforts, for her readers. This said, I highly recommend this book if you are feeling the need for boundaries and protection. It’s an easy, relatively short read. My advice is to take your time with it; let it’s ideas seep in.

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book includes some good advice on how to engage respectfully with other people's boundaries, and how to honorably protect your own. Each topic in the book is given only a single page, however, which made me feel like I had dozens of fascinating introductions to topics and not an in-depth look at any one topic. Would love to see an expanded version or an offshoot.

[Antonia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really loved this book and read it over a few weeks, taking in a few lessons at a time. I appreciated the clarity in how boundaries work and can be put into place, and especially loved the language prompts included at the end. The author provides a lot of helpful examples and strategies that readers can put into practice right away.

[Michelle · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some passages left me wanting more, while others felt longer than they needed to be. Some great words in here when it comes to self-care and setting boundaries in all of your different types of relationships.

[Melanie Brewster · Rating 5 out of 5]

Gosh, as a licensed psychologist, I can say that this was one of the most gorgeous yet straightforward distillations of therapeutic techniques (largely DBT) that I've ever seen. I can imagine sharing this book with clients and loved ones alike.

[Maybelline Tan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good book

A great way to understand boundaries and the tips are practical to be applied. I love how at the end of the book Pixie gave examples of how to communicate healthy boundaries with others. That is really helpful!

[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life-Changing

This book has changed my life. I’m so glad I discovered it.
If boundaries are something you need in your life, please, please dive in, learn, embrace and literally witness your life and the lives of those around you change for the better.

[Sofia Deleon · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

I listened to the audiobook and as someone who struggles with boundaries and is still learning how to set them, I thought it was interesting hearing how the author displays examples in different settings. I’ll be teaching my son about the “golden bubble”

[Arynn Acdan · Rating 4 out of 5]

For this one, I listened to the audiobook and I really liked the format of it. It read as little tidbits and reminders to me. While there was nothing super profound, I really appreciated the different points on boundaries and protecting the self.

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

A bite sized book but packed with advice about boundary and protection! I’m too angry to address people’s shitty behavior toward me lately so I’ll stay sat for their safety, but very powerful if you’re wanting to improve your relationships with the people you love! That I can do!

[Kelle Fitzpatrick · Rating 5 out of 5]

AMAZING read!!

[Rachael Gonzalez · Rating 5 out of 5]

Everyone, literally everyone, needs to read this book twice and keep a
Copy on hand .

[LemontreeLime · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not what I expected, I don't really know what I expected. Charming prose, & clever insights about human interactions at best and worst.

[angela d.simms · Rating 5 out of 5]

Will buy paperback for library

This book is. Simple reminder of how to navigate being human with the special abilities we have forgotten.
Believe Yourself.

[Quin West · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredibly educational. I will probably need an annual reread to keep it up.

[John · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nothing remarkable, but the ideas are mostly true.