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Conversations with Friends

3.82  ·  Rating details ·  184,971 ratings  ·  15,448 reviews
Frances is twenty-one years old, cool-headed and observant. A student in Dublin and an aspiring writer, at night she performs spoken word with her best friend Bobbi, who used to be her girlfriend. When they are interviewed and then befriended by Melissa, a well-known journalist who is married to Nick, an actor, they enter a world of beautiful houses, raucous dinner parties ...more
Paperback, 323 pages
Published March 1st 2018 by Faber & Faber (first published May 25th 2017)
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Tony Hassan I started quite enjoying it, but the further I read, the more irritating and unbelievable I found the characters. I wish I'd quit a quarter way throug…moreI started quite enjoying it, but the further I read, the more irritating and unbelievable I found the characters. I wish I'd quit a quarter way through. (less)
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Jolene I bristled for, like, a three seconds before realizing that that's exactly what I would have said when I was 21. It's messy, but life is messy. 🤷 …moreI bristled for, like, a three seconds before realizing that that's exactly what I would have said when I was 21. It's messy, but life is messy. 🤷 (less)

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Aug 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I’ve been thinking a lot about aging lately: the way our perspective changes and how our need for stability, trust and healthy relationships become so much more valued than intoxicating, crash-and-burn emotional roller-coasters of our younger years.

I say this as means of introduction because while reading Conversations with Friends, it occurred to me that those readers who are not familiar with the confusing yet exhilarating times of poor choices mixed with a great deal of egotism and sense of i
Jun 09, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
A very tepid 3 stars. Conversations with Friends is another one of those books about not particularly nice people entangled in awkward relationships. I've certainly read many books of this nature that I've found clever and quite enjoyed, but this one was just ok. Frances and Bobbi -- both young women who used to be in a relationship with each other -- become entangled with somewhat older heterosexual couple Nick and Melissa. It's all told from Frances' perspective. She doesn't seem to be able to ...more
Dec 29, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2017-reads
I didn't really respond well to Conversations with Friends. The writing itself is quite good in terms of realistic dialogue and description, but I found all of the characters entirely unlikable and hard to empathize with, very few with any positive animating traits, mostly just self-absorbed, narcissistic, occasionally cruel and capricious. Either in addition to or because I didn't respond to the characters, I also didn't respond to the plot well: the stakes seemed very low, there seemed to be l ...more
have been truly dealt a series of death blows this week from the heartless chaos of the universe, so i will once again be rereading the book that simultaneously makes me feel better and so, so much worse

end of 6th reread update: this book is probably the closest thing i have to religion


when you see me and lily rereading this every month in 2021, mind your business


reread this in its entirety on a plane to be on my main character sh*t


what has to be wrong with a per
Barry Pierce
Mar 26, 2018 rated it it was ok
The narrator of Sally Rooney's Conversations with Friends at one point states that she never wants to work.

I had no plans as to my future financial sustainability: I never wanted to earn money for doing anything. [...] I'd felt that my disinterest in wealth was ideologically healthy. I'd checked what the average yearly income would be if the gross world product were evenly divided among everyone, and according to Wikipedia it would be $16, 100. I saw no reason, political or financial, ever to ma
Elle (ellexamines)
There’s a cliche in reviewing where you say something along these lines: “I wouldn’t like these characters in real life, but I found them compelling.” See, I don’t think that’s why this book works. I think this book works because in real life we would probably like these characters; respect their talent, find them interesting if at times flawed or condescending, look up to them on a level at which we would at times resent them and at times want to be them. It’s just that none of us would ever kn ...more
This was stupidly good. After recently loving Rooney's sophomore novel Normal People my expectations for Conversations With Friends were high, though I was also a bit wary; in these situations I'm always afraid an author's debut isn't going to live up. I needn't have worried. This was perfect from start to finish. You know that feeling when you miss a stair and your stomach lurches briefly before you land - this was that sensation in book form.

Once again I was impressed with Rooney's writing; it
Sarah Jessica Parker
This book is incredible! Read it in one day.
Danielle ❤️ Pretty Mess Reading ❤️
**2 STARS**

*shoulder shrug* Unfiltered review

Reading the synopsis of the book had me excited. I just knew I was going to love this book. It sounded like I was going to get a little bit of YA and NA combined into one brilliant masterpiece. Sadly, for me, that did not happen.

I want to start with the first and deepest reason why I never connected with this book. It’s a big one, lovers.

There are no quotation marks. It was extremely annoying reading a book when I couldn’t tel
Mar 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
i think about this book maybe once a day. i would pay sally rooney good money to punch me in the head.
Dec 16, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: uk, contemporanea
Elyse  Walters
Jul 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Audiobook... read by
Alice McMahon

The audio-narration was wonderfully alive an addictive. Granted this isn’t exactly a book a parent would ever recommend to their young adult- 20-ish old child - daughter or this is not an educational book on inspiring relationships —
But for me — as a 66 year old married fart who values honesty- with little-to-zero respect for adultery...( consented is up to the couple -‘lies’- destroy others)....
I enjoyed the ‘conversations’.. the funny/
My controversial take on this book is that it could also be titled Self-absorbed White People have Feelings Too. Before I get into that take, I do think Sally Rooney accomplishes quite a lot with her debut novel Conversations with Friends. The book follows Frances and her best friend Bobbi, who become entangled with a married couple, Nick and Melissa. Frances and Nick begin an affair which gets intense, and much of these characters’ relationships with one another thicken when Bobbi and Melissa f ...more
I have spent the last days periodically exclaiming “God, what a book” (or more correctly, because I do speak German in my real life, “Gott, was ein Buch!” or “Dieses Buch!”). I am feeling vaguely guilty for having given other books five stars because this book is just so much more than most of those. I am in no way objective in my absolute adoration and I don’t think I can adequately articulate how very brilliant I thought this was, so stick with me while I squeal and talk in superlatives.

I drag
I think this book might have worked better for me if I'd read it before Elif Batuman's The Idiot. Batuman and Rooney give their narrators similar voices: sharp, clear and deadpan but excessively self-aware. Both use email conversations to map out the development of a relationship. Both novels are told from the perspective of naive, supposedly intelligent young women who appear largely passive, falling into particular courses of action more because of the lack of a viable alternative than any gre ...more
Mar 28, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019
Compelling and cool, Conversations with Friends places millennial malaise and an unexpected love affair against the backdrop of summertime Dublin. The fast-paced plot follows a pair of privileged college-aged performance poets and exes, Bobbi and Frances, as they become entangled with an older, slightly famous married couple, Nick and Melissa. The bulk of the story concerns the rise and fall of Nick and Frances's romance. The two flirt by messenger, bonding over their shared lack of direction, a ...more
May 17, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really admire Sally Rooney’s writing. Her stories aren’t perfect, just like her characters, but they feel very authentic.
Adam Dalva
Jun 30, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very, very strong, though I prefer the ping-ponging perspectives of the wonderful NORMAL PEOPLE. Rooney has such an uncanny knack for love squares and cliffhangers, and you'll fly through this, as I did. Her affectless prose is startling, though CWF has a few linguistic flourishes, especially toward the end, that slightly imbalance the text. She is a master of plot, of the importance of gestures, and desire. The one other thing about this book is that the lead repeatedly makes the same mistake i ...more
Susanne  Strong
5 Stars.

Entanglements, my oh my!

“Conversations with Friends” by Sally Rooney had me ALMOST from the get go. At first, admittedly, I wondered WHAT in HECK, I was listening too. Frances… rambling on about her goings on… her trysts with her school friend Bobbi.. which went from steamy to platonic very quickly. Frances’s description of her and Bobbi’s poetry readings and a woman named Melissa’s immediate intrigue in them and then BOOM. Somewhere along the way I began listening with interest, which t
Conversations with Friends (the title and sunny cover are fairly misleading) is a stark, reflective novel which asks the reader to inhabit the mind of 21 year old poet and college student, Frances. She appears to be coolly detached from her feelings, at least in the beginning, and analytical to the point of neurosis.

We get a sense of Frances' excruciating self-consciousness at the start of the novel, when she and her ex-girlfriend Bobbi are invited back to the home of Melissa, a "slightly famous
Johann (jobis89)
Jun 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing
“Suffering wouldn’t make me special, and pretending not to suffer wouldn’t make me special.”

Last night I had a video call with some friends as we’ve been reading this for our book club. There was an audible gasp when I said that based on two books alone, Sally Rooney is now one of my most favourite authors. She is just THAT impressive to me. Her grasp on human nature is phenomenal, the way she takes what can be seen as relatively “normal” relationships and picks them apart and lays them bare con
Lucy Langford
Mar 05, 2019 rated it really liked it

Things and people moved around me, taking positions in obscure hierarchies, participating in systems I didn’t know about and never would. A complex network of objects and concepts. You live through certain things before you understand them. You can’t always take the analytical position.

I adored my reread of this book and within the last 100 pages I felt almost grief while witnessing Frances’ consciousness. This book offered up truth and insight into the female consciousness and dissected
Dave Schaafsma
“You’re twenty-one, said Melissa. You should be disastrously unhappy.
I’m working on it, I said.”

Conversations Among Friends by Sally Rooney I listened to because of one of its topics, conversations, talk, and because I had just read and taught her second book, Normal People. I have to say I loved both books, but I am also quick to say that the central female character in each book is very similar, physically quite a bit like what Rooney appears to look like. The two main characters share some de
Jan 17, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020, e-book
I ran my finger along his collarbone and said: I can’t remember if I thought about this at the beginning. How it was doomed to end unhappily.

He nodded, looking at me. I did, he said, I just thought it would be worth it.
Conversations with Friends is a really good book, and a great debut novel. Frances, Bobbi, Melissa, and Nick are fully realized characters, and every page shines with Ms. Rooney’s immense writing talent.

I do wish I had read it before I read Normal People. Both books explore simil
Meah, blah, I'm giving up, I've already spent too much time in the company of these characters.

I don't mind unlikable characters, I don't have an issue with sexual fluidity or cheating (as in I don't need a trigger warning, it doesn't prevent me from reading a novel). In saying all that, the characters were insufferable, vacuous, bland, and the writing didn't agree with me at all. In my year of reading mostly chick -lit, I created a GR shelf Im-So-Over-First-Person-Narratives. This novel belong
I received this book for free through LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers.

This book gave me so many feels. It was a roller coaster of emotions. For some reason I really connected to this book. There was something so captivating about it.

I felt like this book would make a great movie or miniseries on HBO. There's something really special and different about it that would translate well to the screen.

The characters felt very real and I think that's what I liked most about it. I loved Nick. He was so d
Vicky "phenkos"
Apr 15, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Although I couldn't relate to any of the characters in Sally Rooney's Conversations with Friends, I had a visceral reaction to the book. There were pages where my emotions were overwhelming and I could feel my eyes watering even though there was nothing there that resembled my own life in the slightest. I find affairs with married men an uninteresting subject; high-flying literary couples with holiday homes in the South of France a complete bore; cool young women who find it hard to communicate ...more
Latanya (Crafty Scribbles)
"A sharply intelligent novel about two college students and the strange, unexpected connection they forge with a married couple." - Goodreads

Let's be honest...

Selfish and self-absorbed young woman discusses her daily escapades with equally selfish and self-absorbed people of various occupation and age and learns absolutely nothing.

Sally Rooney's dialogue's realistic, albeit a bit strange considering Frances, the main character, remains an android throughout the entire piece. She's empty and cold
Emily B
I simultaneously loved it and hated it. That’s all I have to say
Dec 08, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An uncomfortable read that sucks you into the sometimes bleak world of the narrator and shows what it's like to grow up in the modern day world
... and I felt sorry for all of us, like we were just little children pretending to be adults.

Our narrator
Bobbi told me she thought I didn’t have a ‘real personality’, but she said she meant it as a compliment. Mostly I agreed with her assessment. At any time I felt I could do or say anything at all, and only afterwards think: oh, so that’s the kind of pe
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Sally Rooney was born in 1991 and lives in Dublin, where she graduated from Trinity College. Her work has appeared in Granta, The Dublin Review, The White Review, The Stinging Fly, and the Winter Pages anthology.

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