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Conversations with Friends

3.76  ·  Rating details ·  21,124 ratings  ·  2,229 reviews

Frances is twenty-one years old, cool-headed and observant. A student in Dublin and an aspiring writer, at night
Paperback, 336 pages
Published March 1st 2018 by Faber & Faber (first published July 11th 2017)
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karen Nope. I couldn't do it. Soooo boring. The characters are the worst kind of blasé hipsters that I want nothing to do with in real life, let alone read…moreNope. I couldn't do it. Soooo boring. The characters are the worst kind of blasé hipsters that I want nothing to do with in real life, let alone read about in bed. (less)
Ryan The cover illustration is not directly related to the text. The art is credited as "Sharon and Vivien" (detail), 2009, Alex Katz and thus appears to…moreThe cover illustration is not directly related to the text. The art is credited as "Sharon and Vivien" (detail), 2009, Alex Katz and thus appears to have been done prior to and independent of the text.

I agree that it was problematic for me when trying to form representations of the characters during my read. (less)

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Jun 09, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
A very tepid 3 stars. Conversations with Friends is another one of those books about not particularly nice people entangled in awkward relationships. I've certainly read many books of this nature that I've found clever and quite enjoyed, but this one was just ok. Frances and Bobbi -- both young women who used to be in a relationship with each other -- become entangled with somewhat older heterosexual couple Nick and Melissa. It's all told from Frances' perspective. She doesn't seem to be able to ...more
Dec 29, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2017-reads
I didn't really respond well to Conversations with Friends. The writing itself is quite good in terms of realistic dialogue and description, but I found all of the characters entirely unlikable and hard to empathize with, very few with any positive animating traits, mostly just self-absorbed, narcissistic, occasionally cruel and capricious. Either in addition to or because I didn't respond to the characters, I also didn't respond to the plot well: the stakes seemed very low, there seemed to be l ...more
Aug 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I’ve been thinking a lot about aging lately: the way our perspective changes and how our need for stability, trust and healthy relationships become so much more valued than intoxicating, crash-and-burn emotional roller-coasters of our younger years.

I say this as means of introduction because while reading Conversations with Friends, it occurred to me that those readers who are not familiar with the confusing yet exhilarating times of poor choices mixed with a great deal of egotism and sense of i
Danielle ❤️ Pretty Mess Reading ❤️
**2 STARS**

*shoulder shrug* Unfiltered review

Reading the synopsis of the book had me excited. I just knew I was going to love this book. It sounded like I was going to get a little bit of YA and NA combined into one brilliant masterpiece. Sadly, for me, that did not happen.

I want to start with the first and deepest reason why I never connected with this book. It’s a big one, lovers.

There are no quotation marks. It was extremely annoying reading a book when I couldn’t tel
Barry Pierce
Mar 26, 2018 rated it it was ok
The narrator of Sally Rooney's Conversations with Friends at one point states that she never wants to work.

I had no plans as to my future financial sustainability: I never wanted to earn money for doing anything. [...] I'd felt that my disinterest in wealth was ideologically healthy. I'd checked what the average yearly income would be if the gross world product were evenly divided among everyone, and according to Wikipedia it would be $16, 100. I saw no reason, political or financial, ever to ma
Elyse Walters
Jul 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Audiobook... read by
Alice McMahon

The audio-narration was wonderfully alive an addictive. Granted this isn’t exactly a book a parent would ever recommend to their young adult- 20-ish old child - daughter or this is not an educational book on inspiring relationships —
But for me — as a 66 year old married fart who values honesty- with little-to-zero respect for adultery...( consented is up to the couple -‘lies’- destroy others)....
I enjoyed the ‘conversations’.. the funny/
Okay, I think this book might have worked better for me if I'd read it before Elif Batuman's The Idiot. Batuman and Rooney give their narrators similar voices: sharp, clear and deadpan but excessively self-aware. Both use email conversations to map out the development of a relationship. Both novels are told from the perspective of naive, supposedly intelligent young women who appear largely passive, falling into particular courses of action more because of the lack of a viable alternative than a ...more
This was stupidly good. After recently loving Rooney's sophomore novel Normal People my expectations for Conversations With Friends were high, though I was also a bit wary; in these situations I'm always afraid an author's debut isn't going to live up. I needn't have worried. This was perfect from start to finish. You know that feeling when you miss a stair and your stomach lurches briefly before you land - this was that sensation in book form.

Once again I was impressed with Rooney's writing; it
May 27, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
Conversations with Friends (the title and sunny cover are fairly misleading) is a stark, reflective novel which asks the reader to inhabit the mind of 21 year old poet and college student, Frances. She appears to be coolly detached from her feelings, at least in the beginning, and analytical to the point of neurosis.

We get a sense of Frances' excruciating self-consciousness at the start of the novel, when she and her ex-girlfriend Bobbi are invited back to the home of Melissa, a "slightly famous
I received this book for free through LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers.

This book gave me so many feels. It was a roller coaster of emotions. For some reason I really connected to this book. There was something so captivating about it.

I felt like this book would make a great movie or miniseries on HBO. There's something really special and different about it that would translate well to the screen.

The characters felt very real and I think that's what I liked most about it. I loved Nick. He was so d
Sarah Jessica Parker
This book is incredible! Read it in one day.
Carol (Bookaria)
This book revolves around two college students in Dublin named Frances and Bobbi and their relationship with Melissa & Nick who are a married couple they meet early in the story.

It is told from the point of view of Frances which at times can be described as very matter-of-factly and at other times as very introspective. A lot of the interactions happened by email which I thought was a bit strange since nowadays most people communicate by text. I mean, there were some texts but a large part o
Gumble's Yard
Feb 08, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018
I even began searching my emails and texts for “evidence” of our affair

That night I decided to start reading over my old instant message conversations with Bobbi …. It comforted me to know that my friendship with Bobbi wasn’t confined to memory alone, and that textual evidence of her past fondness for me would survive her actual fondness if necessary

Our [Frances and Nick’s] relationship was like a word document which we were writing and editing together

Sally Rooney is a 26 year old debut novel
Sam Quixote
Oct 03, 2018 rated it liked it
Frances is bisexual and used to be in a relationship with her bestie, Bobbi. The two perform spoken word poetry in Dublin and their literary circle enters the orbit of Melissa, a thirtysomething writer, and her actor husband Nick. As the group become friendly, Frances starts an affair with Nick. Drama inevitably ensues!

Sally Rooney’s Normal People blew my hair back but unfortunately I can’t say the same for her debut novel, Conversations with Friends. Not that it’s a bad novel but it’s definite
Meah, blah, I'm giving up, I've already spent too much time in the company of these characters.

I don't mind unlikable characters, I don't have an issue with sexual fluidity or cheating (as in I don't need a trigger warning, it doesn't prevent me from reading a novel). In saying all that, the characters were insufferable, vacuous, bland, and the writing didn't agree with me at all. In my year of reading mostly chick -lit, I created a GR shelf Im-So-Over-First-Person-Narratives. This novel belong
A chillier but far more interesting novel than Normal People. Snarky, bitter, and psychotically introspective, but somehow still lovable. Rooney's writing just has this effortless quality to it, and I have a feeling I'll reread this in a year or two and notice so much more to appreciate.

Note: If you read Cat Person and were like "what was the point?" steer faaar clear of this book.
Aug 29, 2017 marked it as put-aside  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Trish by: Alexandra Schwartz
A review in The New Yorker, and, if I'm honest, a shared surname, led me to this book even though without those two things just listed, I could tell this wasn't my kind of book.

The main character is twenty-one but I have placed this on my 'adolescence' shelf because in so many ways she seemed to enjoy one of those long, extended adolescences that Americans have perfected by putting their kids through college, and then grad school in a field where a degree will get you a job in a non-profit work
Talking ’bout My Generation?
Sunday Times Young Writer of the Year Award shortlist review #2

(I am on the official shadow panel of book bloggers.)

(Nearly 4.5) The first thing to note about a novel with “Conversations” in the title is that there are no quotation marks denoting speech. In a book so saturated with in-person chats, telephone calls, texts, e-mails and instant messages, the lack of speech marks reflects the swirl of voices in twenty-one-year-old Frances’ head; thought and dialogue run t
Aug 25, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: europea
”Un giorno all’università Marianne ci ha viste mano nella mano e ha detto: siete tornate insieme! Abbiamo alzato le spalle. Era una relazione e al tempo stesso non lo era. Ogni nostro gesto era spontaneo, e se dall’esterno sembravamo una coppia, a noi pareva un’interessante coincidenza. Su questo abbiamo coniato una battuta, che non aveva senso per nessuno comprese noi: che cos’è un amico? dicevamo comicamente. Che cos’è una conversazione?”

Inizio questo libro con una profonda ansia.
Non voglio
Feb 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: modern-lit, read-2018
I bought this a few months ago when it came out in paperback, having seen some very positive comments on end-of-the-year reviews in the papers. Since then I have seen some pretty lukewarm friend reviews, which lowered my expectations, but I decided that I would like to read it while waiting for her Booker-longlisted new one Normal People to be delivered.

I thought this was impressive for a debut novel, but had a few reservations. It is undoubtedly heartfelt, well written and very funny in places,
Julie Ehlers
Sep 08, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: literary-fiction
On a vacation to Portland, Maine, a few weeks ago, I visited two independent bookstores that both had the newly released paperback of Conversations with Friends featured in their displays of bookseller recommendations. Although up to then I'd been unsure if I'd read this novel, I decided to heed the two endorsements and bought a copy at one of the stores. Perhaps this experience predisposed me to like the book, but like it I definitely did.

I won't rehash the plot here but will just say that Conv
Matteo Fumagalli

"Le cose e le persone mi si muovevano intorno, posizionandosi in base a oscure gerarchie, partecipando a un sistema di cui non sapevo e mai avrei saputo nulla. Una complessa rete di oggetti e nozioni. Prima di capire certe cose le devi vivere. Non puoi sempre assumere una posizione analitica.
Vieni a prendermi, ho detto."
Marcello S
May 18, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ogni tanto la sera quando io e Bobbi eravamo a letto chiamava mio padre. Senza fare rumore portavo il telefono in bagno e rispondevo. Era sempre meno lucido. Certe volte sembrava convinto di essere inseguito. Diceva: ho questi pensieri, brutti pensieri, sai? Mia madre diceva che i fratelli e le sorelle di mio padre avevano ricevuto le stesse telefonate, ma che cosa potevamo farci? Quando andavano a trovarlo non era mai in casa. Spesso sentivo delle macchine passare in sottofondo, e capivo che er ...more
Sep 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Better than Zadie Smith, even. The best young writer to emerge in a long, long time. One quibble: what were Faber doing with the jacket design on this? It suggests a breezy bit of fluff - this is deceptively readable.
Britta Böhler
Nope, not my kind of book.
Bored by the story, and the writing style didnt do it for me either.
Latanya (CraftyScribbles)
"A sharply intelligent novel about two college students and the strange, unexpected connection they forge with a married couple." - Goodreads

Let's be honest...

Selfish and self-absorbed young woman discusses her daily escapades with equally selfish and self-absorbed people of various occupation and age and learns absolutely nothing.

Sally Rooney's dialogue's realistic, albeit a bit strange considering Frances, the main character, remains an android throughout the entire piece. She's empty and cold
Skyler Autumn
3 Stars

Conversation with Friends while enjoyable during the read has now a few day later taken on a more tepid feel. Although cleverly written and I have no doubt Sally Rooney is going to write a book so sensational it puts her even more on the literary map (already hearing massive buzz about her next novel Normal People), Conversation with Friends has really made no lasting impression on me. Even though I've only been done reading it for a week the story and its characters are already dissol
Aug 28, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Mutazioni sociali

Sdoganato il rapporto omosessuale.
Sdoganato il rapporto multiplo contemporaneo con partner diversi.
Sdoganato il tradimento in quando esplicitato al partner "ufficiale".
Sdoganato il trattamento psichiatrico come una cosa endemica della società in cui viviamo.
Sdoganato il fatto che non esistano più relazioni stabili basate su un numero costante di costituenti il rapporto.
L'unica cosa che pare non poter essere condivisa è il dolore e la malattia. Rivelare di soffrire di un male fi
Michael Livingston
Wonderful - funny, smart and sad - not much happens in this book, but it's a joy to spend time with these difficult, intelligent and sometimes unpleasant people.
Conversations with so-called friends would more accurately sum this book up. Friends is a term loosely used here. No these people are not at all likeable. I found them pretty ghastly and pretentious. Aside from the completely morally corrupt characters, the book was fine. The writing was fine. The characters are supposed to be intelligent people but boy do they do dumb things, and act in pretty immature ways. If this is lessons on how not to act then I’ve learnt a lot from this book! 3 lukewarm ...more
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Sally Rooney was born in 1991 and lives in Dublin, where she graduated from Trinity College. Her work has appeared in Granta, The Dublin Review, The White Review, The Stinging Fly, and the Winter Pages anthology.
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