A book with a lot of Infographics. The topics are wonderful but they weren’t discussed in depth .
Some quotes:
-When considering your goals, it's also useful to consider your personal psychology. Your idea of success is probably different from your next door neighbor's. Having an insight into your own personality can be helpful when planning what will work for you.
-starting anything new means being a novice,and this can be daunting.
-don’t let self doubt hold you back.
-If you want to succeed,the first step is to see yourself as someone who is capable of learning.Believing you can master new skills makes it significantly more likely you will do so.
-To determine your objectives ask yourself: what are you trying to achieve? What are you trying to preserve?what are you trying to avoid? What are you trying to eliminate?
-Draw a line between work and home.
-changing track is normal.
-If you can teach you can learn.
-sometimes we end up making decisions based on what everyone else seems to be thinking.
-By far the biggest motivator for people was feeling that they were making meaningful progress.
-Life is an accumulation of daily ups and downs.Try keeping a journal and at the end of each day, ask yourself these questions:
*Progress: what do I feel that I’ve achieved? Was there anything that undermined my productivity?
*Meaning: what has my day’s work contributed to the world? Have I done anything that I regret?
*Reputation: what have I done that I can use to increase my credit? If I did anything that made me look bad,how can I fix it?
*Feeling supported: who has been a good mentor,ally or help to me today? Are there any relationships I need to manage better?
*supporting others: have I treated people with respect,listened and given help when asked? Do I need to make amends to anyone?
*Time: what did I do that proved time efficient? What did I do that wasted time?
* problem solving: what challenges did I meet to my own satisfaction? What problems do I need to put on my to do list?
* long term priorities: what skills ,connections or resources have I gained today ? What do I need to do to develop and how can I do that ?
*personal life: what happened outside work that helped me focus on my goals? Are personal problems making it harder for me to concentrate?
*Happiness : what did I enjoy today? What should I have or do less of?
-You need to create a pace you can sustain.
-wellbeing is everyone’s birthright.
5ways to improve wellbeing: write 3good things that happened to you, send a letter to someone you’ve never thanked, write about a time when you were at your best, identify and use your 5signature strengths,use one of your signature strengths in a new way.
-Ask a colleague whose opinion you trust :what should I stop doing? What should I start doing ? What should I keep doing? Are there areas where I go too far in one direction or another?
-Memory is associative ,and if we are feeling a negative emotion,our mind naturally starts bringing up other negative experiences we have had.
-Ask yourself “if I won the lottery,would I keep doing what I am doing right now?”
-if there is something that makes you happy,make opportunities to do it regularly.
-one can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth.~Abraham Maslow.
-the greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.~ William James .
-Rather than eliminating stress altogether,what you need to do is avoid excessive stress.
-The more your goals make you different from people around you,the more of a social price you will anticipate,and the harder you will have to focus on satisfying yourself rather than pleasing others .
-It is helpful to distinguish between goals that represent your authentic ambitions and goals that are about staying in your social comfort zone.
-We tend to be born confident in our own ideas and can lose that sense of self belief as we learn to compare ourselves with others .
-be yourself . Everyone else is already taken . ~oscar wilde
-Emma Donaldson recommends that you try the 4 Ds in dealing with emails :
*Delete : about half of your emails can go straight into your trash folder .
*Do : if it’s urgent or wont take long . Do it and get it out of the way .
* Delegate : could anyone else handle it better? Pass it.
* Defer : if you know you will need more time .
-William Ury teaches the art of the positive no . It runs in 3 steps ,yes-no -yes : 1-Affirm ( I’d love to work with you).2- Establish a limit (January isn’t a good month for me).3- propose an alternative ( why don’t we compare our schedules for later in the year).
-“don’t “sounds less negotiable.so instead of saying “I can’t spend money without checking my budget “ try “I don’t spend money without checking my budget.
-Don’t waste time on small decisions.
-information overload is a key cause of indecision.
-imagine you are advising a friend when taking a decision.
-Don’t oblige people to over plan if they are doing something they know well .
-It is one thing to know you have a great idea - it is another to convince other people.
-Multiple studies confirm that the most important part of keeping a team together is being able to answer one simple question “why are we doing this ?”
-Motivation doesn’t come first ,action does .~David D. Burns
-our mood for doing the task is only likely to grow less favourable the more we put it off , as guilt makes us less productive .
-if you notice signs of burnout : *say no where you can * forget perfectionism.* don’t ruminate . * know when to get out. *Have a place to be vulnerable. *live your values .