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Sandor slash Ida
Hon är snygg och populär.Han är en nobody.Hon bor mitt i Stockholms city.Han i en håla utanför Göteborg.Hon sitter i timmar på kafé med sina polare,Han ägnar all tid åt dansen.Hon har tröttnat på sex,Han är oskuld.Hon kallas för bimbo,Han för bögjävel.Hon hatar sitt liv.Han hatar sitt liv.Hon heter Ida,Han Sandor.
284 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2001
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Sara Kadefors
24 books31 followersSara Kadefors writes for both teens and adults. She lives in Stockholm, Sweden.
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December 17, 2012
It’s hard to pinpoint how I exactly feel about this book. I liked Ida; her story was one of... not of constant improvement, but you could tell that was actually trying and when she hit rock bottom she picked herself up and tried to turn her life around. She's someone who flees in booze and parties, because her mom is depressed and doesn’t know how to take care of her. On the surface she seems like a girl who you can only hate, but the book actually made me feel for her.
My main problem with this book was Sandor’s story: he is so desperate to fit in, to be one of the group, that he’s willing to sacrifice all parts of who he is. I just can’t stand that kind of behaviour. What made it worse was that the book made me feel like I should applaud his steps toward belonging – while I felt that every step he took was a step backwards, I felt like I should have been applauding it like a step forwards.
Obviously, this is a book about how Ida influences Sandor in becoming more popular and Sandor influences Ida in becoming more herself, and mostly, it works. Especially when Sandor makes a couple of choices at the end of the book, they really have met each other halfway.
It took me a while to get used to the writing style, and I never actually started appreciating it. The book is a mixture of descriptions of their live and their actual chat or email conversations and I loved the way Kadefors used the language in the emails, but the style of the rest of the book just didn’t click with me. I did like the constant change in POV, though.
Another 3.5 for me, though this time, because of my conflicted feelings, I’m rounding it down to a 3.
My main problem with this book was Sandor’s story: he is so desperate to fit in, to be one of the group, that he’s willing to sacrifice all parts of who he is. I just can’t stand that kind of behaviour. What made it worse was that the book made me feel like I should applaud his steps toward belonging – while I felt that every step he took was a step backwards, I felt like I should have been applauding it like a step forwards.
Obviously, this is a book about how Ida influences Sandor in becoming more popular and Sandor influences Ida in becoming more herself, and mostly, it works. Especially when Sandor makes a couple of choices at the end of the book, they really have met each other halfway.
It took me a while to get used to the writing style, and I never actually started appreciating it. The book is a mixture of descriptions of their live and their actual chat or email conversations and I loved the way Kadefors used the language in the emails, but the style of the rest of the book just didn’t click with me. I did like the constant change in POV, though.
Another 3.5 for me, though this time, because of my conflicted feelings, I’m rounding it down to a 3.
April 21, 2025
Så mysig, så mycket minnen! En bra ungdomsbok.
April 25, 2009
I can't remember much about this book other than I quite liked it when I first read it in 2002. Think the ending bothered me a bit, but other than that... It's an enjoyable YA novel.
January 18, 2016
3,5.
Ennalta-arvattava? Kyllä.
Kliseinen? Kyllä.
Pidinkö? Kyllä.
Ennalta-arvattava? Kyllä.
Kliseinen? Kyllä.
Pidinkö? Kyllä.
February 5, 2017
Had to read it for school...
March 25, 2022
Väldigt bra bok faktiskt💗💗
Den var en ganska lättläst bok som inte krävde så mycket koncentration. Många olika viktiga ungdomsproblem tas upp och man kan relatera till nästan alla karaktärer. Korta kapitel och en fin handling.
Den var en ganska lättläst bok som inte krävde så mycket koncentration. Många olika viktiga ungdomsproblem tas upp och man kan relatera till nästan alla karaktärer. Korta kapitel och en fin handling.
June 12, 2021
En av min absoluta FAVORITER. Har säkert läst den 10 gånger. En riktig comfort book
July 23, 2022
Bra gestaltningar och bra uppbyggnad på boken. Bra beskrivet hur de tänker i de olika situationerna de är med om, samt interssant hur boken beskriver hur man kan leva så olika liv men ändå relatera till varandra. Boken får bara 4 stjärnor eftersom det blev lite långdraget i mitten och för att jag inte riktigt kunde känna igen mig i så mycket i det de var med om.
June 19, 2009
Me disliking the book + sucky day = ME COMPLETELY TEARING THE BOOK APART IN MY REVIEW! It's kinda sucky and I feel like crap so, read at your own risk.
The Good: I could not put the book down. I have no idea why. I just had to read it even though it was already 1 in the morning on a school night, I just had to find out what happens next.
I thought Alex was a pretty cool character. I mean, you don't see many male ballet dancers much, so I thought that really added some originality.
I could definetly see why it was a best-seller in Sweden, and that is always a hard thing to transfer to a different country. So... good job.
The Bad:
I was so incredibly dissapointed with this book! With all the awards that it recieved (it's the top-selling book in Sweden for goodness sakes!), I would've expected some better quality of writing.
The characters are a little under-developed, but mostly the supporting ones. Kyla's friends... I just wanted to just SLAP them!! Or cut up their credit cards... I'd go with the second, because I'm sure it would be more painful for them. I am VERY surprised that Kyla could put up with them. If I were her, I would've been like, "WTF Be-yotch?!" a long time ago.
Kyla's mother... hmm. I liked how she actually tried to not be depressed for her daughter's sake, but I never fully understood why she was depressed in the first place! Is it because her husband left her? Is it because her career is over? Or is it because she has such a wild daughter? All I'm asking for is a sentence of why she so depressed!
I could go on and on about what I disliked about the characters. I mean, there is a difference from being flawed because your human, and flawed because the author put too many unlikeable traits because she was trying to make them real!! And Are U 4 Real? falls into the later.
One more thing, the online conversations were just driving me CRAZY. I know people don't spell all the words out, but it drove me insane. Also, most of the emails (not all) were corny. I guess wildly romantic in Sweden translates into very corny in America.
I know I had some for complaints about this book, but my eyes are burniing and my head feels like it's being ripped open because I am sick so, I'll stop here.
My point is that I wouldn't recommend this book, but hey, that's just my opinion. If you are still interested, go ahead and buy it. Just don't have too high of expectations.
Overall: Personally, I think they shouldn't have translated the book into English. I am sure that it is very amazing book in Sweden, but I just didn't see it. That's the one thing I don't like about translations, it could gain you international reconization or it could totally bomb. I guess you know which category I placed it in.
The Good: I could not put the book down. I have no idea why. I just had to read it even though it was already 1 in the morning on a school night, I just had to find out what happens next.
I thought Alex was a pretty cool character. I mean, you don't see many male ballet dancers much, so I thought that really added some originality.
I could definetly see why it was a best-seller in Sweden, and that is always a hard thing to transfer to a different country. So... good job.
The Bad:
I was so incredibly dissapointed with this book! With all the awards that it recieved (it's the top-selling book in Sweden for goodness sakes!), I would've expected some better quality of writing.
The characters are a little under-developed, but mostly the supporting ones. Kyla's friends... I just wanted to just SLAP them!! Or cut up their credit cards... I'd go with the second, because I'm sure it would be more painful for them. I am VERY surprised that Kyla could put up with them. If I were her, I would've been like, "WTF Be-yotch?!" a long time ago.
Kyla's mother... hmm. I liked how she actually tried to not be depressed for her daughter's sake, but I never fully understood why she was depressed in the first place! Is it because her husband left her? Is it because her career is over? Or is it because she has such a wild daughter? All I'm asking for is a sentence of why she so depressed!
I could go on and on about what I disliked about the characters. I mean, there is a difference from being flawed because your human, and flawed because the author put too many unlikeable traits because she was trying to make them real!! And Are U 4 Real? falls into the later.
One more thing, the online conversations were just driving me CRAZY. I know people don't spell all the words out, but it drove me insane. Also, most of the emails (not all) were corny. I guess wildly romantic in Sweden translates into very corny in America.
I know I had some for complaints about this book, but my eyes are burniing and my head feels like it's being ripped open because I am sick so, I'll stop here.
My point is that I wouldn't recommend this book, but hey, that's just my opinion. If you are still interested, go ahead and buy it. Just don't have too high of expectations.
Overall: Personally, I think they shouldn't have translated the book into English. I am sure that it is very amazing book in Sweden, but I just didn't see it. That's the one thing I don't like about translations, it could gain you international reconization or it could totally bomb. I guess you know which category I placed it in.
June 26, 2009
Would you count this as pity love? Straight up I did not like the book. But if you think about it, most of the reasons why I did not like the book have a simple explanation.
My biggest issue is Kyla. I just *shudders* and then *vomits*. I just wanted her to shut up, suck it up, and stop blaming others. Seriously she is a slut (whether she denies or not), a bitch (excuse my French) and…just not nice. You can judge a person a lot by their friends and throughout ¾ of the book Kyla is a perfect example. They are manipulative, back-stabbing frenemies that I trust as much as how far I can throw them which I don’t know about you, isn't very far at all. All I know is that throughout the book she had copious sex, likes to drink, smoke (weed, cigarettes), and other variation of self-destructive hobbies. So please excuse me for not fawning over her and kissing her feet.
But you know what? There might be a reason for all of this that I have to point out. Kyla’s mother goes through a divorce that left her in depression. She was forced to grow up to take care of not only herself but her mother as well. She cracked under pressure—it was only understandable. So does she have a legit reason for everything? It’s hard to tell on my end. She wants to escape from reality by drinking which in turn affects everything else. It’s a cause and reaction scenario and it all falls into place whether I like or not.
Wait, I think I may be wrong. I also had this super huge issue with Kevin. He’s a jock, a soccer player to be exact, that has a lot of problems with someone being gay. He hounds on Alex because he takes ballet and potentially gay. So aggravating.
Good side to the book is definitely Alex. Alex was a tremendous character that grew throughout the book (Kyla did too but I favor Alex more) and too nice of a guy. He can dance, play soccer, has abs(!) with a good personality rolled into one.
The concept of the book gave me a hesitate feeling. I know parents are raving about pedophiles all over the chatrooms but how is blogging any different? It’s mostly based on trust. I’m more prone to accept blogging because let’s face it, only geeks blog *raises hand*. It’s not like we’re asking people how they look like, what their ages are, where they live…wait, we do. The actual online talk I skimmed through. It was just beyond cheesy. I appreciate how Alex wrote in complete sentences and words and capitalized the letter I, Kyla of course doesn’t.
The ending is more cheese. Meh. I lived through with it—it wasn’t horrendous where I needed a crap bucket to deal with all the shit.
Overall: Slightly disappointed.
My biggest issue is Kyla. I just *shudders* and then *vomits*. I just wanted her to shut up, suck it up, and stop blaming others. Seriously she is a slut (whether she denies or not), a bitch (excuse my French) and…just not nice. You can judge a person a lot by their friends and throughout ¾ of the book Kyla is a perfect example. They are manipulative, back-stabbing frenemies that I trust as much as how far I can throw them which I don’t know about you, isn't very far at all. All I know is that throughout the book she had copious sex, likes to drink, smoke (weed, cigarettes), and other variation of self-destructive hobbies. So please excuse me for not fawning over her and kissing her feet.
But you know what? There might be a reason for all of this that I have to point out. Kyla’s mother goes through a divorce that left her in depression. She was forced to grow up to take care of not only herself but her mother as well. She cracked under pressure—it was only understandable. So does she have a legit reason for everything? It’s hard to tell on my end. She wants to escape from reality by drinking which in turn affects everything else. It’s a cause and reaction scenario and it all falls into place whether I like or not.
Wait, I think I may be wrong. I also had this super huge issue with Kevin. He’s a jock, a soccer player to be exact, that has a lot of problems with someone being gay. He hounds on Alex because he takes ballet and potentially gay. So aggravating.
Good side to the book is definitely Alex. Alex was a tremendous character that grew throughout the book (Kyla did too but I favor Alex more) and too nice of a guy. He can dance, play soccer, has abs(!) with a good personality rolled into one.
The concept of the book gave me a hesitate feeling. I know parents are raving about pedophiles all over the chatrooms but how is blogging any different? It’s mostly based on trust. I’m more prone to accept blogging because let’s face it, only geeks blog *raises hand*. It’s not like we’re asking people how they look like, what their ages are, where they live…wait, we do. The actual online talk I skimmed through. It was just beyond cheesy. I appreciate how Alex wrote in complete sentences and words and capitalized the letter I, Kyla of course doesn’t.
The ending is more cheese. Meh. I lived through with it—it wasn’t horrendous where I needed a crap bucket to deal with all the shit.
Overall: Slightly disappointed.
January 10, 2025
Två ungdomar. Ida. Sandor. Hon bor i Stockholm. Han bor utanför Göteborg. Båda är påtagligt ensamma och söker efter någon att prata med. De hittar varandra i ett chattforum. Deras meddelanden till varandra blir allt mer frekventa och plötsligt blir de ett stöd för varandra. Men har de utgett sig för att vara den de verkligen är?
Till en början ljuger de för varandra. Ida, som vanligtvis super sig full på helgerna tillsammans med sina vänner Susanna och Therese för att trycka undan den påtagliga ångesten av hennes deprimerade mamma och frånvarande pappa, utger sig för att bo långt ute i skogen i Norrland och att hon rider på fritiden. Sandor, som egentligen bara har en enda vän och som dansar balett och blir kallad bög i skolan, utger sig för att vara en fotbollskille som har flickvän och som festar på helgerna. Det dröjer inte länge förrän de båda anar att deras historier inte går ihop och de erkänner för varandra att de har ljugit. Lögnerna som har målats upp blir ändå inte ett stopp för deras nya vänskap utan de forsätter att prata med varandra.
En helg följer Sandor med sina föräldrar till Stockholm och när han väl är på plats kan han inte låta bli att söka upp Ida. Mötet som han har stora förhoppningar om blir kaotiskt. Sandor känner sig utnyttjad och Ida vill inget hellre än att han ska förlåta henne.
Efter ett par vändor i chatten där Ida återigen ber om ursäkt för sitt beteende och hoppas på att Sandor kan förlåta henne bestämmer sig Sandor till slut för att stryka ett streck över det som har hänt. De bestämmer att Ida ska komma ner och hälsa på honom. Återigen är förhoppningarna skyhöga men vistelsen hos Sandor faller inte ut på det sätt som någon av de har hoppats på.
Det är inte förrän Idas mamma får syn på en artikel i tidningen som nämner Sandors namn, och att han ska uppträda i Stockholm, som möjliggör för de båda att ses på nytt. Sandor vet ingenting om att Ida har tagit mod till sig och sitter i publiken.
Romanen är uppbyggd som en parallellhandling som följer de båda karaktärerna perspektiv. Förutom att läsaren får följa utvecklingen av Sandor och Idas relation får läsaren även en inblick i deras individuella liv och de olika existentiella frågor som de brottas med. Sara Kadefors roman ”Sandor slash Ida” är en ungdomsroman som trots att den kom ut 2001 fortfarande håller. Det är roman som passar utmärkt att läsa tillsammans med ungdomar då de, till skillnad från karaktärerna i romanen, lever sina liv till stor del online.
Till en början ljuger de för varandra. Ida, som vanligtvis super sig full på helgerna tillsammans med sina vänner Susanna och Therese för att trycka undan den påtagliga ångesten av hennes deprimerade mamma och frånvarande pappa, utger sig för att bo långt ute i skogen i Norrland och att hon rider på fritiden. Sandor, som egentligen bara har en enda vän och som dansar balett och blir kallad bög i skolan, utger sig för att vara en fotbollskille som har flickvän och som festar på helgerna. Det dröjer inte länge förrän de båda anar att deras historier inte går ihop och de erkänner för varandra att de har ljugit. Lögnerna som har målats upp blir ändå inte ett stopp för deras nya vänskap utan de forsätter att prata med varandra.
En helg följer Sandor med sina föräldrar till Stockholm och när han väl är på plats kan han inte låta bli att söka upp Ida. Mötet som han har stora förhoppningar om blir kaotiskt. Sandor känner sig utnyttjad och Ida vill inget hellre än att han ska förlåta henne.
Efter ett par vändor i chatten där Ida återigen ber om ursäkt för sitt beteende och hoppas på att Sandor kan förlåta henne bestämmer sig Sandor till slut för att stryka ett streck över det som har hänt. De bestämmer att Ida ska komma ner och hälsa på honom. Återigen är förhoppningarna skyhöga men vistelsen hos Sandor faller inte ut på det sätt som någon av de har hoppats på.
Det är inte förrän Idas mamma får syn på en artikel i tidningen som nämner Sandors namn, och att han ska uppträda i Stockholm, som möjliggör för de båda att ses på nytt. Sandor vet ingenting om att Ida har tagit mod till sig och sitter i publiken.
Romanen är uppbyggd som en parallellhandling som följer de båda karaktärerna perspektiv. Förutom att läsaren får följa utvecklingen av Sandor och Idas relation får läsaren även en inblick i deras individuella liv och de olika existentiella frågor som de brottas med. Sara Kadefors roman ”Sandor slash Ida” är en ungdomsroman som trots att den kom ut 2001 fortfarande håller. Det är roman som passar utmärkt att läsa tillsammans med ungdomar då de, till skillnad från karaktärerna i romanen, lever sina liv till stor del online.
May 12, 2012
Are YOU for real? I would never , NEVER meet up with someone that I meet off the internet. People constantly claim to be someone they're not ! How would I be sure that you're not some fifty year old man with a beer gut and really bad hygiene? Yeah... Uhh no . The whole idea of meeting up with someone you've meet online just doesn't make any sense to me. I know this is supposed to be fiction (teen fiction), but I mean, come on ! At least make it a little more realistic !
Are you for real is told by two different points of view. Alex; the quiet, shy, cute, ballet star guy, and Kyla; the party loving, beautiful, every-guy-wants, rich kid. Their lives are completely different, and one faithful night, Kyla and Alex start messaging each other and become close friends. As they take turns talking about their lives, they gradually start liking one another. And then, after a tragic accident with Kyla's depressed mother, Kyla goes to live with Alex for a week. I guess things don't work out, and she goes back home. Still in love with Alex, she tries her best to get him back, but he doesn't exactly want that (or maybe he does, he just wont say it)
I picked this book because it seems as if it had an amazing plot. I thought I would read the book and just fall in love with every twists and turns (AHA ! Wasn't I wrong !). The back had an intriguing way of explaining the story in as little words possible (leaving out the fact that it's completely unrealistic).
I finished this book for several reasons. One because I HATE giving up on a book. I always have hope that by the end, it would get better (it normally never does). Another reason I finished it was because even though it was sort of driving me insane, I wanted to figure out what would happen with Alex and Kyla.
So I guess you can tell, I'm not the biggest fan of this book, but I really did LOVE the ending! It was so cliché, but yet... so cute ! I don't want to spoil it, so I'm not going to say it. But that ending... It was just so sweet, and cute ! The whole book was pretty bad until I read the ending. Good job Sara Kadefors. Good job.
Honestly? I wouldn't really recommend this book to anyone. But if my life depended on it, I'd say people who love to read about love that can spark from different parts of the world online should read the book.
Are you for real is told by two different points of view. Alex; the quiet, shy, cute, ballet star guy, and Kyla; the party loving, beautiful, every-guy-wants, rich kid. Their lives are completely different, and one faithful night, Kyla and Alex start messaging each other and become close friends. As they take turns talking about their lives, they gradually start liking one another. And then, after a tragic accident with Kyla's depressed mother, Kyla goes to live with Alex for a week. I guess things don't work out, and she goes back home. Still in love with Alex, she tries her best to get him back, but he doesn't exactly want that (or maybe he does, he just wont say it)
I picked this book because it seems as if it had an amazing plot. I thought I would read the book and just fall in love with every twists and turns (AHA ! Wasn't I wrong !). The back had an intriguing way of explaining the story in as little words possible (leaving out the fact that it's completely unrealistic).
I finished this book for several reasons. One because I HATE giving up on a book. I always have hope that by the end, it would get better (it normally never does). Another reason I finished it was because even though it was sort of driving me insane, I wanted to figure out what would happen with Alex and Kyla.
So I guess you can tell, I'm not the biggest fan of this book, but I really did LOVE the ending! It was so cliché, but yet... so cute ! I don't want to spoil it, so I'm not going to say it. But that ending... It was just so sweet, and cute ! The whole book was pretty bad until I read the ending. Good job Sara Kadefors. Good job.
Honestly? I wouldn't really recommend this book to anyone. But if my life depended on it, I'd say people who love to read about love that can spark from different parts of the world online should read the book.
May 29, 2012
Two years ago today(May 29th), I met my boyfriend in Heathrow Airport. We'd been talking online almost everyday for hours and hours for over three months. We spent two perfect weeks together and cried so much when we had to say goodbye at the airport.
So I was hoping for this book to be even slightly similar to our story, whether it be similar in the online conversations or maybe similar in the way they meet. It was actually not similar in any way but it was still an okay book.
I've already read a few books on online relationships and they are usually about online predators or are extremely cheesy/lame(*cough*TweetHeart*cough*). This one was a bit different but still not what I was hoping for.
It's about a boy and a girl who meet in an AOL chatroom and start emailing each other. Their emails are all emo and they lie about their lives sometimes. The book goes back and forth between their actual lives and their emails to each other. There are actually not that many emails in the book so if you're hoping for lots of correspondence, you may be disappointed.
The translation of the book is kind of weird. It's not too bad but it was translated from Swedish and you can kind of tell sometimes. It's not too distracting, though. Apparently this was the best selling Y.A book of all time in Sweden which, if it's true, is pretty surprising.
I wished there had been more humour and romance in this book. Instead it was very dramatic and the main characters kept screwing up.
I guess I will keep looking for a book about an online relationship that'll satisfy me. This was okay in it's own way but I wished for something different.
I ordered this used on Amazon and waited about three weeks for it to come. The description had said "Like New" but when I got it, there was a tear in the dustjacket, pen writing on the inside of the dust jacket, and the edges and everything were all scuffed up. So I asked for a replacement or refund and got a refund. My point of this story is that even though my book was in shoddy shape, it was freeeeee!
I would recommend this to anyone who likes books about online relationships. It was good in it's own way but I just didn't love it.
So I was hoping for this book to be even slightly similar to our story, whether it be similar in the online conversations or maybe similar in the way they meet. It was actually not similar in any way but it was still an okay book.
I've already read a few books on online relationships and they are usually about online predators or are extremely cheesy/lame(*cough*TweetHeart*cough*). This one was a bit different but still not what I was hoping for.
It's about a boy and a girl who meet in an AOL chatroom and start emailing each other. Their emails are all emo and they lie about their lives sometimes. The book goes back and forth between their actual lives and their emails to each other. There are actually not that many emails in the book so if you're hoping for lots of correspondence, you may be disappointed.
The translation of the book is kind of weird. It's not too bad but it was translated from Swedish and you can kind of tell sometimes. It's not too distracting, though. Apparently this was the best selling Y.A book of all time in Sweden which, if it's true, is pretty surprising.
I wished there had been more humour and romance in this book. Instead it was very dramatic and the main characters kept screwing up.
I guess I will keep looking for a book about an online relationship that'll satisfy me. This was okay in it's own way but I wished for something different.
I ordered this used on Amazon and waited about three weeks for it to come. The description had said "Like New" but when I got it, there was a tear in the dustjacket, pen writing on the inside of the dust jacket, and the edges and everything were all scuffed up. So I asked for a replacement or refund and got a refund. My point of this story is that even though my book was in shoddy shape, it was freeeeee!
I would recommend this to anyone who likes books about online relationships. It was good in it's own way but I just didn't love it.
August 5, 2009
I've been eagerly awaiting the time that I would finally be able to read this novel. Since, the premise sound interesting and the cover is one word: adorable! Lucky for me, this novel defiantly came close to my expectations and was one cute book!
In Are U 4 Real? you became involved in the two main characters- Kyla and Alex- struggles and issues that are present in their complex lives. These two are people who many can possibly relate to in some ways. For example, Alex deals with bullying at school and the consequences that come from being a male ballet dancer while Kyla is reeling from her mother's depression and the father who is not that present in her life. While I always like Alex, it was a bit hard to like Kyla at times. For one, she wined a bit too much for my liking and that constant winning lead to her making some choices that were not very good. Plus, I hated the generalization that Sara made throughout this book which was if your not living the best possible life and have to deal with issues you fall into skanky behavior and a slight drinking problem. It was just annoying. Other than those two things, I truly did come to like both characters by the end, and the message they brought out in the end "Be yourself and don't let anyone stop you from being who you want to be."
The plot in this book was fast paced and constantly made you wonder if Alex and Kyla were ever going to be together. Also, I loved how emails and instant messages were incorporated in the book's main plot, because they brought a realistic feeling to the book.
Overall, Are U 4 Real? is a sweet romance type book that many teen girls will come to enjoy. Though, I highly suggest you should see if your library has it before you buy it, because it seemed at times that it wouldn't be worth the full 16.99 price tag.
Grade: B
In Are U 4 Real? you became involved in the two main characters- Kyla and Alex- struggles and issues that are present in their complex lives. These two are people who many can possibly relate to in some ways. For example, Alex deals with bullying at school and the consequences that come from being a male ballet dancer while Kyla is reeling from her mother's depression and the father who is not that present in her life. While I always like Alex, it was a bit hard to like Kyla at times. For one, she wined a bit too much for my liking and that constant winning lead to her making some choices that were not very good. Plus, I hated the generalization that Sara made throughout this book which was if your not living the best possible life and have to deal with issues you fall into skanky behavior and a slight drinking problem. It was just annoying. Other than those two things, I truly did come to like both characters by the end, and the message they brought out in the end "Be yourself and don't let anyone stop you from being who you want to be."
The plot in this book was fast paced and constantly made you wonder if Alex and Kyla were ever going to be together. Also, I loved how emails and instant messages were incorporated in the book's main plot, because they brought a realistic feeling to the book.
Overall, Are U 4 Real? is a sweet romance type book that many teen girls will come to enjoy. Though, I highly suggest you should see if your library has it before you buy it, because it seemed at times that it wouldn't be worth the full 16.99 price tag.
Grade: B
January 27, 2011
When I went looking for a short, cute read with an enjoyable plot, I am very glad that I found this! I really liked the concept, and the characters were very likable. At times, this book got to be a tad boring, and the relationship between the two main characters developed pretty slow, but I liked this book. It was short and sweet, and filled with great moments that are sure to have you smiling. There were light moments to this novel, but the seriousness comes from the character's struggles.
Alex and Kyla live very different lives. While Alex is pirouetting, Kyla may be dancing, or partying. If they met in real life, they wouldn't be the type to talk to each other. She is the life of the party, the gorgeous girl who's very outspoken. Alex is shy ballet dancer, who hasn't had his first kiss yet.
When they meet online, in a chat room, they start to confide in each other. Kyla vents about her mother, who is too depressed to get up from bed. She also tells Alex about her friends, and how she feels so misunderstood. Alex shares his problems about everything from his mother, to school and even dancing. They both feel very misunderstood. It's almost if they are screaming out into the open air, but no one can hear them.
At first, they are afraid to share the true identity to each other, but as they share e-mails, their friendship grows stronger. Knowing that they have each other gives them the strength to do what they have been to afraid of.
This is a cute, romantic read that is quick, but very satisfying. Alex's timid personality and empowering dancing talent will have you falling in love with him instantly! Kyla may seem any other L.A girl, but as you get to know her, you'll never want to stop reading about her.
Kadefors created a great plot, and crafted awesome characters!
3.5/5
2011-001
Alex and Kyla live very different lives. While Alex is pirouetting, Kyla may be dancing, or partying. If they met in real life, they wouldn't be the type to talk to each other. She is the life of the party, the gorgeous girl who's very outspoken. Alex is shy ballet dancer, who hasn't had his first kiss yet.
When they meet online, in a chat room, they start to confide in each other. Kyla vents about her mother, who is too depressed to get up from bed. She also tells Alex about her friends, and how she feels so misunderstood. Alex shares his problems about everything from his mother, to school and even dancing. They both feel very misunderstood. It's almost if they are screaming out into the open air, but no one can hear them.
At first, they are afraid to share the true identity to each other, but as they share e-mails, their friendship grows stronger. Knowing that they have each other gives them the strength to do what they have been to afraid of.
This is a cute, romantic read that is quick, but very satisfying. Alex's timid personality and empowering dancing talent will have you falling in love with him instantly! Kyla may seem any other L.A girl, but as you get to know her, you'll never want to stop reading about her.
Kadefors created a great plot, and crafted awesome characters!
3.5/5
2011-001
January 30, 2012
okay this is apparently the best selling teen novel in sweden... well that doesn't say much for swedish teens.
problems:
1. they did that thing where they rewrote part of the book to make it american, which included adding facebook to the book which didn't exist when the book was written. and I'm too lazy to look but i'm pretty sure AOL was mentioned and AOL and facebook just don't work together. not to mention the weird chatroom thing, which isn't what people do when they have facebook. This book just wasn't placing itself well in time. I think if it had stayed in sweden where the author probably understood the internet scene it would have worked much better than the weird attempt to make it american and completely miss how the internet works. I mean why are so many people running around in families with one computer and parents not knowing how to use computers this doesn't work with the facebook thing at all.
2. I don't actually feel the need to rant anymore, if the internet part had been done better I would be ranting about the ridiculous story line of drunk ass party girl falls in love with ballet dancer, but in this setting that was sort of the least annoying part of the book.
problems:
1. they did that thing where they rewrote part of the book to make it american, which included adding facebook to the book which didn't exist when the book was written. and I'm too lazy to look but i'm pretty sure AOL was mentioned and AOL and facebook just don't work together. not to mention the weird chatroom thing, which isn't what people do when they have facebook. This book just wasn't placing itself well in time. I think if it had stayed in sweden where the author probably understood the internet scene it would have worked much better than the weird attempt to make it american and completely miss how the internet works. I mean why are so many people running around in families with one computer and parents not knowing how to use computers this doesn't work with the facebook thing at all.
2. I don't actually feel the need to rant anymore, if the internet part had been done better I would be ranting about the ridiculous story line of drunk ass party girl falls in love with ballet dancer, but in this setting that was sort of the least annoying part of the book.
November 13, 2012
Reviewed by Angela S. for TeensReadToo.com
Alex and Kyla are two teens from California who meet on the computer and develop a close friendship. Though their online relationship is growing, it hits a brick wall when they meet in real life because they are so different.
Alex is a shy ballet dancer while Kyla is a wild party girl. With these huge differences, will their relationship survive?
ARE U 4 REAL? was originally published in Sweden in 2001, so it does sound a bit outdated in parts, but overall Alex and Kyla's story is one that readers can relate to. It's a smart novel with family issues, relationship drama, and other situations that teens could easily picture themselves in.
Alex and Kyla are two teens from California who meet on the computer and develop a close friendship. Though their online relationship is growing, it hits a brick wall when they meet in real life because they are so different.
Alex is a shy ballet dancer while Kyla is a wild party girl. With these huge differences, will their relationship survive?
ARE U 4 REAL? was originally published in Sweden in 2001, so it does sound a bit outdated in parts, but overall Alex and Kyla's story is one that readers can relate to. It's a smart novel with family issues, relationship drama, and other situations that teens could easily picture themselves in.
September 26, 2010
I know there is an English version of this book, but I have only read the Swedish one. I thought it was okay, but I definitely couldn't relate to Ida; a blonde, popular, drinking, quite mean girl. She meets a guy online. His name is Sandor and he's into ballet. What I like about the book is that they are so different from one another, but they still fall in love because they have one thing in common: they don't think they fit in.
September 26, 2018
Ett skolboksexempel på vad man inte bör läsa i skolan. Jag tycker att denna bok är fullkomligt värdelös. Det går inte att relatera till någon av karaktärerna, det är pretentiös och dessutom ganska klumpigt skriven.
January 26, 2014
dej, mej, sej.
November 24, 2023
Rätt så intressant med ungdomarnas liv. Mycket som man själv kan relatera till.
March 21, 2024
Are u 4 real was horrible. I should have guessed just from the title, but I bought it ages ago and wanted to give it a chance. The last book I read (Us Against You) was actually a translation from a book that was originally Swedish as well, so I was curious how this would compare, especially since it is (or perhaps was) supposedly Sweden’s bestselling YA novel. Within ten pages I knew it would be bad. The author managed to get the drinking age in America wrong, which implies that zero research was put into the setting.
At first, I didn’t realize why the book was so disjointed. It wasn’t until halfway through when I was reading Goodreads reviews, looking for some understanding on how awful Are u for real is and how it won any awards that I understood that it was the victim of an incredibly poor translation. It seems that the characters originally had completely different names and the story was set in Sweden in 2001. Both the setting and time period were changed very poorly for an Americanized 2009 audience. It’s why the setting doesn’t seem to play a role in the book in the slightest and basic facts are wrong. It’s why Alex’s nickname makes no sense. It’s why the characters have access to Facebook and cellphones, but only have access to one home computer. It’s probably why it lacks any personality whatsoever. I don’t know how good the book was in Swedish, but the English version is dreadful.
I also get the vibe that this was intended to contain romance, based on the description and ending. The characters have no chemistry or personalities. We’re told things about them, but every single time they meet it’s a disaster. They suddenly get together on the last two pages of the book and it feels disingenuous with the rest of the novel. We’re constantly told how well they understand each other, but I never really saw it. There are constant misunderstandings and Kyla is a horrible person for most of the book. She basically bullies her depressed mother into attempting suicide. I know she’s a teenager and not responsible for her mother’s actions, but it was messed up.
The plot was basically non-existent until halfway through. We learn about the character’s lives, but again, they’re super underdeveloped. I didn’t care about either of them. Honestly, the only thing that kept me reading was my desire to not have to read the book anymore and the fact that there were no chapter breaks, which made it hard to find a natural point to stop reading. Kyla and Alex only meet halfway through the book, and honestly, I didn’t really understand their friendship either. Their emails seemed super short and they didn’t have anything in common. I’m rambling because hardly anything happened in this book. I can’t speak for the Swedish novel, but the English book is garbage. The only thing it had going for it was that it was fairly short. Don’t read it. 1/5 March 20 2024
At first, I didn’t realize why the book was so disjointed. It wasn’t until halfway through when I was reading Goodreads reviews, looking for some understanding on how awful Are u for real is and how it won any awards that I understood that it was the victim of an incredibly poor translation. It seems that the characters originally had completely different names and the story was set in Sweden in 2001. Both the setting and time period were changed very poorly for an Americanized 2009 audience. It’s why the setting doesn’t seem to play a role in the book in the slightest and basic facts are wrong. It’s why Alex’s nickname makes no sense. It’s why the characters have access to Facebook and cellphones, but only have access to one home computer. It’s probably why it lacks any personality whatsoever. I don’t know how good the book was in Swedish, but the English version is dreadful.
I also get the vibe that this was intended to contain romance, based on the description and ending. The characters have no chemistry or personalities. We’re told things about them, but every single time they meet it’s a disaster. They suddenly get together on the last two pages of the book and it feels disingenuous with the rest of the novel. We’re constantly told how well they understand each other, but I never really saw it. There are constant misunderstandings and Kyla is a horrible person for most of the book. She basically bullies her depressed mother into attempting suicide. I know she’s a teenager and not responsible for her mother’s actions, but it was messed up.
The plot was basically non-existent until halfway through. We learn about the character’s lives, but again, they’re super underdeveloped. I didn’t care about either of them. Honestly, the only thing that kept me reading was my desire to not have to read the book anymore and the fact that there were no chapter breaks, which made it hard to find a natural point to stop reading. Kyla and Alex only meet halfway through the book, and honestly, I didn’t really understand their friendship either. Their emails seemed super short and they didn’t have anything in common. I’m rambling because hardly anything happened in this book. I can’t speak for the Swedish novel, but the English book is garbage. The only thing it had going for it was that it was fairly short. Don’t read it. 1/5 March 20 2024
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January 18, 2020
Nästan alla svenska läsutmaningar innehåller "En bok som vunnit Augustpriset". Men när jag bläddrar igenom listan inser jag att jag redan läst de flesta - i alla fall i vuxenkategorin, och i alla fall de jag har haft lust att läsa.
Men så har vi ju den här. En sån där bok jag tänkt läsa ända sedan den kom (då jag nästan var i målgruppsåldern för att läsa den) - och därför nästan inte läst den, eftersom det redan har gått två decennium.
Men better late than never (och boken jag läste innan var från 1800-talet, så allt är relativt).
Den är faktiskt rätt bra. Tonåriga jag hade kanske tyckt att den var riktigt bra. Vuxna jag tycker den är väl formulatisk och övertydlig, och jag stör mig rejält på hur huvudpersonernas snygghet lyfts fram i tid och otid (de har båda issues på sitt håll och är helt olika som personer - men de är ju s-n-y-g-g-a, så de passar ändå ihop-logiken känns dammig). Men det är ändå imponerande igenkännande skrivet av en vuxen författare - och tekniken må ha åldrats, men tonårstidens highs and lows verkar bestå. Slutet är som det ska vara och jag lägger ifrån mig boken (telefonen - vilket de här kidsen inte ens har) oväntat nöjd.
Men så har vi ju den här. En sån där bok jag tänkt läsa ända sedan den kom (då jag nästan var i målgruppsåldern för att läsa den) - och därför nästan inte läst den, eftersom det redan har gått två decennium.
Men better late than never (och boken jag läste innan var från 1800-talet, så allt är relativt).
Den är faktiskt rätt bra. Tonåriga jag hade kanske tyckt att den var riktigt bra. Vuxna jag tycker den är väl formulatisk och övertydlig, och jag stör mig rejält på hur huvudpersonernas snygghet lyfts fram i tid och otid (de har båda issues på sitt håll och är helt olika som personer - men de är ju s-n-y-g-g-a, så de passar ändå ihop-logiken känns dammig). Men det är ändå imponerande igenkännande skrivet av en vuxen författare - och tekniken må ha åldrats, men tonårstidens highs and lows verkar bestå. Slutet är som det ska vara och jag lägger ifrån mig boken (telefonen - vilket de här kidsen inte ens har) oväntat nöjd.
April 4, 2020
Sandor bor i en liten Göteborgsförort, ger all sin lediga tid till dansen och står inte så högt i kurs bland killarna i skolan. Ida är en populär tjej som bor i Sthlm city och som har mycket umgänge. Båda två har dock problem med sina mödrar på olika sätt, och ingen av dem gillar egentligen sig själv. De hittar varandra på en chat och får kontakt med varandra...
Visserligen märker man att den här boken är skriven på tiden innan sociala medier, när man i skydd av anonymitet kunde lära känna människor (på gott och ont naturligtvis), men problemen som man möter som ung är ju förmodligen desamma oavsett tid. Sara Kadefors skildrar de två ungdomarna på ett fint sätt och boken tåldes att läsas om, förmodligen 15 år sedan jag läste den senast!
Visserligen märker man att den här boken är skriven på tiden innan sociala medier, när man i skydd av anonymitet kunde lära känna människor (på gott och ont naturligtvis), men problemen som man möter som ung är ju förmodligen desamma oavsett tid. Sara Kadefors skildrar de två ungdomarna på ett fint sätt och boken tåldes att läsas om, förmodligen 15 år sedan jag läste den senast!
July 17, 2013
Als ich zu diesem Buch gegriffen habe, dachte ich, dass mich eine romantische “Fernbeziehungsgeschichte” erwartet. Ich war sehr interessiert und hatte auch hohe Erwartungen, da ich ja selber in einer Fernbeziehung bin und mir daher viele Parallelen oder bekannte Momente erhofft hatte.
Ich fühlte mich also gleich verbunden mit dieser Geschichte. Das änderte sich jedoch im Laufe der Zeit, denn das Buch war ganz anders als ich erwartet habe. Doch was findet nun auf diesen 346 Seiten statt?
Sandor und Ida sind ganz unterschiedliche Menschen. Er ist ein Außenseiter, nicht selbstbewusst, lebt auf dem Land und hat keinerlei Erfahrungen mit Mädchen. Sie ist ein richtiges Großstadtgirlie, beliebt und hat JEDE MENGE Erfahrungen mit Jungs. Die Beiden sind wie Tag und Nacht, Schwarz und Weiß. Das Einzige, was sie verbindet ist, dass sie gefangen sind, in einem Klischee. Sie stecken in den Erwartungen der Anderen fest, die an sie gestellt werden. Sie wollen nicht der Mensch sein,...nicht diese Rolle spielen, die Ihnen von den Anderen vorgegeben wird. In diesem Buch ging es mehr um das Thema “Selbstverwirklichung”, als um eine romantische Fernbeziehung, zumal die Romantik hier wirklich sehr zu kurz kam, denn beide Parteien überhäufen sich hier nicht gerade mit Blumen und Pralinen. Es wird ausgeteilt und eingesteckt und doch fühlen sie sich dem Anderen so nah, wie sonst keinem Anderen.
Anfangs schreckte mich der Mailkontakt zwischen Ida und Sandor wahrlich ab. Um euch meinen Schrecken begreiflich zu machen, muss ich weiter ausholen. Ida ist zwar wahnsinnig beliebt, aber das Mädchen, was alle lieben, ist nicht Ida...nicht die Ida, wie sie wirklich ist. Zudem lebt sie bei Ihrer alleinerziehenden Mutter, der Vater hat eine neue Familie in den USA gegründet und hat nicht mal Zeit für ein Telefonat mit seiner Tochter. Sein schlechtes Gewissen beruhigt er mit regelmäßigen Überweisungen auf das Konto Idas. Ihre Mutter ist schwer depressiv, sie steht fast dauerhaft unter Medikamenteneinfluss und vegetiert vor sich hin, ohne großartig was von ihrer Umwelt wahr zu nehmen. Idas “beste Freundinnen” sind nichts weiter als zwei aufgeplusterte Pudel, die ihr hinterher dackeln. Susanna, Freundinn Nummer 1, ist ein naives Dummchen, die alles ausplaudert, was ihr in den Kopf kommt. Ohne mit der Wimper zu zucken, verrät sie alles und jeden, nur um am Ende auf der stärkeren Seite zu stehen. Therese, Freundin Nummer 2, gönnt Ida nichts. Sie ist wahnsinnig eifersüchtig auf ihr Aussehen, ihren Status, ihre Liebschaften und so weiter. Desweiteren tratscht sie hinter ihrem Rücken über sie, um ihren Thron zu ergattern. Ida ist trotz ihrer “Beliebtheit” ein sehr einsames Mädchen.
Sandor ist ein "Außenseitertyp", er ist ängstlich wird gehänselt, weil er Ballett tanzt und hat noch nie ein Mädchen geküsst. Er hat einen wahren Freund, Tobbe. Obwohl die Beiden nur das “Außenseiterdasein” verbindet, ist diese Freundschaft echt und unkompliziert. Mit seinem großen Bruder und seiner Schwester hat er keinen allzu engen Kontakt. Sein Vater ist ein autoritärer Schatten, der sich fast blass zwischen dem Arbeitszimmer und der Zeitung am Frühstückstisch aufhält. Seine Mutter ist eine “Übermutter”, sie hat zu viel Ehrgeiz, was die Leistungen ihrer Kinder angeht und schadet somit dauerhaft der familiären Atmosphäre. Insbesondere Sandor wird regelrecht gehetzt, der Beste zu sein, schulisch sowie tänzerisch. Er ist auch sehr einsam.Und so treffen sich diese zwei vollkommen unterschiedlichen, aber sehr einsamen Mensch in einem Chatroom. Und was sie tun, ist alles andere als romantisch oder Liebe auf dem ersten Klick. Jeder erzählt erstmal nur von sich selbst, ist am Jammern und Nörgeln. Keine der beiden Parteien hakt etwa mal nach oder stellt Fragen. Beide lassen einfach nur ihren Dampf ab.
Sie benutzen sich gegenseitig als Kummerkasten. Es war einfach schrecklich und es hat mir überhaupt nicht gefallen. Nachdem sie ihren Dampf abgelassen haben, gewinnt die Geschichte aber doch noch an Zauber. Sie kommen sich näher, aber geben nicht sonderlich viel von sich preis. Als sie dann endlich aufeinander treffen, verfällt Ida in ihre auferlegte Rolle, Sandor - der schüchterne Außenseiter - weiß natürlich überhaupt nicht damit umzugehen und so entfernen sich die beiden wieder emotional voneinander. Dieses Hin und Her zwischen den Beiden wahr wirklich nervenaufreibend und ich fragte mich ständig: WIE DOOF KANN MAN NUR SEIN?!
Wären die Beiden einfach nur ehrlich und hätten immer gesagt, was sie fühlen, dann wäre das eine wahrhaft schöne Geschichte geworden. Stattdessen war ich den größten Teil der Geschichte genervt. Jedoch die Botschaft dieser Geschichte, dass man sich selbst treu sein soll, egal, was andere von einem wollen - Das man nur so ein glückliches und erfülltest Leben haben kann, wenn man sich selbst treu bleibt und keine Rolle spielt - das hat mir sehr gefallen und mich auch wahnsinnig inspiriert. Die Entwicklung auf den letzten Seiten machte die Geschichte doch noch zu einem Lesevergnügen für mich, wenn auch mit sehr vielen Schwächen.
Fazit:
Die Charaktere sind so schwach und unselbstbewusst gewesen, dass ich teilweise echt genervt war. Aber darum ging es in dem Buch, man soll zu sich stehen. “Sei, wer du bist” - Ist ein Luxus, der uns allen zur Verfügung steht, auch wenn wir es manchmal nicht wahr haben wollen oder Angst davor haben. Dieses Buch hat mich wirklich zum Nachdenken gebracht und ich habe es gern gelesen, auch wenn ich nicht hundertprozentig damit zufrieden war und was ganz Anderes erwartet habe.
Ich fühlte mich also gleich verbunden mit dieser Geschichte. Das änderte sich jedoch im Laufe der Zeit, denn das Buch war ganz anders als ich erwartet habe. Doch was findet nun auf diesen 346 Seiten statt?
Sandor und Ida sind ganz unterschiedliche Menschen. Er ist ein Außenseiter, nicht selbstbewusst, lebt auf dem Land und hat keinerlei Erfahrungen mit Mädchen. Sie ist ein richtiges Großstadtgirlie, beliebt und hat JEDE MENGE Erfahrungen mit Jungs. Die Beiden sind wie Tag und Nacht, Schwarz und Weiß. Das Einzige, was sie verbindet ist, dass sie gefangen sind, in einem Klischee. Sie stecken in den Erwartungen der Anderen fest, die an sie gestellt werden. Sie wollen nicht der Mensch sein,...nicht diese Rolle spielen, die Ihnen von den Anderen vorgegeben wird. In diesem Buch ging es mehr um das Thema “Selbstverwirklichung”, als um eine romantische Fernbeziehung, zumal die Romantik hier wirklich sehr zu kurz kam, denn beide Parteien überhäufen sich hier nicht gerade mit Blumen und Pralinen. Es wird ausgeteilt und eingesteckt und doch fühlen sie sich dem Anderen so nah, wie sonst keinem Anderen.
Anfangs schreckte mich der Mailkontakt zwischen Ida und Sandor wahrlich ab. Um euch meinen Schrecken begreiflich zu machen, muss ich weiter ausholen. Ida ist zwar wahnsinnig beliebt, aber das Mädchen, was alle lieben, ist nicht Ida...nicht die Ida, wie sie wirklich ist. Zudem lebt sie bei Ihrer alleinerziehenden Mutter, der Vater hat eine neue Familie in den USA gegründet und hat nicht mal Zeit für ein Telefonat mit seiner Tochter. Sein schlechtes Gewissen beruhigt er mit regelmäßigen Überweisungen auf das Konto Idas. Ihre Mutter ist schwer depressiv, sie steht fast dauerhaft unter Medikamenteneinfluss und vegetiert vor sich hin, ohne großartig was von ihrer Umwelt wahr zu nehmen. Idas “beste Freundinnen” sind nichts weiter als zwei aufgeplusterte Pudel, die ihr hinterher dackeln. Susanna, Freundinn Nummer 1, ist ein naives Dummchen, die alles ausplaudert, was ihr in den Kopf kommt. Ohne mit der Wimper zu zucken, verrät sie alles und jeden, nur um am Ende auf der stärkeren Seite zu stehen. Therese, Freundin Nummer 2, gönnt Ida nichts. Sie ist wahnsinnig eifersüchtig auf ihr Aussehen, ihren Status, ihre Liebschaften und so weiter. Desweiteren tratscht sie hinter ihrem Rücken über sie, um ihren Thron zu ergattern. Ida ist trotz ihrer “Beliebtheit” ein sehr einsames Mädchen.
Sandor ist ein "Außenseitertyp", er ist ängstlich wird gehänselt, weil er Ballett tanzt und hat noch nie ein Mädchen geküsst. Er hat einen wahren Freund, Tobbe. Obwohl die Beiden nur das “Außenseiterdasein” verbindet, ist diese Freundschaft echt und unkompliziert. Mit seinem großen Bruder und seiner Schwester hat er keinen allzu engen Kontakt. Sein Vater ist ein autoritärer Schatten, der sich fast blass zwischen dem Arbeitszimmer und der Zeitung am Frühstückstisch aufhält. Seine Mutter ist eine “Übermutter”, sie hat zu viel Ehrgeiz, was die Leistungen ihrer Kinder angeht und schadet somit dauerhaft der familiären Atmosphäre. Insbesondere Sandor wird regelrecht gehetzt, der Beste zu sein, schulisch sowie tänzerisch. Er ist auch sehr einsam.Und so treffen sich diese zwei vollkommen unterschiedlichen, aber sehr einsamen Mensch in einem Chatroom. Und was sie tun, ist alles andere als romantisch oder Liebe auf dem ersten Klick. Jeder erzählt erstmal nur von sich selbst, ist am Jammern und Nörgeln. Keine der beiden Parteien hakt etwa mal nach oder stellt Fragen. Beide lassen einfach nur ihren Dampf ab.
Sie benutzen sich gegenseitig als Kummerkasten. Es war einfach schrecklich und es hat mir überhaupt nicht gefallen. Nachdem sie ihren Dampf abgelassen haben, gewinnt die Geschichte aber doch noch an Zauber. Sie kommen sich näher, aber geben nicht sonderlich viel von sich preis. Als sie dann endlich aufeinander treffen, verfällt Ida in ihre auferlegte Rolle, Sandor - der schüchterne Außenseiter - weiß natürlich überhaupt nicht damit umzugehen und so entfernen sich die beiden wieder emotional voneinander. Dieses Hin und Her zwischen den Beiden wahr wirklich nervenaufreibend und ich fragte mich ständig: WIE DOOF KANN MAN NUR SEIN?!
Wären die Beiden einfach nur ehrlich und hätten immer gesagt, was sie fühlen, dann wäre das eine wahrhaft schöne Geschichte geworden. Stattdessen war ich den größten Teil der Geschichte genervt. Jedoch die Botschaft dieser Geschichte, dass man sich selbst treu sein soll, egal, was andere von einem wollen - Das man nur so ein glückliches und erfülltest Leben haben kann, wenn man sich selbst treu bleibt und keine Rolle spielt - das hat mir sehr gefallen und mich auch wahnsinnig inspiriert. Die Entwicklung auf den letzten Seiten machte die Geschichte doch noch zu einem Lesevergnügen für mich, wenn auch mit sehr vielen Schwächen.
Fazit:
Die Charaktere sind so schwach und unselbstbewusst gewesen, dass ich teilweise echt genervt war. Aber darum ging es in dem Buch, man soll zu sich stehen. “Sei, wer du bist” - Ist ein Luxus, der uns allen zur Verfügung steht, auch wenn wir es manchmal nicht wahr haben wollen oder Angst davor haben. Dieses Buch hat mich wirklich zum Nachdenken gebracht und ich habe es gern gelesen, auch wenn ich nicht hundertprozentig damit zufrieden war und was ganz Anderes erwartet habe.
December 17, 2017
Poorly written, pretentious and very very pointless with a very negative vibe.
January 14, 2018
Tog 1 o 1/2 timme att läsa. En bra bok, mycket känslor, bra beskrivet.
November 27, 2019
Really enjoyed this one! Good quick read. Recomend highly. Many not answered questions tho...
June 5, 2020
This was my favourite teen age book. I remember being so into it that I stayed up reading it in one night on a ski vacation. Wonderful story that got to me at that age.
September 10, 2020
Bra, men omodern.
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