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You can take the girl out of Ireland...

Izzie Silver -- a warmhearted Irishwoman with a mane of chestnut hair and a zest for life -- is a New York success story, a highly successful booking agent at a top-notch modeling agency. But while she dreams of starting an agency for plus-sized models, at heart she's still the convent schoolgirl from the exquisite Irish coastal town of Tamarin. Which is why falling in love with a married man is something Izzie couldn't possibly imagine herself doing -- until it happens. And it's something she feels she could never tell her beloved family.

...but you 'll never take Ireland out of the girl.

Meanwhile, back in Tamarin, there's heartache, too. Izzie's aunt Anneliese is trying to hide her pain at her husband's betrayal of their marriage. And Lily -- family matriarch and still feisty despite being nearly ninety -- is taken ill. In her hospital bed, she reveals a tantalizing hint of a secret she has kept for decades, from her time as a 1930s servant girl at the local big house, before she ran off to London during World War Two to train as a nurse. Will the family be torn apart by the secrets they can't reveal...or will they have the courage to share their heartbreak and their joy?

463 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2008

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Cathy Kelly

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Born in Belfast but raised in Dublin, Cathy initially worked for thirteen years as a newspaper journalist with a national Irish Sunday newspaper, where she worked in news, features, along with spending time as an agony aunt and the paper’s film critic. However, her overwhelming love was always fiction and she published her first international bestseller, Woman To Woman, in 1997. She did not become a full-time writer until she had written another two books (She’s The One and Never Too Late) and finally decided to leave the world of journalism in 2001, moving to HarperCollins Publishers at the same time.

Someone Like You and What She Wants followed in successive years. Her sixth novel, Just Between Us, was her first Sunday Times number one bestseller, while her eighth novel, Always and Forever, topped the UK bestseller lists in October 2005, displacing Dan Brown and J. K. Rowling. In 2007, Past Secrets in was also a number one paperback bestseller.

Lessons in Heartbreak was shortlisted for the Eason Irish Popular Fiction Book of the Year at the Irish Book Awards in April 2009. In September 2009, Once in a Lifetime topped the UK bestseller lists for three weeks. In March 2011, Homecoming achieved the same feat. Her latest novel is It Started With Paris, published by Orion in 2014.

In Autumn 2011, Cathy headlined a search for a new writer on ITV’s The Alan Titchmarsh Show.

Cathy’s trademark is warm story-telling and she consistently tops the bestseller lists around the world with books which deal with themes ranging from relationships and marriage to depression and loss, but always with an uplifting message and strong female characters at the heart.

Cathy also has a passionate interest in children’s rights and is an ambassador for UNICEF Ireland. Her role for UNICEF is a Global Parent, which means raising funds and awareness for children orphaned by or living with HIV/AIDs.

She lives with her husband, John, their twin sons, Dylan and Murray, and their three dogs in Enniskerry, Co Wicklow.

To contact Cathy email info@cathykelly.com

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2,671 reviews1,395 followers
November 24, 2023


Catching up…

Izzie Silver leaves Ireland for New York. But it doesn’t seem like this move leads her to happiness. On the other side of the ocean, Izzie’s aunt Anneliese discovers her own relationship pain. Then Lily, the wise and compassionate family matriarch, is taken ill.

So, back to Ireland Izzie goes to be with her.

And…

Soon she discovers a past that her grandmother never spoke about.

What is happening with these 3 women? Lessons learned – both past and present – bring joy and heartache.

Yet…

So many secrets.

And…

It appears that the hardest lesson of all is learning to let go.
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81 reviews11 followers
November 25, 2009
When I read a book I want to connect with the main character. In this particular novel, however, I had a difficult time creating that connection with the character of Izzie. I can't quite put my finger on why this was the case. Maybe it was because I never really felt like I knew what made her tick.

Anneliese and Lily are another story. I felt Anneliese's heartbreak and feelings of betrayal when she found that her husband, Edward, and her best friend, Nell were having an affair. As a reader I understood the numbness she felt as she walked into the ice cold ocean and only began to come back to herself once she was under the water. In the character of Lily I could relate to the trap she felt by her social status. In a world where money and status were everything, she had to find herself. She had to find herself when she fell in love with a man who was outside of her world and when she had to learn to live without him.

After having read Lessons in Heartbreak I would have to say that in the conclusion of all three character's stories, I felt as though Anneliese and Lily grew into their own through their experiences. With Izzie I still felt a lot of unrest and dissatisfaction.

I definitely liked parts of this book, but as a whole it just didn't seem to catch me.
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122 reviews7 followers
January 22, 2019
When I picked up Cathy Kelly, I was in a reading slump and was so looking forward to an easy chic-lit story. However, of all her books that I have read, this stands out to be the most serious of them all. Though the title is misleading, she addresses very pertinent issues. From love, heartaches, heartbreaks, divorce, adultery, marriage, depression, suicide , family wrangles, death and the world war, yes, world war.

I could  have easily rated it a 4* but felt she squeezed too many themes in one book. The storyline was all over the place and It was very difficult at first to catch up with all the characters. This is so unlike Cathy.
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992 reviews56 followers
October 31, 2015
Izzie Silver works in the fast paced world of fashion and models in NYC where she has been successful but her heart remains in Ireland where her family lives in a lovely seaside village. Izzie's granny, Lily, had to be both her mother and grandmother after Izzie's mother died of cancer. Her Aunt Anneliese has also played a powerful part in her life as she provided support while Izzie and her daughter, Beth grew up together.

Izzie returns to Ireland when her granny has a stroke and is hospitalized. She finds that there is more going on than just her granny being sick. She notices that her Aunt Anneliese is not the same but she doesn't know what it is. Izzie had recently become involved with a wonderful man in NYC that she fiound she loved and she is torn between being in Ireland with her grandmother and being back in NYC with the man she loves.

The descriptive writing makes you feel a part of the Irish village, feel the horrors of war, and understand the pressures on the lives of fashion models. The characters are strong women that you would love to have as friends. Their emotions are real and the story mimics life and is not just a happily ever after story. Cathy Kelly is a winner!
Profile Image for Jennifer Jackson.
470 reviews3 followers
August 10, 2022
Lessons in Heartbreak
Cathy Kelly
⭐️⭐️⭐️

I’ve had this one on my TBR read for a while and finally got it. I’m not really sure how I felt about this book tho, it was good don’t get me wrong, I think I just felt like it would be more than what it was. I think I wanted more heartbreak in it, I mean the girl experienced her heartbreak but I don’t know I just think it needed more action to it!

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447 reviews8 followers
December 21, 2021
I liked it but I didn't love it. I lost track of some of the characters and feel like Cathy could have actually made a couple of books out of this rather than trying to squeeze all these characters and stories into one.
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1,030 reviews42 followers
May 22, 2013
This was the first Cathy Kelly book I've read and I really enjoyed it will definitely be picking her novels up in future. Chic lit is such a wide genre now that some stories are repetitive same old same old but this was definitely different. Set in 3 countries across two different eras and with the focus of the story being on several different women and their perspective on dealing with adultery it really gave different sides to the the time old story.

Lilly is old in her 90s and looking back on life after Jodi a young Australian woman comes to live in her village and decides to dig up a story on the old manor house in the village she asks Lilly for her help with the story but Lilly has a stroke before she can tell what she knows. Lilly's mind however continues to reminisce about the time she worked as a nurse in London during the war and despite her strict catholic upbringing found herself having an affair with a married man.

Izzie is Lilly's granddaughter whom she bright up after the death of Izzie's mum Izzie has moved to New York where she is currently having an affair with a married man whom she believed to be on the edge of divorce she is also trying to set up her own business for models of normal size and shape upon hearing the news of her grandmothers stroke she must return to Ireland and face up to her own actions after seeing the way adultery affects others.

Annelise is Lilly's daughter in law, wrapped up in her own depression she doesn't realise her husband has been carrying on with her best friend until it is too late and he has left her for said friend. Annelise is devastated by the affects adultery has on her and her family and tries to kill herself only to be rescued and saved in more than one way.

Love, heartbreak, family and history what more can you want from a truly decent and rarely seen chic lit novel? Ms Kelly is a master of her art.
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166 reviews4 followers
June 10, 2022
I started reading this book having in mind Cathie Kelly’s usual light, optimistic, happy-end style. Maybe the title should give me a first hint or maybe if I had read the book description I would see this coming: this book is really about heartbreak. But not the my-boyfriend-cheated-on-me-but-I-found-a-better-one-that-really-loves-me kind of heartbreak that I expected, but real painful heartbreak of losing the one you love and learning to let go. And while what I was looking for was a book that will lift my mood, I was left heartbroken when it ended. Having said that, the Cathie Kelly’s optimistic breeze was not missing from the book.

There were always social aspects touched in Cathie Kelly’s books, but it was interesting to read a more serious one than her classic optimistic/happy approach. This definitely wasn’t what I signed up for when I started reading the book, but I have to admit that I did like the plot, the characters and the fact that the different stories are taking place in different time periods made the book more interesting, at least for me.

Concluding, I was posititively surprised to find out that touching more serious subjects does fit Cathie Kelly a lot; although, I would expect that the target audience for this book is probably not the same with the rest of her books, so a portion of the readers might end up disappointed.
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88 reviews2 followers
December 28, 2016
Three lives. Three loves. Three reasons to let go. This books talks about betrayal, sacrifice, war impacts, & lots of more facts in life. There were moments that I like to cry because of strong impressions caused by life game. Love and pure affection can be so joyous & agonising. I also learnt something new about death: some people do not go gently, they really do fight. It is said 'do not go gentle into that good night'. I suggest that you read this book & refresh your thoughts regarding decision making reflection.
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493 reviews97 followers
January 1, 2026
Όχι παιδιά, δεν παίζει να το τελειώσω αυτό.
Δεν με έκανε να κριντζάρω όπως άλλα πράγματα που έχω διαβάσει, αλλά σίγουρα δεν με ενδιαφέρει να το τελειώσω. Έχω πέσει σε τεράστιο reading slump, και με το να προσπαθώ να τελειώσω βιβλία όπως κι αυτό, δεν με βοηθάω καθόλου.
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172 reviews7 followers
February 10, 2008
my first Cathy Kelly - her previous covers have been enough to put me off but this one was OK. Enjoyed reading it to the end. Liked how the strands all ran together.
354 reviews1 follower
February 7, 2026
This was a nice pleasant book. I think I was hoping for more from it.
Some great characters but it did drag a bit too much for me.

Unfortunately I had to use my Kindle dictionary more than I'm comfortable doing for words like "nautch" "cosh" "heliotrope" "sinuous" etc etc etc

I dislike the constant use of 'mental notes' - gets very repetitive.

So just 3 stars for this book. I've read other books by Cathy Kelly which I've preferred
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Author 14 books13 followers
September 6, 2017
Only recently I discovered the writing of Cathy Kelly. I enjoyed this book very much - Cathy Kelly might be a best-selling author but she is also an excellent writer. Although the three women who suffer heartbreak of various kinds during the course of this novel, and I admit to shedding a tear or two for them, I was left with a sense of hope by the end of the book. I look forward to reading more novels by this writer.
Profile Image for Cath Cuthbert.
14 reviews
May 31, 2019
Mediocre read to be honest. So much potential but the whole thing felt disorganised and rushed with no real depth to any storyline. I was going to give 2 stars but the book did have some redeeming qualities which you might find if you chance to read.
76 reviews1 follower
July 29, 2009
Now, if you are in the mood for reading about the approaching death of a much loved granny and her 1940's love affair that could not be, an Irish lass in NYC in love with a married man which also is not to be,AND the breakup of a thirty some year marriage, (this character wrote the book on depression), this is the book for you. I gave Kelly two stars for readability, but the rest is sheer agony.
2 reviews
March 1, 2022
Yes, it's a chicklit, but I feel it's a very good one. I liked the three different lives Cathy Kelly takes you into and I loved the way she describes the struggle of three different kinds of letting go.
The characters come to life and I felt touched by their thoughts and feelings.
47 reviews1 follower
November 8, 2008
A great story shared between 3 generations really like it.
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361 reviews3 followers
May 21, 2024
Lessons in Heartbreak set between New York and Ireland, the past and the present.

It follows the lives of Izzie Silver and her close friends and family .
Izzie meets Joe, a married man who she falls in love with and he has a huge impact on her life and the decisions she makes.
She doesn't realise that her life is mirrored more than she can imagine by her Grandmother.
Lily who falls ill back home in Ireland whilst Izzie is making a go of her own modelling Agency.

We than meet Izzy's aunt Annelise, whose husband changes her life when she discovers his infidelity and this starts her off on the self destruct route .

The two settings of the book make it quite interesting as we delve into Lily's past and the love of her life Jamie during World War ll.

The characters are real and you can emphasise with one or another in this book .

The lessons each of the woman learns , both past and present, bring joy and heartbreak. And the hardest lesson of all is learning to let go
281 reviews
March 25, 2022
Upbeat and bursting with emotion - this is another gem from the No. 1 bestselling author, Cathy Kelly.
Three Lives. Three Loves. Three Reasons to Let Go.
Izzie Silver left the small Irish town of Tamarin behind for New York. Life is good – until she breaks her own rules and falls for a married man.
On the other side of the ocean, Izzie's aunt Anneliese discovers the pain of infidelity for herself.
Then Lily, the wise and compassionate family matriarch, is taken ill. At her bedside back in Ireland, Izzie discovers a past her grandmother has never spoken of, while Anneliese feels despair mount. The one person she could have turned to is starting to slip away.
The lessons each of the women learns – both past and present – bring joy and heartbreak. And the hardest lesson of all is learning to let go.
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69 reviews1 follower
March 20, 2024
I came across this book at my local library years ago when they were giving out free books for keeping. I held onto this book for AT LEAST 7 years before reading it. Why it took me so long? I have no answers for ya. It could be the fact it was tucked away hidden and forgotten, though I feel it in my bones I was meant to read this story now. There were a lot of signs and messages given that I needed to hear and the younger, twenty-something-year-old me would not be ready for the message at hand.

Though I struggled to really connect with Izzie and her character, I did connect with the rest of the ladies, especially Lily. I cried. There were emotions and so for that, I give it 5 🌟
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2,592 reviews5 followers
April 19, 2024
The historical bits with Lily's backstory were the best parts. But overall, I just found the book too long, and not quite gripping enough.

Annaliese's story was the next most interesting bit, but I felt her story was a bit underdeveloped. Especially since she was the one of the three who was actually the victim of infidelity.

Izzie was the main character but I found her story least compelling of all. I never got Joe's appeal nor why she kept coming back to him.

I get that the three women were all thematically connected but I think I would have been more hooked if it had focused on only Lily's story.
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458 reviews
January 17, 2021
Lessons in Heartbreak by Cathy Kelly

Three women whose lives become unraveled over loving the wrong man. Izzie somehow fell for a married man even though that was against her rules, Anneliese finds out her husband was having an affair with her best friend, & Lily discovered too late that the love of her life was already married. These women are from different decades & live very differnt lives, in different parts of the world but are tied through kinship - grandmother, aunt, & granddaughter. Learning lessons from the past can help them let go & move forward into their future.
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78 reviews2 followers
August 27, 2023
sometimes even letting go is hardest of all and you cannot live them as well. what to do in this kind on situation ? when you love with all your heart but dont have it back, it shatters your heart and you cannot say to anyone.
its good to see izzie understood but what lily has gone through is not worse what izzie faced.
no matter how many times i read this book, it makes me sad to see why only the person who loves suffer ? why not the other person gets courage and stand too ? i dont get it at all.
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1,494 reviews12 followers
January 13, 2026
The lives of three generations of women in the same family are all affected by heartbreak in one form or another.
Izzie, living in New York, away from her Irish roots, finds her morals and ethics are tested when she falls for the wrong man. Her Aunt Annalise' trust is broken by her husband and best friend and can't enunciate that she is hurting. Lily, Izzie's Grandmother, feels the past every day and when Jodie, a new resident of Tamarin, asks for her help in documenting some local history is willing to help until disaster strikes.
A lovely read.
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895 reviews21 followers
June 17, 2017
This was a lovely book, in the "Irish fiction" genre. Thirty something Izzie Silver is living in New York, but she's not really happy. She rushes home to be with her grandmother, Lily, who raised her, after Lily had a stroke. And her aunt Annaleise's life has been turned upside down when her husband of over 25 years has left her. The three women strive to find happiness and must turn to the past to do so. I really enjoyed this book
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2,049 reviews15 followers
March 2, 2020
Better than average storyline centred around infidelity with views from both sides including the heartache caused and some of the reasons why. There was also a side story of the grandmother Lily and her adventures in heartbreak in the war while she is nursing in London, it becomes a secret that the family learn later. A really touching ending wraps it all up.
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193 reviews4 followers
October 12, 2017
I love these kinds of book that take you on an adventure into the past. There is mystery, lost love, forsaken love, tense familial relationships and life lessons. Great characters and I love the setting. Definitely a book you start and want to read all at once.
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