Những Quyết Định Cần Thiết Để Trưởng Thành

by Sean Covey, Cao Xuân Việt Khương (translator)

Cuộc sống là một trò chơi lớn đầy sự lựa chọn. Mỗi một bước đi, mỗi một quyết định là một ngả rẽ khác nhau đưa bạn đến vinh quang hay nhấn chìm bạn xuống vũng bùn lầy. Có những con đường mà nếu đặt chân lên, bạn sẽ rất khó tìm ra điểm dừng để quay lại, nhưng cũng có những con đường sẵn sàng đón nhận bạn như một người đi khám phá.

Trong những năm tháng sắp trưởng thành, bạn sẽ phải chọn lựa để đưa ra những quyết định quan trọng ảnh hưởng đến cả cuộc đời sau này. Cuộc sống ngày nay có nhiều điều kiện giúp bạn nhanh chóng đi đến ước mơ, nhưng nó cũng ẩn chứa nhiều cạm bẫy hơn bao giờ hết. Cơ hội lớn và hiểm nguy cũng không nhỏ. Bạn cảm thấy bối rối bởi vì bạn đang đứng trước cánh cửa của cuộc đời? Làm sao để không đi chệch hướng ngay từ điểm khởi đầu?

“Những quyết định cần thiết để trưởng thành” của Sean Covey sẽ giúp bạn thoát khỏi những phân vân, thậm chí là tâm trạng hoang mang, khủng hoảng của thời niên thiếu. Những vấn đề về học hành, gia đình, bạn bè, tình yêu, lối sống… sẽ được đề cập với một văn phong trẻ trung và còn hấp dẫn bởi những hình minh họa dí dỏm, vui tươi. Quyển sách không những đóng vai trò là một cẩm nang có ích cho tuổi trẻ, mà nó còn là một người bạn đường đáng tin cậy để các bạn nương tựa và tìm thấy nguồn động viên trong những lúc gặp khó khăn.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, School, Parenting, Teen, Personal Development, Childrens

448 pages, Paperback

First published December 1, 2005

About the author

Sean Covey was the starting quarterback for Brigham Young University during the 1987 and 1988 seasons. He was benched due to an ankle sprain. Following his college football career wrote a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. It is a book based on the principles of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, which was written by his father, Stephen R. Covey, but directed towards the life of a teen. A more recent book he has written is The 6 Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make. The book directs the six big choices teenagers will make in their teenage years. The six decisions are: School, Friends, Parents, Dating and Sex, Addictions, and Self Worth.

Reviews

[brooklyn · Rating 2 out of 5]

This isn't really a review. This is more of a rant. I enjoyed this book until I got to the "dating and sex" chapter. It angers me so much that the only thing he was saying in here is "SEX IS BAD AND YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT IF YOU'RE A TEEN OR YOU AREN'T MARRIED. ABSTINENCE OR REGRET IT" and that makes me so angry. I literally had to force myself to read the whole chapter, and I still ended up throwing it against the wall and screaming with rage and fury. Yes, abstinence can be a good thing, and a good decision as well, but if there are teens having sex (which I'm not against) then you should educate them about knowing if they're ready or not, contraceptions, and whatever else, instead of shoving chastity bread down their throats.

[Summer Seeds · Rating 1 out of 5]

My mom bought me this when I was about 15. It was utterly pointless. Covey tries way too hard to sound like "one of the cool kids." He tried, and failed, to be your understanding friend. It was embarrassing. I had to read 7 Habits the summer before the 8th grade, and I hated that book. This one wasn't much better. I completely understand where he is coming from, and I know that being a teen sucks and is full of difficult decisions, but he assumes that most teens think the same way. His thought processes in writing this book did not come anywhere close to matching mine. His commentary, honestly, was not helpful to teen me. 6 most important decisions? Ha! I'm almost 21 now, and I still have not been in some of these situations. Most of this book did not apply to my teenage years whatsoever.

[Asja · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is like, one of the stupidest books ever. IT IS SO DAMN CHEESY. School chapter is nice, but sex, addictions and confidence chapters are awful. He obviously doesn't know anything about teenagers and I somehow have this feeling that he thinks that all teens are idiots, and the book refers to american lifestyle all the time... Sex chapter killed me. I almost thought that catholic church wrote that.. I could sum it up : 'SEX IS BAD DON'T DO THAT BEFORE MARRIAGE YOU'LL GET PREGNANT AND/OR GET SPD'. Nothing about prevetion and sexual education? This is not 19th century!

[Shelby · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm reading 6 desicions! :D
Its rreeaally good! :)
I think all teens should read it.

[Christel · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is the kind of book every teenager should have. It is colorful, eye-catching on every page, fun to read, and very blunt.

[Breanna Calko · Rating 1 out of 5]

Very biased and only shows one point of view.
I would give it a negative rating if I could!

[Sandy Yang · Rating 5 out of 5]

I absolutely love this book. These types of self-help books are what we need nowadays, since we all think we're the best people out there-- but in reality, we never are perfect. We human beings are naturally flawed, and as long as we try to improve on those faults, we are becoming better than we were before we tried. So that being said, this book is a great guide in helping us with becoming a more adequate teenager.
It is not a lecture book-- no one wants to buy another nagging machine, we get enough of those from our parents at home. But Sean Covey, author of many other self-help books, sets a tone that is advice-like and not lecture-like. He doesn't just tell you that you shouldn't have sex-- but ways to approach and react to it. (But honestly, follow the no sex ideal)
I would recommend this book to everyone who is willing to want to become a better person and prioritize their life.

[Edgar Ornelas · Rating 1 out of 5]

Maybe I read this book a tad too late in my life for my liking. I think I was around 15 when some school shrink thought it was cool to make us buy & read the book.I didn't like it, not at all.
I found it cheesy and not very helpful. I think I have a predisposition to not liking any 'help' book I come across with. Even now, when I'm about to graduate as a shrink (irony?), I find it really hard to finish some of these books so I practically evade this section of the major.
Anyways, maybe I'm being a but harsh on Sean Covey and his book, specially seeing that it has a high score (then again, so does the Twilight Saga), but I have to be fair to my convictions. I didn't hate this book but I do consider I wasted my time reading it.


One out of five stars.

[Rebecca · Rating 4 out of 5]

My oldest daughter is about to turn 11, so I am preparing for middle school and the teen years ahead. While I think she is still too young to read this book on her own, I think it will be very valuable in a couple of years. The author takes you through six decisions (school, friends, parents, dating & sex, addictions, and self-worth) that will make or break a teen's future. He does a good job explaining the benefits of taking the "high road" and gives tips on how to do so. A worthwhile read.

[Zach Kotner · Rating 5 out of 5]

Well, the author's purpose of writing this book is to give people an idea on what decisions that they will have to make as a teenager. So, the subject that the author suggests is that there are six decisions that you'll have to make as a teenager to become successful in life. The author's point of view from the book is that he takes his views from his past and he also takes other people's views from all over the world and expresses their feelings on these six decisions you'll have to make as a teenager. The author uses very informational writings that each decision talks about and making an arguement about each one as well, but very true arguments about the decisions. Sean Covey wrote this book to target young teenagers that are in middle school (junior high), and in high school. This did this because as we finish high school, we begin to go out in the real world and begin our lives as people of society.

The theme of the book was making the six most important decisions that will affect and effect your life as an adult. These decisions has their own theme, but primarily have the same exact reason why we need these decisions in our lives. The six decisions were School, Friends, Parents, Dating and Sex, Addictions, and your Self-Worth or you as an individual. Sean Covey made this book to teach teenagers that you will have times that are good and bad, but will eventually see that the decisions were always be with you from when you start adolescence or even when you are born. The theme can help teenagers that are in tough situations and need support on what to do as an individual and accomplish what they want to do in life.

Now, when it comes to this book in a type of style, its very hard to determine which one is compatible. So, this book has all four types of styles because the description, narration, exposiion, and argument are all in this book. The description of the book is explaining on a time that is important to you in your life that can determine where to go in life, which is your adolescence or your teenage years. The narration of the book does tell a story on which events happen within your teenage years that are truly important to you as an individual. The exposition of the book is not only explaining one topic, but talks about five more topics that are important to your teenage years than to your adult life or vice versa. Lastly, the arguement of the book is basically arguing that these decisions can make you or break you as you develop in your adolescent years and will continue to build and even make you successful in life. So, this book puts these four styles to work and makes them compatible for your time in your life that is important to you.

My opinion about the book is that it was the great book I've read since my existence. It gave me insight that I did not know about on the six most important decisions you'll ever make in your life. I liked that it talked about what each decision has to do with how you perceive you as an individual and as you perceive the world, as a whole. I thought there was no dislikes in this book because it was so simple to understand and easy to follow. Also, I can personally say that this book can be followed by every teen in the whole world and even beyond the galaxy. There is absolutely NOTHING that I would change about this book because it goes into our perspective as a teen and what may happen if you don't make the right decisions as a teen. YES, it is similar to another book that I've read, which was The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, because when you read that book, this book about the six most important decisions will make you think about how the 7 habits will come into play and how they would effect you on the decisions you make as a teenager. Overall, this book has taught me that everything about making decisions would be important to what I make it as an adult. I truly recommend this book to teens who need inspirational words of wisdom to help them through their "rough patches" in life.

[Roya · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was completely inapplicable to me. Not all teenagers think alike. Obviously, Covey overlooked the exceptions.

[Taylor · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5

[Maureen Shea · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informational/ Audio book
The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make, by Sean Covey
Maureen Judith Shea
(2006). The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make. (Running Time: 75 minutes. New York: Sound Ideas; Simon and Schuster.
Award -not listed, but many positive recommendations including from the TV host / presenter Larry King
Format: Audio Book
Selection process: Initially browsed through the audio book collection at my local library. Found The Six Most Important Decisions in the Young Adult Section.
Review: (model after the examples from class; no first person; no ‘why I chose this book’; professional, objective review)

Sean Covey is an international motivational speaker and author of self- development books. In his book, The Six Most Decisions You’ll Ever Have to Make is attractive in both is book cover as well as through listening to the audio book. There is a mixture of humor, “down –to –earth “advice and suggestions, as well as the guest voices of actual teenagers sharing their stories. Every parent, school guidance counselor and any other adult should make this audiobook available to the teens they work with.
The book addresses subjects that really apply to young people today. Stress, communication concerns with family, friends, and peers media influences and advertisements, dating and sexuality, addictions of any version, and self-esteem.
Sean Covey makes it clear how everyone has power to make their own decisions, how those positive or negative consequences impact themselves and others.

Highly Recommended

References:


Covey, S. (2006). The Six Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make. New York: Sound Ideas; Simon & Schuster.
Kids Learn Out Loud Retrieved from: http://kids.learnoutloud.com/Kids-Cat...

[Unitaga · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Six Most Important Decisions you’ll Ever Make was definitely worth reading. Written for teens, it was witty, friendly, and very straightforward. My favorite of the decisions were the “Friends” and “Parents” sections because the author talked a lot about putting yourself in the shoes of the person you’re talking to. I found that this particular method worked very well when I was talking to my parents, because we have very different perspectives on certain parts of life. As for the section about friends, I found the section on withstanding peer pressure to be my favorite part of the book. It talked about how being popular isn’t everything, and how middle school is a hard time to make lifelong friends. I think that the most valuable part of the book was the mission statement. The author’s goal was for the reader to
• Be Honest
• Do What’s Right
• Be Kind to Everyone
• Always Remember Who You Are and What You Stand For
• Try Your Hardest
• Give Everything Your All
• Have Fun
I thought that those seven goals were really good ways to stay on track, and I try to live by them. It's also a great book for parents to read because it gives them insight on what their kid is going through. I recommend this book to anyone who is looking for a book that gives a different perspective on life.

[Otgontuya · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the kind of book every teenager should have. It is colorful, eye-catching on every page, fun to read, and very blunt.
Өсвөр насны хүүхдүүдийн заавал унших ёстой номын нэг зайлшгүй мөн. Хэдийгээр би өсвөр насны хүүхэд биш ч гэлээ энэ номноос сэтгэлд маш тод үлдсэн олон зүйлсийг сурсан. Жишээлбэл удирдлагатай жишээний тухай. Хэн нэгэнд өөрийнхөө удирдлагыг өгч чамайг захирахыг хэзээ ч бүү зөвшөөр. Хэн нэгэнд уурлаж, гомдсоноос болж сэтгэлээр унха, хэн нэгэн чамайг муулж, шоглосоноос болоод гуниглаж явж болохгүй. Ямар нэг зүйл яаж ч тохиолдож байсан чи өөрөө удирдлагаа агртаа барих хэрэгтэй. Бас нэг quote үнэхээр их таалагдсан. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. :)

[Lindsey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yayyy look at me finally toning down my currently reading pile.

Ok, this book actually surprised me. A lot. I expected it to be lame and cheesy (and the illustrations were) but the actual words and content was really well written. It wasn't boring at all and the author always seemed like he knew teens and that he cares about the reader. It felt personal, rather than a do or don't do this book. He always seemed like he cared that we make good decisions. I also appreciated that he made if clear he's a Christian but he didn't write it to be a Christian book, he never once stuffed religion down my throat.

[Aljazi Al-Maghlouth · Rating 4 out of 5]

كتاب مساعد لتخطي صعاب الحياة وخصوصا ان المراهق في هذه الأيام لا يملك وقت للتفكير في نفسه ، فهو مبهور للعالم ومشدود للأجهزة ومواقع التواصل والمدرسه. أستفدت منه ومن القصص الممتعه، ايضًا يحمل إقتباسات رائعه! ولكنه يخاطب المراهق الغربي أكثر منه للعربي حيث في عدة فصول يتحدث عن المخدرات والجنس وعقوق الوالدين وهي نسبه مرتفعه مثل ما كتبه ولكن نحن العرب تجاوزنا هذه المشاكل بكل بساطة بسبب اسلامنا الخيير.

[Kathryn · Rating 3 out of 5]

Truthfully, this so called "self-help" book has so many unoriginal ideas that I felt as if the author is completley unempathetic to the readers. However, it is clear that some of the topics brought up are very helpful to others who need it and never experienced some of these books before.

[Daniela Moloci · Rating 5 out of 5]

I know it says for teens… but Im still a teen on the inside trying to figure things out. Really needed this book to help me reflect and ground myself as I enter post-grad life. First 5/5 stars even though Mr. Covey has some hot takes. Hot takes are hard but often the best decisions for you.

[Michael Ellsworth · Rating 2 out of 5]

It felt too watered down life lessons, like i was in my high school seminar.

[Leslie Mcfarland · Rating 3 out of 5]

Honestly I wasn't a fan of the Sex and Dating Chapter

[lamb glass]

I hated this book, but it inspired me as a group of 25~ 10th graders came together and voiced our outrage towards this particular reading when it was hoist upon us in school.

[Sebastián Caballero · Rating 4 out of 5]

Honestamente nunca me ví leyendo un libro de "Autoayuda"
El motivo por qué el que lo leí fue más bien una obligación por tarea escolar.
Pero bueno. En mi opinión el libro está... Bien.
Entonces ¿Por qué le di 4 estrellas?
Por qué este libro realmente es bueno como una guía de las respuestas a las preguntas que muchos adolecentes se hacen y que sus padres nunca les van a responder o les van a responder a medias; así que si, este libro cumple muy bien con su propósito.
Bien o mal, mi educación siempre fue muy buena, mi madre lejos de ocultarme las cosas, siempre me hablaba fuera te tabús y con las cosas claras, razón por la cual para mí este libro se me hizo... innesesario.
Pero viéndolo desde una perspectiva más abierta, este libro es maravilloso para muchísima gente que no mantiene una relación estrecha con sus padres, o que sus padres por pena no hablan abiertamente con ellos de estos temas (que lamentablemente hay muchos casos).
La lectura es ligera, aunque a veces resulta ser un poco tediosa; pero eso no quita que este diseñado también para hacer que muchos jóvenes se hacerquen a la lectura.
Si bien, se me hizo un libro innesesario (para mí); lo recomiendo ampliamente, sobre todo para personas que están comenzando la secundaria por qué precisamente es en esta edad dónde muchos ya empezamos a decidir sobre muchas cosas, y que bien o mal, necesitamos orientación para realizarlas.
El propósito del trabajo del autor está muy bien logrado.

[Overbooked ✎ · Rating 4 out of 5]

Useful roadmap for the troublesome teenage years. Good info, helpful advice and self-tests included.
3.5 stars

[Ezekiel Badillo González · Rating 5 out of 5]

Habla sobre cosas que te daría vergüenza hablar

Da muy buenos consejos y la información es interesante

[Holly · Rating 1 out of 5]

As the target demographic for this book, the first 3 “decisions” had good advice, the last 3 decisions were a trigger-filled, hot mess.

I read this for a high school class and enjoyed it (“it” being the author’s advice), until I got to the very ill-informed “dating and sex” chapter. As I saw another reviewer post: “abstinence can be a good thing.” But the author shouldn’t scare teenagers away from sex. He could’ve just informed about the dangers of both safe and unsafe sex and what you can do about them instead of preaching abstinence and degrading those who are sexually active. Also, if we’re all waiting till marriage AND waiting until we want children to have sex, what about the people who don’t want to get married or don’t want children? What about gay people? What should they do?

After having to read that chapter (again, I had to read and answer questions for a class), we move on to addiction and self-worth. I’m not sure if these chapters were also a hot mess, or if I just didn’t have the patience for them anymore. I am someone who is lucky enough to not have any close friends or relatives who struggle with addiction, so I’m not a good source of whether or not the addictions chapter is decent or helpful. The self-worth chapter, though, could easily offend and trigger those with depression, eating disorders, or other forms of mental illness. He said something along the lines of “having self-worth is a decision you make every day.” Dude, if I could wake up with a healthy amount of self-worth every day, I would. Same goes for millions of other people. That type of change does start with yourself, but he phrases his advice like it's a simple fix. He is the toxic friend he brings up earlier in the book in the last 3 chapters.

[Jazmine · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was forced to read this book by my Social Studies/ELA because we were a lighthouse school and we needed to know are habits and how to apply the habits to our life. After a while, I really liked the book because the book helped me prepare myself for the future as I get older,and teach me things I don't know but needed too. If you asked me how much I liked the book I would tell you I liked it because it really prepared me for whats to come in the future. I would recommend this book to all those 8th graders and freshman because reading this book will help change your mind from doing bad things and this book will help you open your mind to soooo much.

[Ziyad Hasanin · Rating 5 out of 5]

دفعني دافع لإعادة الإطلاع على هذا الكتاب الذي قرأته وأنهيته في سنتي الأخيرة في المدرسة، وكنت أبتسم وأنا أرى "بذور" الأفكار والتصورات التي لدي وقد تطورت وتركبت وكيف كانت بدايات العديد منها من هذا الكتاب (وأخيه، العادات السبع)، وعلى الرغم من أني لست من محبي ما يسمى بـ"التنمية البشرية" ولا أرى أنها في 95% من الأحيان سوى "بيع هوا في ازايز" إلا أن هذا الكتاب يختلف جذريًا في أنه يقدم محتوىً عمليًا ويغير تصور الناشئ عن نفسه وحياته بشكلٍ واقعي... يبدو الكتاب طفوليًا بعض الشيء بالنسبة لي الآن ولكن أفكاره ومحتواه لا تزال تمثل بالنسبة إلي ضرورة معرفية للنشأ والأطفال في هذا العصر، ومن الجميل إعادة تذكير النفس بها.

[Kathryn D · Rating 5 out of 5]

I purchased this book last night and I can't take myself away from it! It gets soooo addicting!

Sean is a wonderful author. Not only does he have charisma and the ability to make teens listen to him, he has quite the sense of humor as well! I, as a young teen, admire his writing style. It's very hard to find any book I enjoy even if it's a self help book. This book is guiding me through my teen years little bits at a time and I'm only on the 3rd chapter!

I can't wait to go to the bookstore again and buy his others!

[Shawn Mendezs Abs😉 · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is one of the books I have read multiple times. Why? When I first got it(13), i thought it was one of the most fascinating and hilarious things I had ever read. And then I read again while i was 19 and sudeenly It wasnt as magical as I thought it was. But I do occasionally get glimpses into why I liked it as much as i did. Reading it again made me question stuff about the book I never thought to question all the other times I had read it. If you asked me back then, would definately have recommended this book. I still would but not with as much enthusiasm.