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Who Would You Be Without Your Story?: Dialogues with Byron Katie

4.31  ·  Rating details ·  488 ratings  ·  34 reviews
      This book is a collection of 15 dialogues that occurred throughout the United States and Europe with Byron Katie. Some of the people who worked with Katie have painful illnesses, others are lovelorn or in messy divorces. Some are simply irritated with a co-worker or worried about money. What they all have in common is a willingness to question, with Katie’s help, the ...more
Paperback, 336 pages
Published October 15th 2008 by Hay House (first published 2008)
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Apr 27, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-improvement
I think you either really "get" Katie, or you don't. If you do, you'll like this book. However, if you haven't tried anything by her before, I strongly suggest starting with "Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life", where she better explains how to do The Work. In this book, she's just "doing" The Work with lots of different people, and demonstrating how effective The Work is with nearly any type of problem.

I am continually amazed at how Katie's system of questioning your thou
Ebony Haywood
Dec 15, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Katie Byron is always inspiring! The biggest lesson I learned from this book is to not get angry or frustrated with my thoughts, but rather approach them with understanding. It's way easier to allow my thoughts to let go of me rather than me trying to let go of my thoughts. :) ...more
Aug 31, 2013 rated it liked it
If it has been some time since you read Loving What Is, this is the perfect fresh-up. These examples feel just as brutal and weird and unlocking as those in the earlier book, and why would you want it any other way.
Sep 04, 2020 rated it did not like it
As a therapist, I find this woman and her "Work" utterly disturbing. I consider CBT a very limited form of therapy and use it along with other methods, but this is CBT taken to it's absolute worst end. The turnaround method can be extremely damaging to survivors of sexual assault, those who are surviving racism, to those who are marginalized, and it completely decenters any conversations around structural and systemic oppression. It offers a wide berth for white spiritual bypass, and seems to be ...more
Peter B
Oct 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reframe your life!

If you’re stuck anywhere in your life, on some sort of treadmill, this book will definitely help you to start living again. Yes, away from the blame and back to the joy!
Dec 31, 2018 rated it really liked it
I read this in the spring... it was amazing to go through her questions and work through stories I’ve been holding onto. But it hasn’t stuck with me as a continuing practice unfortunately. I should revisit.
Cj Sime
Dec 16, 2017 rated it liked it
Interesting philosophy. I didn't like the "dialogue" set up of the book, it starts to feel very redundant after the first 2-3 examples. ...more
Jul 22, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great book

Really good book. A must read for anyone who is struggling with blame, forgiveness or stress. Do the suggested exercises at the end.
Holistic Happiness Fran
Jan 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing
These questions could change your life. Why not see for yourself?
May 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
By questioning our thought we can free ourselves of those that hold us back from compassion for ourselves and others. Byron Katie does this better than anyone else and teaches us how to do it.
Oct 30, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: spiritual
1. Free the mind, and the body follows.

2. JUDGEMENTS: As soon as we sit in these judgments and we can see where they are true about ourselves, our whole life changes. And that’s the power of truth.
- Judging as with the minders. What you can begin to do is write your judgment down and question them. That will give you a sane, happy life.
- There’s a lot of freedom in “I don’t know “. It’s being a child. This is very sweet. There’s nothing to know. It’s level ground.

3. Obeying the law i
Jan 16, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: social, not-a-fan
I mean... I get it. Katie's approach isn't anything earth-shattering, it's found in Buddhist meditation exercises, in modern psychology with thought replacement techniques, and self-help books everywhere. The issue I took with the book was less about Katie's "Work" and more with her technique. She repeats questions over and over until the person on the other end of the dialogue says "No, it's not true" or "Yes, I would be better without the story." Sometimes it seems to come easy and Katie appla ...more
Dawn J.
Oct 30, 2013 rated it liked it
Some good examples of how we create untrue thoughts or stories about other people or about situations that negatively affect our lives. She shows how to do what she calls "The Work" on your thoughts to identify whether or not we can absolutely know that they are true, or if we are just creating a "story". We all have stories about ourselves and others that bring us down or create negativity in our lives. Her work has inspired me to not only question my responses to others, but also to question m ...more
Mar 31, 2012 rated it it was amazing
What we all think of as our own personal burden, or personal triumph, or stressful thought is actually not unique, not special, not our own. It is simply the human condition. Katie points out that there is no such thing as a "new" stressful thought. They are all recycled, and more interestingly, OPTIONAL. We can set these burdens down and see past them if we simply choose to do so.

The Work of Katie is actually a life changing experience for those interested in finding out what is true. Recommend
Dec 31, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone
Recommended to Erika by: I found it
I love this book and anything she has written. This too is life changing. What is helpful about this book is that Katie interviews a lot of different people about their particular concerns and you can see how applicable the Four Questions work is to absolutely any area of your life that you want to look at and discover the truth about.

I have been doing the Four Questions work for about three years now and this year I have started doing formal work on it. I have learned so much.
Nov 15, 2009 rated it really liked it
Another thought provoking book from Byron Katie. Unlike her other books, this focuses solely on dialogues between Katie and people doing The Work. There are a wide range of topics helpful to anyone interested in knowing the truth and moving forward. By inserting my own beliefs into the dialogues and "listening" to Katie's thoughtful and oftentimes humorous responses on the page, I have found this book to be an invaluable resource in my own Work. ...more
Jan 10, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: newly-read-2015
Maybe I'm just not there yet, but I'm always hugely squicked out when she starts turning around abuse. That said, my own studies of the human mind through meditation inevitably lead me to the same conclusions, personally. I'm just not sure how I feel about that or that I would try to tell someone else what to think. For the day to day, I find Byron Katie's work quite invaluable, and this book of dialogues is no exception. ...more
Aug 25, 2009 rated it really liked it
A little confusing at the beginning but overall a good read. It is dialogues from different conferences she's held. A great perspective about changing the way you think to have a better life. She really gets at people for making excuses, or blaming others for the way their life is or the way they feel and makes them look at themselves to find out the real root of their unhappiness. ...more
Skai Leja
Dec 26, 2009 rated it it was amazing
very interesting illustrations of how to parse the stories we create to understand and explain to others the narratives of our lives, and how we get locked into believing them even when they aren't true, because they serve some purpose. Taking those stories apart makes fresh perspectives possible and often changes our perspective radically. I'd love to see her in action! ...more
May 17, 2011 rated it it was amazing
As always, fascinating stuff. This book is transcriptions that Katie has with people doing inquiry - 15 of them on different subjects/beliefs. These are my favourite parts of her other books, so one entirely of dialogues is fantastic. Seeing people transform by this method is awesome, and it's so simple. ...more
Dec 29, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I seriously did find about 30 minutes of deep inner peace practicing the work when I last was on an airplane. I love her but I find that I need to read something a little more "human still with struggles" kind of a thing as a companion piece or else I feel like a total loser. ...more
Annemarie Slee
Jun 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Work your mind and find truth within you.

Is this true?
Can you really know that it is true?
How do you feel, think or behave when you believe this thought?
Who would you be without the thought?
Now... turn it around.

... clarity.
Aug 02, 2009 rated it liked it
I get her point. I really do. Maybe after I do some worksheets I'll give it a few more stars. ...more
Oct 24, 2009 marked it as did-not-finish
This was an issue of timing rather than of not liking the book. It's the middle of NaNo, and the library called the book back before I could get far into it. ...more
Dec 20, 2009 rated it really liked it
Great book for re-writing your story!
Oct 12, 2011 rated it really liked it
Byron Katie rocks! Only read two of the dialogues in this book, the only two that really relate to me at this point (thank goodness!), and both were helpful as hell.
Leslie Stimson
Jun 09, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Most excellent perspective on the ego mind and what it does to us emotionally.
Jan 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Unlike Byron Katie's other books, this book is all dialogues. It is very helpful and enlightening. I have read it several times and find new things to relate to every time I read it. ...more
Jeannine Lee
Nov 07, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Another challenging book by Byron Katie? Our stories really aren't all that important but boy how we torture ourselves by thinking they are. Read it. It's good. ...more
Tori Montes
Sep 09, 2015 rated it really liked it
This is a good reference book for any hurtful thoughts we may have and examples of how to think through these thoughts. A good book to help one learn how to do The Work
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Byron Kathleen Mitchell, better known as Byron Katie, is an American speaker, writer, and founder of a method of self-inquiry called The Work of Byron Katie or simply The Work.

Katie became severely depressed in her early thirties. She was a businesswoman and mother who lived in Barstow, a small town in the high desert of southern California. For nearly a decade she spiraled down into paranoia, rag

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