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Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection
Being mindful about who you are and what you are doing isn't necessarily a bad thing. Evaluating yourself is necessary and can lead to positive change.
But what about the dark side of introspection? Do you ever feel weighed down and exhausted by your own self analysis? Perhaps you made a mistake, said a careless word, or even messed up big time. Now you cant get it out of your mind. You keep revisiting what happened. Your mind circles around the event, fruitlessly trying to somehow make the outcome different so that you don't feel embarrassment, shame, and regret.
Jared Mellinger, a pastor and self-confessed struggler with introspection holds out the hope of the gospel for those who, like him, overdose on introspection. Only truly understanding the gospel can rescue us from false guilt, fruitless self-examination, and self-accusation.
The only long-term solution to thinking too much about ourselves is when our attention is drawn away from ourselves and Jesus fills our minds eye.
But what about the dark side of introspection? Do you ever feel weighed down and exhausted by your own self analysis? Perhaps you made a mistake, said a careless word, or even messed up big time. Now you cant get it out of your mind. You keep revisiting what happened. Your mind circles around the event, fruitlessly trying to somehow make the outcome different so that you don't feel embarrassment, shame, and regret.
Jared Mellinger, a pastor and self-confessed struggler with introspection holds out the hope of the gospel for those who, like him, overdose on introspection. Only truly understanding the gospel can rescue us from false guilt, fruitless self-examination, and self-accusation.
The only long-term solution to thinking too much about ourselves is when our attention is drawn away from ourselves and Jesus fills our minds eye.
192 pages, Paperback
Published April 10, 2017
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8 books13 followersJared Mellinger is the senior pastor at Covenant Fellowship Church in Glen Mills, PA, where he lives in with his wife Meghan and their six children.
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September 18, 2019
How do we battle introspection?
'Go to Christ and behold his glory. Let self-absorption give way to Christ-absorption. There is no joy to be found on higher self-esteem or daily affirmations of our own terificness. Christ alone can satisfy. He must increase, but I must decrease.'
Since listening to his seminar on this book sometime last year, I have wanted to read this book, but, my GOSH, why did I wait this long? This encouraged me SO much.
'The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks back to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weaknesses we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us.'
'Go to Christ and behold his glory. Let self-absorption give way to Christ-absorption. There is no joy to be found on higher self-esteem or daily affirmations of our own terificness. Christ alone can satisfy. He must increase, but I must decrease.'
Since listening to his seminar on this book sometime last year, I have wanted to read this book, but, my GOSH, why did I wait this long? This encouraged me SO much.
'The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks back to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weaknesses we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us.'
February 16, 2019
Enjoyed this book an easy read but packing a weighty theological punch. Particularly enjoyed his illustrations from his own life and references to other books and poems. My Favourite line "Put away your selfie stick and point the camera at Jesus"
January 7, 2019
very helpful, would recommend to many
May 30, 2018
Excellent book for the way it grasps the struggle most of us experience with introspection, anxiety and fear of man. To this compassionate and relatable explanation of the problem, Mellinger brings refreshing biblical truth to bear. A very helpful and freeing book I plan to return to reread regularly.
August 19, 2024
Very easily 5 stars. I was extremely challenged by this book, but Mellinger is a master of loving correction. Never once was I made to feel condemned; in fact, the whole book is spent reminding the reader how by God’s grace, there is no more condemnation for those who trust in Him.
Im very thankful for this little book and will be returning to it more than once, I’m sure.
“The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us” (155).
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Second time reading and even better having read it with friends!
Im very thankful for this little book and will be returning to it more than once, I’m sure.
“The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us” (155).
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Second time reading and even better having read it with friends!
December 26, 2024
“You can trust the creator of the Heavens and the earth knew exactly what he was doing when he made every part of you. His creative wisdom and power are revealed in all the works of his hands. Those with high self-image enjoy the praise they receive and think, I am awesome. Those with low self-image often want to receive praise they are not receiving and think, I am worthless. But through the idol-destroying power of the gospel, ‘I am awesome’ and ‘I am worthless’ give way to ‘Lord, I will praise you.’
Go to Christ and behold his Glory. Let self-absorption give way to Christ-absorption. There is no joy to be found in higher self-esteem or daily affirmations of our own terrificness. Christ alone can satisfy. He must increase, but I must decrease.”
This was probably one of the best books I’ve ever read! Jared’s pastoral heart is so evident. He deeply cares for you by speaking the compassionate truth of God and the challenging truth of God. He doesn’t want you to be condemned by your struggles but also doesn’t want you to stay in them. Very grateful for this book!
Go to Christ and behold his Glory. Let self-absorption give way to Christ-absorption. There is no joy to be found in higher self-esteem or daily affirmations of our own terrificness. Christ alone can satisfy. He must increase, but I must decrease.”
This was probably one of the best books I’ve ever read! Jared’s pastoral heart is so evident. He deeply cares for you by speaking the compassionate truth of God and the challenging truth of God. He doesn’t want you to be condemned by your struggles but also doesn’t want you to stay in them. Very grateful for this book!
May 2, 2017
Why I Choose this Book:
Although I'm not sure how overly introspective I am, feeling extremely guilty when I've made a mistake or messed something up is something I've struggled with all of my life. (And I'm talking about my day feeling ruined because of something that most people would have forgotten about in a matter of minutes.) Therefore, I figure this book might provide a healthy and balanced perspective.
What I Thought about this Book:
Yes, yes, and yes. This book was a solid four-star read. Nearly every page had me nodding. Lightbulbs were going off. It was good. The book was incredibly balanced, practical, and easy to understand. It was also interesting, flowed well, and made a lot of sense. So, pretty much combine that with a topic I needed to study, and we have a winning book. (In fact, those six elements are the big things I look for in nonfiction, and this book hit all of them.)
One of the biggest things I realized while reading this book is that when I feel guilty, it's most likely because I'm taking my eyes off of Jesus to focus too much on myself. (Which, strangely enough, isn't something I would have realized on my own.) Feeling guilty can be helpful, but it can be very detrimental, too. Not only did this book explain why people are introspective at times, but the book also went through when it's healthy, how it's healthy, and when and why and how it can be unhealthy, too. Then, it followed up with what we can do to become more balanced and healthy in the area of introspection. The book was through and moved along at a fast clip and impressed me a lot.
Although it's good to take time to evaluate how we're doing in life, it's so important for us to do that quickly and then get the focus off of ourselves and look back to Jesus. The book also talked very practically about when it's a good time to be introspective, and when it's a bad time. For instance, you don't want to take time to be introspective at the end of a long day when you're exhausted, yet that's naturally when our brains start going through events and beating us up. Obviously, that isn't healthy. So, we need to teach ourselves to not allow our minds to begin taking inventory of how we're doing, but instead to focus on Jesus and His goodness during times like that.
All in all, the book was totally spot-on.
Conclusion:
I highly recommend this book - not only to people who struggle with introspection, but pretty much to anyone.
Rating:
I’m giving Think Again 4 out of 5 stars, and 8 out of 10.
*I received this book from Litfuse
Although I'm not sure how overly introspective I am, feeling extremely guilty when I've made a mistake or messed something up is something I've struggled with all of my life. (And I'm talking about my day feeling ruined because of something that most people would have forgotten about in a matter of minutes.) Therefore, I figure this book might provide a healthy and balanced perspective.
What I Thought about this Book:
Yes, yes, and yes. This book was a solid four-star read. Nearly every page had me nodding. Lightbulbs were going off. It was good. The book was incredibly balanced, practical, and easy to understand. It was also interesting, flowed well, and made a lot of sense. So, pretty much combine that with a topic I needed to study, and we have a winning book. (In fact, those six elements are the big things I look for in nonfiction, and this book hit all of them.)
One of the biggest things I realized while reading this book is that when I feel guilty, it's most likely because I'm taking my eyes off of Jesus to focus too much on myself. (Which, strangely enough, isn't something I would have realized on my own.) Feeling guilty can be helpful, but it can be very detrimental, too. Not only did this book explain why people are introspective at times, but the book also went through when it's healthy, how it's healthy, and when and why and how it can be unhealthy, too. Then, it followed up with what we can do to become more balanced and healthy in the area of introspection. The book was through and moved along at a fast clip and impressed me a lot.
Although it's good to take time to evaluate how we're doing in life, it's so important for us to do that quickly and then get the focus off of ourselves and look back to Jesus. The book also talked very practically about when it's a good time to be introspective, and when it's a bad time. For instance, you don't want to take time to be introspective at the end of a long day when you're exhausted, yet that's naturally when our brains start going through events and beating us up. Obviously, that isn't healthy. So, we need to teach ourselves to not allow our minds to begin taking inventory of how we're doing, but instead to focus on Jesus and His goodness during times like that.
All in all, the book was totally spot-on.
Conclusion:
I highly recommend this book - not only to people who struggle with introspection, but pretty much to anyone.
Rating:
I’m giving Think Again 4 out of 5 stars, and 8 out of 10.
*I received this book from Litfuse
November 15, 2024
Solid and helpful. Would recommend to anyone who struggles with introspection.
“For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us. Christ is all in all. He invites us to look to him at all times. He commands it — and could there possibly be a more gracious command?”
“For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us. Christ is all in all. He invites us to look to him at all times. He commands it — and could there possibly be a more gracious command?”
October 2, 2017
I often find myself reviewing social encounters and my role in them in a Chris-Farley-as-awkward-interviewer manner, mumbling to myself about how STUPID I sounded and hitting myself in the head for being such a loser. This book was a great antidote to such self-pity and self-absorption. Recognizing who I am in Christ and thinking less about myself and more about others is what it's all about. Looking to Christ in all His beauty and glory puts the focus where it should be. I appreciated the practical tips and many Scripture references.
July 8, 2024
Maybe one of the best and most sincerely gospel-focused books I’ve read. For someone with a serious problem of introspection, this book was such an encouragement and game changer.
For every look to yourself take ten looks to Christ!
For every look to yourself take ten looks to Christ!
November 14, 2025
Could have used this book 30 years ago. If you are introspective and have trouble getting out of your own head, this book could really help.
December 29, 2023
“The gospel sets us free from thinking about ourselves too much. There is an outward-focused God who delights to rescue an inward-focused people.”
A truly gospel shaped book. Timely. Christ-exalting. Helpful. Uplifting. I needed this book and I’m guessing you do too.
A truly gospel shaped book. Timely. Christ-exalting. Helpful. Uplifting. I needed this book and I’m guessing you do too.
April 30, 2017
Think Again focuses on a topic that I imagine a great deal of us can relate to; self-examination and unhealthy introspection. The author, Jared Mellinger, is a pastor who has personally struggled with unhealthy introspection and self-accusation. The book is broken down into 13 chapters that include the author's personal experiences, along with scripture that relates to the topics and other stories that relate. There are also questions for reflection and discussion, such as, "What are the benefits of healthy introspection?" and "What are some of the dangers of unhealthy introspection?" I found this to be a very interesting and relevant book, especially in a society where we all have times when we become a bit obsessed with ourselves. The author invites readers to focus less on themselves and more on Christ. Overall, I enjoyed this book and found the topic to be very relevant. In a culture where we are constantly focused on ourselves, learning to to turn that focus back to Christ is a very important topic.
Thank you to the publisher for sending me an advanced reading copy of this book.
Thank you to the publisher for sending me an advanced reading copy of this book.
April 25, 2017
"Did he or didn’t he? Did he step out of bounds or not?" In the world of sports, such questions are settled with instant replay. The referees look at the video monitor and "think again" about the play they had just presided over. But now with additional camera angles, the verdict is overturned. "No, he was in bounds! Play on."
In real life, however, relying on instant replay is not always a good idea. Some people go to the cameras over and over again, rehashing each scene and second-guessing each decision. Introspection like that can be a harmful practice. Yet who hasn’t taken joy in reliving a precious moment or grown through uncovering a destructive pattern?
Jared Mellinger addresses this thorny topic gracefully in a new book Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection (New Growth Press, 2017). No stranger to negative thinking himself, Mellinger shares what he’s learned through his life and ministry and draws from a host of reliable and helpful sources to cover this subject from almost every angle.
I imagine if I were to find a book on this topic in a typical Christian bookstore, the concept of having positive self-esteem might surface. That or a simple 8 steps to conquer this problem for good. Mellinger doesn’t frame the matter so simply. He gives a big picture and a theological worldview through which to look at introspection, rather than a simple prescription for a happier life. And concerning self-esteem, he resists the urge to give in to the cultural pull to affirm yourself. A sample of some of his takeaways on this point will help:
"Psalm 139:14 does not say, 'I feel good about myself, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.' It says, 'I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.' The focus is on God. The praise is directed to God, and the idol of self has been displaced." (p. 38)
"Those with high self-image enjoy the praise they receive and think, I am awesome. Those with low self-image often want to receive praise they are not receiving and think, I am worthless. but through the idol-destroying power of the gospel, 'I am awesome' and 'I am worthless” give way to 'Lord, I will praise you.'" (p. 39)
As the above excerpt illustrates, the book is clear and easy to read. The illustrations are poignant and pertinent, and they get your attention: Dobby the house elf even makes an appearance. The author is well read on this topic and acquaints the reader with numerous resources, recommending some books and quoting from classic Christian authors: C.S. Lewis, Charles Spurgeon, D.M. Lloyd-Jones, Richard Sibbes, John Calvin, G.K. Chesterton, and many more.
The strategy put forth is not to avoid introspection altogether, but to think less of self and more of Christ. He does call for repentance when sinful motives are found, but he also warns against letting false guilt consume you. We are sinful and fallen, but he reminds us of how often Paul praised God for the evidences of God’s grace in the people he wrote to: we too must learn to see grace “in the mirror” (p. 97).
The book is not a theological treatise, don’t get me wrong. It is incredibly helpful and practical. Mellinger shares realistic scenarios and walks through likely reactions from introverts and others. He often draws from his own experience with introspection and how others helped him.
I can’t help but quote from his concluding chapter. This is really good:
"The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us." (p. 155)
I can’t think of a better resource to give to those who struggle with doubts or the tendency to second-guess and over-analyze decisions and motives. This resource is filled with Gospel goodness and solid enough to help those in a variety of situations. It is a book one might want to give away to special people in your life who are tender but perhaps too often weighed down with care.
Disclaimer: This book was provided by the publisher. I was under no obligation to offer a favorable review.
In real life, however, relying on instant replay is not always a good idea. Some people go to the cameras over and over again, rehashing each scene and second-guessing each decision. Introspection like that can be a harmful practice. Yet who hasn’t taken joy in reliving a precious moment or grown through uncovering a destructive pattern?
Jared Mellinger addresses this thorny topic gracefully in a new book Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection (New Growth Press, 2017). No stranger to negative thinking himself, Mellinger shares what he’s learned through his life and ministry and draws from a host of reliable and helpful sources to cover this subject from almost every angle.
I imagine if I were to find a book on this topic in a typical Christian bookstore, the concept of having positive self-esteem might surface. That or a simple 8 steps to conquer this problem for good. Mellinger doesn’t frame the matter so simply. He gives a big picture and a theological worldview through which to look at introspection, rather than a simple prescription for a happier life. And concerning self-esteem, he resists the urge to give in to the cultural pull to affirm yourself. A sample of some of his takeaways on this point will help:
"Psalm 139:14 does not say, 'I feel good about myself, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.' It says, 'I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.' The focus is on God. The praise is directed to God, and the idol of self has been displaced." (p. 38)
"Those with high self-image enjoy the praise they receive and think, I am awesome. Those with low self-image often want to receive praise they are not receiving and think, I am worthless. but through the idol-destroying power of the gospel, 'I am awesome' and 'I am worthless” give way to 'Lord, I will praise you.'" (p. 39)
As the above excerpt illustrates, the book is clear and easy to read. The illustrations are poignant and pertinent, and they get your attention: Dobby the house elf even makes an appearance. The author is well read on this topic and acquaints the reader with numerous resources, recommending some books and quoting from classic Christian authors: C.S. Lewis, Charles Spurgeon, D.M. Lloyd-Jones, Richard Sibbes, John Calvin, G.K. Chesterton, and many more.
The strategy put forth is not to avoid introspection altogether, but to think less of self and more of Christ. He does call for repentance when sinful motives are found, but he also warns against letting false guilt consume you. We are sinful and fallen, but he reminds us of how often Paul praised God for the evidences of God’s grace in the people he wrote to: we too must learn to see grace “in the mirror” (p. 97).
The book is not a theological treatise, don’t get me wrong. It is incredibly helpful and practical. Mellinger shares realistic scenarios and walks through likely reactions from introverts and others. He often draws from his own experience with introspection and how others helped him.
I can’t help but quote from his concluding chapter. This is really good:
"The Christian life is a life of radical extra-spection. For every look to ourselves, we should be taking ten looks to Christ. And every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us." (p. 155)
I can’t think of a better resource to give to those who struggle with doubts or the tendency to second-guess and over-analyze decisions and motives. This resource is filled with Gospel goodness and solid enough to help those in a variety of situations. It is a book one might want to give away to special people in your life who are tender but perhaps too often weighed down with care.
Disclaimer: This book was provided by the publisher. I was under no obligation to offer a favorable review.
April 25, 2017
I'm not a particularly introspective person, but Think Again opened my eyes to a number of areas where I think about myself more than I realized. Here are a couple of choice quotes:
"Christians know that hope has a name. He is Jesus, and in his name is freedom for our souls. For all who are in Christ, there is light beyond the darkness and laughter beyond the silence. Knowing Jesus pulls us out of ourselves and gives relief from the burden of introspection." Pg. 116
"Every moment of every day, our Father is taking pleasure in the world he has made. And he intends for his children to go outside and play—that it, to use the world as a channel of grace and gladness in the Christian life and share his delight in creation." Pg. 133
"It is a painful but beautiful remedy. The Lord teaches us to die to ourselves so that we might truly live. To enjoy people, it is essential to realize that people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are." Pg. 143
"Every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us." Pg. 155
Whether or not you are overly introspective, this is a great book to help you rightly think about yourself. Just as a bonus, the opening story had me laughing uncontrollably and is worth the price of the book!
"Christians know that hope has a name. He is Jesus, and in his name is freedom for our souls. For all who are in Christ, there is light beyond the darkness and laughter beyond the silence. Knowing Jesus pulls us out of ourselves and gives relief from the burden of introspection." Pg. 116
"Every moment of every day, our Father is taking pleasure in the world he has made. And he intends for his children to go outside and play—that it, to use the world as a channel of grace and gladness in the Christian life and share his delight in creation." Pg. 133
"It is a painful but beautiful remedy. The Lord teaches us to die to ourselves so that we might truly live. To enjoy people, it is essential to realize that people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are." Pg. 143
"Every time we look at ourselves, what we see should lead us back to Christ. Any sin we find should drive us to the work of Christ for us. And any good we find in ourselves should reveal the work of Christ in us and through us. Any weakness we find should lead us to the power of Christ toward us." Pg. 155
Whether or not you are overly introspective, this is a great book to help you rightly think about yourself. Just as a bonus, the opening story had me laughing uncontrollably and is worth the price of the book!
April 27, 2017
I think every introvert suffers from some level of introspection, which as Spurgeon says is useful to a point but can easily be overdone. Think Again by Jared Mellinger assures that we are not alone in our introspective tendencies. It also gives us this hope:
“There is an outward-focused God who delights to rescue an inward-focused people.”
Drawing on the wisdom of classic Christian authors, as well as the truth of Scripture, Jared Mellinger gives a practical yet theological resource for those whose introspection has become harmful and/or excessive. He doesn’t suggest eliminating introspection altogether but instead he proposes we should frame it within the context of Christ, focusing more on Him and less on self. Mellinger has sharp insight into this topic, and one of my favorite discussions involves the familiar verse from Psalm 139.
“Psalm 139:14 does not say, ‘I feel good about myself, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.’ It says, ‘I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.’ The focus is on God. The praise is directed to God, and the idol of self has been displaced.”
Bottom Line: Think Again by Jared Mellinger is down-to-earth, honest, and witty but it’s full of profound insight and practical truth. Even if you don’t struggle with introspection, it is beneficial reading that provides you with tools to help those who do. Besides, any book that uses Spurgeon, an epic airport fail, Jason Bourne and Dobby the house elf to illustrate the main point just needs to be in everyone’s home library!
(I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book)
see my review at Reading Is My SuperPower
“There is an outward-focused God who delights to rescue an inward-focused people.”
Drawing on the wisdom of classic Christian authors, as well as the truth of Scripture, Jared Mellinger gives a practical yet theological resource for those whose introspection has become harmful and/or excessive. He doesn’t suggest eliminating introspection altogether but instead he proposes we should frame it within the context of Christ, focusing more on Him and less on self. Mellinger has sharp insight into this topic, and one of my favorite discussions involves the familiar verse from Psalm 139.
“Psalm 139:14 does not say, ‘I feel good about myself, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.’ It says, ‘I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.’ The focus is on God. The praise is directed to God, and the idol of self has been displaced.”
Bottom Line: Think Again by Jared Mellinger is down-to-earth, honest, and witty but it’s full of profound insight and practical truth. Even if you don’t struggle with introspection, it is beneficial reading that provides you with tools to help those who do. Besides, any book that uses Spurgeon, an epic airport fail, Jason Bourne and Dobby the house elf to illustrate the main point just needs to be in everyone’s home library!
(I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book)
see my review at Reading Is My SuperPower
November 28, 2024
Mellinger quickly describes the one enduring solution to unfruitful and even harmful introspection: Christ.
What the book does well:
1. Hit the high points and frequent pitfalls of someone trying to break free from introspection
2. Highlights Christ using lots of scripture and stories to illustrate Him as the only true solution to the problem.
3. Makes each chapter light and easy to read
What could have been improved:
1. Many of the verses were removed from their context and lost some meaning in that process
2. The chapter main points, though correct, we're usually repetitive and felt full of filler
3. Mellinger relies on various quotes and verses that feel thrown together at times and lacking in substance
I would recommend this, especially to a young Christian who needs an introductory guide to Christian thinking. The points made do ring true, and I will be applying some of the recommendations made in the text.
What the book does well:
1. Hit the high points and frequent pitfalls of someone trying to break free from introspection
2. Highlights Christ using lots of scripture and stories to illustrate Him as the only true solution to the problem.
3. Makes each chapter light and easy to read
What could have been improved:
1. Many of the verses were removed from their context and lost some meaning in that process
2. The chapter main points, though correct, we're usually repetitive and felt full of filler
3. Mellinger relies on various quotes and verses that feel thrown together at times and lacking in substance
I would recommend this, especially to a young Christian who needs an introductory guide to Christian thinking. The points made do ring true, and I will be applying some of the recommendations made in the text.
April 19, 2017
Think Again was a good read. I agree with it in that evaluating yourself is useful and good, but that too much self-examination can be a bad thing. I thought the book was easy to read and really hit home in some areas.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and can see myself opening it up again in the future. If you suffer from introspection, I highly recommend Think Again.
*I received a complimentary eBook copy of this book for my honest review. As always, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.*
I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and can see myself opening it up again in the future. If you suffer from introspection, I highly recommend Think Again.
*I received a complimentary eBook copy of this book for my honest review. As always, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.*
August 17, 2021
This book deals with a subject that is not discussed enough among Christians. It is one I will revisit again and again.
September 22, 2018
A wonderful book if you’re like, “why the heck am i so emotional all the time, feel sooo touchy and can’t seem to get my eyes off myself”
anyways, i’d highly recommend !!
thanks, jared!
anyways, i’d highly recommend !!
thanks, jared!
August 21, 2024
This is my second time reading this book and it was just as gentle, helpful, and encouraging as I remember. Sinclair Ferguson puts it well: "The best books work on us while we are reading them, and help effect the very transformation they describe. This is one of them." I think a large part of its effectiveness is how saturated it is in Scripture. My absorption of the concepts in this book was also *greatly* helped this time around by discussing it with friends who were also reading it.
A few things really impacted me. Number one: Weakness is not sin. Being a human - having limits to my energy and time and emotional capacity - is not wrong, but I'm one of many Christians who feel false guilt over these things. But the wonderful news is that God "does not intend for us to go through life this way" (pg. 66). Guilt has no place in the life of a Christian because Jesus forgives every real sin and works through every weakness for our good: "Sin is to be repented of, while weaknesses and limitations are to be boasted in" (pg. 74).
Number two - and this was a mind blowing idea to me - maybe don't choose the times that you feel really tired or depressed to engage in heavy introspection? "We often engage in self-evaluation when our discouragement and unruly emotions drive us there. We are low on sleep, we are worn down by responsibilities and busyness, and we apparently think that is the perfect time to solve all the problems of our souls" (pg. 81). Rather, Mellinger proposes that times of introspection should be regular, short, and purposeful. And "If it leads to discouragement, it is not healthy self-examination" (pg. 87).
Third, I want to "Learn to celebrate even the smallest acts of obedience" (pg. 96). God looks at me far more lovingly and accurately and with more pleasure than I look at myself. He rejoices in any movement in my life towards him: "our lives are fundamentally pleasing to God" because Jesus has died for my sins and taken away my punishment. I don't need to put myself through the ringer at the end of every day, and it is not humble of me to live more aware of my flaws than God's delight and love for me. He's not just waiting for me to arrive at some perfect point when I do everything he wants me to do; he's pleased with me NOW. A balanced way to think of myself involves acknowledging (and rejoicing in!) his work in my life, which is always present even if I feel like I'm failing at everything. I love that quote from J. C. Ryle that Mellinger uses: "His eye can discern excellence in the least thing which is a fruit of his own Spirit. He can pick out the grains of gold from amid the dross of your performances..."
There are many, many more things I'd love to say about this book, but I hope this review piques someone's interest enough to read it themselves. For me, it's one of those life-changing books that kind of alters your view of the world by a couple degrees. My life is not meant to be primarily oriented towards getting through struggles or mastering my sin, but to relationship with Jesus, and there's so much freedom and joy in that realization. Considering him, as Hebrews 12 urges us to do, is so much better than considering my own failings all the time! "Even when our eyes drift from him, his eyes remain fixed upon us in love. When our hearts wander from him, his heart remains set on us. When we are tempted to give up, he assures us that he will never give up on us" (pg. 167).
A few things really impacted me. Number one: Weakness is not sin. Being a human - having limits to my energy and time and emotional capacity - is not wrong, but I'm one of many Christians who feel false guilt over these things. But the wonderful news is that God "does not intend for us to go through life this way" (pg. 66). Guilt has no place in the life of a Christian because Jesus forgives every real sin and works through every weakness for our good: "Sin is to be repented of, while weaknesses and limitations are to be boasted in" (pg. 74).
Number two - and this was a mind blowing idea to me - maybe don't choose the times that you feel really tired or depressed to engage in heavy introspection? "We often engage in self-evaluation when our discouragement and unruly emotions drive us there. We are low on sleep, we are worn down by responsibilities and busyness, and we apparently think that is the perfect time to solve all the problems of our souls" (pg. 81). Rather, Mellinger proposes that times of introspection should be regular, short, and purposeful. And "If it leads to discouragement, it is not healthy self-examination" (pg. 87).
Third, I want to "Learn to celebrate even the smallest acts of obedience" (pg. 96). God looks at me far more lovingly and accurately and with more pleasure than I look at myself. He rejoices in any movement in my life towards him: "our lives are fundamentally pleasing to God" because Jesus has died for my sins and taken away my punishment. I don't need to put myself through the ringer at the end of every day, and it is not humble of me to live more aware of my flaws than God's delight and love for me. He's not just waiting for me to arrive at some perfect point when I do everything he wants me to do; he's pleased with me NOW. A balanced way to think of myself involves acknowledging (and rejoicing in!) his work in my life, which is always present even if I feel like I'm failing at everything. I love that quote from J. C. Ryle that Mellinger uses: "His eye can discern excellence in the least thing which is a fruit of his own Spirit. He can pick out the grains of gold from amid the dross of your performances..."
There are many, many more things I'd love to say about this book, but I hope this review piques someone's interest enough to read it themselves. For me, it's one of those life-changing books that kind of alters your view of the world by a couple degrees. My life is not meant to be primarily oriented towards getting through struggles or mastering my sin, but to relationship with Jesus, and there's so much freedom and joy in that realization. Considering him, as Hebrews 12 urges us to do, is so much better than considering my own failings all the time! "Even when our eyes drift from him, his eyes remain fixed upon us in love. When our hearts wander from him, his heart remains set on us. When we are tempted to give up, he assures us that he will never give up on us" (pg. 167).
February 12, 2023
Think Again (Review)
Stop for a second and think about the description you’d give of a narcissistic person. What characteristics describe that type of person? Maybe self-absorbed, big-headed, overly confident, highly-opinionated, and self-assured. Very few people would aspire to this state of vainglory! However, Jared Mellinger’s book, Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection, turns our definition on it’s head by showing that narcissism can look very different. Consider the person whose self-absorption manifests itself in constantly looking at his own flaws, feelings, and perspectives about his life and the people around him. In Think Again, Mellinger provides witty, practical, and pastoral insight for those who suffer from the burden of hyper introspection.
As I perused the pages of Think Again, I couldn’t help but release a major sigh of relief. For so long I’ve felt as though nobody understands the tangled mess of thoughts I live in each and everyday. It seemed as though Mellinger dug to the depths of my introspective heart and unearthed the sin issues which have been buried beneath 28 years of a hyper-negative self view. Mellinger’s main aim is not to get introspective people to think less (or more highly) of themselves but rather to think more soberly and less often about themselves. Pride can be found in openly self-absorbed people, but it is just as easily found in those who can’t escape their thoughts for long enough to be present in their life circumstances. Many introspective people think looking inward will solve their problems. This is far from right, and it actually leads them away from the solution.
What is the solution? If a woman walks around with her head down, staring at the grass, she can never see the awe-inspiring beauty of a spring afternoon or the humbling splendor of a starlit night. We would be wise to say to her, “Look up and look around! There’s so much out there for you to see!” Similarly, Mellinger calls readers to “Look up!”. We should take 10 looks at Christ for every one look at ourselves. We should see Christ and His work in us when we look in the mirror. We should literally look around and see the God-glorifying scenery around us. We should look to love and serve God and others through a gospel-centered community rather than looking at ourselves.
Think Again comes with my highest recommendation for Christian living and counseling. If you battle with introspection or know anybody who struggles with it, purchase this book for yourself and others! The questions at the end of each chapter are extremely helpful and engaging. Don’t miss out on this excellent resource! Once again, New Growth Press hits a homerun!
Second Full Read (2023):
I need to read this yearly since I'm prone to introspection. Such a powerful and practical book. Get this book if you need help getting out of your head! Very rich truths about Jesus and how to find life in Christ!
Stop for a second and think about the description you’d give of a narcissistic person. What characteristics describe that type of person? Maybe self-absorbed, big-headed, overly confident, highly-opinionated, and self-assured. Very few people would aspire to this state of vainglory! However, Jared Mellinger’s book, Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection, turns our definition on it’s head by showing that narcissism can look very different. Consider the person whose self-absorption manifests itself in constantly looking at his own flaws, feelings, and perspectives about his life and the people around him. In Think Again, Mellinger provides witty, practical, and pastoral insight for those who suffer from the burden of hyper introspection.
As I perused the pages of Think Again, I couldn’t help but release a major sigh of relief. For so long I’ve felt as though nobody understands the tangled mess of thoughts I live in each and everyday. It seemed as though Mellinger dug to the depths of my introspective heart and unearthed the sin issues which have been buried beneath 28 years of a hyper-negative self view. Mellinger’s main aim is not to get introspective people to think less (or more highly) of themselves but rather to think more soberly and less often about themselves. Pride can be found in openly self-absorbed people, but it is just as easily found in those who can’t escape their thoughts for long enough to be present in their life circumstances. Many introspective people think looking inward will solve their problems. This is far from right, and it actually leads them away from the solution.
What is the solution? If a woman walks around with her head down, staring at the grass, she can never see the awe-inspiring beauty of a spring afternoon or the humbling splendor of a starlit night. We would be wise to say to her, “Look up and look around! There’s so much out there for you to see!” Similarly, Mellinger calls readers to “Look up!”. We should take 10 looks at Christ for every one look at ourselves. We should see Christ and His work in us when we look in the mirror. We should literally look around and see the God-glorifying scenery around us. We should look to love and serve God and others through a gospel-centered community rather than looking at ourselves.
Think Again comes with my highest recommendation for Christian living and counseling. If you battle with introspection or know anybody who struggles with it, purchase this book for yourself and others! The questions at the end of each chapter are extremely helpful and engaging. Don’t miss out on this excellent resource! Once again, New Growth Press hits a homerun!
Second Full Read (2023):
I need to read this yearly since I'm prone to introspection. Such a powerful and practical book. Get this book if you need help getting out of your head! Very rich truths about Jesus and how to find life in Christ!
November 29, 2024
Think Again by Jared Mellinger is definitely going on my re-read list. The solid, biblical, gospel-centered exhortations in this book were incredibly helpful for someone like me who tends to be overly introspective. The later chapters really brought everything together, and out of the several books I’ve been reading on this topic, this one resonated with me the most, addressing a deep and fundamental issue.
I hope it blesses you as it did me.
“May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the steadfastness of Christ.”
— 2 Thessalonians 3:5
I hope it blesses you as it did me.
“May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the steadfastness of Christ.”
— 2 Thessalonians 3:5
May 8, 2017
I had high expectations for this book, given the topic and the author, and I was not disappointed one bit. Through engaging, winsome, and creative writing, Jared reveals the problem, the gift, and the insufficiency of introspection in the life of a believer. The last few chapters are the best. I learned so much through this book and I love Jesus more because of it. Will definitely read it again.
June 13, 2020
Very encouraging and much needed for me. It encouraged me to take 10 looks at Christ for every look I take at myself! Great practical and theological reasons for doing this, and practical tips about how to go about it.
November 13, 2025
An exceptionally helpful book for me. This book gathers up a lot of biblical counsel my personality type needs to hear and delivers it all in one place with humility, insight, pastoral care, and wisdom. It paired very well with "Deeper" by Dane Ortlund, which I also read this fall. Here are a few of my biggest takeaways from the book.
- The Christian life is not primarily one of introspection but of radical "extro-spection," that is, looking to Jesus. This daily looking to Jesus is life and health to my soul. I cannot lead and maintain my sanity without it. This was the primary lesson and takeaway.
- "For every look at yourself, take ten looks at Christ." (M'Cheyne) I will probably start to use this as one of my mottos for life—to use it almost as if it were a math equation the equilibrium of which is necessary if I am to maintain my peace and joy.
- I want to read more worshipful theology. I am launching next into "Knowing God" by Packer. I have also bookmarked the list of Puritan Mellinger recommends on p. 157.
- The reminder to get outside and enjoy nature when I feel stressed
- God's assessment of me is often more gracious than my own assessment of myself (p. 72—mind blown, and yet, I think it is true!). I have noticed myself begin to read Scripture more with this perspective. For instance, when I see God's promised blessings on the righteous, I do not merely think, "I need to be more righteous in order to get that," but also (and perhaps even more fundamentally) "Praise God for promising that to me even though I don't deserve it!"
- In general, through this book and "Deeper," I realized that behind my struggle with pride and selfish ambition is an even deeper struggle with insecurity. This insight was extremely helpful because diagnosing my struggle as such leads to the conclusion that focusing more on myself or being stronger can never be the answer. Instead, I must focus on the Lord, what He has promised, and what He says about me.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles like I do.
- The Christian life is not primarily one of introspection but of radical "extro-spection," that is, looking to Jesus. This daily looking to Jesus is life and health to my soul. I cannot lead and maintain my sanity without it. This was the primary lesson and takeaway.
- "For every look at yourself, take ten looks at Christ." (M'Cheyne) I will probably start to use this as one of my mottos for life—to use it almost as if it were a math equation the equilibrium of which is necessary if I am to maintain my peace and joy.
- I want to read more worshipful theology. I am launching next into "Knowing God" by Packer. I have also bookmarked the list of Puritan Mellinger recommends on p. 157.
- The reminder to get outside and enjoy nature when I feel stressed
- God's assessment of me is often more gracious than my own assessment of myself (p. 72—mind blown, and yet, I think it is true!). I have noticed myself begin to read Scripture more with this perspective. For instance, when I see God's promised blessings on the righteous, I do not merely think, "I need to be more righteous in order to get that," but also (and perhaps even more fundamentally) "Praise God for promising that to me even though I don't deserve it!"
- In general, through this book and "Deeper," I realized that behind my struggle with pride and selfish ambition is an even deeper struggle with insecurity. This insight was extremely helpful because diagnosing my struggle as such leads to the conclusion that focusing more on myself or being stronger can never be the answer. Instead, I must focus on the Lord, what He has promised, and what He says about me.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles like I do.
November 5, 2019
I am an overthinker, which leads to being a worrier and being an anxious person. Or I should say, I WAS an overthinker, I WAS a worrier, I WAS an anxious person. The two things that led me to peace with my thoughts was God and His Word, who taught me to bring my thoughts captive to Him and to learn to control them and secondly, this book, "Think Again" which helped me to understand why I was an overthinker, the consequences of being an overthinker and also gave me practical ways to bring my thoughts captive and to control them.
The following are just a few descriptions of an overthinker that I related to in this book:
"I felt trapped in a vortex of self-focused thoughts...."
“........much of our distress comes from excessive introspection. We are always turning inward, orienting our minds and emotions around ourselves. We are continually putting our souls on a plate and dissecting them.”
“My self-reflection usually leaves me feeling beat-up and worn-out.”
The following are a few nuggets from this book that changed my life:
What we need to hear when introspection has run amok, and we are wounding ourselves by studying ourselves: “Forget yourself and think only of Christ.”
We must seek after and pray for the peace and joy – the sanity – that comes from thinking about ourselves less often.
There is a lot of joy to be found in life by thinking about ourselves less often..........discover the freedom of escaping condemnation, of removing the daily burden of false guilt, of avoiding the snare of the fear of man and the unhelpful comparisons that constantly trip us up.
There is something appealing about a soul that delights in the Lord, serves others gladly, laughs at the days to come, and thinks far less often about how everything relates to self. This is who God made us to be.
The following are just a few descriptions of an overthinker that I related to in this book:
"I felt trapped in a vortex of self-focused thoughts...."
“........much of our distress comes from excessive introspection. We are always turning inward, orienting our minds and emotions around ourselves. We are continually putting our souls on a plate and dissecting them.”
“My self-reflection usually leaves me feeling beat-up and worn-out.”
The following are a few nuggets from this book that changed my life:
What we need to hear when introspection has run amok, and we are wounding ourselves by studying ourselves: “Forget yourself and think only of Christ.”
We must seek after and pray for the peace and joy – the sanity – that comes from thinking about ourselves less often.
There is a lot of joy to be found in life by thinking about ourselves less often..........discover the freedom of escaping condemnation, of removing the daily burden of false guilt, of avoiding the snare of the fear of man and the unhelpful comparisons that constantly trip us up.
There is something appealing about a soul that delights in the Lord, serves others gladly, laughs at the days to come, and thinks far less often about how everything relates to self. This is who God made us to be.
May 24, 2023
My Thoughts:
Jared Mellinger is quick to explain in the introduction: introspection and self-examination is okay. "The Bible commends self-examination and self-reflection." However, some people examine themselves too much and are exhausted by insecure thoughts, critical words, and second guessing. They become hyper-focused on what is circulating in their brain. This is not what God intended. Page two, states who the book is written for: people who are stressed and tired from introspection, caregivers of those who are burdened by introspection, and to teach what God wants us to know about introspection.
Several reasons led me to give Think Again an excellent rating:
A solid introduction. Mellinger states who the book is written to and why it was written.
Quotes from classic Christian authors. For example: Charles Spurgeon, Martyn-Lloyd Jones, John Calvin, Johnathan Edwards, J I Packer, J C Ryle, John Bunyan, John Newton, Paul Tripp, C S Lewis, and Tim Keller.
An early statement in the book got my attention: "We must stop looking at ourselves so much and learn to enjoy Christ." Page nine. This is something we know in our mind but do not carry over in living it out.
"We tend to base the way we feel about ourselves on our appearance, our performance, or how we measure up against others." Page 25. This is another convicting and teachable point.
Chapter four defines why we self-examine. "One reason we look inward is because we know it is a necessary part of the Christian life." Page 43.
Several scripture verses are given in chapter four to reflect on the reason it is necessary to examine self: 2 Corinthians 13:5, Lamentations 3:40, 1 Timothy 4:16, Proverbs 4:23, Ephesians 5:15, and Romans 12:3.
Subtopics in chapter four: "A desire to honor God", "An introverted personality", "The pursuit of peace and joy", "Dwelling on our sin", "Seeking the cause of suffering", "The pride of self-absorption".
The strongest point, and question, in the book is on page 87: What does self-examination "produce in us?" Discouragement is really a selfish attitude. "The more humbled we are about our sin, the less discouraged we will be about our sin. Humility always leads to comfort in Christ; discouragement leaves us in our misery." Page 88.
My favorite quote, and one I think of often: "We must learn to see grace in the mirror." Page 93. Instead of seeing the bad in our lives, look for where God is at work. Look at what God has already accomplished in us through His grace. Amen!
Source: Free copy from New Growth Press and Litfuse Publicity Group.
My second reread/review:
My Thoughts:
This is a reread for me. I’ve read this book twice. The first time in 2017.
“The goal of this book is to show how the gospel rescues us from fruitless self-examination, false guilt, discouragement, and inaccurate thoughts of ourselves.”
“Introspection is the act of looking inward. When we introspect, we are observing ourselves and reflecting on our thoughts, emotions, actions, and identity…The Bible commends self-examination and self-reflection…But most of us lean toward extremes.”
Theses quotes are from the introduction (page 1) and set the tone for a very good book.
He states he has written this book for people who tend to go to the extreme in introspection. He hopes all people will benefit.
Several things I love about this book.
In the introduction, Mellinger shares what each chapter will hold. Its topics. He calls it a “roadmap of our journey.”
It is a benefit to have a heavy subject, topics, and themes be short in page numbers. The amount of pages in this book are 192.
As a Christian, our minds should be focused completely on Christ Jesus and not “preoccupied with ourselves.”
I love the people he chooses to quote in the book on this subject. Some examples, David Powlison, C.H. Spurgeon, Francis A. Schaeffer, and Paul David Tripp.
I love the questions for discussion and reflection at the end of each chapter.
I love the focus on Scripture.
I love the conviction that some of his teachings brought to my heart. The conviction did not stop at that point but pointed away from myself and to Scripture and Christ Jesus.
I love chapter 11 because of its focus on thanksgiving. This chapter holds quotes from Spurgeon and the poet Gerard Manley Hopkins.
I love chapter 12 because it reminds me that: “Being part of a church reminds us that we are a part of something bigger than ourselves.” Page 146.
I wish the book had a chapter about when the Holy Spirit brings things to our mind for reflection and conviction and processing with an apt response to these.
I wish the book had a study guide to go along with the book.
I’d love an ending page with all the Scriptures in this book on one page for reference. I feel that having a compiled list will help in combating the negative intrusive thoughts. Negative thoughts out and Scripture in.
Some of my favorite quotes:
“How do we come to know ourselves? Excessive introspection often has its roots in the faulty idea that self-knowledge, self-confidence, self-discover, and self-actualization come as we look at ourselves. But what if the best way to know ourselves is not by looking inward?”
“Only when the idol of self is removed can the proud become humble and the insecure become confident.” Page 38.
“Temperament is not what defines us most deeply, but understanding our temperament can help us understand some of the temptations and inward struggles we might face. Personality plays a factor in how much we are inclined to think about ourselves. Introverts are naturally self-reflective and contemplative.” Page 44.
“In Hebrews 12 we are encouraged to run with endurance. The Christian life is not a sprint; it is a long-distance race. And weariness is common along the way.” Page 164.
Format: E-book in pdf.
Source: I received a complimentary e-book/pdf copy from New Growth Press. I am not required to write a positive review.
Audience: Christian readers with an interest in changing negative excessive thoughts.
Rating: Very good.
Jared Mellinger is quick to explain in the introduction: introspection and self-examination is okay. "The Bible commends self-examination and self-reflection." However, some people examine themselves too much and are exhausted by insecure thoughts, critical words, and second guessing. They become hyper-focused on what is circulating in their brain. This is not what God intended. Page two, states who the book is written for: people who are stressed and tired from introspection, caregivers of those who are burdened by introspection, and to teach what God wants us to know about introspection.
Several reasons led me to give Think Again an excellent rating:
A solid introduction. Mellinger states who the book is written to and why it was written.
Quotes from classic Christian authors. For example: Charles Spurgeon, Martyn-Lloyd Jones, John Calvin, Johnathan Edwards, J I Packer, J C Ryle, John Bunyan, John Newton, Paul Tripp, C S Lewis, and Tim Keller.
An early statement in the book got my attention: "We must stop looking at ourselves so much and learn to enjoy Christ." Page nine. This is something we know in our mind but do not carry over in living it out.
"We tend to base the way we feel about ourselves on our appearance, our performance, or how we measure up against others." Page 25. This is another convicting and teachable point.
Chapter four defines why we self-examine. "One reason we look inward is because we know it is a necessary part of the Christian life." Page 43.
Several scripture verses are given in chapter four to reflect on the reason it is necessary to examine self: 2 Corinthians 13:5, Lamentations 3:40, 1 Timothy 4:16, Proverbs 4:23, Ephesians 5:15, and Romans 12:3.
Subtopics in chapter four: "A desire to honor God", "An introverted personality", "The pursuit of peace and joy", "Dwelling on our sin", "Seeking the cause of suffering", "The pride of self-absorption".
The strongest point, and question, in the book is on page 87: What does self-examination "produce in us?" Discouragement is really a selfish attitude. "The more humbled we are about our sin, the less discouraged we will be about our sin. Humility always leads to comfort in Christ; discouragement leaves us in our misery." Page 88.
My favorite quote, and one I think of often: "We must learn to see grace in the mirror." Page 93. Instead of seeing the bad in our lives, look for where God is at work. Look at what God has already accomplished in us through His grace. Amen!
Source: Free copy from New Growth Press and Litfuse Publicity Group.
My second reread/review:
My Thoughts:
This is a reread for me. I’ve read this book twice. The first time in 2017.
“The goal of this book is to show how the gospel rescues us from fruitless self-examination, false guilt, discouragement, and inaccurate thoughts of ourselves.”
“Introspection is the act of looking inward. When we introspect, we are observing ourselves and reflecting on our thoughts, emotions, actions, and identity…The Bible commends self-examination and self-reflection…But most of us lean toward extremes.”
Theses quotes are from the introduction (page 1) and set the tone for a very good book.
He states he has written this book for people who tend to go to the extreme in introspection. He hopes all people will benefit.
Several things I love about this book.
In the introduction, Mellinger shares what each chapter will hold. Its topics. He calls it a “roadmap of our journey.”
It is a benefit to have a heavy subject, topics, and themes be short in page numbers. The amount of pages in this book are 192.
As a Christian, our minds should be focused completely on Christ Jesus and not “preoccupied with ourselves.”
I love the people he chooses to quote in the book on this subject. Some examples, David Powlison, C.H. Spurgeon, Francis A. Schaeffer, and Paul David Tripp.
I love the questions for discussion and reflection at the end of each chapter.
I love the focus on Scripture.
I love the conviction that some of his teachings brought to my heart. The conviction did not stop at that point but pointed away from myself and to Scripture and Christ Jesus.
I love chapter 11 because of its focus on thanksgiving. This chapter holds quotes from Spurgeon and the poet Gerard Manley Hopkins.
I love chapter 12 because it reminds me that: “Being part of a church reminds us that we are a part of something bigger than ourselves.” Page 146.
I wish the book had a chapter about when the Holy Spirit brings things to our mind for reflection and conviction and processing with an apt response to these.
I wish the book had a study guide to go along with the book.
I’d love an ending page with all the Scriptures in this book on one page for reference. I feel that having a compiled list will help in combating the negative intrusive thoughts. Negative thoughts out and Scripture in.
Some of my favorite quotes:
“How do we come to know ourselves? Excessive introspection often has its roots in the faulty idea that self-knowledge, self-confidence, self-discover, and self-actualization come as we look at ourselves. But what if the best way to know ourselves is not by looking inward?”
“Only when the idol of self is removed can the proud become humble and the insecure become confident.” Page 38.
“Temperament is not what defines us most deeply, but understanding our temperament can help us understand some of the temptations and inward struggles we might face. Personality plays a factor in how much we are inclined to think about ourselves. Introverts are naturally self-reflective and contemplative.” Page 44.
“In Hebrews 12 we are encouraged to run with endurance. The Christian life is not a sprint; it is a long-distance race. And weariness is common along the way.” Page 164.
Format: E-book in pdf.
Source: I received a complimentary e-book/pdf copy from New Growth Press. I am not required to write a positive review.
Audience: Christian readers with an interest in changing negative excessive thoughts.
Rating: Very good.
May 12, 2017
This was a different and out of the box read for me. But I am glad I read it. This book was insightful, thoughtful, a bit provocative, and thought provoking. I especially liked the part where it said that evaluating yourself is good and healthy, but too much of it can be damaging (paraphrasing here). If you are introspective (introverted, shy, not outgoing), this is a great book for you. I am more of an ambivert so this book did apply to me at times. There were times where I was reading and thought, "oh..yeah..*nodding in agreement*". I really liked that it was easy to read, cohesively balanced, and heuristic for today's world.
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October 23, 2024
This was the most applicable theology book I’ve ever read. Mellinger gives us our problems, that either we over analyze ourselves or under analyze, and then points us directly to the solution: Christ. He even shows you hOw Christ is the solution and how you can get peace through Him. This was an easy read, but still thick with great theology, and quotes from great theologians. I wish I would have read this when I was an insecure 13 year old, and I would definitely recommend this to anyone of any age. It reminds us that we do nOt need to wallow in our sins and shortcomings, but that we need to be reminded of Christ’s work in redeeming and forgiving us. It even shows us we shouldn’t be insecure in the silly ways we are insecure in, like how people see us or how we look.
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