whenever you feel hopeless, all you need to do is go outside and realize that you have been molded into human form for some reason. You are somewhere you may never be again. Your actions, no matter how inconsequential you think they may be, have been essential.Pain is part of the process. It’s part of the miraculousness. You see it when light shines through storm clouds, in the refracting lights of supernovas, in the fact that you must be in a physical state to comprehend the physical things around you—sight, sound, material. But it is also those senses that facilitate your pain. All of these things are rooted in suffering, and yet they all yield the miraculous. So be here. Be part of what you’re sewn into. Bloom where you’re planted. Be aware of the greatness that you are and realize that without you, the seaming of this mysteriously interconnected world would cease to exist as it is. Hope is never gone; it’s just ignored.
Although it’s not to discredit people’s feelings and how very real and very painful some experiences can be. Your perspective is valid and real, and you are allowed to feel however you feel about what’s happening in your life. It’s not to say that just looking at it from another point of view will be an instant fix for your troubles. It may just, for the lack of a better phrase, put into perspective that life is subjective, temporary and fleeting, sometimes terribly painful but also extraordinarily beautiful…all at the same time.
It’s when you can look back and say, hey, I may not be okay with the fact that that happened, and I may not ever be, but there are new things in my mind and heart. New things to take my energy and attention. Things that actually deserve it. Things that don’t force me into having to accept anything I don’t want to or move on. Acceptance is tomorrow. Even if the pain is still there, you realize it may always be, and somehow, that’s okay.Regardless of the feelings that linger, if you have no other options, tomorrow, acceptance is where you need to be. Accept the new things that come into your life, or put new things in your life, if you need to. Tomorrow can be your small quiet room; you just have to take a step in there.
The way to stop hate is to stop hating. Be better. Never stop seeking the extraordinary. Never forget your role as a creator of your own life. You choose tomorrow, and you create what is. Make sure it’s what you want. Be happy. I love you. Find other people that love you as well. Be with them.
Life is not a series of problems to be solved; it’s a journey that you should be fascinated by. Sit back and observe as you live. Signs and directions and messages are everywhere, if you only pay attention. Follow them; they know where you’re going. To hell with logic. Love isn’t logical, nor are miracles. You can’t let go because you’re worried that if you do, what you’re so desperately hoping for will fall apart. I have news for you. You’re tearing it down yourself. Make way for the bigger, the better, the reckoning, the miraculous and the beautiful. It’s ready for you when you are.
Today someone told me to picture my life at 40. I did. Most of it, I liked. There were parts I didn’t. I sat for a few minutes, worrying about these aspects of my future life, and a realization hit me across the face. I have to change these things now. This is the life I’m going to live if I stay on the same path. I can change. I will change. I do choose otherwise. That life I pictured today will be a ghost that I forget about because I’ll have more important things happening. Why? Because fate is an act of your own volition.
Happy people know that everything is fleeting. They know that the struggles they face will pass, but at the same time, they also know that the great things that are in their lives will pass as well. Happy people live in the moment. Happy people don’t call themselves “happy people” or think of themselves that way. They define happiness as a sense of peacefulness and contentment mixed with pursuing their deepest passions. This is what happy people know.
They know that few things matter more than how much you love everyone, starting with yourself. They know that loving yourself means respecting yourself and doing for yourself what will make you the best “you” possible. They know that nothing should be taken too seriously, and that all they give will be returned to them twofold. They know that there is a greater plan and a higher force. They live in awe and wonder of the universe and try to maintain a sense of childlike wonder. Happy people choose happiness because they choose to do what will best facilitate it. If they’re struggling with depression, they choose to get help from a professional, or whatever else they may need to get through it. They choose to help themselves, to be brave, and to accept things they can’t change, even when it seems most impossible. Because more than anything, happy people know that happiness is never sedentary. They acknowledge all of their emotions and are equally grateful to experience them all. Happy people immerse themselves in the physical life they have now, knowing it’s not permanent.
And they all started their journeys as broken people, whether they self-destructed or had unfortunate circumstances or life events come upon them. I know, because I am one of these self-destructing people turned happy. Happy people know suffering more than anyone else, and that’s how they can see just how damn beautiful their lives are. It’s because they’ve seen the depths.
Happiness, in my opinion, is making your mind a more interesting place to live in. It does not mean eternal joy, because that is simply not realistic and if joy were constant it would become the norm and therefore we would be desensitized to it. Happiness is to generate enthusiasm and ignite curiosity. Happiness is the desire to continue to experience. The times in my life when I am the most happy are when I am interested in something (living a passion) and I’m so engrossed in how this passion intrigues me that my other concerns seem to fall to the wayside. I’m not saying this makes happiness more attainable, but I am saying that it makes it attainable. Our lives will never be constant, steady or predictable. Joy will come and go, as will sorrow and suffering. What makes all of it worthwhile is feeling as though you have a purpose and discovering that which compels your mind and soul.I also believe that an element of happiness is acceptance of what you cannot change, but I don’t think it’s as pertinent as interest is. This, I believe, because there will always be something new to accept.
There will always be something you are dissatisfied with, disappointed by or suffering from. This will not cease. Acceptance, while very important, will not solely bring you happiness, although it will bring peace, which is a crucial factor. Acceptance in combination with interest will. What is love if not just interest, fascination, enthusiasm and the desire to continue an experience with someone? It is not a sustained sense of joy, although joyousness is a part of the experience of love. And when people say you have to love yourself, it means just that: Be interested in what you’re doing, be enthusiastic for what you will do and desire to continue the experience that you’re having.
Let yourself let go of what keeps you all pretzeled up inside. Easier said than done, I know, I know. But I know I wish I could have told myself that I was literally wasting my time being worried about things that worrying could not change. Things will, without exception, work out how they are supposed to, and although it’s a cliché, you have to understand how true it is. You also have to trust it.
Don’t let anybody else dictate how you feel about yourself or what you do with your life. You are not a democracy. Nobody else gets a vote. Taking the opinions of others into consideration and letting them dictate your decision are two completely different animals, and you have to understand how to do the former without the latter. Nobody has to live in your body or live your life, so make decisions for your own sake.
If you don’t have a relationship with your parents or family members. People will always advise that you make peace and rekindle relationships, and understandably so. A strong familial support system is fantastic if you have it. But here’s the thing: Sometimes distancing yourself from people is the best thing you can do. You can make a family of your own choosing. Sometimes the people we are genetically related to happen to be incapable of loving us and their presence in our lives isn’t worth it. It’s for you to judge.
This too shall pass.” The pain will pass, but so will the other things that you may not always have around to enjoy. It’s just a simple reminder that everything is fleeting and temporary.
Always consider what you would do if money were no object in your life. We are controlled by our need for money. It can be very difficult to differentiate what you want from your life from what you need simply because in our society you need money to survive. It may not always be practical, but it will always be beneficial to consider what we’d do with our lives if we were just here to be and all our needs were taken care of. It will help you to define yourself for who you are, not what you are conditioned to be. You usually know what the right thing to do is. It’s just a matter of having the courage to do it. More often than not, you do have the answer. It’s just a matter of having the courage to do what you know you should.
Life is never clearly black and white; it’s most often a masterpiece of greys that make it dynamic and complex and interesting. You shouldn’t want it any other way. Uncertainty is nothing to run from. It keeps you guessing, trying different things and going down paths you wouldn’t have otherwise. Be patient.