Iyanla Vanzant's wildly popular workshops, lectures, and books are all focused on one thing: getting your life together. The author of such highly successful works as Acts of Faith, In the Meantime and Yesterday, I Cried, Vanzant has touched the lives of men and women all over the world. Part of Vanzant's appeal is that she always speaks from personal experience, sharing her own past traumas and heartaches with her audience. She is not afraid to admit her fears, her mistakes, and her faults, because she has triumphed over them. Her inspirational words are designed to help her audience achieve this as well, through some soul-searching of its own.
One Day My Soul Just Opened Up is Vanzant's program for personal healing and transformation. There are daily meditations, each broken up into a section for the morning and one for the evening, covering such topics as self-love, truth, peacefulness, and trust. By encouraging listeners to write their thoughts in a journal each evening, Vanzant aims to draw out the most elusive inner emotions and conflicts. This introspective act of journaling, which has been recognized in recent studies by the medical community as an important method of healing, helps the listener apply Vanzant's advice to daily life.
Vanzant's voice rings out with optimism and strength, making the audio edition a unique experience. The powerful emotional convictions that have shaped Vanzant into a renowned speaker and author are revealed in her warm, expressive tone. Her insight, experience, and caring will guide listeners to let go of all thepettycomplexes and anxieties that prevent them from attaining peace of mind.
In Peace From Broken Pieces New York Times best-selling author Iyanla Vanzant she recounts the last decade of her life and the spiritual lessons learnedfrom the price of success during her meteoric rise as a TV celebrity on Oprah, the Iyanla TV show (produced by Barbara Walters), to the dissolution of her marriage and her daughters 15 months of illness and death on Christmas day. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, Iyanla shares why everything we need to learn is reflected in our relationships and the strength and wisdom she has gained by supporting others in their journeys to make sense out of the puzzle pieces of their lives. "
In Nov 1998 and through to March 9, 1999 – I read and worked with a book by Iyanla Vanzant, called: One Day my Soul Just Opened Up. It was recommended to me by a dear friend, MaryAnn Kluga, and it was SO helpful. Here is a piece of the poem she read to me over the phone that convinced me to go find it, buy it, and do it. "You are now put on notice that... YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED!"
"One day, my soul just opened up and out poured all the things I'd been hiding and denying and living through that had just happened moments before.
One day, my soul just opened up and I decided I was good and ready! I was good and ready to surrender my life to God.
So, with my soul wide open, I sat down wrote Her a note and told her so."
Everyday is a new experience with mind renewal. Thinking that we know ourselves and actually knowing ourselves are two different things. I believe that reading this book brings that reality into focus.
got a copy of this when i turned 18.. a gift from a childhood friend.. truly an inspiring book that opened my soul to possibilities of LIFE and to grow in spirit with HIM..
One Day My Soul Just Opened Up: 40 Days and 40 Nights Toward Spiritual Strength and Personal Growth is mostly filler. Like the author had a book due her publisher and had to pump it out for deadline.
It's full of worksheets and questions and affirmations like:
I am so GRATEFUL! I am so GRATEFUL! I am so GRATEFUL!
(Well, that'll change your life right there.)
But anyway, although the negatives are strong, there are some absolute gems in this book.
Are you working hard and feeling like you're not getting anywhere? Consider this:
The greatest challenge to the development of patience is being able to wait for the tangible evidence that your efforts are paying off. We have a fixed idea of what we want and what it will look like when it shows up. We hold that idea so firmly that often we are unable to detect that the very thing we want has actually arrived. If it does not look the way we thought it would, or if it does not feel the way we imagined it would, we are unable to detect its presence.
Hey, that's worth the price of the book right there. (But I'm saving you spending it. lol)
And:
One day I decided to take a risk. You must be willing to risk losing everything if you are serious about getting anything. I risked my life, my resources, my need to be right, and the fear of being afraid, and asked God to show me myself as God saw me.
Want more? How about a new definition for "fear"?
Fear only delays fulfillment. It cannot or does not destroy it. Fear is the insidious activity of the belief that there is something that God cannot do or does not know. It is a covert admission that God cannot be trusted and that God's love is not enough to sustain you.
So obviously Vanzant is capable of writing great things. There's just very few of them in this particular book. I'd pass on this one but be open to her other books.
I read the physical copy of this book maybe 20 years ago during a time I really needed to center my life. I just finished listening to the audio on Hoopla, narrated by Iyanla Vanzant, and it was a perfect refresher for my start to the New Year.
This one is also a yummy read. Allows one to keep focused on changing old/outdated/toxic patterns and forging ahead toward the life you want to lead. Excellent read.
This book explores several self-healing concepts over 40 days. It nurtures you by providing morning and evening exercises and important concepts to carry with you and explore throughout the day.
It's all about self-love, nurturing oneself, recognizing and healing old wounds, all in the name of honoring the divine within.
I highly recommend this book and look forward to reading and learning more from this renowned spiritual healer.
I'm sorry to say this was not what I expected. I thought it would be an inspiring read about the author's spiritual transformation, but instead it was part anecdotes, part workbook. The themes were pretty standard in terms of spirituality books, but they're accompanied by stories of the author's own enlightenment born from her own experiences.
I tried to fill in the journal parts at first, but in the end it was too slow a process. I'd like to go back and give it a go some time, but at this stage I just wanted to read a book so it was a nuisance having to read through those parts.
Some of the themes I really appreciated, but others had me rolling my eyes. Same with the anecdotes - some I was really fascinated by, while some had me wondering if they'd actually been made up! I mean, this woman has clearly had an incredibly tumultuous life. And I'm so glad she was able to write her story and express the journey towards her enlightenment but at times I just didn't care. Other times it just felt like the same message was just being said a ton of different ways so it was painfully repetitive.
I don't want this to seem like I'm slamming the book. I think when it comes to spiritual/self-help text you're always going to pick out just the things you need. I think the themes that affected me the most are the ones I need to work on. This will be different for every person and I believe that the reader's stage of spiritual development is going to play a huge role in how well this book is received. I'd probably recommend it to people who are just beginning their spiritial journey, because there is actually a lot to relate to.
I try to keep an open mind when spiritual stuff refers to God, but the overuse in this book left me feeling a little alienated. I don't believe in God, and the powers I believe in are far less present than Vanzant's God. By the end of it, I was kind of tired of being told to trust God and leave everything in his hands. I'm a strong, independent woman, thank you very much, and I believe the spirit of the world observes and influences but that's about it. I like to think I have a little say in who I am and what I'm capable of.
I'd advise readers to take this slow, and work on themes that feel relevent at the time. Skip anything that seems silly, and maybe come back to it when your soul is a little more open.
While it was a bit of a disappointment to me, I can see how this book will benefit others, and I hope I can go back to it one day with a little more understanding and openness. Full props to the author for her honesty, though. What a remarkably strong woman.
I struggle to do this book daily because I have a hard time trying to do something in the morning and at night. I do find that I agree with what it says a lot, I just tend to do most of my daily meditations once a day and not twice a day. It also makes you think a lot because of all the questions it asks.
Great book. It's a must for anyone who has questions that can only be answered by looking within. I give this book to anyone who is having any kind of emotional, spiritual, personal, and financial problems.
I have had this book for quite some time and this was final (third) attempt at reading it, so I am glad that I finished. I am not a big fan of self-help books even though I might benefit from the advice. My problem with Ms. Vanzant's book was I thought that she was talking at me, not to me. Her strategy for self-help with her assignments of what can be taken from her commentaries, I found not pleasurable for a book that I was reading for enlightenment. This is not to say that I did not get anything out of the book because I did.
Her concept of honoring the Divine, left me a somewhat confused. At first, I thought that she was speaking of God, then I thought that she was speaking of self and finally I ascertained that she must be speaking of the spirit of God as flowing through the human being. Ms. Vanzant used her own life experiences as the catalyst for this book. She must have touched on every human emotion as her life seemed quite chaotic before she able to marshal her mental, spiritual and physical forces to make changes in her life's direction. Her book is a a 40 day regimen of spiritual growth.
She makes what she considers working definitions and commentaries on the human emotions that we all experience. For example on Day 19 of her 40 day spiritual journey, she deals with closure. It is the ability to mentally and spiritually move forward or letting go of traumatic events or people. It is how she arrived at closure in place that is mentally and spiritually suited her well being. In other words closing a chapter on life --- a friendship, divorce, death, bad parenting etc.
Another example was dealing with fear (Day 27). Ms. Vanzant related procrastination with fear, which is something that I never considered. She did not expand on why procrastination was fear, but as procrastinator myself, I found this correlation intriguing.. I will reread portions of this book day again.
The author has been through near ever human emotion in her attempt to offer advice. I'm sure that every reader will find one her commentaries that may resonate with them.
Melhores trechos: “…Tenha cuidado, pois por trás da fachada de que ‘está tudo bem’ pode haver um fungo maligno de medo, confusão e tristeza corroendo a alma. À medida que a alma vai sendo corroída, os dias se transformam numa série de tarefas enfadonhas. As pessoas à sua volta tornam-se muletas e vitimas ou passam a ser vistas como opressoras… O processo de mudança para o crescimento nem sempre é agradável. Somos muito estruturados em nossa forma de ser e resistimos ao que nos questiona. Infelizmente, também sentimos culpa e remorso em relação a comportamentos passados. Por isso o processo pode ser doloroso. Por outro lado, fazer uma coisa nova, pensar de uma nova forma, aplicar ativamente essa informação à sua vida e às suas experiências é um processo de aprendizado bastante profundo. Até que os princípios formem uma base de consciência que apoiará suas ações, talvez você ache que nada está acontecendo. Esse desânimo é muito natural, mas confie e siga em frente, acreditando que uma feliz mudança está ocorrendo, mesmo que você não tenha consciência dela. Seja paciente e tolerante, trate-se com a gentileza que teria com um filho amado. Saiba que tudo está funcionando a seu favor. Se você der um passo na direção da luz dessa Energia Universal, ela dará cinco passos por você… Quando você tem coragem bastante para pôr em duvida e examinar aquilo que aprendeu a aceitar como verdadeiro, a sua recompensa será deslumbrante… Como é que você vai saber que encontrou a verdade?… A verdade nos libertará dos temores habituais que o processo da vida nos impõe. A verdade eliminará a necessidade de sermos qualquer coisa além do que já somos. Nós somos divinos. Se estivermos convencidos disso, não precisaremos mais usar unhas e garras para conseguir qualquer coisa nesta vida. A verdade é que já temos dentro de nós tudo aquilo de que precisamos… Quando hesitamos em dar um passo à frente ou em acreditar no que ouvimos ou vemos, precisamos respeitar essa voz interna e examinar melhor a situação… Se quiser saber o que fazer, pergunte, em silencio, ao seu coração. Pergunte muitas vezes. Quando fizer isso, seus atos serão guiados. Você receberá proteção. Pode ser que, em alguns momentos, você não pareça estar fazendo a coisa certa. Você poderá ter dúvidas a seu próprio respeito. Pessoas e situações poderão desafiar você. Em momentos como esse, o Divino pode que você ative a sua confiança. Acredite no que seu coração lhe diz ser verdadeiro. Não tenha medo de ver a verdade de cada situação e de agir de acordo. Confiar no Divino contém um aspecto importante que certamente terá um impacto positivo na sua vida: aprender a reconhecer e a interpretar os sinais que certamente vai receber lhe ajudará a ter mais confiança em você… Rezar é o ato espiritual mais eficaz que uma pessoa pode realizar. Quando a oração é uma expressão verdadeira da nossa crença na presença de Deus, ela acelera a energia mental e emocional que existe dentro de nós… A resistência em fazer aquilo que sabemos que deve ser feito vem do medo. O medo é uma ferramenta do ego. Espertamente disfarçado de resistência, ele apóia a omissão e a fuga. Nós não nos dispomos a errar, a parecer incapazes, a sermos desafiados ou derrotados… Ter coragem de dizer o que pensa e de dizer a verdade através da ótica do amor e não da raiva ou do medo, abrir-se para aceitar o ponto de vista dos outros sem sentimentos de ameaça ou de derrota, abrir mão da necessidade do ego de ter tudo sempre sob controle, dispondo-se a fazer o que for preciso para estabelecer a paz – todas essas são formas de crescimento. Você cresce em agilidade mental, em força espiritual e em vigor divino… Ao enfrentar dificuldades e desafios é preciso se dispor a errar, a dar mais de si, a cair, se levantar e cair outra vez, sabendo que a ajuda divina está sempre próxima… Se você quer sentir paz, comece de uma postura de paz… Na maioria das vezes, o estresse não é causado pelas situações e circunstâncias que enfrentamos, mas pela forma como reagimos às situações… Aceitar as coisas não significa que você aprova o que está acontecendo. E nem significa que essas coisas não estejam tendo impacto sobre você. Aceitar significa que você consegue despir-se melhor da emoção e ter mais objetividade para enxergar o que está acontecendo de fato… É absolutamente necessário inundar sua mente com pensamentos positivos a seu respeito… Aquilo que você não escolher, escolherá você, e o que você temer, encontrará você… A pessoa que se dispõe a escolher conscientemente leva uma enorme vantagem, porque, sempre que perceber que o que foi escolhido não serve para o seu bem, tem a capacidade, o direito e o poder de fazer outra escolha… É fundamental que você se reverencie o suficiente para passar algum tempo na sua própria companhia, longe de todo mundo… A liberdade é um estado mental. Nós a conquistamos quando nos dispomos conscientemente a fazer escolhas de acordo com nosso próprio livre-arbítrio e assumir as conseqüências de nossas escolhas sem censura, vergonha ou culpa… A maioria das coisas com as quais nós nos preocupamos jamais acontecem, e o que acontece de fato poderá chegar de maneira tão inesperada que não precisaríamos ter nos preocupado!… Minha sensação de liberdade foi crescendo à medida que eu me dispunha a fazer o que achava ser certo, mesmo quando as pessoas diziam que eu era louca. Minha liberdade também se reforçou quando resolvi enfrentar o que mais temia. Se você conseguir admitir que tem medo e prosseguir, você se livrará do medo. E quando se livrar do medo, da culpa, das falsas responsabilidades e da necessidade de ter sua importância confirmada pelos outros, você abrirá sua mente para novas escolhas, novas oportunidades e incríveis possibilidades… Quando você tem a tranqüilidade de saber que o que faz pelo outro não lhe causará prejuízo, você atingiu a compaixão… Servir é fazer o que você ama por amor. Este é o trabalho mais rico que existe. Servir é o multiplicador divino. Quando você serve, doando seu tempo, sua energia e seus recursos como um ato de amor, o universo multiplica o que você faz e suas recompensas serão muito maiores do que poderia esperar. Quando nos entregamos a paixão por aquilo que amamos, estamos servindo à humanidade e ao Divino… A confusão pode ser uma reação mental e emocional ao fato de não conseguirmos admitir o que realmente queremos, porque temos medo de não consegui-lo. É como se o cérebro se fechasse… A confusão só diminuirá quando você acreditar realmente que merece aquilo que deseja; que tem o direito de ter a experiência que deseja ter; e que, se esta for para o seu bem maior, você terá, por fim, exatamente aquilo que deseja… Eis o segredo para você jamais se desapontar: quando você realmente quiser uma coisa, não deixe que a responsabilidade para obtê-la recaia sobre outra pessoa… Todo ser humano tem uma responsabilidade junto ao seu Criador de tratar os outros como gostaria de ser tratado, em qualquer situação. Por tais atos, não devemos esperar recompensas ou reconhecimento. O nome disso é ‘amor ao próximo’. Seria bom ser reconhecido, mas é um desajuste acreditar que as pessoas têm uma dádiva pelo que você faz por elas… A paciência é uma demonstração de que você se dispõe a entregar-se total e completamente à sabedoria de Deus… Quando começamos a nos reverenciar e a reverenciar as nossas vidas, passamos a administrar nossa vida com muito mais disciplina. A disciplina não consiste só em fazer ordenadamente, mas em se cuidar com carinho… Para reverenciar a vida, precisamos nos dispor a passar por coisas que ainda não conhecemos, a crescer além daquilo que conhecemos. Para reverenciar a vida, precisamos nos entregar ao processo, a cada momento, nos dando conta de que uma nova trama está se desenrolando, que um novo personagem pode estar prestes a entrar em cena. Ao reverenciarmos a vida, precisamos dar crédito ao divino diretor, produto e criador dessa montagem ao vivo, reconhecendo e aceitando que Ele conhece o final e o papel que precisamos desempenhar. O Divino nos ajudará a desenvolver o personagem… O objetivo desta vida e de todas as nossas experiências não é fazer de nós o que achamos que deveríamos ser. É o desdobramento do que já somos. Já somos seres poderosos, divinos, sábios e amorosos. Somos assim porque o espírito do Divino existe dentro de nós… O segredo é o seguinte: em vez de dizer a Deus o que você deseja, peça a Ele que lhe mostre o que está reservado para você. A seguir, peça Sua orientação para poder desenvolver as qualidades e características que farão com que a sua dimensão divina se desdobre. Visualizar é isso: dizer a Deus o que você deseja e se dispor a expandir-se até se tornar àquilo que Ele já reservou para você… Nada do que estou passando foi aquilo que eu pedi e tudo é muito melhor do que eu jamais teria ousado pedir. É isto que chamo de expandir na direção do Divino… A felicidade é, geralmente, uma reação mental e emocional a um estimulo externo. A alegria é um estado de espírito… Se você parar para pensar, a felicidade é uma sensação de plenitude em resposta às circunstancias e acontecimentos da vida. A alegria nos faz sentir realizados apenas por estarmos vivos…”
This is my second or third time through this book. It is uplifting, but in a very down-to-earth way. Iyanla has been married and divorced, remarried, has adult children, practiced law and then chose not to, became a writer and even a minister.
The book is divided into two-or-three page chapters, with space for written reflection. You can read one section per day, or choose your own pace. She summarizes the main concepts at the end, and says she could have written the entire book in five pages. (She is funny, too.)
One pet peeve: I wish she had not 'borrowed' Louise Hay's expression, "And so it is", and stuck it near the end of each chapter. That doesn't add anything to her book at all, in my opinion.
Worth reading; especially if life has sort of got you down!
I've been reading this, but I hit a road block...the wedding. the big, fancy, expensive wedding. moving a business at the same time as hiring a wedding planner. I find that I lose any connection with the writer. Her life style isn't anything close to my life..she has money. I will still pick through the rest of it. I want to read a self help book by someone who didn't get lessons as a child, never had the money to travel, cats and dogs, no big supportive family and friends and such. if I had the time I'd write one..even if I didn't publish it..as I wouldn't have a clue how and I imagine that takes money too
Phenomenal read for anyone in the process of soul work! This book is for anyone who enjoys maintaining a positive outlook on life and knows that gratitude and day-to-day joy can only come from healing old wounds from the past (that we may not even realize are there). I thoroughly enjoyed this book and, quite frankly, I finished it way before the 40 days. Iyanla Vanzant demonstrates how very important it is to take a very close and REAL look at who we are, why we are the way we are, and how to feel, deal, and heal with anything that takes away from joy in our everyday lives. I'm thankful for her work and I will continue to read everything she writes!
So, for some reason I had gotten the impression that this book was something completely different than it was. Must have gotten it mixed up with some other author. And that's not the book's fault of course, but the first pangs of disappointment stemmed from that. And then, it just didn't bring me any new insight or clarity or intrigue. I felt like this was something I read a long time ago, but that I've sort of passed that point by now. Like this was somewhat Basic stuff, which is important too, but once you've learned it, you move onto something more complex.
I've been a fan of Iyanla's since the The Oprah Winfrey Show was in full swing. I've referred to this book during several times of transition over the course of my life and each time, I learn something new about myself. The book has great passages on a variety of topics (Faith, Balance, Discipline, etc.)as well as exercises for reflection. It's inspiring to chart one's progress without it feeling like "work." Would love to read something new of hers.
A friend of mine gave this book to me. I had it on my shelf for some time. Then one evening, not knowing what to read, my eyes stopped at the brighness of the cover and I realized I needed some light in my life. I had unfortunately, been experiencing some turmoil in my life. I did not expect to enjoy, learn, or get as much out of it as I did. But I was greatly greatful for it's accompaniment and lectures during this tough time. It is a powerful book.
This is a wonderful book. If you are feeling a bit stale or a little spiritually deprived, it can stir up some beautiful emotions. I read this when I had just graduated college and was looking for something deeper. This book truly opened me up and I still look back and some of the passages I read and highlighted.
I think that I benefited by just learning to reflect on situations and meditate about how I am in control of the good & challenging things that happen to me. In fact ‘things’ don’t happen ‘to’ me but rather, I am part of events that happen! This is all said in hindsight as I'm writing this review years after I read part of this book, & admit I did not finish the book.
First book of hers I had read and fell in love with her style and honesty. Oh yes, you need to be brutally honest with yourself if you hope to get anything out of this book. You also need to allow yourself to stop, look, and wake up, which I desperately needed to do at the time I discovered this book. Thanks Iyanla...
This book is literally a treasure , from page 1 u'll find urself indulging in it And it will talk about u at some phase of your life not only , but also it gives u the steps how to move on from it. i so much recommend it to anyone who is willing to change for better or whatever kind you are it 'll suit u perfectly(Y)
I received this book to read from my sister and I did go through it! While I have some respect for her due to her experiences and suggestions I found this book a bit cumbersome. It almost seemed that there was a page requirement for her publisher. I am also a different spiritual seeker, so I found this book a bit off the mark for me.
I absolutely loved this book. I can never say I've finished reading it because through the course of time I find myself picking it up again and re-reading certain passages. Learning something different that I didn't relate to the first time I read it.
Ooohhh... After I finished reading this book my Soul Had opened up on another level. I just love the care and the simplicity in which she wrote this book. Really made me feel like she knew what I needed to hear when I needed to hear it. I Loved it!
Well, it took more than 40 days, but it was such a good one that I wanted to chew it up and digest it slowly. Really some thought-provoking stuff that made you understand and believe that you are doing the right thing / at the right time in your life... no matter what! Have faith and believe!