Lo que los ninos aprenden del matrimonio de sus padres

by Judith P. Siegel

How are your children learning about intimacy? What are they seeing when they see your marriage in action?

In this provocative new look at family dynamics, marriage and family therapist Judith P. Siegel asserts that the key to a child's healthy development is not simply the relationship he has with each parent but the perception he has of the relationship between his parents. It may be your marriage, says Siegel, but it is your child's blueprint for the intimate relationships he will form as an adult.

Combining her own clinical work with the latest research on families and child development, Siegel identifies the key elements of marriage that provide critical information to children. They include: the degree to which the marriage is a priority; the level of mutual support, respect, and trust between husband and wife; how marital differences are negotiated and conflict resolved; and how friendship and affection are communicated. With significant ramifications for divorcing couples with children as well as intact families, What Children Learn from Their Parents' Marriage offers useful advice, illuminating examples, and insight for parents intent on building the solid foundation that all children need for a happy, emotionally secure future.

We all know that our own marriages are largely influenced by those with which we grew up, but what we tend to forget is how our own children are being affected by the marriage they are witnessing. In this enlightening book, you will be able to learn more about the ways in which your marriage is affecting your child. Some of what you will read will offer confirmation that what is going on in your marriage is wonderful for your children; some areas may not be going as smoothly as you might like. But if your goal is to create a positive legacy of love for your children, this eye-opening book becomes essential reading.

Genres: Parenting, Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction

288 pages, Paperback

First published February 1, 2000

About the author

Judith P. Siegel, Ph.D., L.C.S.W., is a professor and a marriage and family therapist in private practice. A recognized expert in her field, she is the author of several academic books and numerous articles on marital dynamics and marriage therapy. She has also published extensively in the field of family therapy and has presented throughout the United States. Additionally, she has appeared on the Today Show and Good Morning America.

Reviews

[Linda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful in understanding relationships.

I gave his book 4 stars instead of 5 because the first part was more like reading a term paper than a book, and seemed to be a report on defining elements of relationships, rather than the emotions and nitty-gritty actions and reactions between partners. But when the author began describing real cases of marriage counseling, and the effects of marital conflict on the children of these marriages, she fulfilled my expectations of this book when I purchased it. All in all, a very worthwhile read.

[Lily P. · Rating 3 out of 5]

(Kindle)
3-4 stars

If this was the first book I'd read about parenting psychology it might have been a full 4 stars,

[Rebekah · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was alright. Like most of these self-help/pop-psychology books, you can pretty much just read the chapter headings and get everything you'd get by reading the whole thing.

A problem with working at a library is that all day I see these types of books and think "oh that's pertinent to my life right now, and even if I only read it in the bathroom I'll be done in two days," but then I never end up having time for real books.

Today I am swearing off anything outside of the 800s. For an indeterminate amount of time. Except maybe 641s.

[gabriela · Rating 5 out of 5]

jokes on you mis papás nunca se casaron

[Stephanie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every marriage with kids involved should read this

The information in this book was so right on point. So many good topics like how we talk to our partner, put our marriage last, hold back conflict are all ways that ARE blueprints for how our children will handle those same things. We can change the legacy of a bad marriage from our parents to a better one for ourselves, which in turn means a superb one for our children. They are watching our interactions with our partner, therefore setting the foundation for their own marriage. A definite good read.

[Inti · Rating 2 out of 5]

Reading a Spanish translation